I have an 8 wk old baby boy. I would really like to have a martini w/my GFs on Girls Night so long as it is safe. I read that alcohol only stays in breastmilk until it is out of your blood. If I nurse my son right before I go out (one street over actually) and his next feeding would be 3hrs after that. If my husband gives him a bottle for that feeding it would be 6 hours after one martini until he would nurse again. Is that long enough for my milk to free from all alcohol? I did read that only 2% gets to your milk but I do not want any trace at all getting to him. Thanks!
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His mother was brought in and signed a statement admitting to marijuana use in the home and serving alcohol to a minor (her daughter not my step son) and child protective services told us we had to take him away pending investigation. Well, so far not charges have not been filed and CPS has yet to file a petition to have him removed from his mother…it’s been a week? No one will tell me how long before he can go home. He’s 16 and 1/2 years old and an honor student with finals coming up. I live in a different school district and it VERY difficult to keep running him back and forth. I’m worried his grade will suffer if he doesn’t get back to his routine. His mother isn’t a danger to him and I feel CPS is way overreacting…she has agreed to drug counseling beginning Tuesday but so far there is no legal paperwork preventing him from going home but we don’t want to make things worse. Everyone is in agreement that he needs to be home but CPS told me if we try to let him go home they will place him in foster care. His father and I find this entire situation stupid and it’s only harming my step son. He needs to sleep in his own bed at night and prepare for exams..why will nobody give us answers? How long does it take for charges to be filed against his mother? Why hasn’t a petition been filed…? How can they prevent my step son from seeing his own mother. If he was a baby and she was stoned that’s one thing but he’s 18 months away from18, doesn’t smoke,drink, A+ student, excels in sports and this is messing him up..even the officer doesn’t think he should be pulled from the home! doesn’t anyone have advice? A lawyer won’t help because charges and petitions haven’t been filed and CPS won’t answer my questions about the future?
My son is 11 days old and he still has his umbilical cord. I thought it was doing really good but then today it had made a small stain on his clothes that looks like blood. It is detached on one side but still well intact on the other. People say to clean with alcohol but doctor said to just keep clean and wipe off when giving bath. Is this normal? And how soon will the cord fall off? Does the blood mean it is infected?
Okay so they are separated, they have been since Oct. 2007, so like 1 1/2 yrs…my dad was always a jerk to begin with,I think he is Narcissistic(sp?) like he always makes fun of me & my lil sis, like calling us stupid, dumb retarded….he is so juvenile too, like he has the mentality of a teenager really. He has no “normal” friends, unless you consider an alcoholic who drives drunk w/his son in the car & an oxy cotton/cocaine addict “normal”. He hates women, I think cuz he says,”all women are crazy.” And I’m a GIRL!!! He isn’t supportive either. But we dealt w/him in family therapy….it’s a lil better….
My mom- she can be ok at times but she is kinda crazy too. Her mental friends call at all hours….she loves to bash my dad but I don’t feel comfortable doing that w/her….if I’m talking to her while shes on the computer about idk school she won’t listen but if its about my dad, oh boy she’ll stop w/e she’s doing and listen and bash him. She’s one to pull guilt trips too, making me feel guilty about stuff. I HATE that…she never wants to hear anything she doesn’t want to hear. Even if I’m tactful, she’ll get mad & freak out. We were friends with this crazy family who I came to like & come close with the lady & the lady suddenly ditched us(she’s like bipolar & an alcoholic, except she won’t admit it) & now all of a sudden my mm is like talking to this lady’s husband like they’re old friends again when we haven’t been friends for a year! I told her about it nicely & she freaked out, saying it’s none of my business, blah blah blah….
My point is w/my mom we can’t calmly discuss anything. If I tell her nicely not to do something, she’ll do it anyway. She thinks she’s normal & everyone else has to change. She never apologizes, I always end up apologizing just so she’ll give me back stuff even though I didn’t do anything. I’m so sick of it, I have to hold all my feelings inside or else she’ll throw me out of the house(she does it all the time) I don’t think we have a normal relationship…HELP!?
BTW, I’m 14.
At an early age he used to stop breathing which led to him being in and out of hospital which got him a lot of attension and he was quite hyper We live in a deprived housing estate so the cycle starts Husband Alcoholic 4 kids and no not a case of whoa is me I done my best he used to get called gay boy from the other boys because my aunt and uncle used to take him to give me a break his voice wasnt as common as the other kids in the area and he liked dfferent things from them so he was singled out.
I ended up in hospital with a brakdown in 2000 I couldnt cope with people hurting is feelings. He got threw out of school at 14 I couldnt controll him he was sent to a physcatris wo said he has physological problems and ? schyophrenia and carazy making ideas he put him on injectable medication and I seen him turning into a ZOMBIE doped up I asked for him to come off the medication in march. he smokes canibis I now know he on on E,s and is into gambling machines SELF DESTRUCT What Can I do
Beleive it or not he is actualy a really good kid underneath its the NORM is this area DRUGS BOOZE etc
He is allways the 1st to help people who have problems he is really inteligent and is a really nice kid but everywhere yo go for help want to pump him with medication I dont think this is the answer Im not giving up on him I BELIEVE in him that he just needs motivation a direction or sometrhing to aim for.
To Anna M he is not cursed or a Demon with an answer like that you shoul pray or ask a minister to pray for you your mind must need it…
ok my sister (22) is my guardian and has been for about 11 months. She took me in when my past gaurdian my uncle james went back to his alcoholic addiction and started abusing me. My mother abandoned me at age 12 and i have no idea where she is. My sister is a CNA and works about 5 days a week. She goes out 6-7 days out of the week to the pub or club and has been non stop for 5 months. Her son (2) is with me for 12 hours a day. From the moment she leaves for work to the moment she comes back from the bar 230-3 am. I am 17 and a senior in highschool and i am watching a 2 year old boy all those hours 5 days a week. and when shes not working she still goes out and sometimes doesnt get home till 4 am. While shes out the baby doesnt sleep and i have to stay up and take care of him. ITs exhausting and my grades have suffered, ive failed my pre cal class. I only have a few months left before collage but i dont even think i can last that long with her. She uses me for a babysitter constantly and my social life and boyfriend are suffering. I cant go out and my bf and i have no privrate time b.c im always watching the baby. When ever i confront her she says i have an attitude and that if i dont like it i can leave, and that she pays the bills. I had to quit my job to watch her son, she cant pay the bills unless i watch him and i of course cant leave. It hurts when she says this since i have been in foster care and have heard that for years over and over. I feel like i dont have a home and i feel used. I cant argue with her about her alcoholism b.c she KNOWS shes an alcoholic and just wont do anything about it. I need some serious help please, sorry its so long..
her boyfriend thats the babys father is in Boston, another state from us and the baby goes up there every few months fro a few weeks but she and him fight so they wont stay together for too long and she wont leave the baby up there b.c she doesnt want his father to have him. My sister wont hire a babysitter b.c shes too cheap and would rather have me do it b.c she doesnt “trust” anyone else. I cant hire one b.c i have no money
At an early age he used to stop breathing which led to him being in and out of hospital which got him a lot of attension and he was quite hyper We live in a deprived housing estate so the cycle starts Husband Alcoholic 4 kids and no not a case of whoa is me I done my best he used to get called gay boy from the other boys because my aunt and uncle used to take him to give me a break his voice wasnt as common as the other kids in the area and he liked dfferent things from them so he was singled out.
I ended up in hospital with a brakdown in 2000 I couldnt cope with people hurting is feelings. He got threw out of school at 14 I couldnt controll him he was sent to a physcatris wo said he has physological problems and ? schyophrenia and carazy making ideas he put him on injectable medication and I seen him turning into a ZOMBIE doped up I asked for him to come off the medication in march. he smokes canibis I now know he on on E,s and is into gambling machines SELF DESTRUCT What Can I do
Beleive it or not he is actualy a really good kid underneath its the NORM is this area DRUGS BOOZE etc
He is allways the 1st to help people who have problems he is really inteligent and is a really nice kid but everywhere yo go for help want to pump him with medication I dont think this is the answer Im not giving up on him I BELIEVE in him that he just needs motivation a direction or sometrhing to aim for.
To Anna M he is not cursed or a Demon with an answer like that you shoul pray or ask a minister to pray for you your mind must need it…
I used to smoke till april’2009 regularly. But for personal problem i quite . Now for visitation of my son they want to test my hair. My problem is I am a musician and i have very long Hair. How long these drugs will stay in my hair or my Body. I exercise regularly I ran but last 7th June was my birthday so i have taken some puffs from the stick with my friends marijuana and hashish please help I don’t want to get caught my son means everything to me .
So, at what point do you cut the other parent out of your child’s life?
Back story, he had an accident that changed him forever just around the time we got pregnant. He became emotionally abusive and I left. He refused treatment and drinks daily. He hasn’t been able to keep an apartment or a job for more than 6 months. He hasn’t talked to his son (who moved out of state) in more than a month. He pays court ordered child support for his son when he works.
I’ve been the sole provider and caregiver for our child from day 1. I’ve felt it was important for her father to be a part of her life, so I let him visit whenever he wanted, and included him for all major events and outings. She’s 18 months now and over the past few months, his visits have been shorter in time and less in frequency. He’s been coming over once a week about an hour before bedtime and 9/10 times, he’s been drunk. It takes me a good hour to get him out without a scene in these instances.
During months 7-11 months when she was in and out of the hospital for her asthma, even during her PICU visit, he never came to see her. He doesn’t even call me to ask about her, yet he shows up without fail for all the big events. He just bought her first present this Christmas, his missed last year and her birthday.
I will NOT share custody of her under any circumstances. She has never been alone with him and he lacks common sense. She has severe asthma; needs treatments twice daily and has to steer clear of smokes, pets, chemical orders, etc. He doesn’t believe the Dr’s are correct in their diagnoses. He’s an avid pot smoker. Because I don’t allow him over when he smokes, we only see him maybe once a week now.
I called him yesterday and told him she has pneumonia, could he please take the money his mother sent for her for Christmas, and pick me up a heater(my heater went out) he told me, I deserve to have her ill for ignoring him?!?! He’ must be cracked, because it made no sense to me at all. In any event, my dad went out and got it.
I’m ready to completely cut him off and not allow him to see her. I feel his lack of interest in her and his emotional abuse towards me will just hurt her in the long run. Christmas was the 4th or 5th time since this summer, he’s created a huge scene swearing and me and calling me names.
I don’t need child support so I wont bother with it, I don’t want the courts in my life. I’m hoping he’ll just stop coming over. He let his son move across the country without a qualm…His family says they’d still want a relationship with us regardless of his involvement.
Am I being irrational?
I am okay with him seeing her, just not drunk and not to attack me, perhaps not weekly either. I’ve asked him not to drink and to come over well before her bedtime, he doesn’t comply. Anytime I set limits, he does whatever he wants and completely disregards what I say.
His mother is a smoker, she can’t go to her home.
k9cops- we were engaged, living togehter and ttc when he got into his accident. He was not like this beforehand otherwise I wouldn’t have been with him.
He can’t have visitation at his place, even he can even keep a place. He smokes and he has an agressive dog that lives indoors. Her asthma is too bad to be in either environment (smoking or pet household)
I suppose i’m just very angry at him, I couldn’t keep him from ever seeing her again, I don’t think its right to cut him 100%. I think i’m just very stressed out with her being sick and his recent bad behavior is weighing heavily on how I feel right now. Thanks all
I don’t believe in parents talking badly about eachother to their children, so no worries. She’ll learn who and what is he is on her own, not from me.
Hello. my son is 3months old and i am breast feeding him… i wanna drink for my friends coming birthday party but i want to know will it affect my breast milk… i am thinking about for the mean time im drinking i will put him on bottle feed till i feel that it is ok to breast feed him again… but if it still stays in my breast milk no matter how long i will wait then i will NOT drink for i want what is best for my son… Please put down ur opinion thank u.
Regarding breathalyzers and blood tests for alcohol (BAC); how long does it take for alcohol to dissipate in the body? Can a person show a 0.00 on a blood test, but still have had a drink earlier that night?
Thank you for your responses, thoughts, ideas and advice.
Any helpful links to information would also be greatly appreciated!
Thank you very much!
P.S. Please see my other question regarding this breathalyzer issue and my sons prom night.
I had 5 shots last night of 99 blackberries, its 90 proof. 2 AM is about when I took my last shot. If I use a breast pump how many times should I pump & throw out the milk before its safe to give to my son again?
My son has used drugs for over 20 years, he is 36. He went back to jail again for breaking probation. He will miss the birth of his son. He has left his wife with no money plus over due bills. He told me he can not stop his drug use even though he is sick of his behave. Is there any hope for him?
my friends son is in drug court and the test came back positive but he don’t drink, and thats not why he’s in drug court but they told her that her son had to have drank the alcohol, I told her that if he tested positive on one day and took another test the next day he should have come up positive on the second day am i right.
Hi this is a serious question so please spare me any insults or rhetoric because I’m not here for that. I have used marijuana regularly,
and responsibly (not a single drug related arrest or charge in my life)
since I was 13 years old. I am now 19, soon to be 20, and have had a pretty bad addiction to painkillers since about mid-2007. Allow me to elaborate. I used to drink quite a bit and was into coke for a little while, and I was addicted to methamphetamine for a few months as well. However, I ate and slept regularly and didn’t become an entirely tweaked out loser… I decided to put it behind me, as with alcohol, cigarettes, and coke, I just stuck with pot. I still haven’t indulged…
My ex-girlfriend whom I broke up with just last week has a prescription for amphetamine salt, and though I had been offered many times, never once took it. At any rate, near the end of 2007, I was introduced to hydrocodone by a friend who also had no idea of it’s powers.
I began to snort them, and clean my house, do the dishes, etc…
I was living with my grandmother then, and shortly after my introduction to painkillers, she died in October of 2007, leaving me completely alone to keep the trailer and pay the bills. I dropped out to try and keep myself afloat. Things had become very depressing.
I had been in a horrible relationship that ended in the worst possible way next to death, I missed my grandma, and I missed my childhood.
But I didn’t start shooting up, or robbing people, or anything like that.
I would just spend many a day chasing vicodin or percocet, snort them, be high for a little while, feel better for a fleeting hour or two, then wake up and do it all over again. Pot wasn’t even the same without pills. It got to the point where my brain would hurt if I went without them. It kept going and going… Eventually, I lost my place,
lost my job, but met a girl I hadn’t seen in years, whom I began to date and live with, just me and her, in a home her mother paid for. Obviously, the lack of impending bills gave me time to search for pills unencumbered. She liked speed and had a prescription, I was hooked on painkillers and had to cop them on the street…
On and on it went. I also began taking lorazepam, not so much to get high, but because it killed my anxiety and went with the pot and opioids very well. Even at this point, however, I never went over 20 or 30 milligrams of percocet or vicodin a night. I’ll cut to the chase-
My mom died of sirrhosis last March, and it didn’t help me at all.
It wasn’t like Eric Clapton devoting his sobriety to the loss of his son,
in fact, I did them even more to take away the pain.
I finally lost my girlfriend, I’m basically homeless, and I still have to have pills constantly. Yet I still won’t put a needle in my arm, not that it makes a huge difference. I have an oppurtunity to go and start anew with a relative a few hundred miles away from all this, and here’s my question-
To someone my age and in my situation, how feasible would it be for me to see a doctor and possible talk about getting on the Suboxone program? Please don’t think of this as an excuse or copout,
I’ve tried the depression pills, I’ve thought of rehab, I’ve tried cold turkey… It seems hopeless. I honestly think I would kill myself.
Suboxone has been a miracle for me. I take a quarter of one, orally, and I’m fine for a whole day, feeling happy, productive, hopeful.
It sound like one frying pan into another, but I honestly can say that if I was prescribed and treated with suboxone, I might be able to kick this addiction in a year or two, maybe less… I’ve heard it can be prescribed for depression, so, what I’m asking is would they laugh me out of the doctor’s office? Would a doctor even consider a case like mine?
I wake up and don’t even want to face the world when I am without opioids… It’s pathetic. I truly think if I was prescribed Suboxone and moved to my relatives, I could start a new era in my life. Please don’t think I’d be using this drug as a crutch… I believe it may be the only way… Rehab doesn’t work for some people, and I wouldn’t be selling or abusing it. I’m at the end of my rope, and thought maybe some doctors could give me their input or opinion on this situation.
Your time is greatly appreciated.
Thank you.
i recently found out that my childs father is doing meth he has our 3 year old son every other weekend but has been known to leave him with is sisters so he can go out instead, my worry is if he is going out and doing this stuff or doing it around our son, could he have this in his system as well? and what exactly can i do, can i have my son tested or does it have to be in a certain amount of time after him being around his father, obviously i dont know much about this drug. i need help i do not under any circumstances what my son around that nasty crap, what should i do??
already planned on not letting him go there i just need to know how i get it proved because it is court ordered that he goes every other weekend
My son is 18 and he is in the army and I caught him drinking beer and he is too young and how can I go to the Military base and tell them that he should not be fighting in war anymore cause he is commiting crimes and that a kid his age should not be drinking alcohol?
my son used on last satruday how long will crack stay in his system
How long can you be held in a state of Wa jail for out of states warrants. My brothers wife’s brother was just released from 30 days in jail waiting to be extradited. Apparently the two states that had the warrants on him…Indiana and Nevada both decided not to extradite him. So he was released after the 30 days. Now he is saying that he is going to sue the state of Wa? Can he do that? This guy is a drug addict and a thief, I can’t stand him. He stole every expensive toy my nephew had and traded it for drugs. I was so relieved when he was locked up. But now he is saying he is going to get all this money when he sues and my sister in law believes him. He is just trying to get her to let him stay at their house and she is a money hungry B**** so she thinks she is going to get something out of this. I am worried about my nephew, because this guy has done bad things and has had bad people show up at my sister in laws house to strong arm them to get their money back from her brother who ripped them off. I can’t take it anymore, this guy is trouble and belongs in jail, and my sister in law is crazy to believe him. My brother has left her because of all of this.
So, can he sue the state of washington?
Oh, he is back on the drugs, that was the first thing he did when he was released. But he has no charges here in WA….yet………at one time he posted an ad on craigslist selling a laptop computer, and he was going to rob the people when they showed up…….of course, I found the ad and reported it to craigslist. My sister in law was the one who told me he was doing this and when I told her that was messed up, she acutally told me that she didn’t care as long as it wasn’t her………he stole her son’s 360 and her home computer a week later….she is nuts
I am making chili and just added a beer for flavor. How long does it need to cook for the alcohol to be gone? I would like to send this with my son for lunch tommorow and would hate to be called to pick up my drunk 6 year old from school…lol.
Thanks
I must say it’s some damn good chili…I’m proud of myself=)
You can’t use o’douls…you have to use a nice nutty ale…yummy
