How Do I Get My Son Off Drugs?

My daughter and son-in-law are alcoholic drug addicts. My daughter left her husband because she wanted to get “clean.” She has two boys, ages 3 and 6, who do not get along. They are toxic when they are together. My daughter came to live with me and my aging arthritic 80-year-old mother. My daughter stayed with us for several months and then went back 1800 miles to “patch” things up with her ex-husband who just got out of jail, and we don’t know when she will be back. These kids are the loves of our lives, but they beat each other up constantly. They fight over toys all the time. They don’t share. There is never a day that goes by without some kind of hysterics or crying. They will not listen to me or my mother. They are defiant. My mother and I both feel like we’re in HELL!!! We don’t know what to do with these boys, and neither does my daughter, obviously. We love them too much to put them up for adoption or send them to foster homes.

Any advice would be appreciated.
It seems the only way my mother and ever have any peace is if I take one away for a long ride (the idea is to separate them), but I can’t be driving around for hours on end every day! I work from home and I don’t have time to run my business anymore. It’s a huge strain on me because then I have to play “catch up.” We cannot separate them inside the home because our townhouse is not big enough. We have tried just about everything to help them get along, from talking to them, treating them with love and kindness, to downright old school spanking – NOTHING WORKS!!!!

HELP!!!!!
This house was a house of love and tranquility before they came, and we are trying so hard to keep it that way, but as much as it hurts me to admit it, these kids are little monsters. They have destroyed the walls, the carpet, furniture because they get physical with each other and throw each other around slamming into something. They run around the house like it was a playground and literally bounce off walls, and if we say anything, we might as well be talking to open space. It falls on deaf ears. We know these kids must feel abandoned, and we sympathize; but they are out of control. Even when my daughter was here, she couldn’t do anything with them, either; and in some ways, my mother and I both understand why my daughter would want to get away from them, because my mom and I are about ready to lose our minds and are at wit’s end.

I think she worked in a factory or something with mostly men and she looks sorta rugged. Her ex is an alcoholic and lived in a trailer outside her house. (Not Alice) It aired after then

I admit I spent more time on the couch drinking than I did playing with my boy whom now is 12. I did still go out and play catch with him lots and watched all his sport games cheering from the sidelines. I went to all his school events, volunteered as a room mom etc.My husband divorced me because of my alcohol abuse. I am in treatment now. I call my son and his step mon says he does not want to talk to me then continues to hurl insults in such a cruel way. She even had my 83 year old dad that I live with because of his alzheimers crying!I have tried to reason with her through my tears that we need to talk and she just yells louder. I pray my boy is not able to hear her. Legally I have my boy on wednesdays plus my share of the holidays.Since to Christmases ago I have not seen my son. People tell me to get a lawyer but I have always been to emotional to stop my crying. I don’t want my son seeing this mess.I write my son every week or so with no response. My x says he does receive them

Help….I have two children age 19 and 11 from a previous marriage. My children and I left 6 years ago after their Father got “hooked” on meth. Since then, they have a very little, if any contact with their family on his side. (They have a step-father and he wants to adopt my 11 year old) The last time my 19 year old had contact with his G’ma she needed help cleaning out the house we use to live in (with their father) and my son found meth making ingredients in a cooler. He pointed it out to his G’ma and she put it in her trunk and left with it. Of course, my son (who was 16 at the time) did not tell me this until about 6 months later. This woman has supported her son and his drugs from day one and still thinks he has no problem even though he is now serving a 10 year prison term. Okay, here is my problem: We have found out she has lost her house and is moving into the small town we are living in and is also bring my ex’s drugged out girlfriend who right after our divorce spit at and burned my daughter with a cigerette at a funeral we attended. She has had nothing to do with my 11 year old daughter and I am thankful for that, but now she and the girlfriend has started driving by, trying to follow my daughter and my daughter is scared of them. My daughter says she wants nothing to do with them, she is embarressed and now worries that people are going to think off her different because her Dad is in jail. This has never been an issue with her before. I think since the G’ma is in town and driving by it is bring up the issue. I hate that this has happened to my children and I have always been truthful with them about the situation with their Father, and they have seemed to deal with it pretty well. What should I do? Should I confront them and tell them to stay away…Which I am scared that will turn real ugly…I do not want my daughter hurt or scared, but I do not know how to go about it? Help???

He smokes weed, drinks everyday, snorts cocaine and he is never at home. I pay all of the bills and buy the groceries. He cooks and cleans occasionally. I work 40+ hours a week and he works 0. I am pregnant with his son, due in September and my lease is up in August. He has made no effort to help me. He sometimes gives his friends hundreds of dollars and he gives me a few dollars rarely and then expects me to pay him back immediately and them whenever they can. He has 4 other kids from 4 other women he does not take care of.

Just wondering what they look for when determing custody issues. He hasn’t work in 2 1/2 years. He has 2 dui’s, 3 hit & runs. He is a alcoholic. He also lives with his mom and sister in a one bedroom apt. His twin bed is in the kitchen/eating area of the apt. There is no bed for my son to sleep in. I have provided for me and my son since he was born. He barely visits with his dad. I want him to have a relationship, but I don’t ever feel safe leaving him with his dad alone. Most of my sons visits with his dad were including either his grandma and/or aunty. He has filed for joint legal & joint physical of my son. He can’t care himself, let alone a 19 month old child.
I opened a child support case and a week before we had to go to court he filed for joint custody.
He does not have a drivers license, we have established paternity. What if I can’t afford a lawyer?? I know he is representing himself.
We were never married.
I live on my own with our son. He has always lived with.

Just wondering what they look for when determing custody issues. He hasn’t work in 2 1/2 years. He has 2 dui’s, 3 hit & runs. He is a alcoholic. He also lives with his mom and sister in a one bedroom apt. His twin bed is in the kitchen/eating area of the apt. There is no bed for my son to sleep in. I have provided for me and my son since he was born. He barely visits with his dad. I want him to have a relationship, but I don’t ever feel safe leaving him with his dad alone. Most of my sons visits with his dad were including either his grandma and/or aunty. He has filed for joint legal & joint physical of my son. He can’t care himself, let alone a 19 month old child.
I opened a child support case and a week before we had to go to court he filed for joint custody.
He does not have a drivers license, we have established paternity. What if I can’t afford a lawyer?? I know he is representing himself.
We were never married.
I live on my own with our son. He has always lived with.

Just wondering what they look for when determing custody issues. He hasn’t work in 2 1/2 years. He has 2 dui’s, 3 hit & runs. He is a alcoholic. He also lives with his mom and sister in a one bedroom apt. His twin bed is in the kitchen/eating area of the apt. There is no bed for my son to sleep in. I have provided for me and my son since he was born. He barely visits with his dad. I want him to have a relationship, but I don’t ever feel safe leaving him with his dad alone. Most of my sons visits with his dad were including either his grandma and/or aunty. He has filed for joint legal & joint physical of my son. He can’t care himself, let alone a 19 month old child.
I opened a child support case and a week before we had to go to court he filed for joint custody.
He does not have a drivers license, we have established paternity. What if I can’t afford a lawyer?? I know he is representing himself.
We were never married.
I live on my own with our son. He has always lived with.

Just wondering what they look for when determing custody issues. He hasn’t work in 2 1/2 years. He has 2 dui’s, 3 hit & runs. He is a alcoholic. He also lives with his mom and sister in a one bedroom apt. His twin bed is in the kitchen/eating area of the apt. There is no bed for my son to sleep in. I have provided for me and my son since he was born. He barely visits with his dad. I want him to have a relationship, but I don’t ever feel safe leaving him with his dad alone. Most of my sons visits with his dad were including either his grandma and/or aunty. He has filed for joint legal & joint physical of my son. He can’t care himself, let alone a 19 month old child.
I opened a child support case and a week before we had to go to court he filed for joint custody.
He does not have a drivers license, we have established paternity. What if I can’t afford a lawyer?? I know he is representing himself.
We were never married.
I live on my own with our son. He has always lived with.

Just wondering what they look for when determing custody issues. He hasn’t work in 2 1/2 years. He has 2 dui’s, 3 hit & runs. He is a alcoholic. He also lives with his mom and sister in a one bedroom apt. His twin bed is in the kitchen/eating area of the apt. There is no bed for my son to sleep in. I have provided for me and my son since he was born. He barely visits with his dad. I want him to have a relationship, but I don’t ever feel safe leaving him with his dad alone. Most of my sons visits with his dad were including either his grandma and/or aunty. He has filed for joint legal & joint physical of my son. He can’t care himself, let alone a 19 month old child.
I opened a child support case and a week before we had to go to court he filed for joint custody.
He does not have a drivers license, we have established paternity. What if I can’t afford a lawyer?? I know he is representing himself.
We were never married.
I live on my own with our son. He has always lived with.

My ex and I split up nearly 2 years ago. He had been seeing our son nearly every week and said that when he left he left me “not our son”. Well, I haven’t heard from him for the past 4 months. I’m very confused and pretty livid for my son. He asks about him and I’m not sure what to say. I tell him that his father loves him and that I know he misses him.

Some people have mentioned that he’s probably in a new relationship but I still can’t understand how that would make him want to totally cut off all communication with his child who he was actively involved with up until 4 months ago.

I wonder if it could be drugs? He was very inconsistent over the summer when he was watching him. Would show up late most days, couldn’t seem to get himself up on time and would call with every excuse in the book day in and day out. He’s 35 years old and I know he did Meth recreationally before we got together, when he was 23. But he didn’t do that when we were together.

However, in the past year he’s lost his job (was fired after working there for 8 years) due to being late all the time. Said he was denied unemployment. And he’s just hanging out with 21 year old girls and has 2 bachelors living with him now.

I’m just trying to understand how someone can so completely change. I wonder why he wouldn’t be reachable or interested in seeing his own son for so long?

How can men (or people) do this to their children? Last we talked we were amicable and all was civil.
I have seen my ex driving around town, so he’s not incarcerated. He acts like he doesn’t see me. I texted him 3 months ago. Never heard back from him. I see that he’s adding friends to his facebook page, so I know he hasn’t fallen off the planet and isn’t in jail or worse.

THREE ADULT men living in a 2-bedroom condo. My ex-father-in-law bought a futon because in a couple of year he wants my girls to be able to spend the night over there. (My girls are 5 and 7- blonde, blue eyed beautiful girls). My ex-and his brother are BOTH alcoholics, have NO LICENSES and only have jobs because their DADDY brings them to work or gets them up for work and they ride their BICYCLES to work. I AM 100% AGAINST MY GIRLS SLEEPING OVER THERE FOR TWO REASONS, ONE ALCOHOLISM AND TWO, their are THREE ADULT MEN WHO LIVE THERE REGARDLESS OF WHETHER THEY ARE RELATED OR NOT. DO YOU AGREE WITH ME??

My 2 year old son’s dad and I have never have been married. We’ve lived together for 4 years, even after breaking up, thinking that parenting & money would be easier living together. As of this past weekend, I made a decision to move out in September. This is something dad agrees with, & supports. We both know the fighting has gone on too long.The problem is that dad is a drunk. He lives for alcohol & doesn’t care who his lifestyle affects. He comes home drunk from work (or anywhere, really) on a regular basis, even when he promises each night not to. He can get physical & violent (not in front of our son, this always happens after midnight, so he’s in bed). I want out of this sooner, but I can’t move before my new roommate is free of her lease in Sept. Is there something I can do legally? I’m tired of his alcoholic lifestyle & he doesn’t recognize his problem. And I know he’ll lie if accused of anything. He’s even threatened to lie if in court. I need help. I need to protect my son
We have no shared bank accounts, and I have a house full of my belongings and a situation that doesn’t allow for a “transition home” or anything like that. I have parents that will help, if needed. But I have to maintain my life while making this change. I have an awesome job and I can’t neglect that either.
I can’t just “leave”. Til September, I have nowhere to go, and a “shelter” won’t be happening. His mother is visiting this weekend and I don’t think she has a clue that his drinking is this out of hand, but I’m sure as heck going to tell her.
I appreciate all the advice so far, but I can’t see anything that would work yet. Isn’t there sometime I can do to force HIM out? If I leave, I’m leaving him with all my stuff and I can’t do that. My family is in another state, so this could get complicated, I don’t have local family to help me out. I just thought maybe I could get some sort of order for him to move out or something, and then I could maybe get some assistance to help pay the $900 rent for the next 2 months, or ask my parents.
The lease is in both nof our names. And as of June 1, we’re not on a lease, come to think of it. So I’m not sure what that means.

I’m not “tattling” to his mom, I just need for her to stop seeing me as the whiney, annoying party and him as a drunk. He never does it in front of her, she lives 400 miles away, we barely ever see her.

And I can’t just move. I know it’s hard to understand, it’s even harder to explain. But this is 2 levels of a home ful of my stuff, and everything is unorganized. All my picture proof of anything is on a broken laptop, etc etc. It’s a sticky situation.

My 2 year old son’s dad and I have never have been married. We’ve lived together for 4 years, even after breaking up, thinking that parenting & money would be easier living together. As of this past weekend, I made a decision to move out in September. This is something dad agrees with, & supports. We both know the fighting has gone on too long.The problem is that dad is a drunk. He lives for alcohol & doesn’t care who his lifestyle affects. He comes home drunk from work (or anywhere, really) on a regular basis, even when he promises each night not to. He can get physical & violent (not in front of our son, this always happens after midnight, so he’s in bed). I want out of this sooner, but I can’t move before my new roommate is free of her lease in Sept. Is there something I can do legally? I’m tired of his alcoholic lifestyle & he doesn’t recognize his problem. And I know he’ll lie if accused of anything. He’s even threatened to lie if in court. I need help. I need to protect my son
We have no shared bank accounts, and I have a house full of my belongings and a situation that doesn’t allow for a “transition home” or anything like that. I have parents that will help, if needed. But I have to maintain my life while making this change. I have an awesome job and I can’t neglect that either.
I can’t just “leave”. Til September, I have nowhere to go, and a “shelter” won’t be happening. His mother is visiting this weekend and I don’t think she has a clue that his drinking is this out of hand, but I’m sure as heck going to tell her.
I appreciate all the advice so far, but I can’t see anything that would work yet. Isn’t there sometime I can do to force HIM out? If I leave, I’m leaving him with all my stuff and I can’t do that. My family is in another state, so this could get complicated, I don’t have local family to help me out. I just thought maybe I could get some sort of order for him to move out or something, and then I could maybe get some assistance to help pay the $900 rent for the next 2 months, or ask my parents.
The lease is in both nof our names. And as of June 1, we’re not on a lease, come to think of it. So I’m not sure what that means.

I’m not “tattling” to his mom, I just need for her to stop seeing me as the whiney, annoying party and him as a drunk. He never does it in front of her, she lives 400 miles away, we barely ever see her.

And I can’t just move. I know it’s hard to understand, it’s even harder to explain. But this is 2 levels of a home ful of my stuff, and everything is unorganized. All my picture proof of anything is on a broken laptop, etc etc. It’s a sticky situation.

My 2 year old son’s dad and I have never have been married. We’ve lived together for 4 years, even after breaking up, thinking that parenting & money would be easier living together. As of this past weekend, I made a decision to move out in September. This is something dad agrees with, & supports. We both know the fighting has gone on too long.The problem is that dad is a drunk. He lives for alcohol & doesn’t care who his lifestyle affects. He comes home drunk from work (or anywhere, really) on a regular basis, even when he promises each night not to. He can get physical & violent (not in front of our son, this always happens after midnight, so he’s in bed). I want out of this sooner, but I can’t move before my new roommate is free of her lease in Sept. Is there something I can do legally? I’m tired of his alcoholic lifestyle & he doesn’t recognize his problem. And I know he’ll lie if accused of anything. He’s even threatened to lie if in court. I need help. I need to protect my son
We have no shared bank accounts, and I have a house full of my belongings and a situation that doesn’t allow for a “transition home” or anything like that. I have parents that will help, if needed. But I have to maintain my life while making this change. I have an awesome job and I can’t neglect that either.
I can’t just “leave”. Til September, I have nowhere to go, and a “shelter” won’t be happening. His mother is visiting this weekend and I don’t think she has a clue that his drinking is this out of hand, but I’m sure as heck going to tell her.
I appreciate all the advice so far, but I can’t see anything that would work yet. Isn’t there sometime I can do to force HIM out? If I leave, I’m leaving him with all my stuff and I can’t do that. My family is in another state, so this could get complicated, I don’t have local family to help me out. I just thought maybe I could get some sort of order for him to move out or something, and then I could maybe get some assistance to help pay the $900 rent for the next 2 months, or ask my parents.
The lease is in both nof our names. And as of June 1, we’re not on a lease, come to think of it. So I’m not sure what that means.

I’m not “tattling” to his mom, I just need for her to stop seeing me as the whiney, annoying party and him as a drunk. He never does it in front of her, she lives 400 miles away, we barely ever see her.

And I can’t just move. I know it’s hard to understand, it’s even harder to explain. But this is 2 levels of a home ful of my stuff, and everything is unorganized. All my picture proof of anything is on a broken laptop, etc etc. It’s a sticky situation.

My 2 year old son’s dad and I have never have been married. We’ve lived together for 4 years, even after breaking up, thinking that parenting & money would be easier living together. As of this past weekend, I made a decision to move out in September. This is something dad agrees with, & supports. We both know the fighting has gone on too long.The problem is that dad is a drunk. He lives for alcohol & doesn’t care who his lifestyle affects. He comes home drunk from work (or anywhere, really) on a regular basis, even when he promises each night not to. He can get physical & violent (not in front of our son, this always happens after midnight, so he’s in bed). I want out of this sooner, but I can’t move before my new roommate is free of her lease in Sept. Is there something I can do legally? I’m tired of his alcoholic lifestyle & he doesn’t recognize his problem. And I know he’ll lie if accused of anything. He’s even threatened to lie if in court. I need help. I need to protect my son
We have no shared bank accounts, and I have a house full of my belongings and a situation that doesn’t allow for a “transition home” or anything like that. I have parents that will help, if needed. But I have to maintain my life while making this change. I have an awesome job and I can’t neglect that either.
I can’t just “leave”. Til September, I have nowhere to go, and a “shelter” won’t be happening. His mother is visiting this weekend and I don’t think she has a clue that his drinking is this out of hand, but I’m sure as heck going to tell her.
I appreciate all the advice so far, but I can’t see anything that would work yet. Isn’t there sometime I can do to force HIM out? If I leave, I’m leaving him with all my stuff and I can’t do that. My family is in another state, so this could get complicated, I don’t have local family to help me out. I just thought maybe I could get some sort of order for him to move out or something, and then I could maybe get some assistance to help pay the $900 rent for the next 2 months, or ask my parents.
The lease is in both nof our names. And as of June 1, we’re not on a lease, come to think of it. So I’m not sure what that means.

I’m not “tattling” to his mom, I just need for her to stop seeing me as the whiney, annoying party and him as a drunk. He never does it in front of her, she lives 400 miles away, we barely ever see her.

And I can’t just move. I know it’s hard to understand, it’s even harder to explain. But this is 2 levels of a home ful of my stuff, and everything is unorganized. All my picture proof of anything is on a broken laptop, etc etc. It’s a sticky situation.

My 2 year old son’s dad and I have never have been married. We’ve lived together for 4 years, even after breaking up, thinking that parenting & money would be easier living together. As of this past weekend, I made a decision to move out in September. This is something dad agrees with, & supports. We both know the fighting has gone on too long.The problem is that dad is a drunk. He lives for alcohol & doesn’t care who his lifestyle affects. He comes home drunk from work (or anywhere, really) on a regular basis, even when he promises each night not to. He can get physical & violent (not in front of our son, this always happens after midnight, so he’s in bed). I want out of this sooner, but I can’t move before my new roommate is free of her lease in Sept. Is there something I can do legally? I’m tired of his alcoholic lifestyle & he doesn’t recognize his problem. And I know he’ll lie if accused of anything. He’s even threatened to lie if in court. I need help. I need to protect my son
We have no shared bank accounts, and I have a house full of my belongings and a situation that doesn’t allow for a “transition home” or anything like that. I have parents that will help, if needed. But I have to maintain my life while making this change. I have an awesome job and I can’t neglect that either.
I can’t just “leave”. Til September, I have nowhere to go, and a “shelter” won’t be happening. His mother is visiting this weekend and I don’t think she has a clue that his drinking is this out of hand, but I’m sure as heck going to tell her.
I appreciate all the advice so far, but I can’t see anything that would work yet. Isn’t there sometime I can do to force HIM out? If I leave, I’m leaving him with all my stuff and I can’t do that. My family is in another state, so this could get complicated, I don’t have local family to help me out. I just thought maybe I could get some sort of order for him to move out or something, and then I could maybe get some assistance to help pay the $900 rent for the next 2 months, or ask my parents.
The lease is in both nof our names. And as of June 1, we’re not on a lease, come to think of it. So I’m not sure what that means.

I’m not “tattling” to his mom, I just need for her to stop seeing me as the whiney, annoying party and him as a drunk. He never does it in front of her, she lives 400 miles away, we barely ever see her.

And I can’t just move. I know it’s hard to understand, it’s even harder to explain. But this is 2 levels of a home ful of my stuff, and everything is unorganized. All my picture proof of anything is on a broken laptop, etc etc. It’s a sticky situation.

I have proof i paid 18K for his drug rehab can i claim anything on my taxes.

He is my nephew and he lives with me. I take care of him and make sure that he has everything that he needs and wants. My brother is a drug addict and he does not take care of any of his kids. My nephew was adopted by my brother and his ex wife and neither of them seem to care about him. I have been taking care of him all his life. I want to adopt him and he does not want to ever leave me because for once in his life he has a stable home. He is only five years old and has been through more than any child should have to go through.

Help….I have two children age 19 and 11 from a previous marriage. My children and I left 6 years ago after their Father got “hooked” on meth. Since then, they have a very little, if any contact with their family on his side. (They have a step-father and he wants to adopt my 11 year old) The last time my 19 year old had contact with his G’ma she needed help cleaning out the house we use to live in (with their father) and my son found meth making ingredients in a cooler. He pointed it out to his G’ma and she put it in her trunk and left with it. Of course, my son (who was 16 at the time) did not tell me this until about 6 months later. This woman has supported her son and his drugs from day one and still thinks he has no problem even though he is now serving a 10 year prison term. Okay, here is my problem: We have found out she has lost her house and is moving into the small town we are living in and is also bring my ex’s drugged out girlfriend who right after our divorce spit at and burned my daughter with a cigerette at a funeral we attended. She has had nothing to do with my 11 year old daughter and I am thankful for that, but now she and the girlfriend has started driving by, trying to follow my daughter and my daughter is scared of them. My daughter says she wants nothing to do with them, she is embarressed and now worries that people are going to think off her different because her Dad is in jail. This has never been an issue with her before. I think since the G’ma is in town and driving by it is bring up the issue. I hate that this has happened to my children and I have always been truthful with them about the situation with their Father, and they have seemed to deal with it pretty well. What should I do? Should I confront them and tell them to stay away…Which I am scared that will turn real ugly…I do not want my daughter hurt or scared, but I do not know how to go about it? Help???