my nephew is living with me, his mother (my sister) is a drug addict. I do not have legal custody of him yet. He is on diability, thru social security. He is 13 yrs. old. My sister refuses to give me his money for his care. what can I do? It seems like everyone takes up for her. Her probation officer even told me that she should only give me 300.00 of his money, because she needs to live too. Isn’t that money for HIM and his Care? Please someone help me…
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My new found sister is supposedly a recovering drug addict. She has numerous boyfriends and is not as responsible as she can be. She has moved from her previous city to where I am to be close to the only family she has. (we both share the same dad and her mother passed away 5 years ago)She has been here only 3 and half weeks and already has had to move into 2 homes. My husband and I are at our wits end. I would like to find something to have her sign if she becomes unable to care for the 3 children she has. Her 2 year old is suffering from severe hair loss.I donot wish to do anything legal until I can tak custody of the children. If anyone can help.I would greatly appreciate it. Thank You,
Cathie
I think that my son has been useing these drugs and want to home test him.
My son who is 15 has a friend who is 22 and I know he buys my son and other minors alcohol on the weekends. What can I do? Can I report him even tho I don’t have any proof?
I currently live in Clarksville, Tennessee. My family and I have lived there for about three years, before that I lived in another town outside of Nashville that was much smaller. Since moving to Clarksville I have noticed over the few years living there that the violence of the town has worsen. When we first got there the crime rate was not as bad as now. Almost every night on the news or in the paper and new crime has happened. This worries me because it puts my family at risk, also since my husband is in the military he is not at home. When he is gone I tend to worry more about crime happening around me.
For instance just a couple of weeks ago I turned on the news and a man had been shot. He was found on a back road and the cop that stopped thought the man had been in a wreck. When the EMS arrived and got him out he had been shot in the head. All of this was less than two miles from my house. And it is not like I live in a bad area, I actually thought our neighborhood was safe and some what crime free. We have since sold that house and are moving, but it frightens me to know how close that was to my family. On another instance in broad daylight there was a random shooting at our local Wal-Mart killing a man. And finally this act of crime happened at a local drug store three men robbed an eighty year old woman at a drug store. They took her hostage and made her smoke crack then raped her.
These are just a few senseless crimes that have happened since I have lived there. It scares me because it doesn’t matter who you are or what time of day, these things can happen. I worry when my husband is away that what if someone breaks in or when I am out alone with my son. Woman always seem to be a easy target for violence and it can happen to anyone. I don’t think there is a quick fix for ending all this high crime in our area. But maybe out community can come together and have more crime watching. The justice system could also be more harsh to these people comminting the crimes. If it’s this bad now what will it be like in another three years. If something is not done you can almost bet it will be worse.
i am a junior and i found out for sure what i want to be i want to write and direct movies. Is this to late? Can i do both of those things? Wht kind of classes should i do? What are the main jobs of beeing a director like wht do u mostly do? please help. heres an idea of somethighting about
its called after. Its about this guy he has a fiance who he adores and shes pregnant and hes all happy. But she cheats on him and he moves away abandoning his new born kid. But when the kid is born he has cancer and he died his mom is crushed. But the father has no idea. So the father has been away from the girl who broke his heart and she misses him and is on her knees begging for him because he was everything to her. Well now the main character the father. Is depressd all the time hates his job his new girlfriend is mean and hates him and flirts around. he has no friends. One day he gets in a car wreck and dies. He wakes up in this afterlife and its so dark and he is alone. Well this elleven year old kid comes up to tell them if we travel to the other side we can get your soul back and you can start over. The main character ask the kid why are you here your a kid your happy you should be where its happy. The kid says im not happy i died at age 12 i had bad cancer my father left me and my mom cryed all the time. The main character realizes that thats his son. So towards the end he finds the soul but instead of taking it he gives it to his son. and his son gets to live happy and cancer free. But the main character gos to a afterlife where he can rest in piece. So what do you think? Also the main character gets hooked on drugs. there is no heaven or hell. But once the kid leaves what happends is that the main character just fades away as if he never exhisted. So how about that. And when the kid comes to life everything rewinds and the dr says the cancer is gone. So the main character gave his whole life for someone. even his afterlife even though he wanted happyness he found out seeing someone else happy would make him happy even though hed be forgotten
For those of you thinking that it might be FUN, help you control your weight or just make you COOL and fit in, It does all of that I guess.
My son was a recovering addict from when he was 16-18, he lived with his mom and went through rehab several times for both meth and beer. At the age of 35 he HUNG HIMSELF because he could NEVER get rid of the after affects on his brain. He was anti-social, he couldn’t concentrate and was disgnosed as being a schitzophrenic. He couldn’t hold a good job and went from one menial job to another. He was an astronomy WIZARD, but never went to school because he could not deal with the structure. He was CLEAN from crystal for over 20 YEARS and the after affects for two years of FUN and ESCAPE stayed with him for the rest of his short life.
He went from a crystal addiction to a life of looking over his shoulder because the crystal was ALWAYS there and the after affects NEVER left!
BE COOL, BE FUN and be prepared for a life of HELL!
THANKS for your answeres and you are probably right, “The people that NEED to read this won’t”. I just thought that some good could come from his story.
Bloodline, YOU got SCREWED BIG TIME and I am SORRY.
The point that I was trying to make is that crystal is NOT like smoking a REALLY GOOD joint ONCE or even several times. You get stupid, EVERYTHING is FUNNY and you wake up with NO hangover. Crystal is like inviting a nice guy to dinner that will NEVER leave and is abusive. ONE TIME and you are SCREWED.
Isn’t advanced chemistry GRAND? They have found a way to use OTC stuff to create a drug that ruins one’s life after a SINGLE USE. If one has minor issues it magnifies them so that they are no longer controllable; PS, anxiety attacks and the rest. It takes the locked door off of the hinges and everything flies out; HANG IN “Bloodline” and keep the faith; I am SORRY for what you are going through!
If I was able to SCARE the S*** out of YOU then GOOD! Do your homework!
My son has a dead beat dad who is in drug rehab. He got arested in Dec 05 and was having withdrawl problems in jail, so they sent him to a rehab. If he was not in rehab, he would be in jail, he is awaiting trail for 7 felony charges. He has all the sudden decided to take an interest in my son, I don’t want my son to see him but I have an outstanding court order from before he went to jail that states he gets supervised visits everyother weekend. I was not worried about this since he was put away, but I have found out that he gets weekend passes and I have to let him see my son on his weeks. Does anyone else see anything wrong with someone who should be in jail, awaiting trail for 7 felony charges, getting out on the weekend and being around a 2 yr old child? I don’t see how he should get out? I have a lawyer and we are going to court to get his visits suspended but I need help now, he is to get out for his first visit next weekend. Does anyone know anything I can do to stop this?
For any of you who say that he is his father and deserves to see him~ let me tell you one reason I don’t want this~ once, he was on his way to pick up my son for his visits and got pulled over, he ran from the police and when they cought him, he had a loaded, stolen gun, oxicotin, and two baggies of meth. ON HIS WAY TO PICK UP MY SON!
A boy that has been a long time friend of my family started college last year. He went out-of-state, and listening to him brag about how he never went to class, failed all but one, partied the whole time he was there, is now faced with trying to go back in. He even had his parents rent and pay all utilities for his place, including food and all his “partying suppllies” which they thought was all for school, books, supplies.
Okay, heres the boner here. His father is hooked on drugs and blows alot of his money – but was also the one paying cash for the whole thing. He is not allowed to view his sons grades without his son granting him permission. I tried to talk to the boy and get him to be serious about his grades, and letting him know that he needs to take this opportunity that has been handed to him and make something out of it, before one day when he couldnt. He obviously did not listen.
Anyway, I know the parents, and am sorta friends with them. His father came to me and asked me how his grades were. I dont want to break the trust of his son, but at the same time, I dont want to see his father throw all that money down the drain also. So I told the father, BEFORE you pay for his education, why not ask your son to show you his grades from last year first. That if your going to be the one paying for him, then you want to be entitled to see how he is progressing. I felt that was a good way to “tell” but “not tell”.
So his son came our house with his labtop and was downloading programs that he could get a fake grading card with his schools name on it-which looked real, and is what he wants to show his father.
I shook my head in disbelief!
I know if he doesnt go to school with his fathers money, his father will blow it on drugs. So I dont know what to do.
Should I just let this tide roll the way it is going to?
What would you do?
I’m from Carson City, Nevada and I would like to know if I could find a drug treatment center here. My son Ethan has finally agreed to attend a treatment program to overcome his crystal meth addiction. He experienced the negative effects of the drugs to his body and he realized that there’s still hope for a better life. I’m so happy that he’s taking this step into changing his life for good. Please help us find a drug rehab. I want to have the old Ethan back.
after he gets off of probation in Jan 2011. He was on probation for assualt charges and it was a felony. He knows he cant ever have firearms, but is he allow to drink after he is off probation. He lives in NH
My cousin can’t afford to get her son into a drug rehab. It’s so costly. But she really has to get her son treated. She’s asking for my help. Any suggestions?
My son has been in drug rehab for 38 days and we are looking for a chrisitian program where he can go to continue working his sobriety that doesn’t cost an arm and a leg. Does anyone have any suggestions?
anyone know if its linked or could be linked as a cause for his disabillity. I currently have him on every treatment possible i was a stupid kid at the time and now i feel so guilty ive googled it like crzy and cant find anything on the 2topics HELP i need to know if i caused this please respond if u know
I am 22 years old I am with a guy who is 32. We have been together for a year and we have went through hell. He is emotionally abusive and we both have been physically abusive. I have two kids. He is the father of my son. I was pregnant and he put his hands on me I got a restraining order against him. He has a problem with smoking crack when he is high and drunk he is dangerous. He is in prison now he left me pregnant and went to jail. Now that he is clean he wants to be a father to his 6 week old son. I dont know what to do I dont know how to deal with this. He promises that he will never touch another drug or drink that he just wants a normal life. I dont know if it is jail talk or is he serious… please help me
He is very sick right now for no apparent reason
I have a 27 year old son Who started drinking around 4-5 years ago. Since about a year ago it’s gotten out of control. He’s in serious condition and is in deep need of severe intense help. He has a wife they married about 4 months ago and his wife recently learned she was pregnant with their first child. He has no financial resources except for what he gets from Human Resources. From what his wife and I know thus far the places we looked at thus far doesn’t cover his medical insurance. Having no financial resources I can not help pay for his treatment if he was to receive any. He is close to death if he doesn’t get some help NOW. Does Anyone here reading this now know of Intervention programs that will take Medicaid alone or combined Medicaid with some financial monies at low minimum cost. If it was to be at low minimum cost we his family might be able to find a way to get it together or even maybe easier yet if the Intervention program would accept his medicaid insurance combined with paying in monthly installments we may be able to have an easier way to working it out. I come here in love for my son, I can’t lose him. If anyone has any kind of suggestions where his wife, myself, and his sister can him the much needed yet very necessary care he needs to help him beat this undesirable disease of alcoholism. He just lost his dad in Sept. 2007 please help him to not be the next, as his dad also was an alcoholic and I don’t want my son ending up where his dad is this very moment—dead. Thanks for taking time to read this as well as allowing me to vent a bit of my frustartion and pain over this. I have no where to turn so that’s my reason of why I came here to all who now read this in hope of getting someone to make suggestions or help refer him somewhere. He’s presently in the hospital in the Detox ward. This is his 3rd time there since late October. He can’t continue life as he is now.
Rehab and A.A. have been looked into. He’s participated in them. Research on the two have been made with no success. It’s unrelistic to thinkon my part but he needs one on one daily care for anywhere between I’d 6-12 months or longer in an intervention facility. unrealististic on my part as I realize that there’s others in need of help & not just him who can’t be denied because he’s there but equal. Should anyone have suggestions, ideas or could be of help to him I realize one must be caustious when dealing with situations online therefore if anyone would want to give further information let me know through here. I can suppy you with my E-mail address as well as the name, address, and location where he’s at. You may investigate on your own so you’d kown the place is for legit while at the same time allow me to take safety precautions needed for him and the family because of the fact all this is taking place by means of the computer
Rehab and A.A. have been looked into. He’s participated in them. Research on the two have been made with no success. It’s unrelistic to thinkon my part but he needs one on one daily care for anywhere between I’d 6-12 months or longer in an intervention facility. unrealististic on my part as I realize that there’s others in need of help & not just him who can’t be denied because he’s there but equal. Should anyone have suggestions, ideas or could be of help to him I realize one must be caustious when dealing with situations online therefore if anyone would want to give further information let me know through here. I can suppy you with my E-mail address as well as the name, address, and location where he’s at. You may investigate on your own so you’d kown the place is for legit while at the same time allow me to take safety precautions needed for him and the family because of the fact all this is taking place by means of the computer
I don’t know what to make of this- why would she do this to her son?
My hubby comes from a family where alcoholism is rampant among several family members. At least two have died gruesome deaths (esophagus ruptured and relative bled to death- the MD said this was caused by heavy drinking that caused liver failure/tension on the esophagus….), hubby’s uncle is unable to work because his alcoholism is so bad, hubby’s aunt has cirhrosis of the liver from drinking and does not qualify for a liver transplant….
I think you get the picture as to what alcohol has done to his extended family members.
Hubby’s Mom does not drink on a regular basis- maybe a glass of wine for special occasions. Hubby’s dad drinks at least 4 beers (his drink of choice) a day (sometimes more). One time his Mom called my hubby in tears (we live 5 states away) because her husband (hubby’s dad) had gone out on a bender and was severely drunk and irrational when he came home. Hubby’s dad was unfairly accused of something at work which led to this drinking binge. Hubby and his Mom do not think hubby’s dad has a drinking problem because he is employed, doesn’t drink on the job, etc.
In other words, he doesn’t have a drinking problem/dependency like the other family members because he is functional.
When hubby and I were dating, his mom mentioned to me- more than once- that she and her husband were ‘relieved’ (her exact word) when hubby went off to college and started drinking , because they were afraid he would ‘never touch alcohol’ . He was a good kid in high school and didn’t drink. The way it was said to me made me think that his Mom thought he was somewhat ‘nerdy’ for not drinking in high school. Hubby’s Mom even made a point to tell the same thing to MY Mom at one point (my Mom was dumbfounded as to why hubby’s mom even told her this).
Throughout the first few years of our marriage, my hubby’s drinking began to escalate. He was drinking 6 or more (sometimes 8-10) beers every night at home. Even though we were financially strapped he continued to spend close to $75 a week on beer alone. He didn’t think it was a problem.
The stress of this along with other things caused severe strain on our marriage. I was about to leave him and drinking was one of the main factors. Hubby decided he ‘did not want to lose his wife and kids’ (his words) and decided to stop drinking. The week he decided to quit coincided with a visit he had planned to see his parents (I was 8 months pregnant at the time and couldn’t go).
Right before dinner he told his parents he had decided to quit drinking because he felt he had developed a problem. He didn’t mention anything about his Dad’s drinking because he still felt his Dad didn’t have a problem- he was only talking about himself and his decision to quit.
At the dinner table his Mom poured him a glass of wine and pushed in front of him and encouraged him to drink it. She said she didn’t think he had a problem with drinking and all he needed to do was just have a few drinks and then stop himself. Hubby said no, but she insisted.
I am having trouble understanding WHY a mother whose own sister and brother have debilitating drinking problems-which she herself has characterized as terrible- would encourage her son to drink when he has announced that he has a drinking problem and is quitting alcohol altogether.
Why would she do that? What do you make of what she did?
How would i find him He is over 18 and supposedly moved in with a girlfriend. i ran into an ex friend of his who said he is hooked on drugs now but she does not know where he lives. i tried phone books and looking on the internet- no luck She said he was bad off the last time she saw him on hard drugs. Any ideas what I can do for him?
My son went through drug rehab one year ago and is doing great. He has not relapsed at all and has set some quality goals for his life and is pursuing them. He is only 21 years old and is currently in vocational training and cannot afford his own medical insurance at this point in time, but I would like to provide that for him. Does anyone know if he’s eligible since he has a history of drug abuse?
