Lets say your child is a Teenager and they asks you if they could go to a party at their friend’s house but there is Alcohol and Liquor at the party and you as the parent say no. But then your child says I don’t care what you say im going to the party anyway. And they sneaked out.
Not only that but you caught them sneaking back inside the house.
What would you do if your teenage son or teenage daughter disobey you and sneak out anyway?
Tell me what would you REALLY DO?
I already asked this question…but I need more opinions…from kids & parents.
-My son has gone to school high 3 times this week
-He brought alcohol onto school gronds and given it to his friends
-He has also skipped school after lunch everyday this week.
The principal just told me about all of this today and he told me my son would be suspended for 7 days.
I’m going to be working everyday in the next 7 days except Sunday.
How can I make sure he stays out of drugs, alcohol, etc while I’m gone.
KIDS & PARENTS: If you were in this situation (kids) how would you be punnished? and (parents) how would you punnish your child?
My son is 14 and he is a very good boy, but I worry because I know how young I was when temptations started. (to smoke pot, drink, etc.) He has ADD and things aren’t always a breeze for him, so I am afraid he will turn to drugs at some point. I tell him often (without nagging) to wait until he is 21 to decide whether or not to drink and he seems to listen. I heard that alcohol affects the development of the frontal lobe of the brain, so I remind him from time to time that he is just so much better off without it. I also don’t want to seem like I am preaching. I am a waitress and I have tended bar, so he knows I am not anti-alcohol. I just want him to make age-appropriate decisions. If anyone has any added incentive for kids to stay abstinate, please let me know. Thanks!
My ex filed for divorce in Az; I didn’t contest it & I allowed him to have full custody of both of my sons. 3 years later, he moved to Las Vegas, NV & didn’t tell anyone until almost 4 years later. In the mean time, I moved home to Va & ever since then he has refused to allow me to visit my boys. He is an alcoholic (he has DUI’s) & has had many arrests in the past 10 years. He fled AZ because he has warrants there & owes someone 7yrs. of back child support. My child support to them is current (it goes directly to AZ). I don’t know anything about NV or where to file to get my rights inforced. I believe that the boys would be better off with me so that there dad can get the treatment he needs. Can someone help me, this is just not fair to my boys or myself?
I am low income & do not have the money it will take to hire an attorney. Do you know anyone who will take my case for free or someone out there who just wants to do a good deed like Oprah?
My ex filed for divorce in Az; I didn’t contest it & I allowed him to have full custody of both of my sons. 3 years later, he moved to Las Vegas, NV & didn’t tell anyone until almost 4 years later. In the mean time, I moved home to Va & ever since then he has refused to allow me to visit my boys. He is an alcoholic (he has DUI’s) & has had many arrests in the past 10 years. He fled AZ because he has warrants there & owes someone 7yrs. of back child support. My child support to them is current (it goes directly to AZ). I don’t know anything about NV or where to file to get my rights inforced. I believe that the boys would be better off with me so that there dad can get the treatment he needs. Can someone help me, this is just not fair to my boys or myself?
I am low income & do not have the money it will take to hire an attorney. Do you know anyone who will take my case for free or someone out there who just wants to do a good deed like Oprah?
He can ask to have them a week ahead, but the ex wont say yes “in case she has plans”. He sees them on occasion,but always at her house. He is not allowed to take them anywhere. He goes camping a lot and would love to have them along. He does not do drugs, and is not an alcoholic, He has a full time, well paying job and pays support. He would like to take her to court, but she says if he does, he’ll never see the kids again. She crosses the border regularly to see her boyfriend in Bellingham.and takes the kids.They stay in a motel because her boyfried is homeless.The kids have found needles and crack in the parking lot there. I am araid for them. They are 10,8,4 and need their dad When they do see him,they cry and dont want him to leave what should I as a grandmother do? my 13 yr old is the only one she lets visit because he is so close to the 10 yr old..The only other male influence they have is her dad who is a few fries short of a happy meal.
he has joint custody that was court ordered with no restrictions. He doesnt want sole custory, at this time,he just wants to see them and have them stay over. their mother provides a good home, but takes them stateside every holiday. He saw them for 2 hrs christmas eve, they were gone 2 weeks at spring break, she took them stateside for fathers day.now they are out of school for the summer he wants to take them camping and she wont let him,and he refuses to argue with her.
My husband has not been with his ex since the beginning of 2007. They are somewhat cordial as they were good friends before they dated. To make a long story short she really screwed him over. She cheated on him with 3 other men, wrote bad checks on their joint account then took her name off leaving my husband with the debt, stole his car and had sex with another man in it on his birthday while he was at work and didn’t bring it back for 2 days leaving him stranded, and she also has a crack cocaine problem. When she got pregnant with her son she told my husband and 3 other guys that the child was theirs. DNA tests proved the child is not my husbands. Keep in mind all of this happened before my husband and I meet back in the summer of 2008 at which point his ex had her baby. Anyway, she recently contacted him when she found out I had a baby and now she wants to meet up with us so that our boys can play together. My husband is a great guy and he still cares for her as a human being and I respect that but he is seriously considering setting up this play date between our kids. I don’t have an issue with my husband meeting up with her for lunch or something (I trust him and I know he has no feelings for her nor does she have any feelings for him, it’s more like a big brother little sister relationship they have now) but I don’t know how I feel about my kid being around her. I have nothing against her kid but it is her I do not trust manly becuase of her drug problem. She says she is clean but people we all know says that her mother has filed for custody of her son due to her continued use of drugs. I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to be rude but at the same time I don’t want my son around someone who is on hardcore drugs. Any thoughts, opinions, advice would be greatly appreciated.
I never thought of how this could lead to the two of us sizing each other up but I think you guys are all right as far as that matter is concerned. I just feel really bad for her son becuase he has hardly any friends due to the fact that none of her friends want to have play dates with their kids either. But at the same time I need to do what is best for my kid.
My husband has not been with his ex since the beginning of 2007. They are somewhat cordial as they were good friends before they dated. To make a long story short she really screwed him over. She cheated on him with 3 other men, wrote bad checks on their joint account then took her name off leaving my husband with the debt, stole his car and had sex with another man in it on his birthday while he was at work and didn’t bring it back for 2 days leaving him stranded, and she also has a crack cocaine problem. When she got pregnant with her son she told my husband and 3 other guys that the child was theirs. DNA tests proved the child is not my husbands. Keep in mind all of this happened before my husband and I meet back in the summer of 2008 at which point his ex had her baby. Anyway, she recently contacted him when she found out I had a baby and now she wants to meet up with us so that our boys can play together. My husband is a great guy and he still cares for her as a human being and I respect that but he is seriously considering setting up this play date between our kids. I don’t have an issue with my husband meeting up with her for lunch or something (I trust him and I know he has no feelings for her nor does she have any feelings for him, it’s more like a big brother little sister relationship they have now) but I don’t know how I feel about my kid being around her. I have nothing against her kid but it is her I do not trust manly becuase of her drug problem. She says she is clean but people we all know says that her mother has filed for custody of her son due to her continued use of drugs. I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to be rude but at the same time I don’t want my son around someone who is on hardcore drugs. Any thoughts, opinions, advice would be greatly appreciated.
I never thought of how this could lead to the two of us sizing each other up but I think you guys are all right as far as that matter is concerned. I just feel really bad for her son becuase he has hardly any friends due to the fact that none of her friends want to have play dates with their kids either. But at the same time I need to do what is best for my kid.
My son has a friend C they play well together when their alone but when C has another friend over & my son goes to play C teases, ignores, hits and is just mean. It really hurts and angers me as a mother. My son comes in upset. His parents think C does no wrong and says “let them work it out” ya, their kid isn’t being bullied! That’s why bullies get away with stuff; the parents are alcoholics anyway; don’t want to be bothered. They’re are neighbors and casual friends to so it gets sticky but I want to go off on C next time and say “don’t ask my kid to play if you have another friend over and are going to be a bully or be mean” or I won’t let him play with you at all! Example: Today C ask my son to come outside and play Pickle; my son goes outside and they run over to the trampoline and my son said what about Pickle and they ignored him and then C said your not my friend and they laugh at my son. I know C does this on purpose. I am really mad!
When I say casual friends with the parents I mean in past have had BBQs etc. but that has literally disappeared. We avoid doing anything with them. They are not mean to their kids; they spoil them and the kid is adopted (he doesn’t know) so I think he naturally has issues. I supported my son; told him it wasn’t his fault but C’s and that he wasn’t being a friend and that I would deal with it; next time he won’t go outside. I do encourage other friends as well. Thanks to all the answers.
My son told me that two days ago a Freshman boy died in the dorm I got my son out of last fall. He died from a combination of alcohol poisoning and codeine. What, if anything, can the colleges do to prevent these tragedies? They are pretty good at taking tuition money. Do you think they have any more responsibilities toward our children than to present them with the opportunity for a higher education? I thank God my own children have good heads on their shoulders, but I hate to think of kids dying from stupidity and immaturity.
Its weird how so many kids get hold of alcohol these days, and after my son had to be taken home from bluewater yesterday, I want to know how they get hold of it, as I always make sure he cant get any of mine, and I know that the Off-licences around here are quite strict, especially as he doesnt look anywhere near 18.
My kids are 35 and 32. When their dad left they were 10 & 13. Soon after that ( I recently found out) they started drinking. As they grew up it got progressivly worse. These are people who have (at one time) have professional jobs, great relationships etc.. I have enabled them a lot over the years. Paying their bills, house payments, food, clothes cars, insurance payments, you name it, I’ve done it. All along, knowing it was wrong. I had so much guilt over their dad leaving. They have “both” lived with me at one time or another. They have destroyed my homes and my heart. I know you will all say, ” It was my fault” I moved from California to Washington, with my present husband of 20 years. Soon after we got here, my oldest son came here for 3 months. It drove me crazy, again my fault. One day while I was at work, my husband put him on a bus and shipped him to New Mexico. He was homless and had just the clothes on is back. Eventully, I mailed him his stuff. My question is. How do I sleep at night ? How can I get myself to realize I am powerless? I feel like one day I will get “the call” and one of my kids will be dead. I constantly live with this. I have stopped paying their ways, but I feel guilty that I live in a beautiful house, I am warm, I have a good job, good credit, nice cars, someone who loves me and a little money in the bank. I don’t know how to stop the insanity that I am causing myself over their screwed up lives. I have already done the Counseling thing. I could never follow the Counselor’s help because at that time, I couldn’t do the right thing and kick them to the curb. I love my kids, but hate that they are choosing this destructive path in life. I just want peace within myself and don’t know how to get it. Please give me some suggestions. Thanks!!
What is the first step to moving with kids. One is disable and the other is 4. I am in school and i don’t work at this time but i am ready to leave. I have been living with my baby father for 6 years and he has been an alcoholic from the beginning but i was stupid in love at the time. We have got into some serious one on one were the law was call more than once. I have been though so much with this man and yes he is a man. I haven’t work really since we been together but i will work. My school hours have been so crazy and having two kids it was very hard. I don’t want my baby to know what kind of dad he is. My mind was made up as of 12am Jan 1, 2009 I am leaving him, but I am just looking for which way to go first. Another thing is he love his son more than he love his self and that is one of our biggest argument don’t take his son away from him. Oh yeah he don’t want AA.
If your daughter really liked being with guys in a sexual way would you stop her and tell her it is wrong till she is married . Would you tell her to be careful and use birth control and protective devices to prevent the transmission of STD’s .
If your son wanted to race fast cars or motorcycles would you say no or would you suggest he take all the available precautions and use the best safety devices even though with them its likely he is risking his life everyday and could die .
Who can determine for someone else what is right .
Some of the worlds greatest artists never earned a living or made a nickel and today their work sells for millions .
Freud was a cocaine user for years and I know dozens of successful professionals who smoke Pot in the evening to relax .
Who is able to say what another person should do with their life .
This is my complaint about conservatives . You are to structured and narrow minded to see that people want to be free from all your rules period .
Now he doesn’t have anyone to hang out with.. He was supposed to go to a friends house whose parents were out of town this weekend.. There was going to be tons of girls and alcohol there.. Im worried my son won’t be popular anymore.. Its all Tom Brady’s fault!
THREE ADULT men living in a 2-bedroom condo. My ex-father-in-law bought a futon because in a couple of year he wants my girls to be able to spend the night over there. (My girls are 5 and 7- blonde, blue eyed beautiful girls). My ex-and his brother are BOTH alcoholics, have NO LICENSES and only have jobs because their DADDY brings them to work or gets them up for work and they ride their BICYCLES to work. I AM 100% AGAINST MY GIRLS SLEEPING OVER THERE FOR TWO REASONS, ONE ALCOHOLISM AND TWO, their are THREE ADULT MEN WHO LIVE THERE REGARDLESS OF WHETHER THEY ARE RELATED OR NOT. DO YOU AGREE WITH ME??
The three adult kids were glad to see us move out of state and leave our home into the care the youngest and her family. Now, after ten years, we’re back. They have to either move out of our home or live with us 24/7. They hate me for trying to be bosy about its maintainance. They are resentful that they have lost their privacy and autonomy. They won’t move out. The son-in-law provokes me by being mean to our nine year old grandson. But we’re not moving out. I cry, openly, in town, at meetings, and any time I think about them hating me. Will A.A. help?
I asked this b/c this girl told me her health teacher said alcohol burns holes in the brian which is not true whatsoever.
And then I rememberd when a health teacher told me that alcohol is the worst drug in the world, and its the last one we should try.
So would your prefer:
Seeing you kids with a few friends drinking beer watching basketball underage acting silly.
OR
Seeing them smoking meth and twiching walking around in circles really fast.
Or even worse:
Find your son or daughter passed out drunk on a couch.
Or just find him/her in a park after being missing for 3 days were he/she hassnt slept or ate in 3 days sractching themselves as the drug wears.
Im just saying this b/c if health teachers are saying Alcohol is the worst but notice everyone uses and seems just fine then why would Meth be that bad?
So your kids drinking bud or injecting Meth?
Apperntly Meth has only a 7% recovery rate, so i guess the rest just kinda die. . .
There is this girl…we will call her Dope. Dope likes to shoot heroine, and is wealthy from family money. Dope likes to buy excessive amounts of drugs and do them because shes a miserable human being and likes to take people down with her. Actually, she is only satisfied with her own drug use when she is specifically messing other people up. Namely my 17 year old cousin, who has had other drug problems….she lived with me for a 9 month stretch of time when she was pregnant where I successfully got her off the drugs and then Dope comes storming in our lives seducing my very nieve and impressionable cousin back to bigger and badder drugs than she ever used before.
Now my cousin is a new mother AND heroine addict.
Dope also somehow managed to drag my friend along on her drug binges.
And most recently convinced a very pathetic 18 year old boy to sign himself out of rehab last night (after she is the reason his parents forced him in there in the first place) She picked him up from the hospital, his parents are freaking out and had no idea where he was, and as I am standing there talking to his parents (ironically my cousin standing next to me) Dope calls them on the phone stating “I have your son, hes safe, Im going to take care of him tonight and bring him back to rehab tomorrow…No he doesn’t want me to tell you where he is…no, of coarse I don’t have any drugs and I wouldn’t him that stufff” and then as soon as she hung up, texted my cousin saying “We just picked up some good sh*t do you want me to pick you up.”
Then the boys mother looks at us and asks if we think Dope is telling her the truth about taking care of her son and even my cousin who uses herself and tries to hide any affiliation with Dope says “No, don’t trust her, shes going to shoot him up.” (because these young kids don’t know how to shoot up themselves she actually administers the drugs into their systems and doesn’t show them how to do it so they need to find her when they want some)
I don’t know what to do to stop her.
The police keep arresting her and she gets out on bail and does it all over again finding more and more victims who are mark as kids because of their ages.
I don’t know what do to with this situation, every impressionable person and usually kids who have undergone extreme psycological trama in their lives become victim to her telling them that they will never feel anything bad on heroine.
Please help!
Ok, So Here’s the story. My husband And I Adopted My 3 year old niece and 4 year old nephew.
The have been around smoke for there entire lives despite what the doctors have said. They lived with Their grandmother for 2 years who smoke constantly around them. She passed away recently and Since the father is a Dead Beat who can’t and doesn’t want to take care of them and The mother is a Drug addict with a Child Molester for a boyfriend, We have taken The responsibility Into our own hands.
We both smoke. Outside or in my office away from the children. (I know it’s a Bad habit but it is very difficult to quit.)
Anyways, Both children will Do almost anything to try to smoke, No matter the trouble it gets them into.
They try to touch other people’s cigarettes, Even pick up long toys or ticks and try to smoke them. They stop when they are told but start again later on.
I have told them that they make you sick, they stink, make your teeth nasty, even showed them pictures of smokers lungs and the only person I seem to be convincing is MYSELF.
Please Any Help on what I can do is Greatly appreciated. I’ve never dealt with this in children so young before.
(Also The give them a cigarette thing and let them see how gross it is, Doesn’t work. My brother Tried it, Despite my wishes and It backfired. They Loved it. Holding their little cancer stick, Just puffin away. So everytime he comes over they ask for a Cigarette.
Thank you for any help. Honestly I really do appreciate it.
