How Do I Get My Son Off Drugs?

affirmative action but -and here comes the irony- they do this after pledging their loyalty to GW Bush for 8 years -who we all know got into Yale even though he was known to be an alcoholic, a coke-head and a wild party guy- because he was a “Legacy” student with a father who-at the time- was head of the Republican National Committee.

So, if the alcoholic. coke-head son of an influential party member gets into Yale because daddy has money and connections that’s perfectly fine with the far right, but if anyone so much as used the phrase “Affirmative Action” in relation to Obama’s admission process at Harvard that’s grounds for impeachment?

The friend he got into trob. w/ ( they broke n2 a “friends” house and shot paintballs in the house put holes in walls and stopped a toilet up and drank some alcohol- generally f-ed the place up good) has a pretty hard nosed stepdad and yet he is out and about skateboarding and hanging out w/ friends etc…. Am I being 2 harsh as a parent??? My grounding started the day this all happened in june and hasn’t ended yet. It’s not as if this was a minor thing- the “law” is involved and he has 2 be on probation 4 a year and if he doesnt obey me and his dad or if he breaks the probation rules he can be sent to boys school until he is 18. My son is 15 and his friend is 14.
My punishment is kinda stiff… No phone No friends No going anywhere unless u r w/ me or dad or maybe grandma.. NO SKATEBOARDING NONE – They stole 2 skateboards too- btw.

My boyfriend got a new job with my brother which is great. But my brother is an alcoholic and they have been hanging out together a lot lately. They drink everyday but during the days they don’t get drunk but the weekends they get totally trashed in our basement. Have beer pong party’s , beer bongs everything. He says he’s just trying to get it all out now before our son comes in 4 months., but i really don’t think that he is going to stop. I just don’t wanna be the nagging gf and him thinking that i’m telling him what to do. but being the babysitter till 4 in the morning for 6 or 7 drunk people is physically straining on me right now. I don’t know how to talk to him bout it without him going off or anything.

Let us face facts. Nooses in trees will set off violence and resentment. BUT….The Klan can take a permanent vacation because our cities and towns where African Americans live is where Black people live in fear of young black men and Black teen boys. The dealing of crack cocaine and the endless shootings and robberies need the REAL attention. The negative attitude many of our young black men and teens have towards education and proper English needs attention. I am seeing many African American families where the daughter goes to college and the son ends up in prison. Black Africans immigrating to the USA do not have that kind of attitude and their English is damn near perfect, even spoken better than most educated whites. This is a mystery to me. I guess Jesse Jackson and Al Sharpton are afraid to confront the crack dealers and young black men too, like most people. Or maybe they can’t make any money doing that. The late Corretta Scott King worked for us, not for media hype.

Let us face facts. Nooses in trees will set off violence and resentment. BUT….The Klan can take a permanent vacation because our cities and towns where African Americans live is where Black people live in fear of young black men and Black teen boys. The dealing of crack cocaine and the endless shootings and robberies need the REAL attention. The negative attitude many of our young black men and teens have towards education and proper English needs attention. I am seeing many African American families where the daughter goes to college and the son ends up in prison. Black Africans immigrating to the USA do not have that kind of attitude and their English is damn near perfect, even spoken better than most educated whites. This is a mystery to me. I guess Jesse Jackson and Al Sharpton are afraid to confront the crack dealers and young black men too, like most people. Or maybe they can’t make any money doing that. The late Corretta Scott King worked for us, not for media hype.

Jeb Bush KNOWS that his family will never pass the sniff test, and as you can see, he tries hard to stay out of the limelight. He’s got a crackhead daughter who’s done time for using and selling cocaine, a son who’s also done time for numerous DUI’s and a Mexican wife. He knows he’ll be targeted.

Palin knew good and darn well that her daughter was preggers + a teen, she knew that she had a retarded son, she knew that Levi’s mom dealt drugs, she knew that she had her brother-in-law canned, she knew that she purchased a private home with govt. money….she knew ALL of this before stepping into the VP limelight, so guess what…she’s fare game.

she cannot deem it illegal to use the word retarded! retarded! retarded! retarded!
to all of the people brining up Obama’s kids…look, Obama does NOT whine about the things that people say about his children nor his wife. EVERY week Palin is demanding the resignation of someone because they mentioned her kids. What an ass.

I am taking a trip with my son in early March from Buffalo and Toronto and I want to know if I’ll encounter any problems if I try to bring a couple of cases of Coors original along for the ride to drink at the hotel in Toronto.

i know most say turn away and kick them out blah blah, our son is 22 yrs old, had health issues (bad heart) and he hates the world because of it, he has turned to a few bad kids (2) and i belive crack cocaine. I have put him in a rehab before, he must of fell off the wagon.My question here is !!! what way can i get him in a 6 month res rehab , can i take him to court and force it ,( due to using the law as he is harming himself and CAN harm others ) or sit and wait for police to come to my door and say come to the morgue we need idenity of a kid. walking away from an addict only adds death or trouble, as a parent there is a responsib, to try and SAVE a kid who doesnt know what their doing. and his habbit his FRIENDS (2 of em) help him . they . and NO i cant stop a 22 year old from having who he has in his house.. i am not responsible for his freind and NO i dont want police involved, jail does not SOLVE the probelm , root of prob is it. fix

If you came home to find no one else home, but your 16yr old son’s friend rummaging thru the kitchen drawer’s. When you walk in and ask what he is doing he says he is looking for some paper and a pen to leave your son a note. But you notice on the counter next to him is a lock pick and some of YOUR jewelry, pluse he reaks of pot and alcohol. When you ask him to leave he does, but what would you do afterwards? Do you tell your son, call the cops, tell his parents or something else, or even do you do nothing?

Two years ago I left my 30′ish son outside the Salvation Army Rehab Center for six month stay. He stayed less than a month and moved to another state. Last year I sent him money for another rehab center. He was to stay six months, he left after two and moved in with one of his alcoholic friends. Now he wants to move back into my home. Should I let him?

We have tried to help out one of the family members, but he always has an exscuse or reason why he cant help, mainly about money. He thinks if he dont eat here are bath hear he dosnt have to give anything other than 60 dollers. I am tierd of the lies from him hes mom and my husband. Hes girlfriend got kicked out due to the fact that she lays around all day eats drinks watches tv, uses our cp, but she cant clean and cant remember the food she ate up when she buys grocireis. She takes all her money and food stamps to her mothers house. Oh, shes pregnant. She cant do anything. I was a high risk pregnancy to, but I went to college and raised a handicapped son with a drug addict husband. So babay got to do better then that. Now we are stuck with the nephew and a bag of lies about them getting a place to stay. I am at my wits end. I left drugs and lies and excuses alone when I divorced my husband 17 yrs ago. Cant handel any more. Someone please help me.

I want to do my best to try and give my son the tools he needs to make the best decisions and avoid alcohol, ect as well as other dangerous behaviors when he gets older. He is less than 1yr old now so i know it is a bit early to think about stuff like this but I love him so much and want to be the best father i can. Even though i had a good upbringing with strong moral foundation i spent the better part of the last decade making decisions I often regret and certainly do not want my son to make. How can I convey this info to him so that it will have an impact on him later on? Thanks and God Bless!!

My son is weak of will. I’m afraid that when he goes out of rehab, he’s going to start drinking again. He’s really smart and talented, and has a life ahead of him, and I don’t want him to ruin his future just by drinking. He promised me he’s going to change, but when he goes out of rehab, the temptations will surely get back into his life. I can’t be with him 24/7, but I want so much to protect him. What can I do?

Our son needs help, but won’t admit it – won’t go.
He feels we are the problem. His life is spiraling downhill so quickly – and we are very worried about him and his future. Even counseling would be acceptible. Has anyone else experienced this with their teen? How did you get them to realize they need help, and get them to go. It would be much easier if he were 16 or 17, but he’s considered an adult. Serious responses only please. Thanks!

i recently went to court to retain custody of my 2 yr old son, i went in front of the judge submitted a dna test police reports and such his order was mother is to complete 9 months of intensive impatient drug treatment, there was a no contact order issued he also made it pertantly clear that she can only see him at my approval under supervision after she completes 9 months of rehab

we recently moved to dobbs ferry from florida the order was issued in florida is there a law that protects me fro running into future problems seeing as the judges orders clearly state that i am the custodail parent and that she is to have no contact which means no calling me my wife my mother grandparents etc… weather it be her or anyonbe else doing it for her

my 2 year old son is very happy with the only woman he has ever called mommy he is very happy he is taken to the park he is given nothing but unconditional love and this women who the last time saw him in febuary of 09 he cried as soon as i put him in her arms which was @ a halfway house and she still went out and smoked cracked

i dont get it i know i have to tell my son about her and i cannot wait until he is to old but he cant be to youbg either i do want him to know about her i will not ever tell him about the bad things i want him to choose if he wants a relationship with her assuming at that time she has long term sobreity (meaning 2 plus years)

i do not want him to resent me because he one day finda a birth certificate or sees pictures etc… i am just concerned about my son he has a good life and she (his biological) is only that and he will know her by her first name she has other kids whom she has nothing to do with i am just confused as to how to handle this situtation i knopw i am protected by the law i also know when the biological is sober she is not a bad person but i also know she cant tay clean to save her ass longer then a few months and all i want is for her to get well so my son can decide if he wants her in his life once he is old enough meaning somewhere between 5 & 7 yrs of age if i can find a correct way to tell him without tramatizing him because he has a Mommy and doesnt need a person in his life that wnats him to call her mommy yet is only there once every few months for day or so he was a convenience she used to ask me to keep him awake so she could play with him @ 11 pm @ night when he was only a yr old if he wouldnt eat she would force feed him i one time had to take him out of her hands and tell her to get the f**k away from my kid another time i had to pick her sorry azz up off the floor as she was passed out on drugs (many times)n i just dont know what to do i want the best life for my son and if that means she is a part of it somehow some way ok as long as he knows that she is only the biological , not the mommy

my son has so much love given to him by my wife and her sister and brother in law and all her cusins and her parents and ofcourse my mother and grand parents and aunt and uncles and cousins and so on please anyone who has experienced such things pos on this,thanks,

May GOD as you understand him/her/it bless you and your family

My son’s father came back into our life after 6 years. He was a big drugy.
He has been clean for 2 years.

I made a promise to myself to keeo moving forward and discuss or dwell in the past.

Things have been going well. He is shaping up to be a great dad and my son loves as if he was never away.

He and I are getting a long swimmingly. I even thought we were friends. He calls me almost everyday and talks about his day, talks to me about our son, etc. He even confides in me.

BTW we were each others first like real love. We were together 5 years before we split.

On Friday night he called me to hang out together. My son was sleeping over his aunts so I excepted I mean we have known each other since we were 13. He asked me once before but I was busy.

So he told me was madly in love with me back then.

Then his stupid ass kissed me. Then I went to pick up my sons bike from his house and he tells me he had a good time the other night.

Ummm, did I mention he has been dating someone for 2 years? He says he doesn’t love her.

Bottom line is I know he loves me. He always has and always will. I’ve always trumped any women in his life including his mother. I would almost feel bad for his gf but turns out she is crazy.

It must be hard to see him look at me the way he does. As girlfriend to see the way he speaks to me and treats me. Honestly, if he hadn’t got hooked on drugs and done all the ish we’d still be together I think.

I don’t know how I feel about him. I get a sense that he still has a bit of liar in him left over from his drugy days.

What do you think go with the gut or give him a chance? He hasn’t given me any reason not to believe him since he has been back.

Hmmmm, opinions, advice, etc?

Yes this is really happening! Lol, I know my life is like some dramatic comedic movie, lol.
Artmom, I would see your point about his current gf except I meant it literally when I said she is crazy. He has had a restraining order against her and she is a drug user. She has stepped on my toes many times trying to get in good with my son. I did not appreciate that.
Lol, I am not putting up with anything.

I do not want him back but I know he wants me back. I guess I was kind of confused when I wrote this.

I guess I mean should I continue to be his friend even though he is still in love with me?
@Dogma: Lol, I know how this question must sound. There is much more to the story and much more to our history together but it’s to much to write. His gf? I have no sympathy for her. She is a dope fiend and has 2 lovely girls that she just got taken away from her due to a drug habit.

Again I don’t want to be with him though I know he wants to be with me. The question is more can I continue to be friends with him though he is still in love with me?
@PullMyEFinger: Thank you for actually giving some useful advice!!

I know that a lot of innocent children are harmed during the making of coke, but to think that cocaine is getting profit out of their teeth is just wrong and makes my feet warm. How are we supposed to protect our children if propane is making profit out of both cocaine and coca cola and the only ones to thank for gas is the children? I’m assuming this is why we’re supposed to tell our kids the tooth fairy exists, so we can give their teeth for coca cola’s cocaine, but how do they get it? I guess the general question is me wondering if cocaine is made out of children’s teeth and if this can be prevented by telling them the truth about the tooth fairy. My son is fifteen now and I think he’s getting suspiscious, I had to take him out of school because his friends were telling him that the tooth fairy wasen’t real, and I’m not going to let my bills pay for what cocaine is doing to our children!

This is for all the parents out there who don’t want Coca Cola being the new Google!

I’ve already convinced him that alcohol isn’t going to do him any good. He has now realized that it’s better if he undergoes treatment. Alcohol rehabilitation costs so much, and we can’t afford it. Does anybody have any suggestions about this?

he has abused many substances and i fear that he has used crystal meth lately with is uncle

My son is 17 years old, and has a severe drug addiction problem. He’s on nearly every Hallucinogen, and smokes marijuana daily. He won’t go into a drug rehab program, we’ve tried before. Can I commit him without his consent? I’ve heard before that at 17 he needs to sign a consent form, which he won’t. But there must be a way to get him help, he’s not even 18 yet. We live in Vermont if that helps. Thank you for your answers, we greatly appreciate them.