When I am not home she comes in with her son to snoop around(she once lived in the home)If I am not in the living room when she arrives she goes back to his bedroom following his father.I didn’t realize this was going on except I would come home at lunchtime and find our bedroom door locked on the days she was to come pickup him up. She finds excuses to come into the home.I had enough,so I called her and told her that when she comes inside my home she stays in the foyer. She got beligerent.This woman has tried suicide 4 x since I have known her and 8 x total. She admitted that she did it for attention,the last time she scratched her wrists. I have only been in her home twice and both times was to get the son out of the home because her 3rd husband and her were drinking and fighting.She is getting married again without divorcing the 3rd husband,she has an alcoholic and pill problem.I love the son as my own and he knows it. What should I do in the future?
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I normally have my child on the weekends but this time my ex asked to take him with her and her husband to his parents 6 hours away for labor day weekend bash but at the last minute she gets sick and stays home by herself. My sons stepdad is a nice guy(what little I know about him) but he is not his dad and also is not very good at disciplining my child and making him “mind”. From what I have heard about these “shindigs” is there are lots of people and lots of alcohol and I am worried that my son(who is 9) will sneak away unsupervised and get to doing something he hadn’t oughta be doing.
I was not informed that she did not go until it was too late, otherwise I think my son should have stayed with me.
Is this wrong of my ex to allow this to happen? Should I jump her a$$ about this? Is this something I could use against her in court?
I am re posting this and adding some information.
I normally have my child on the weekends but this time my ex asked to take him with her and her husband to his parents 6 hours away for labor day weekend bash but at the last minute she gets sick and stays home by herself. My sons step dad is a nice guy(what little I know about him) but he is not his dad and also is not very good at disciplining my child and making him “mind”(from what I am told he doesn’t do that with his own child who isn’t going on this trip). From what I have heard about these “shindigs” is there are lots of people and lots of alcohol and I am worried that my son(who is 9) will sneak away unsupervised and get to doing something he hadn’t oughta be doing since his mom has let him “taste” alcohol and mixed drinks at her house.
I was not informed that she did not go until it was too late, otherwise I think my son should have stayed with me.
Is this wrong of my ex to allow this to happen? Should I jump her *** about this? Is this something I could use against her in court?
Some info on my ex: she cheated on me for years and allowed my son to be involved with her boyfriends and their families during their outings and even(when asked about it) told the judge during our divorce she didnt see anything wrong with it. I know for a fact that she is cheating again now with my sons teacher because I saw her kiss him outside in public and my son told me beforehand she was doing this.
So I doubt she was sick and if she was it was very coincidental.
I am re posting this and adding some information.
I normally have my child on the weekends but this time my ex asked to take him with her and her husband to his parents 6 hours away for labor day weekend bash but at the last minute she gets sick and stays home by herself. My sons step dad is a nice guy(what little I know about him) but he is not his dad and also is not very good at disciplining my child and making him “mind”(from what I am told he doesn’t do that with his own child who isn’t going on this trip). From what I have heard about these “shindigs” is there are lots of people and lots of alcohol and I am worried that my son(who is 9) will sneak away unsupervised and get to doing something he hadn’t oughta be doing since his mom has let him “taste” alcohol and mixed drinks at her house.
I was not informed that she did not go until it was too late, otherwise I think my son should have stayed with me.
Is this wrong of my ex to allow this to happen? Should I jump her *** about this? Is this something I could use against her in court?
Some info on my ex: she cheated on me for years and allowed my son to be involved with her boyfriends and their families during their outings and even(when asked about it) told the judge during our divorce she didnt see anything wrong with it. I know for a fact that she is cheating again now with my sons teacher because I saw her kiss him outside in public and my son told me beforehand she was doing this.
So I doubt she was sick and if she was it was very coincidental.
My husband & I have custody of his child that resulted from an on-night-stand that happened just before we met. We didn’t know about her until about a year ago. I know she needs me (her biomom is a meth-head) and I will take care of her. The problem is, I’m having problems with treating her totally different than my daughter. My husband tries to understand but ultimately thinks it’s not fair. My take on this is…I don’t mind to take care of her but I’m going to make 100% sure my daughter does not suffer because of it in any way.
P.S. We also have my step-son every other weekend, holidays & summer. He’s awesome and we couldn’t have a better relationship.
My daughter is 12, Step-son is 11, new step-daughter is 10.
Looking for comments/advise. Thanks
My husband has not been with his ex since the beginning of 2007. They are somewhat cordial as they were good friends before they dated. To make a long story short she really screwed him over. She cheated on him with 3 other men, wrote bad checks on their joint account then took her name off leaving my husband with the debt, stole his car and had sex with another man in it on his birthday while he was at work and didn’t bring it back for 2 days leaving him stranded, and she also has a crack cocaine problem. When she got pregnant with her son she told my husband and 3 other guys that the child was theirs. DNA tests proved the child is not my husbands. Keep in mind all of this happened before my husband and I meet back in the summer of 2008 at which point his ex had her baby. Anyway, she recently contacted him when she found out I had a baby and now she wants to meet up with us so that our boys can play together. My husband is a great guy and he still cares for her as a human being and I respect that but he is seriously considering setting up this play date between our kids. I don’t have an issue with my husband meeting up with her for lunch or something (I trust him and I know he has no feelings for her nor does she have any feelings for him, it’s more like a big brother little sister relationship they have now) but I don’t know how I feel about my kid being around her. I have nothing against her kid but it is her I do not trust manly becuase of her drug problem. She says she is clean but people we all know says that her mother has filed for custody of her son due to her continued use of drugs. I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to be rude but at the same time I don’t want my son around someone who is on hardcore drugs. Any thoughts, opinions, advice would be greatly appreciated.
I never thought of how this could lead to the two of us sizing each other up but I think you guys are all right as far as that matter is concerned. I just feel really bad for her son becuase he has hardly any friends due to the fact that none of her friends want to have play dates with their kids either. But at the same time I need to do what is best for my kid.
My husband has not been with his ex since the beginning of 2007. They are somewhat cordial as they were good friends before they dated. To make a long story short she really screwed him over. She cheated on him with 3 other men, wrote bad checks on their joint account then took her name off leaving my husband with the debt, stole his car and had sex with another man in it on his birthday while he was at work and didn’t bring it back for 2 days leaving him stranded, and she also has a crack cocaine problem. When she got pregnant with her son she told my husband and 3 other guys that the child was theirs. DNA tests proved the child is not my husbands. Keep in mind all of this happened before my husband and I meet back in the summer of 2008 at which point his ex had her baby. Anyway, she recently contacted him when she found out I had a baby and now she wants to meet up with us so that our boys can play together. My husband is a great guy and he still cares for her as a human being and I respect that but he is seriously considering setting up this play date between our kids. I don’t have an issue with my husband meeting up with her for lunch or something (I trust him and I know he has no feelings for her nor does she have any feelings for him, it’s more like a big brother little sister relationship they have now) but I don’t know how I feel about my kid being around her. I have nothing against her kid but it is her I do not trust manly becuase of her drug problem. She says she is clean but people we all know says that her mother has filed for custody of her son due to her continued use of drugs. I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to be rude but at the same time I don’t want my son around someone who is on hardcore drugs. Any thoughts, opinions, advice would be greatly appreciated.
I never thought of how this could lead to the two of us sizing each other up but I think you guys are all right as far as that matter is concerned. I just feel really bad for her son becuase he has hardly any friends due to the fact that none of her friends want to have play dates with their kids either. But at the same time I need to do what is best for my kid.
traditional expenses in his words are rehearsal dinner, all alcohol at reception, and honeymoon. Now remember they have been married 1 year already!
We know she is a prescription meds abuser, with a long track record in all hospitals within a three hour radius. She has had to move from towns brfore because of her and her mothers abuse of prescription meds. She has my husbands almost 18 month old son and it is not a good situation. We know she is using drugs again, maybe even cocaine. She begs his parents for money and even for meds. We are tired of knowing his son is unhealthy and neglected and paying child support is a joke because it just goes up her nose. My husband is afraid to call Children’s Services and her end up running. We haven’t seen the baby in over four months because she won’t comply to visitation. We are just tired of seeing the baby dirty and in crappy old clothes and being left with her pill head mother for days at a time while she parties. She even drives with him while drugged up. Has anyone else ever dealt with this and have any idea of what Children’s Services will do? We just don’t want her to run.
Otherwise he is a caring husband, good father and excellent son. We have been married for 12 years now and all my efforts for making him quit drinking have gone waste. He just doesn’t want to quit drinking and would never admit that he is drunk. It is now affecting his health also and he is losing interest in sex. Since past few years i have observed that he is not able to perform well in bed. He doesn’t want to listen to anything related with his drinking. But it is affecting our married life badly.
My husbands 16 year old son is about to become a father.There are alot of problems,not only b/c of his age.The girl is 15.She had another child at age 13. The fathers parents has custody.She is in juvenile custody for running away and doing drugs,(yes while preg.).She is in rehab right now.She says her step brother raped her and that her home life is bad.I was wondering if we should fight for custody of the child? My step son supposibly lives with his mom,but is never home.Lives with friends etc.Got caught stealing vodka from walmart,admits to drugs and alcohol.I am deeply concerened.His mom does drugs with him and has beeen in trouble with CPS alot.What should we do?
2 months ago I wrote about his misbehavior and got the rocks thrown at me.Nobody believed his behavior,and thought I was in the wrong.WELL HERE WE ARE a 16 and 15 having a baby. SO think before you blame others.
Obviously the girls mom would not be fit to have custody if she can’t prevent her own daughter from being raped by her step-son.
I really do not want to take this child completely away from his/her parents.The girl did not go to rehab of her own choosing,the juvenile office put her there.My step son lived with us until May of 2006.He became aggressive so that he could go back and live with his mom,b/c he knows she won’t even try to discipline him.We took the police to get him in Novemeber b/c he lived 70 miles away and mom said she couldn’t handle him.The officers took him to his moms and she of course gave in to him,so the police said legally there was nothing my husband could do.We begged the ex to send him to rehab or a behavioral hosp. but she again refuse.The aggression got so bad when he lived with us that he actually drew a knife on the school on 2 2nd grade boys for calling him by his real first name.We did send him to a behavioral hosp,and when he got out he physically attacked his dad.
Hello, I never post here, but I am so angry/distant/frustrated etc that I figured maybe I need input instead of sullen time by my self. So here goes, I gave my old car (that still ran and wasn’t a bad car all and all) to my husbands long time friend and his new wife so they had a way to get around with there two year old son. I have been waiting on the title that I lost to get to me so I could make it official for them. Today my husbands friend started calling and harassing about how he needed the title and so on. After three calls I find out the reason why my husband keeps running out of the room to talk is because he found out his buddy traded the car I gave them for meth. My husband once confronted did tell me most of the story though I think some details have been left out….I guess my question is, should I feel the way I do right now? Is my reaction normal? Or is my husbands thought “well the way I look at it is that it was given away so it doesn’t matter, it was given to him” (the friend) the more normal reaction. Worse yet, the guy they gave it to got it impounded, and I am living in a different state. I just have this horror story running through my mind of police at my door or some impound bill being sent to me. Am I the only person alive that would feel used and angry about this sort of thing?
We are spending lots of time and money his party. The only issue is my ex husband’s sister (my son’s aunt). She’s a major alcoholic–and she totally gets drunk at every party. I know my sons loves her to death and she is always nice to him–but last time she got drunk and broke one of our kitchen chairs!!
She keeps calling us..What should I do??
We are spending lots of time and money his party. The only issue is my ex husband’s sister (my son’s aunt). She’s a major alcoholic–and she totally gets drunk at every party. I know my sons loves her to death and she is always nice to him–but last time she got drunk and broke one of our kitchen chairs!!
She keeps calling us..What should I do??
We are spending lots of time and money his party. The only issue is my ex husband’s sister (my son’s aunt). She’s a major alcoholic–and she totally gets drunk at every party. I know my sons loves her to death and she is always nice to him–but last time she got drunk and broke one of our kitchen chairs!!
She keeps calling us..What should I do??
We have been married for about four years now. His drinking problem got noticeably worse after his return from deployment about five years ago. At first I just delt with it, he would have waves of sober periods and then binge. He gets pretty mean when he’s drunk but has never hit me. He did however pass out on the bed with a loaded gun once. Anytime I bring up the subjest he either blow it off or just comes back with “I like to drink”. We have been to marriage counceling ( not just for the drinking) and I have suggested he attend meetings but he refuses. We have a one year old son and since then I have had VERY little tolerance for any of his drinking. A few months back he dissapeared for a few days after telling me he had to go to drill that weekend. When he didn’t come home I called the unit and they said they had no overnights that weekend. He ended up calling right before I filed a missing persons report, saying that he could’t call because they (his unit) had a last minute overnight drill. I immediately called his bluff and he admitted to being drunk in some parking lot. After that event I told him that I could not deal with his BS anymore and he promised that he would stop but he still refused treatment. Yesterday, I received a phone call from him at about midnight (I work night shifts) saying that he had been pulled over after being out with his buddy’s from work. He claims the reason he got pulled over was because he was tired and swirving, but then tols me that he blew a .13 on a breathalizer test. He ask me if I would come pick him up and take him home (over 40 milesfrom my job). I said “no you can stay there with the police, I have to go back to work”. Later that night, I went home, gathered some belongings for me and my son and left. He called later saying that the police let him go and that he was on the way home, the whole time saying that he didn’t get a DUI and that he would walk away with almost nothing after his courtdate. At that point I told him that I would not be home when he got there and that I would be staying at my parents for a while. I said that I believed he had been drinking behind my back since the last incident and I did’t trust him anymore. His last words to me where basically that I was playing games with him. So now I am stuck with what to do!!!! I know from the outside it looks like an easy answer, but this is almost seven years of my life, on the other hand I do have a child now and I DO NOT want him exposed to that kind of reckless behavior. Right now I have no trust in my husband and I really don’t think he’s going to change or even fight for his family.
O.k. here we go…This is really hard for me but I need help. I’m 23 years old, my husband is 26, & we have an 8 1/2 month old son (my world). My husband has always been a pretty heavy drinker but we’ve been together for almost 6 years & I was so young when we 1st got together that I didn’t care or even notice that much because I drank back then too. Anyhow, he got 1 DUI/DWI when we first started dating & I just let that one go…he got charged with that one. He almost got another one (a few years later) when he got mad at me one night & took off…paid a lawyer & beat it (never went on his record) but by this time I’ve realized he has a problem & at first I didn’t know how to deal with him. I’d rant & rave, scream & yell, cry & fight with him…to no avail. I couldn’t understand why “we” as his family were not enough to just make him quit. Did he not love us like we loved him? Should I honestly try to get him to change? What’s wrong with me? Is he gonna screw up again & cost us more money? All of these questions ran through my head day after day…I have become his “enabler” & am “codependent” on him–I know this in my heart because I find myself trying to help him weasel his way out of things to save us money or for him to keep his license (the 1st DUI is off his record & he got his CDL’s & began driving a truck…his supposed dream job) Like just last week, he got charged with another DUI (on a friggin’ 3-wheeler this time) & if he does happen to get out of this one & manage to save his license he will still be forking out hard earned money (around $4000) for a good lawyer who can help him. So, I left…I took my son & we moved back in with my parents. I told him when he decided to get help & straighten out his life for “himself” — that I may come back. If not, after awhile, I’ll divorce him & find somebody that can make me happy. I do love him, don’t get me wrong, with all my heart & soul. I’d walk to the ends of the earth for him but I know that I am also “weak” against him because I love him so & just want him to do better. My question that I need some help with is “Do you think I should stay away from him completely (as far as me, not his son; I can’t keep him away) or should I include him in some things (family events), go to dinner with him, a movie or something, & go back to my mother’s house…no overnight stays & only every now & then to give him some sort of incentive or hope that he has a chance to possibly get his life back?” He’s stayed sober for months at a time but he’s more of a binge drinker…when he does it, he does it big. He’s starting AA on his own for the first time tomorrow & I’m going to start Al anon just in case he’s too far gone & I have to divorce him–I can deal with it better. That’s the last thing I want but I have to do what’ s best for my son. I guess I just feel so bad because I love to be around him sober (we’re perfect, so to speak) & going from seeing a person everyday of your life pretty much to not seeing them at all is drastic & just as heartbreaking as being with him. I’m going to stick to my guns & stay at my mother’s just to see what he’s going to do on his own but I just wanted to see what someone else thought about basically just “dating” until he either proves to be one thing or another…I know nothing else to do because even though he’s done some stupid things & I think he’s just ignorant at times my heart longs for him. He’s not verbally or physically abusive, he does work everyday, he’s a very active person, but he’s still young, too. I guess he’s what you call a functional alcoholic (from what I’ve read) The only thing we’ve ever really fought about was “his drinking or something to do with drinking” I used to drink with him but not anymore, I just don’t desire to after all I’ve been through with it. I don’t want my son growing up to think that its o.k. to drink all the time & he’s got his options–he can take ‘em of leave ‘em. Tell me what ya’ll think!!
