the 27 year old has a BFA in illustration and the 29 year old has an AA in auto body repair. Both are good workers, never miss work, show up for work everyday on time and clean and sober, yet they get passed over for employment by addicts and alcoholics. They are out every day looking for work and up all night on the computer looking. And nothing is happening. The 27 year old has $50,000+ in student loans that he has defaulted on and is in a very deep depression because of it. Why can’t they find work?
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My 14 year old son came home very drunk last night and he stank of alcohol and even smoke. Last year he said he would never smoke or drink! I really really believed he wouldn’t.
What should I do?
Is it like this with most 14 year boys?
But he’s the type of person that would smoke and drink without caring about the consequences he is aware of them lately he seems to be living in a bubble, and thinks that these consequences don’t apply to him, I thought I raised him well everyone tells me I have…
He brilliant in school his teachers say hes a plesure to teach and he gets good grades…
Ive been made aware that his friends don’t drink or smoke…
My son is 14. His Dad is a raging alcoholic. Him and his wife drink a half gallon of 10 high whiskey every day. They get into brawls when their children are there. My son’s dad even was sent to the hospital with a blood alcohol content of .4 which is almost dead. 2 years ago I took him to court and asked for supervised visitation. They denied my request saying my son was old enough to care for himself even and gave an order that my ex husband couldn’t drink alcohol around him anymore. Which of course he does. I have spoken to my lawyer who says, it will be very difficult to prove this.
Well lately, my son comes home complaining he is hungry. They eat maybe 2 times the entire weekend he is there. His dad and stepmom go to bed at 4-5 am and sleep until 1-2 pm the next day. So my son is responsible for taking care of the smaller children ages 1, 4 and 9 in the mornings. He said there is no food there to eat. Now they have no water bc the pump isn’t working. The electricity was going off and on. Sometime dimming and then getting brighter. My son said he was sitting on his bed and water started pouring out of the light fixture. The only heat they have are space heaters. I have reported them to CPS in the past but the problem is, is that CPS always gives notice they are coming so they clean house, get rid of the booze and get her dad to give them money for groceries. I just don’t understand how they can look their children in the face knowing they are hungry and they have no adequate heat or water but buy cigs and booze every single day. At least my son gets to come home. He only has to be there every other weekend. Those little kids have to be there all the time. No one in the home has had a job for amost 2 years. He has sucked his unemployment dry. I don’t care what they do at that house. Those two can drink themselves into an oblivion for all care, but when these children are not eating or in danger for some fire breaking out due to shorts in the wiring or the space heaters..I could never forgive myself for ignoring this if something were to happen.
I don’t know what to do. If I get involved, my son will be angry and won’t tell me anything else. He has just now started to trust me and tell me all of these things. He loves his dad and of course doesn’t wanted him to be in trouble or not see him anymore. I’m lost at what to do. If I turn them in, they will know it was me. And unless the situation is bad enough for them to remove the children from the home, they will just take it out on my son for telling me what is going on over there. What would you do if it were you?
“mind my own business”? This is my son we are talking about here. Do you now how difficult it is to send your child somewhere they don’t eat for the weekend, have no running water and have to dip their feces out of the toilet with a bucket when they are done using it or where there is obvious electrical problems in the home? I do not bad mouth his father at all. When I say they have no water I mean they have had no running water for at least the past 2 weekend visits (so four week). And for 6 months my son has said there is no food there. No milk, no bread, no cereal nothing. They eat one meal per day. I didn’t say he physically absued the children. I said water is flowing through the electrical outlets and ligth fixtures, the electricity is shorting out. Turning off and on. Staying up late drinking is different than drinking to the point of getting into physical fights in front of your children and then passing out until afternoon. I’m sorry but this is not something I can ignore.
And Joe B… I do NOT want him to be a bad father. I have never denied him the right to see his son and I have never spoken ill of him to my son. I want nothing more than for him to be a great father bc my son loves him so much. But he isn’t. He has nothing to do with his son other than the four days a month he goes there. He has been convicted of physically abusing his second wife’s daughter. Because he was drunk and she was throwing a fit and he whipped her so hard he left bruising on her. Her Father turned him in. They have no dry wall on their home, only insulation. No heat besides 2 space heaters. They have an English Mastiff and you can count his ribs and he has no dog house. They dumped their chocolate lab bc they were sick of feeding it. My son is confused bc he doesn’t want to go there but he wants to see his dad. He is behind on support constantly and is now trying to bribe my son with a new truck if he can emancipate himself at 16 so he doesn’t have to pay child support.
My son is 14. His Dad is a raging alcoholic. Him and his wife drink a half gallon of 10 high whiskey every day. They get into brawls when their children are there. My son’s dad even was sent to the hospital with a blood alcohol content of .4 which is almost dead. 2 years ago I took him to court and asked for supervised visitation. They denied my request saying my son was old enough to care for himself even and gave an order that my ex husband couldn’t drink alcohol around him anymore. Which of course he does. I have spoken to my lawyer who says, it will be very difficult to prove this.
Well lately, my son comes home complaining he is hungry. They eat maybe 2 times the entire weekend he is there. His dad and stepmom go to bed at 4-5 am and sleep until 1-2 pm the next day. So my son is responsible for taking care of the smaller children ages 1, 4 and 9 in the mornings. He said there is no food there to eat. Now they have no water bc the pump isn’t working. The electricity was going off and on. Sometime dimming and then getting brighter. My son said he was sitting on his bed and water started pouring out of the light fixture. The only heat they have are space heaters. I have reported them to CPS in the past but the problem is, is that CPS always gives notice they are coming so they clean house, get rid of the booze and get her dad to give them money for groceries. I just don’t understand how they can look their children in the face knowing they are hungry and they have no adequate heat or water but buy cigs and booze every single day. At least my son gets to come home. He only has to be there every other weekend. Those little kids have to be there all the time. No one in the home has had a job for amost 2 years. He has sucked his unemployment dry. I don’t care what they do at that house. Those two can drink themselves into an oblivion for all care, but when these children are not eating or in danger for some fire breaking out due to shorts in the wiring or the space heaters..I could never forgive myself for ignoring this if something were to happen.
I don’t know what to do. If I get involved, my son will be angry and won’t tell me anything else. He has just now started to trust me and tell me all of these things. He loves his dad and of course doesn’t wanted him to be in trouble or not see him anymore. I’m lost at what to do. If I turn them in, they will know it was me. And unless the situation is bad enough for them to remove the children from the home, they will just take it out on my son for telling me what is going on over there. What would you do if it were you?
“mind my own business”? This is my son we are talking about here. Do you now how difficult it is to send your child somewhere they don’t eat for the weekend, have no running water and have to dip their feces out of the toilet with a bucket when they are done using it or where there is obvious electrical problems in the home? I do not bad mouth his father at all. When I say they have no water I mean they have had no running water for at least the past 2 weekend visits (so four week). And for 6 months my son has said there is no food there. No milk, no bread, no cereal nothing. They eat one meal per day. I didn’t say he physically absued the children. I said water is flowing through the electrical outlets and ligth fixtures, the electricity is shorting out. Turning off and on. Staying up late drinking is different than drinking to the point of getting into physical fights in front of your children and then passing out until afternoon. I’m sorry but this is not something I can ignore.
And Joe B… I do NOT want him to be a bad father. I have never denied him the right to see his son and I have never spoken ill of him to my son. I want nothing more than for him to be a great father bc my son loves him so much. But he isn’t. He has nothing to do with his son other than the four days a month he goes there. He has been convicted of physically abusing his second wife’s daughter. Because he was drunk and she was throwing a fit and he whipped her so hard he left bruising on her. Her Father turned him in. They have no dry wall on their home, only insulation. No heat besides 2 space heaters. They have an English Mastiff and you can count his ribs and he has no dog house. They dumped their chocolate lab bc they were sick of feeding it. My son is confused bc he doesn’t want to go there but he wants to see his dad. He is behind on support constantly and is now trying to bribe my son with a new truck if he can emancipate himself at 16 so he doesn’t have to pay child support.
His mother was brought in and signed a statement admitting to marijuana use in the home and serving alcohol to a minor (her daughter not my step son) and child protective services told us we had to take him away pending investigation. Well, so far not charges have not been filed and CPS has yet to file a petition to have him removed from his mother…it’s been a week? No one will tell me how long before he can go home. He’s 16 and 1/2 years old and an honor student with finals coming up. I live in a different school district and it VERY difficult to keep running him back and forth. I’m worried his grade will suffer if he doesn’t get back to his routine. His mother isn’t a danger to him and I feel CPS is way overreacting…she has agreed to drug counseling beginning Tuesday but so far there is no legal paperwork preventing him from going home but we don’t want to make things worse. Everyone is in agreement that he needs to be home but CPS told me if we try to let him go home they will place him in foster care. His father and I find this entire situation stupid and it’s only harming my step son. He needs to sleep in his own bed at night and prepare for exams..why will nobody give us answers? How long does it take for charges to be filed against his mother? Why hasn’t a petition been filed…? How can they prevent my step son from seeing his own mother. If he was a baby and she was stoned that’s one thing but he’s 18 months away from18, doesn’t smoke,drink, A+ student, excels in sports and this is messing him up..even the officer doesn’t think he should be pulled from the home! doesn’t anyone have advice? A lawyer won’t help because charges and petitions haven’t been filed and CPS won’t answer my questions about the future?
Like I think its totally inappropriate. There will be lots of 18-21 year olds there including my husband (the guest of honor), myself (a girl with a tummy “full of babt lol), and friends. My husband made a friend at his US ARmy Training Base so he decided to spend his two week Leave with our us because he only has a step dad and him mom had him out of wedlock. Anyway, first I don’t think it is ethical to give guests of any age alcoholic beverage unless they can show us a plan for how they intend to get home without driving. How do I tell them it is not a good idea?
My step-daughter moved out west to be near her family who is trying, one last time, to help her get on her feet. Her deadbeat husband followed her out here and is now living in a shelter and gets food stamps and offers no support or help to his wife or his 3 small children, yet expects to see them and she allows it. He knows how her entire family feels about him and he avoids us like the plague. He’s not supposed to stay with her but we suspect he does from time to time. She got into a house recently that the local housing authority is paying the rent on and she is expected to at least get a part time job. She’s an emotionally abused woman and can’t turn him away because she feels he needs to see his kids. We have tried too many times to make her see what a bad influence he is. He does nothing but manipulate her and the system to survive and get what he wants. When he gets cleaned up and is responsible and his contributing THEN his reward should be to see her and his kids. She won’t give him that ultimatum. That falls on deaf ears. Nothing we suggest or share with her is effective. His presence may cause her to get kicked out of her home. He has arrest records and is wanted in another state for burglary and shoplifting. He’s actually skipped out on his parole and the police here and back there do know of his where-abouts but I guess he’s not important enough to extradite. He’s a drug addict and alcoholic who was even caught trying to steal beer from a local supermarket recently. My step-daughter was doing fine until the deadbeat showed up and now she can’t seem to move forward because he keeps interfering in her life. She may be spiraling out of control and the next step could be to lose her house and be on the street and the state would step in and take the kids. She has burned her bridges with her family for so many years. They have tried and tried and tried, spending thousands of dollars trying to help her but she messes it up over and over. She’s VERY stubborn and never listens to advice and has to learn everything the hard way. She’s 40 now and has nothing to show for her life other than 3 small children, whom she car barely handle and a deadbeat husband who showed up one day and is wrecking everything. I don’t know…maybe we should just sit back and let the chips fall where they may? That’s the only thing we haven’t done yet. Maybe she truly has to reach rock bottom for her, losing her kids, to make her see how serious the situation is.
She’s an adult and my mom has told her to get out several times. My mom sees how destructive she is when she leaves so she let her come back. The only problem is, she’s destructive here too. She’s extremely rude and starts fights with everyone. She has no respect for personal space or things and she brings alcohol into the house even though my mother told her not to. She smokes excessively then comes in with smoke clinging to her clothes and her son has asthma. Can I have her removed from the home and will her son have to go with her?
I took my almost 2 year old son to the doctor today due to a high fever and coughing; we found out he has walking pneumonia. His temp has ranged between 101.3 F and 104.3 F. We have gotten his prescription for the infection and he has been taking Motrin for the fever. Does anyone know of any home remedies that will lower his fever a little bit quicker than the Motrin (seems to take a while to kick in) or for those times that his fever is going back up and it’s not yet time to give another dose of medicine? I heard cool baths with rubbing alcohol will help but he really isn’t in the mood to get in the tub and I was hoping to be able to do this while he is resting. Any advice is greatly appreciated.
my husband is an alcoholic and he’s mean to me when he drinks he always tries to bring me down he’s he always comes on to my best friend i don’t know what to do i love him but his drinking is too much for me to handle
my husband is an alcoholic and he’s mean to me when he drinks he always tries to bring me down he’s he always comes on to my best friend i don’t know what to do i love him but his drinking is too much for me to handle
my husband is an alcoholic and he’s mean to me when he drinks he always tries to bring me down he’s he always comes on to my best friend i don’t know what to do i love him but his drinking is too much for me to handle
my husband is an alcoholic and he’s mean to me when he drinks he always tries to bring me down he’s he always comes on to my best friend i don’t know what to do i love him but his drinking is too much for me to handle
my husband is an alcoholic and he’s mean to me when he drinks he always tries to bring me down he’s he always comes on to my best friend i don’t know what to do i love him but his drinking is too much for me to handle
This story is a little confusing so please try to bear with me. My husband and me were married over two years ago. He brought a daughter (who is now 15) who he has full custody of and I brought my two kids together and made a blended family. My husband’s ex-wife (my step daughter’s mom) had also remarried and had a six year old boy from her second marriage. One week before Christmas last years the ex-wife was arrested for manufacturing meth and DHS took her son an put him in an emergency shelter. Since my husband and me have full custody of his half sister and no one else wanted him the judge allowed us to become his foster parents and he lives with us. We found out this week (almost a year after this all started) that her rights have been terminated and DHS is starting the adoption process for him to be with us permanently. My question is how do you tell a seven year old boy that he will be grown before he sees his mom again and that he will be living with us from now on? He has not seen or spoke to her since she got arrested last December, she was out of jail till this past October when she was arrested again for falling to appear for her court dates. Thank you for any help you can provide.
He can’t see her, the judge said she is to have no contact with him period and that we would be held accountable if we let him see or talk to her.
This story is a little confusing so please try to bear with me. My husband and me were married over two years ago. He brought a daughter (who is now 15) who he has full custody of and I brought my two kids together and made a blended family. My husband’s ex-wife (my step daughter’s mom) had also remarried and had a six year old boy from her second marriage. One week before Christmas last years the ex-wife was arrested for manufacturing meth and DHS took her son an put him in an emergency shelter. Since my husband and me have full custody of his half sister and no one else wanted him the judge allowed us to become his foster parents and he lives with us. We found out this week (almost a year after this all started) that her rights have been terminated and DHS is starting the adoption process for him to be with us permanently. My question is how do you tell a seven year old boy that he will be grown before he sees his mom again and that he will be living with us from now on? He has not seen or spoke to her since she got arrested last December, she was out of jail till this past October when she was arrested again for falling to appear for her court dates. Thank you for any help you can provide.
He can’t see her, the judge said she is to have no contact with him period and that we would be held accountable if we let him see or talk to her.
This story is a little confusing so please try to bear with me. My husband and me were married over two years ago. He brought a daughter (who is now 15) who he has full custody of and I brought my two kids together and made a blended family. My husband’s ex-wife (my step daughter’s mom) had also remarried and had a six year old boy from her second marriage. One week before Christmas last years the ex-wife was arrested for manufacturing meth and DHS took her son an put him in an emergency shelter. Since my husband and me have full custody of his half sister and no one else wanted him the judge allowed us to become his foster parents and he lives with us. We found out this week (almost a year after this all started) that her rights have been terminated and DHS is starting the adoption process for him to be with us permanently. My question is how do you tell a seven year old boy that he will be grown before he sees his mom again and that he will be living with us from now on? He has not seen or spoke to her since she got arrested last December, she was out of jail till this past October when she was arrested again for falling to appear for her court dates. Thank you for any help you can provide.
He can’t see her, the judge said she is to have no contact with him period and that we would be held accountable if we let him see or talk to her.
This story is a little confusing so please try to bear with me. My husband and me were married over two years ago. He brought a daughter (who is now 15) who he has full custody of and I brought my two kids together and made a blended family. My husband’s ex-wife (my step daughter’s mom) had also remarried and had a six year old boy from her second marriage. One week before Christmas last years the ex-wife was arrested for manufacturing meth and DHS took her son an put him in an emergency shelter. Since my husband and me have full custody of his half sister and no one else wanted him the judge allowed us to become his foster parents and he lives with us. We found out this week (almost a year after this all started) that her rights have been terminated and DHS is starting the adoption process for him to be with us permanently. My question is how do you tell a seven year old boy that he will be grown before he sees his mom again and that he will be living with us from now on? He has not seen or spoke to her since she got arrested last December, she was out of jail till this past October when she was arrested again for falling to appear for her court dates. Thank you for any help you can provide.
He can’t see her, the judge said she is to have no contact with him period and that we would be held accountable if we let him see or talk to her.
My fiance and I are alcoholics and have stopped drinking to make our relationship and family better.We have a 9 month old son.I guess it is really all we did before because now we are bored and don’t know what to do when our son goes to bed.We are trying to think of hobbies for us that we could do at home in the evening.Any ideas?
So last night my wife and I got into a screaming fight about my drinking. The details are kind of fuzzy, but evidently I got completely wrecked and grain alcohol and prescription painkillers and ended up vomiting on our infant son while he slept in his crib. Anyway, she totally freaked out and went to go stay with a coworker. I’ve left her dozens of voice mails but she’s not returning my calls. I know that I kind of messed up, but I think she is majorly overreacting. How can I force her to come home?
