My mom is wasted. She is upsetting me and I really am not sure what to do.. When she was with my dad, she was uptight, very christian like, and a perfectionist.. when I was 18, the same month I graduated High School they split up… they both moved away…. she took my sister with her, right before I had my son, she returned… Atfirst I knew she changed, and I thought it was VERY good at first I thought it was for the better.. She was a bit more relaxed, still acted like a Sincere Christian although I noticed she actualy drank alcohol.. which was fine.. NOW… I get home from work and she is WASTED, tonight she is BEYOND wasted.. talking in weird voices and just sprawled out on the couch.. my son (5 years old) thinks its funny, but she is making comments to him which I think are Unappropriate, although he doesn’t seem to understand them.. He doesn’t have school tommorow, and instead of bringing him to his DAD Mom and Dad (they always watch him when he is off) I thought she might enjoy a day with him… NOW she is telling him ” Why do I have to watch you tommorow” ” I don’t know if I want you to stay home tommorow with me” She is playing guilt trips on him and acting like she is crying saying.. ” You don’t like me” making him start to cry and beg her for approval.. HELLO.. an I the ONLY PERSON that thinks this is wrong??? I told him to leave her alone.. and I told her to stop.. NOW.. she Upset my son.. he doesn’t understand whats going on.. She is yelling at me calling me stupid cause I told him to leave her alone, I finally got her in her room and I locked her door.. I don’t need this stress.. now he is in his room in a time out for calling me stupid.. and I feel bad for punishing him…?? ** Adding on.. I am not a uptight Christian type, I am relaxed, I enjoy my alcohol.. but getting wasted I feel if anything is for the bar scene or hanging with your friends.. Not Alone.. on a weekly basis..
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My son who is 14 years old, has been caught kissing and doing sexual doings (not exactly sex), with a girl in a girls bathroom in his school. I am so saddened by it and really shocked, I cannot believe my youngest baby boy who was just a baby yesterday, turned out to be a pervert and god forbid, a “Sex addict”. He was caught half naked kissing with this other girl, same age as he is. He was caught my teachers, and sent to the principals office. When i got the call, I was so shocked. The teacher suspended my son for 2 weeks, as in his school, this is a big offence. The girl got suspended for a week. My son is really angry with me, and started cursing at me, and saying it’s his life and he even swore he would “have sex with 10000 girls, and felt good about it”. I broke down in tears when my son said those exact words 
I am so shocked, that he has grown up now. I have also found out he has a reputation in school, of being a one time gangster,I never knew,as I never actually really been to his school, to check on him. I also found out that he has been smoking cigarettes,found in his bag recently,and pornographic magazines and also alcohol , that has been missing from my brothers house. I am so lost and saddened by it. My husband is divorced and living far away,and I have full custody of my 4 children. I need advice, deep advice, on what to do to my son, to teach him a lesson. I know it’s pretty normal for teen boys to be like this, but my son has gone to the extreme, I am scared if he makes any girl pregnant, god forbid. I do see a psychiatrist, but it’s not helping at all. Help me please,advice. Thanks.
For starters, my best friend, Jovi, well she’s having a problem with her parents. I am 16, she is 14. We all live in America. It’s really her parents, they fight, a lot. Basically every week actually, and then they are good again. And it really hurts her when they fight. Stuff they usually fight about is so dumb. It’s usually stuff about their son (who is an alcoholic), her accusing him of cheating on her (which he really never would do), and other stuff. I think it might be becuase when they were much younger (before Jovi was alive), her dad mistreated her mom when they lived in Venezuela (it’s unfortuntly common there). A lot of the problems occur when they drink, which they do a lot. Well tonight they got into a fight and Jovi’s mom told her that she was going to move back to Venezuela this December. Jovi is now saying she actually wants her parents to get a divorce (which they sometimes want), and it’s making me upset. It’s hard for me to watch her sit there and not try anything…
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…to help fix it. It almost makes me feel angry at her, like she doesn’t care about them. Now something you should know about Jovi, she’s really a selfish person, a good person, but unkowingly selfish. I think that’s part of why she wants them to split, because it hurts her when they fight and she’d feel better if that ended with divorce. Another thing about her, she doesn’t think about cause and effects, like what will happen in the future. And I am really really close to her whole family (they really are great people when they get along), but I just don’t see how any of her family could possibly benefit from a divorce. Her mom (unemployed), completely relys on her husband for money and she speaks no English. Jovi attends a really, really expensive private/catholic highschool (she has some financial aid for making great grades). Honestly, I think Jovanna has a really great future ahead of her. She will probably be the first of her family to go to college and the…
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…And just have a great life. I don’t know how this could affect it though. I don’t know what to do and I told her to talk to both her parents for real and tell them that what they are doing is hurting her. She told me she is going to do that. Well, basically that’s it. AND for anyone telling me to stay out of it, it’s not gunna happen becuase my best friend is asking me what she should do and I want to give her the best advice I can give her. I really don’t, and I know she really doesn’t want to see them break up. AND most of you say it’s usually for the better. This for sure wouldn’t be, as Jovi then might move to Venezuela where she can’t get anywhere near as good an education as she could here, and I really want her to have a great life. So please, help me out.
Thanks
I have to write a something (it can be anything as long as it meets the criteria) for my English class. We have to write osmething based on the poem “We Real Cool” by Gwendolyn Brooks (THE POOL PLAYERS. SEVEN AT THE GOLDEN SHOVEL. We real cool. We Left school. We Lurk late. We Strike straight. We Sing sin. We Thin gin. We Jazz June. We Die soon.”). We’re supposed to tell about the life of one of those pool players twenty or so years later.
I decided to do a letter convincing kids to stay in school. This is what I have so far:
Dear students,
A long time ago, when I was about your age, I dropped out of school to play pool and drink with six friends. It was a huge mistake. We didn’t realize it at the time, we were just a bunch of carefree kids, but soon enough, we would know of the terrible consquences.
It was about five years later when we found out how wrong we were. We were adults now, we had to grow up, get jobs, support ourselves because no one else would. But we couldn’t. We didn’t have educations, we were high school drop-outs and failures. Two of my friends committed suicide because they were so hopeless. Another developed liver disease from the beer and couldn’t afford treatment. He died several months later, in great pain and agony. So it was just me and three others, Jon, Bob, and Bill. Jon moved far away, and I’m not sure what happened to Bob.
So I was left with Bill, whom I went to rehab with for many years. After I got out, I worked at several dead-end jobs that paid minimum wage, trying to save up for college.
After several years of cleaning public restrooms, I finally made enough money to put myself through a couple semesters of community college. I continued working, and soon I was in medical school. I became a nursing assistant, and then a doctor.
I may have a somewhat happy of an ending but Bill didn’t do as well as I did. Bill refused to work, begging his parents for money, but they didn’t want to give money to their lazy, alcoholic, drop-out son. He became homeless, and now stands on street corners begging for a couple of quarters from whoever walks by.
Of course I was to blame for what I got myself into, but it probably never would have been as bad if I had a family. My mother died when I was young, and my father cared more for alcohol than he did for me. I used to dream that my father would actually be a father. And because of that, I don’t want to be a father, either, and I have no family still.
I’m not sure how to end it. I know it should say something about staying in school, because that’s the purpose of my letter, but I don’t know how to say it without sounding cheesy and cliche, like “Stay in school and don’t drink” etc.
Any advise on how to end it? Or what improvements can I make to my writing? Anythin at all is appreciated!
Please and thank you!
Raney, first, sorry that it took me so long to respond (and I doubt you’ll ever read this, but whatever), and LOL, no, this has never happened to me. I’m thirteen and I’m just trying to write this based on what I’ve seen in movies and such…
People, seriously, this is not a personal experience! I’m laughing so hard now, this is just a story! XD
At least I’m convincing…
My son and I have written this together for advice…How pathetic I am 42 years old and seeking help “online” but I guess I feel a little desperate. My son, my husband and I all had a fight tonight, or should I say I completely blew up (in an immature way using the “F” word and nearly every other one as well) at my son and husband and then proceeded to leave the house leaving them both behind. My son has apologized but frankly often does and we wind up fighting again just 5 minutes later. I should add, I often apologize too. I am seriously am frustrated and self admittedly, not handling myself very well anymore. By my sons perception, I “freaked out because he has not handed in a homework assignment” and I over reacted by telling/screaming at him he makes Me angry every single Fing day of the week which lately is just a fact. I got angry with my husband because frankly, every single day as my son and I argue about EVERYTHING, he just sits there watching TV or ignoring the entire event, NEVER supporting me. To paint the picture, my son is an absolutely awesome kid and has great values but the truth is he is lazy and a procrastinantor and it is driving me crazy. He does not do drugs or alcohol and is very wholesome. Aside from that he talks back to me EVERYDAY and everytime I insist that he steps up to the plate. He is 18 years old and a senior and for the past 6-8 years he has missed homework assignments, made excuses, played video games, etc… Every single day I rode him to do his work and he would decieve me and pretend it was done. His grades were crappy enough that he will be going to a community college, he does not have grades to get into a four year school. Grades vary from a F-B average 2.0 GPA. I know academics are not everything but these are BAD habits not conducive to having a successful life. He sees my constant critism as “ragging” everyday and being “mean”. At 18 years old, never having a job and being lazy and talking back non stop, I feel like I am starting to crack. My husband, not his father, but in the picture since he was four offers ZERO support. That is a seperate issue I am completely disturbed about and his biological father does NOTHING and lives 2000 miles away…visits once a year for 5 days and leaves a hero. Might I add never a dime in child support.
This morning I got up at 600 am (up before my husband) ….got ready, went to work until 500pm as a nurse, picked my son up from the “gym”-which I paid for, brought him home, fed the dogs, changed, went for a walk and then grocery shopping for groceries(at 10 pm) since my son claims there is nothing to eat if he doesn;t have skim milk (can’t be 2%), low sugar bread, cold cuts, shredded wheat, honey, soups, snacks etc… I will also mention he does not have a drivers liscence yet as he has not shown the level of maturity necessary for me to trust he will make safe decisions behind the wheel. His room is a PIG STY, and he thinks I am just being a ***** if I comment on any of these things. Frankly, it is getting old….I feel like I have a really good “12″ year old. I also feel like a failure because I feel resposnible for his being so ill prepared for the real world and lastly I am completely PISSED OFF that I have a husband who hasn’t stepped up to plate to help parent in 14 years and a deadbeat for an ex husband too. So maybe I am an angry bitter woman? Will someone give me a reality check? I don;t want to be mean to my son and husbnad but I feel like I am going crazy some days and it is not my hormones. It is my REAL feelings!! please give me feedback….
Thoughts from SON: Ok basically like she said my mom is the only real authority in life. As of right now I have C’s B’s and A’s last year I did fail chem and math so I know where she is coming from. Often Times I do talk back but often times my mom freaks out Curses at me which I never do to her and becomes so unresonible I cant even talk to her. Sometimes I think she gets mad at my step dad and takes it out on me or vice versa. I know she is stressed but I honestly think she has a problem. And maybe I do 2. I would go for support and would like outside views. Yes I didnt do my math homework. That just started it. She takes things and blows them to an extreme. Sometimes she is awesome, lovely and encouraging but when she snaps which is daily as do I 1. She will say make her angry everyday and stand the way. Which admit I do talk back alot but I instantly apoligize and am ALWAYS the first one 2 admit im wrong and try to make things better. But really how bad am i. I have a dirty room and get average grades. That isnt horrible. I dont do drugs and I am an eagle scout (with my moms support). Arent I just the average kid? Also she makes me clean my room every 2 days and it only takes about 10-20 mins so how bad can it be. The things she yells at me for are things like are things i do over and over like YOU DIDNT GET A TOWEL FOR YOUR SHOWER? THERES C
the sons got cut off. But we both love eachother just cant stand being with eachother because we always fight. But when we dont fight its really nice.
My son is 17, 10 days ago we found out he has some bad things going on…We still can figure out if it is Alcohol alone or also weed smoking. He gets in and out of house w/o telling us, he comes some days at 2-3 am or some days 10-11 pm. Has very changing moods. We took him to a drug place for a meeting & the “no so smart woman” there said we needed to listen to him, in front of his face, and they said they didnt need to run a drug test on him…so in other words, they made the parents look like jerks in front of the teenager.
I just came bk f/buss. trip & found out he has a ticket for consumpt. by a minor not driving though-he already went to judge to handle it, but he was hiding it f/us. I called court to find out details and they advised me he has handled it & has some condit’s to meet and $ to pay.
A/o last year has GPA 4.0 & 0 absent days. Anyone pls. can give serious advise as to what to do next, actions to take to get him out of this problem and bk on trk.
Dad & Mom lv w/him
i need help getting a car so i can get a job, my fiance and my self are practically alone in the world,our families have all passed on and the rest couldnt give a damn,we are not dopers or alcoholics,were just honest ppl trying to make it in this world.we want better for our son and us i have a very good job prospect in the coal mines if i can get a car.i no its dangerous but its good money.the welfare wont help us and we have a limited time of staying where we are now so we cant wait until income tax ive tried every resource i can think of and no dice so if ne one can help us, or no what we can turn to besides killing someone or robbing some thing plz let me know. thank you
I’m trying to stay positive but…
please bear with me
I’ve gotten where I am today because of the decisions I’ve made as a person. I’m 21 years old and I falling behind in the race of life. I’m not the son of parents of responsible natures and any noticeable work ethic. No, I’m the bastard son of an alcoholic woman who brought another five children into the welfare life. Ask statisticians and those with common sense where I’m most likely to end up. Of course I’m not without blame. I hashed out against the circumstances for most of my life only to worsen my own. I’ve been through a lot of stuff because of it.
I called the authorities on my abusive lifestyle in the 6th grade, my family was dispersed into foster care. I excelled in foster care. But then I was given the opportunity to go back to my own family and I did. Eventually I was placed on probation in jr. high and violated the rules. I went to a juvenile facility a city. I excelled there as well. A year or so later I was released to my mother who managed to get all of her children back. Then as she started slipping into her old ways so did I and I ended up in jail. I was there four months keeping completely to myself. Then I got out and had no place to go so I moved in with a childhood friend I disowned for street rat associates.
I lived with him and his mom until I graduated high school two years behind my original class. By then things were going sour at the house between the three of us, partially because of the tension between the mom and I. We did some things we weren’t supposed to together. I graduated with flying colors if i may say so myself. I actually received a scholarship, lead a musical, and ended up in a great relationship with a teacher no less! But my life….what, who, why, how was I even here?! I hadn’t even thought of college, I didn’t know the way of the world, I had no idea how to be an adult.
My relationship with the girlfriend was adulterous and caused problems, I had no clear direction when I got to college and ended up flunking out. Spent that summer homeless most of the time and got back into the school only to get booted this time because I still had no idea what I was doing and got back into smoking and drinking! Now I have a little over 100$ in the bank and my rent is going to be due in a couple weeks along with utility bills and I have no job! On top of that 14k in debt for nothing! The relationship is rocky and she has two daughters, I always said to myself I’d become more than this for my own family and life and I intend to.
I am seriously F’d up right now!!! Someone please help me out?
My son is 19, will be 20 in July. He attends community college full time he is in the USAF national gaurd and has a 8-10 hr week par time job. Sounds like the perfect kid huh? Well he has found alcohol like most 19 yr olds, put on 40 pounds in the last 4 months, stays out until 2-3 ever morning, he goes to class I think but not sure I am not home when he goes to school. There have been times I didn’t work and he was still at home instead of at school. He has attended a yr at community college 2 A’s in art classes a lot of C’s 3 D’s and 2 F’s, he says he wants to tranfer to 4 yr school, but the D’s and F’s wont transfer. The USAF is paying for tuition and gving him 250 a week to go to school. He agreed with us to save 300 a month towards tranfering (apartment, and utilities) and we said we would pay the rest for him to get him set up when he left. Up to today he has saved 0.00 he plays in a “band” he is quiting his job this summer to go on “tour” which he will have to pay to go,
He will not get money from USAF during summer. He doesn’t help at home the only rules we did give him were to be home by 1am and take out trash, doesn’t do either one. We have 2 younger children 15 and 11 and he treats them like crap. He doesn’t talk to them, but when the few times he is at home he kicks them off of family computer and tells them to get out. He doesn’t attend family functions Easter b-days, and on last xmas trip he stayed in hotel room for 2 days. We don’t know what to do with him. He seems to be pissing away his USAF money and the opportunity at an education to hang with his “band”. He has 5 tattoos and the word RAGE on his calf and he wears shorts all the time. I don’t want to kick him out of the house he needs our medical coverage becasue he has a heart issue that he wont be able to pay for by himself. But he doesn’t take his meds or eat right and rufuses to stop drinking. Is there anything we can do?
I’m trying to stay positive but…
please bear with me
I’ve gotten where I am today because of the decisions I’ve made as a person. I’m 21 years old and I falling behind in the race of life. I’m not the son of parents of responsible natures and any noticeable work ethic. No, I’m the bastard son of an alcoholic woman who brought another five children into the welfare life. Ask statisticians and those with common sense where I’m most likely to end up. Of course I’m not without blame. I hashed out against the circumstances for most of my life only to worsen my own. I’ve been through a lot of stuff because of it.
I called the authorities on my abusive lifestyle in the 6th grade, my family was dispersed into foster care. I excelled in foster care. But then I was given the opportunity to go back to my own family and I did. Eventually I was placed on probation in jr. high and violated the rules. I went to a juvenile facility a city. I excelled there as well. A year or so later I was released to my mother who managed to get all of her children back. Then as she started slipping into her old ways so did I and I ended up in jail. I was there four months keeping completely to myself. Then I got out and had no place to go so I moved in with a childhood friend I disowned for street rat associates.
I lived with him and his mom until I graduated high school two years behind my original class. By then things were going sour at the house between the three of us, partially because of the tension between the mom and I. We did some things we weren’t supposed to together. I graduated with flying colors if i may say so myself. I actually received a scholarship, lead a musical, and ended up in a great relationship with a teacher no less! But my life….what, who, why, how was I even here?! I hadn’t even thought of college, I didn’t know the way of the world, I had no idea how to be an adult.
My relationship with the girlfriend was adulterous and caused problems, I had no clear direction when I got to college and ended up flunking out. Spent that summer homeless most of the time and got back into the school only to get booted this time because I still had no idea what I was doing and got back into smoking and drinking! Now I have a little over 100$ in the bank and my rent is going to be due in a couple weeks along with utility bills and I have no job! On top of that 14k in debt for nothing! The relationship is rocky and she has two daughters, I always said to myself I’d become more than this for my own family and life and I intend to.
I am seriously F’d up right now!!! Someone please help me out?
I am a stay at home mom of 4 kids. I don’t work and haven’t worked (except here and there for a couple months at a time) for 8 years. My husband is an alcoholic. He does go to work but other than that he thinks when his 40 hours at work is in he is done and doesn’t need to do anything else. I don’t expect him to clean the house or do the things that are my “job” but I do expect him to be a father to our children and play with them, take out the trash if he is here and it is full, mow the lawn, etc. He does mow the lawn but other than that everything is MY job. When he is home he drinks and plays on the computer. That is all. He knows this is a problem (I have voiced my opinion NUMEROUS times in a non-confrontational way) and he says he wants to stop but does nothing. How do I tell him he needs to get help and stop or I can’t keep raising children to see this? My son (4) already says he is going to drink lots of beer when he grows up like his dad. What do I say? Thanks
Both sets of parents know about the problem. His dad just says he needs to stop. My parents say I need to tell him to choose between 2 and 3 letters… AA or OUT. I don’t want a divorce and I wont do that… but seperating for the good of our children is better than them seeing him drunk everyday. Thanks again.
I have gone to AA meetings with him before and sat in couseling sessions with him. He just doesn’t seem to want to change for good. Does this mean it isnt worth saving??
We have an 8 year old daughter, 4 year old son, 2 year old daughter and 2 month old daughter (not all were planned…some even concieved while on birth control.) I do want help… I just don’t want to divorce. There are other options right?
We went to AA meetings.. He even earned his 30 day pin once. So he knows where to go for help… he just doesn’t think he has a big enough problem.
My son is an alcoholic and his liver function is abnormal.He continues to drink and i’m watching him slowly kill himself.I was told that i can’t do anything about it because he is a functional alcoholic.He goes to work every day and he is’nt doing any harm to anyone but himeself. Is this true that i have no control?I can’t keep sitting back and watching him do this to himself.Can i help save his life?God please help me.
My son and his girlfriend are not able to care for their three children in a proper manner. The mother is an alcoholic and my son has just gotten laid off from his job. He tries to find a job and he goes and gets the kids and stays from house to house with the kids. The baby is a two year old down syndrome child and needs special attention. My husband works 12 hour days and I work with special needs kids at the high school level. We have just signed up to start taking Foster Care classes next month to get a certificate to be Foster Parents. When we do get the certification will we still get paid benefits to help with our grandchildren if we are given temporary custody of them? My husband and I are already living from paycheck to paycheck. We want to be able to adequately care for our grandchildren. We have gone to pick the kids up and they are always hungry and dirty. We have to do something but we need the financial help desperately.
My son and his girlfriend are not able to care for their three children in a proper manner. The mother is an alcoholic and my son has just gotten laid off from his job. He tries to find a job and he goes and gets the kids and stays from house to house with the kids. The baby is a two year old down syndrome child and needs special attention. My husband works 12 hour days and I work with special needs kids at the high school level. We have just signed up to start taking Foster Care classes next month to get a certificate to be Foster Parents. When we do get the certification will we still get paid benefits to help with our grandchildren if we are given temporary custody of them? My husband and I are already living from paycheck to paycheck. We want to be able to adequately care for our grandchildren. We have gone to pick the kids up and they are always hungry and dirty. We have to do something but we need the financial help desperately.
My cousin and I used to be extremely close, best friends since pretty much since we were born…but things have changed since he started high school. He’s become increasingly rebellious and dark, sort of a loner holing himself up in his room to play (Insert random violent video game name here) and we never seem to talk anymore, he never seems to want to hang out and the way he acts, I don’t exactly want his company either…
Some of his recent choices have been, I’ll be blunt, pretty stupid…he used to be a total clown and fun to hang with, and now he’s incredibly irritable and has emotionally flat-lined. He’s also in a position of being the son of an alcoholic parent whose behavior has only gotten worse as time has passed on, and the two have frequently butted heads as of late. I just don’t know how to interact with him anymore, and I’ve only been honest with him about how he’s changed like two times… we used to talk and share everything with each other and now it’s like he won’t have anything to do with me…I’m a little hurt and very worried about what goes on behind closed doors, and truly want to be there for him, but how can you help someone who won’t acknowledge you?
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I am having a lot of problems with my daughter in law who my son married 5 years ago. I am convinced she is the reason my son is now not so quick as he used to be (before he met her and when they were married the first year) in helping out his family when there are moments of financial crisis.
My brother (my son’s Uncle) has been drinking a lot of alcohol for quite some time (he is in his mid 50′s). He’s been in jail for drugs and no longer uses, but his drinking is so severe that he cannot work. He is currently on unemployment. When he got out of jail I gave him a place to live and have required that he pays rent which he does. He drinks excessively but I cannot make him stop – he has to want to stop. There is nothing we can do as a family to get him to stop. I am not enabling him because I make him pay rent and he is the only one who will stop drinking- I can’t make him.
He has two children- one is in her 30′s and married with kids and his son is in his mid 20′s. Their Mom is no good. Their Dad (my brother) hasn’t been able to help pay for things for them because of his drinking and he is unemployed because of drinking, so I have helped them out financially. I cosigned on the daughter’s house. I have helped pay for his son’s college.
My son makes more than both of my brother’s kids. I don’t tell him straight out that he needs to contribute to his cousin’s college, but I let him know the situation so that he gets the hint. His cousin almost missed a semester of school because his dad didn’t have enough money to pay for it. I gave him money but I expect my son to help out too- just a couple hundred dollars or more.
Now my brother is very sick from liver failure. His son is almost finished with college and wants to go to law school. Because my brother’s health conditions he has massive medical bills. I am helping out with those. I expect my son to help financially with his cousin’s college and continue to give just a couple hundred dollars a year when he begins law school.
the problem is my daughter in law who is married to my son. She is upset that I am hinting to my son that he should help his cousin out with school expenses. She says that my husband now earns at his new job 20% less than he did at his other job from which he was laid off and that they have two small children who do not have a college savings account at all and that they come first.
I told my husband that I already have a college savings account for them. My daughter in law says that they should not be depending on me to finance their kids college and that because me and my husband have health problems that we might have to dip into the account I set up.
It is not my brother’s kids’ fault that their dad is not able to pay for things for them. I feel my husband has a duty to help out his cousins and that his wife is making excuses and just wants their money for them. My son’s cousins are family and my son has an obligation to them since he earns more money than they do- it is not their fault that the have financial problems.
So I think my son should help them out and when my brother dies I think he is obligated to help out with the funeral expenses too (just a few hundred dollars- why is his wife so upset over this?) because my brother is destitute. This is my son’s family.
How can I convince my daughter in law that she is out of line to object to my son’s helping out his family financially? It’s just a few hundred dollars once a year and always has been.
My son has been a poop head for about a year. Never really listens and has not been real productive when it comes to working to earn his own money ect.. Although he never asks us for money. He is in his second semester in college. The first semester he barely made it through. He has to repeat one of the classes he took. We have told him not to get caught drinking repeatedly before he left for college. In fact a week before he left for college he almost got busted by the cops in his home state. We are a Christian Home and have no alcohol, and really don’t approve of it, but are not preachy about it. Now he just informed us that he has been charged in by the police for the second time with Alcohol Possession. He has 13 days to pay the 500 dollar fine or he will be arrested. He has no money because he has not worked since July! Do I front him the money to pay the fine? I love him but really need him to learn. I don’t want to enable his stupid behavior either! Thanks!
My 22 year old son refuses to work,he lies to me and says he is and when I find out the truth then he asks me for food and money, he messes with drugs and alcohol, he lies constantly. We have had him in several rehabs and counseling,it only lasts so long and he is right back where he started I dont know what to do anymore, this is breaking my heart,HELP
We found our 21 year old son in his room wasted in alcohol and possibly drug. I have no knowledge in substance abuse. Is there anyone there that can give me an advice. Please help, I dont know what to do.
my son is 17 year’s old, he’s been drinking alcohol,smoking cigarettes,an i think he’s took drugs before
but that’s not the worst thing i also believe the devil is trying to make him a homosexual’
i don’t know what to do im to embarrassed to ask for my friends or anyone at the local church for advice, should i Disown him or kick him out? advice please?
