How Do I Get My Son Off Drugs?

My friend has an alcoholic mother who has had three D.U.I’s in the past 4 years. Not only is she an alcoholic but she treats my best friend, her 17 year old son, absolutely horribly. Today she was screaming at him, got in his face, tried to hit him and he held her back. She slammed her self on the wall to make bruises and say that HE was the one who hit her. My friend took his cell phone and hit record as she was screaming at him and while it was recording she said “I’m going to kill you, hide your body in the woods, and turn you in as a missing person.” Later tonight my friend went to church and let his youth pastor listen to this and he called the cops on her. She got arrested. Considering this situation, how long should she be in jail?

My son is 13 and his dad has never had an interest in him until here recently. The only reason he is showing interest now is because my son is old enough to sit down and play video games with him. That is exactly what his dad said to me when I asked. His dad is a total loser. He is an alcoholic. He is 30 and lives at home with his parents. His parents are pill heads and neither work. They sit at home on disability and pop pills all day and night and eat. They baby my son’s dad like he’s 2 again. I also have a child who is mixed (black and white) and when my son goes to his dad’s house, his dad teaches him racial slurs to use against my other son without saying the “n” word. I have tried explaining to my son what these words mean and he refuses to understand that and thinks it’s funny. His dad doesn’t work and sits and drinks beer and pops pills that his parents give him when they have extra ones. I am so fed up and don’t know what to do. There is no divorce (we were never married) decree saying that he has visitation rights. He has no rights. He pays child support when he gets his unemployment or when he actually works. He never does anything for my son. No Xmas, no birthday presents..nothing. My son only wants to go over there to play games on his dad’s computer. He throws it in my face when I tell him no he can’t go over there that he wants to see his daddy. His dad also has been trying to talk him into coming to live with him once he’s 14 so that he can claim him on taxes. His dad is a selfish convicted felon who only wants to stir up trouble for me. He should be ashamed b/c he’s never been there and I’ve raised our son all by myself and he only wants money. He complains about having to pay child support and has been to jail several times for not paying. He says I ruined his life by having our son and I am the root of all his problems. He bad mouths me to our son when he’s there. I don’t know what to do. His family is very vindictive and when I don’t let him come over they try and cause trouble for me. His dad’s mom has even went as far to call Family Children Services on me and lie. The case was dismissed b/c it wasn’t validated and was proven to be false. I don’t know what to do. It’s always a big fight with my son and I. I have tried talking to his dad about all this, but he just laughs and doesn’t see that it matters. What should I do???
I wish I could move. I am a single mother. My close family lives here too. My work is here. I am just about in tears over this and I’m so damn sick of all this. I wish I could go back in time and pick someone else to have had my child with, but I was young and so was his dad. I am the one who grew up and provided a good life for my kids and take care of them. If I don’t let him go, they will make crap up and cause me trouble. They have done it before and try to make me look bad. I don’t know what to do. I don’t have money for a lawyer.
Well, of course my child’s safety is my 1st priority. His father is an active alcoholic and drug addict. His father is an open racist(my son has a half black brother living in our home with us). His grandparents who live in the same home as his dad are also drug addicts. So you think I should just let my 13 year old son go there just b/c he wants to? No. My child does not need to be around that, even if it is at his dad’s house. Hell no.

My friend has an alcoholic mother who has had three D.U.I’s in the past 4 years. Not only is she an alcoholic but she treats my best friend, her 17 year old son, absolutely horribly. Today she was screaming at him, got in his face, tried to hit him and he held her back. She slammed her self on the wall to make bruises and say that HE was the one who hit her. My friend took his cell phone and hit record as she was screaming at him and while it was recording she said “I’m going to kill you, hide your body in the woods, and turn you in as a missing person.” Later tonight my friend went to church and let his youth pastor listen to this and he called the cops on her. She got arrested. Considering this situation, how long should she be in jail?

My friend has an alcoholic mother who has had three D.U.I’s in the past 4 years. Not only is she an alcoholic but she treats my best friend, her 17 year old son, absolutely horribly. Today she was screaming at him, got in his face, tried to hit him and he held her back. She slammed her self on the wall to make bruises and say that HE was the one who hit her. My friend took his cell phone and hit record as she was screaming at him and while it was recording she said “I’m going to kill you, hide your body in the woods, and turn you in as a missing person.” Later tonight my friend went to church and let his youth pastor listen to this and he called the cops on her. She got arrested. Considering this situation, how long should she be in jail?

I’m deeply worried about my son.
I had no idea he had a warrant for his arrest and today police officers showed up and arrested him. according to the police the warrant was issued in 2009 in North Carolina (we live in Virginia) and is for “assault with a deadly weapon/fleeing the scene of the crime” apparently MY son stabbed a poor middle aged man and left him for dead in a parking lot. I just can’t believe this happened and i don’t know what will become of my son. I don’t know much about the laws. He is also being charged with a felony distribution charge (for meth).
We have him a good lawyer.
Is he going to prison?
Please tell me so i can be prepared.
and also, will the continue his Rehabilitation in prison? We’ve had him admitted to a center for about a week.

My son was taken by child protective services last month when my wife attempted suicide. The child was placed in the care of my wifes mother, and I was not permitted to see him. Since, my wife has been released and was arrested on marijauna and cocaine charges. She is out on bail and living with her parents. The judge issued a no contact order against her, so she is not allowed to have contact with me. Because she is living in the same home as my son, I have not been able to have contact with him. I would like to file for divorce and get a custody order giving me visitation… or at least get temporary visitation through the court or child protective services. I am disabled and do not have the financial means to hire an attorney or even pay the court costs. My family has offered to help me, but I would have to move to Washington, yet I fear if I do so, I may never see my son again. I live in fulton county, OH.. is there any help out there?
Let me clear some things up… I was not around when they took my son, because I left him with my wifes mother to take my wife to the hospital for the suicide attempt. Child services gave my wifes mother temporary guardianship while I was at the hospital. Also, my wife does not have a protective order against me… the judge issued a no contact order on her. She can not contact me until her trial is over…. Im not sure why this was done. I could see my son until my wife went to live with her parents, now because of the no contact order, I cant go over there to see him. Also, I have to move because my wifes father is evicting my from the house… he owns the house my wife and I rented together.

A friend emailed me this today and I just wanted to pass it along.
There is a very scary thing going on in the schools right now that all need to be aware of. There is a type of crystal meth going around that looks like strawberry pop rocks.
There was a link in my email so I checked it out myself and I was shocked. There is also a picture on their site, but I’m sure it comes packaged in many different ways. You can see what it looks like though.
My son is starting 4th grade next year and it’s so scary to think that they aren’t even safe at school.
I simply can’t believe how low people would go to sell drugs.

http://www.snopes.com/horrors/drugs/candymeth.asp

When me and my baby’s father broke up a month ago, he told me to go after child support, so i did. plus, if i didn’t medicare told me that if i didn’t go after child support they would take away my son’s insurance. so i had no choice in the matter anyways.

well, i guess someone from child support showed up at his house looking for him and now hes so mad he is telling me that is going to go for full custody.

i don’t think he has a chance to get my son but i still cant help but worry. i am diagnosed bipolar and i am unemployed right now but i am in a government program that helps young mothers find employment. i have been there everyday just like it would be a job. so those are the only two negative things i would have against me.

he has custody of his daughter from another woman and the only reason he has custody of her is because the mother smokes crack. he barely pays any attention to his poor daughter and he smokes weed around her and hes an alcoholic. i want to call CPS on him but if i did, he would know it was me. and he said if i did he would kill me.

what happens when someone goes for custody? do i really have anything to worry about?
i have lots of family and friends around. i have very little money but i have always came up with a way to give my baby everything he needs.

My brain/mind races at lightning speed constantly. For example: I could be driving down the road and I’ll be thinking about my son’s blood test result. Then my mind jumps to new ideas that I should research as to what his problems might be. Then that gets me to thinking about a kid I went to school with 17 years ago who was thinking about going to MIT. Then I start thinking about why I chose the college I did. Then I jump to the professor I couldn’t stand. Then I jump to the afternoons I went to the water park . . . .

It drives me nuts. I’m like a walking Bing commercial (I hate Bing). My mind races. If I am focused on a good book, I sometimes find my mind wanders off, but I refocus my attention back on the book. It drives me nuts at night. I can fall asleep only from exhaustion, but normally I have to have a TV on, or my mind starts racing again. If I don’t have one on, I’ll wake up numerous times at night and end up awake. The TV helps me zone out. Kinda like reading a horrible book to put you to sleep. Yes we have problems in the house, but my mind doesn’t revolve around that. I could spend the whole night going over my history of bad dates I went on 15 years before. There is no rhyme or reason. AS an example, as I type this, I’m thinking about how my husbands childhood differed so greatly from mine. Now my head just jumped to how I liked to mow the lawn as a kid, and then the time my leg got in the weed trimmer’s way. . . . .

It really bugs me because I can’t just lay down and take a nap, or just lay out in the sun and find peace. My mind never stops.

Is this normal? I’m inclined to say no. My head feels like it’s in overdrive. My husband looks at me like I’m nuts when he asks me to tell him what I’m thinking about. He asked. This has been going on for years. If I recall correctly, the sleeping issue started about 4 years ago, after I was in a high-speed t-bone crash that an idiot driver caused (old fossil who shouldn’t be driving . . . . now my mind is off on how old people hide poor driving behind the guise of age discrimination). The chronic pain makes it difficult to sleep. I don’t want to get hooked on pain meds and muscle relaxers. The racing mind during the day started in my early-mid teens. It has really been bothering me for the past 10 years.

I do not take any drugs. I’ve never even tried pot before. So no I’m not “tripping”. I have a high IQ (130′s) if that makes any difference. I don’t think it would, but you never know.

Personality traits of mine: perfectionist, easily irritated by idiots, prefer physical labor over mental tasks (stops the mind), love children, good at researching, always notice the small details, good work ethic. I’ve had problems with OCD before (checking locks, etc.)

Any ideas are welcomed and appreciated. Even if you confirm that I’m losing my mind:) If I can identify the problem, then I can attack it.

Thank you for taking the time to read this. Hopefully I didn’t give you a headache:)

How many of you allow your children to go to parties were alcohol is present? How many have a “Don’t Ask Don’t Tell Policy”? How many of you would not allow your son or daughter to attend a party with alcohol? I am very interested to hear your views on this subject no matter what they are.

stoned, per what my kid tells me. I know his mom, and supposedly she’ll be really angry with him if she finds out, but, she needs to intervene instead of being so concerned about her boyfriend and her. He’s 15, her son. My kid doesn’t want me to tell on his friend or to speak to his mom because then he’ll be angry with him and the boy in question is losing his close friends. But, he needs help and I don’t want him getting other fellow teens hooked on the stuff. What are my options? Are there anonymous teen drug intervention services that I can call to get him help since his mother is oblivious to the situation? He’s getting the drugs from a fellow kid at school that is known as a ‘pot head’ that he’s recently been hanging out with and also from an older person at his mom’s boyfriend’s house. We’re in Santa Clara County, Calif.

stoned, per what my kid tells me. I know his mom, and supposedly she’ll be really angry with him if she finds out, but, she needs to intervene instead of being so concerned about her boyfriend and her. He’s 15, her son. My kid doesn’t want me to tell on his friend or to speak to his mom because then he’ll be angry with him and the boy in question is losing his close friends. But, he needs help and I don’t want him getting other fellow teens hooked on the stuff. What are my options? Are there anonymous teen drug intervention services that I can call to get him help since his mother is oblivious to the situation? He’s getting the drugs from a fellow kid at school that is known as a ‘pot head’ that he’s recently been hanging out with and also from an older person at his mom’s boyfriend’s house. We’re in Santa Clara County, Calif.

and I am sure that his father may argue this. I don’t want to keep my son from his father at all, but I am wanting to accept a job offer out of state, and if I stay in California, I don’t think it will be healthy for my son. His father is an alcoholic, and just got his 3rd DUI. He still continues to drink, and refuses to get help. He says he’s getting help, but he’s referring to his court ordered classes that he takes with the DUI school! He is still drunk some nights when I call him.

How will the court approach the alcoholism, and can I use that as a reason that I don’t want him to have full custody? I’m totally all for visitation, and have done all I can to ensure and support their relationship, but I have seriously had it with the drinking and don’t want my son around it! What can I do to ensure that he isn’t exposed to it?

My sons have to go stay with their dad for a month during the summer and while he was there in July my son said his dad went and bought a lot of beer and they sat and drank it one night….my x is not being a parent and i think this is some kind of abuse…my x even knew about my son drinking at a friends this weekend and didn’t even call and tell me about it. My son said he told his dad and his dad said “just don’t do anything crazy”…i had a police officer come and talk with my son and explain the consequences and i hope it helps…but i don’t know what to do about this x…my son hates me because i have rules…i don’t want my son to grow up being a alcoholic like his father. And my son is very hateful toward me, because he says all i do is harp. And he gets mad and very physical..i told him i would take him to therapy but he said if i tried it he would just run away.

My son just completed drug rehab and I’m wondering if any company will give him health insurance now.

My son went through drug rehab one year ago and is doing great. He has not relapsed at all and has set some quality goals for his life and is pursuing them. He is only 21 years old and is currently in vocational training and cannot afford his own medical insurance at this point in time, but I would like to provide that for him. Does anyone know if he’s eligible since he has a history of drug abuse?