How Do I Get My Son Off Drugs?

My son’s father did a DNA and it come up that he was not the father, but he was the ONLY one that I was with for almost 2 months. He is an alcoholic and a chain smoker. I want wondering if he found a way to make the results come back as he was NOT the father?

My boyfriend and I have been on and off since last november. He is he father of my 17month old son. We have had alot of problems in our relationship. I neither of us has treated the other very well on a regular basis.

My sons father has a drug problem. Throughout our entire relationship he has randomly left me at home for days. He does it about once a month and usually after we have a stupid fight. He uses our fights as an excuse to go ou and binge on drugs.

When we broke up in November, I kicked him out of our appartment. So since then he is not phisicaly leaving, just ignoring my phone calls for days.

He keeps telling me that he wants to change and this is never going to happen again. He will say how sorry he is and he is done with drugs. I just don’t belied him anymore. It actually seems to be getting worse not bettter. This last time he did this to me, we did not even have a fight. He just quit answering my phone calls. After I called
him like 30 times he answered. He did no say anything though, just let me hear him and his friends joke and talk about the pills they took. he has done stuff like that before just to hurt me, like he will have his girlfriends answer his phone and tell me he is not there or I have the wrong number.

He has also only given me 100$ for my son this entire time. And does not seem to care very much if he sees him or not. He is great with him when he does see him though.

He went out on Friday night and will not talk to me while he is out partying. I expect he will be calling me on wensday at the lattest tying to appoligize. I have allready sent him txts telling him I think we should have an open relationship from now on. I want to see other people and he wants to do drugs seems fair to me hat we are not in a commited relationship. he can’t stay clean and I don’t want to commit to him the way he is.

I feel bad because iwas doing the same things he is now before I got pregnant. I quit everything I was doing though when I found out I was and never looked back. I am hoping he will have some epifiany and realize he needs to be a father now and it is not a job you can just show up for when you feel like it. My question is do you think I am wrong for wanting to leave him when he is down and out like this? I have been bad to him in the past but not lately, yet he is still doing this same stuff. Is there anything I could have don’t to deserve him continuing to act his way? All he tells he when we talk is how much he wants to be a family and work things out, then he just disapears for days! I am at my whits end! Any Ideas of what I can say to him to end things peacefully and be strong in my convictions? I know he will try and talk me out of leaving him and I have been so weak in the past. It is just so hard to believe that your sons father is really such a bad person. Any advice, opponions anything anyone has to say about this would be greatly appreciated. I appoligize for my question being all over the place, I’m really upset right now.
I keep giving him chances for my son and he keeps fing hem up. It won’t be to much longer before my son starts to realize what is going on.

He’s 5 months old. So five shots t-liscious? Is he being serious?
I’ve only given him one so far and I’m going to see how that works out

My sister has been hooked on crack for 10 years. I am raising her son. She is 30 and has never had a job or been responsible for anything in her life. When my mom died a few years ago, her will said that whatever money my sister received from her life insurance should be held in my trust. That money has run out and now my sister is receiving settlement money from the lawsuit over my mom’s death. (mesothelioma) This money legally doesn’t have to be held in my trust. It could go straight to my sister but she agreed that because of her drug issue, my brother and I could hold on to it for her so she doesn’t go blow it. There is about 75 thousand dollars total. Well, a year has passed and my brother and I are fed up being responsible for this money. She is constantly calling asking for more money, even though we agreed on a set budget. Obviously she is going and blowing this money on crack. We don’t usually tell her no because legally, it is her money to do with what she wants. But we are so sick of the lies and deceit and the constant calls. And we are scared that drug dealers will show up at our house because she has told them we have all this money for her but won’t give it to her.
If this were your sibling, or your adult child, would you just give them the whole 75 thousand and let them go blow it on crack?. Even though you know there is a good likelihood it would cause her to overdose and die? Or would you just keep answering the phone calls and give it to her a little bit at a time so she will be less likely to be able to go on a massive binge that will kill her?
My brother and I are so sick of all of this but at the same time, we don’t want to live with the guilt of knowing that she died because we gave her all that money at once.
And she absolutely refuses long term rehab. She went a couple of times to 30 day programs, but she left to smoke crack within a week of getting out.
Is there anyway to get legal control of her money because of her addiction?
Thanks for your help.

I am in the worse of situations. I am from Europe and came here to achieve the American dream. Now, I am married to a man with mental issues and to top it off nine months pregnant. My family in Europe is poor and cannot help me. My life was so promising. I started out as a successful fashion model and traveled all over the world making a lot of money. Then I went back to school and was doing really good attending college full time and working. Then I met my husband and all my problems started. I admit I married him way to quick and his extreme neediness sucked me into a spiral I couldn’t get out of. He lied to me from the get go, and when I tried to leave him, he completely lost it and threatened to kill himself. I obviously was worried that he really might hurt himself and stayed. I stayed through all his weekly intoxicated ventures and irresponsible behaviors, I stayed through all his insane shopping sprees I even stayed when I found out that he had much less money than he really had. I stayed and stayed and always tried to see the best in him and hope that perhaps one day a miracle might bring some stability in this insanity. My savings soon dwindled and so did my sense of control. Three years after meeting him, I quit college in my third year, my money was gone and I discovered I was pregnant. During this whole pregnancy his mental health has gotten even worse. He started abusing everything that came in his hands, from taking Ambien and driving to excessive dosages of Lorazepam and alcohol. During my pregnancy he started yelling at me in public, tried to jump out a window and I had to hold him back smashed his head through a car’s windshield and was put into a mental institution after driving erratically in March 2009 and causing two car accidents in one day. I had hope that he could get the help he needed, but couple of months later, he stopped going to his AA meetings, I caught him with Ambien, never once was there for me or attempted to be of any support. He couldn’t even clean the littler box during my pregnancy. It is always about him and nobody else. He was on bipolar medication for the past months and nothing seemed to help. Then, three days ago, he mixed his bipolar medication with alcohol again and completely went off the deep end again. He is now in a mental institution again. He comes from a rich family (his father is a doctor), but himself has no money, just debt. He was a medical resident and got kicked off his first year due to who knows what. He now most likely will lose his new position as well. I am going to have the baby exactly one month from now and I am at the end of my robe. I have no money, I am two semesters short of having finished my education, I am thousands of miles away from my home country and I have a complete psycho husband. I am still in love with him and when I married him, I promised to stick with him through good and bad, but when does the bad become inexcusable? Hi parents are about as unsupportive as it gets. They haven’t even called me for two days to ask how their son or I am doing. A part of me feels really bad for my husband and I do want to help him, but another part just about had it.

I am in the worse of situations. I am from Europe and came here to achieve the American dream. Now, I am married to a man with mental issues and to top it off nine months pregnant. My family in Europe is poor and cannot help me. My life was so promising. I started out as a successful fashion model and traveled all over the world making a lot of money. Then I went back to school and was doing really good attending college full time and working. Then I met my husband and all my problems started. I admit I married him way to quick and his extreme neediness sucked me into a spiral I couldn’t get out of. He lied to me from the get go, and when I tried to leave him, he completely lost it and threatened to kill himself. I obviously was worried that he really might hurt himself and stayed. I stayed through all his weekly intoxicated ventures and irresponsible behaviors, I stayed through all his insane shopping sprees I even stayed when I found out that he had much less money than he really had. I stayed and stayed and always tried to see the best in him and hope that perhaps one day a miracle might bring some stability in this insanity. My savings soon dwindled and so did my sense of control. Three years after meeting him, I quit college in my third year, my money was gone and I discovered I was pregnant. During this whole pregnancy his mental health has gotten even worse. He started abusing everything that came in his hands, from taking Ambien and driving to excessive dosages of Lorazepam and alcohol. During my pregnancy he started yelling at me in public, tried to jump out a window and I had to hold him back smashed his head through a car’s windshield and was put into a mental institution after driving erratically in March 2009 and causing two car accidents in one day. I had hope that he could get the help he needed, but couple of months later, he stopped going to his AA meetings, I caught him with Ambien, never once was there for me or attempted to be of any support. He couldn’t even clean the littler box during my pregnancy. It is always about him and nobody else. He was on bipolar medication for the past months and nothing seemed to help. Then, three days ago, he mixed his bipolar medication with alcohol again and completely went off the deep end again. He is now in a mental institution again. He comes from a rich family (his father is a doctor), but himself has no money, just debt. He was a medical resident and got kicked off his first year due to who knows what. He now most likely will lose his new position as well. I am going to have the baby exactly one month from now and I am at the end of my robe. I have no money, I am two semesters short of having finished my education, I am thousands of miles away from my home country and I have a complete psycho husband. I am still in love with him and when I married him, I promised to stick with him through good and bad, but when does the bad become inexcusable? Hi parents are about as unsupportive as it gets. They haven’t even called me for two days to ask how their son or I am doing. A part of me feels really bad for my husband and I do want to help him, but another part just about had it.

I have two teenagers who I am scared to death of them falling in to the sex, drugs, and alcohol consuming culture. Most of all gangs and the like. I have told the kids about the dangers of all three areas, but am I doing enough? I try to lead by example, but is that still enough? Please advise.

My son is sick. He has a cold and I was wondering if I could give him some Yogi Detox Herbal Tea. It’s caffeine free and the only warning I see on it is that women shouldn’t drink it during pregnancy.

I went to their website and can’t find anything saying otherwise.

Opinions?

Would you allow your son to ‘have a drink’ now and then? I don’t see it as a big deal- considering you have told them the effects and drink responsibly. What do you think?