How Do I Get My Son Off Drugs?

My sons ex-girlfriend, who is 16, and lives down the street from us has a lot of family problems. We have taken her in tons of times, and she dated my 18 year old son for a while and they broke up and i think they’ve been having lots of problems lately. Whatever, that’s their business..

Well last night i guess things were okay with everyone at home…but the dad gave her a glass of coco cola with coconut flavored rum in it and let her drink as much as she wanted and she got really tipsy and freaked out on my son and called him like screaming at him and cussing him out and stuff. I only witnessed this because we were watching a movie together when he answered the phone. He asked her if she was drunk and she said that her dad gave her some stuff and that she felt really weird. I think in the least to say, he told her to stop talking to him because she was saying very hateful things and deleted her off facebook. Well she just wrote on my facebook, “Hey Mrs. Robyn can you have Cole call me when you see this?” So she’s starting drama on my facebook now…

My question is…what parent just gives their kid alcohol and lets them get totally tipsy and out of control and doesn’t at least take their phone away so they don’t make total fools out of themselves? I let my son have a few sips of wine, he’s had a little bit of a wine cooler but no where enough to get him buzzed or tipsy. But i never have just let my son drink however much he wanted and get out of control.

What will be/are your rules on drinking? Will you allow your kids to drink at home?
What would you do if you were in my situation last night?
Note: I even had a glass of wine last night that made me VERY sleepy and batty. My husband was quick to shut down the computer and told me to go to bed. But i am 39 years old and i can control myself better than a 16 year old can. What parent does that…? It’s really just beyond me…

http://www.thosewhohost.org/TexasUnderageDrinkingLaws.htm

Read the drinking laws.
cath- i was too. but apparently it was just a little bit of coke and it was a FULL like beer glass…

My husband and i is going through divorce ….. and we have 4 year old son ….. i dont trust him arround my son …… he is alcoholic and i think he is useing drug as well….. iam so afraid when my son is in the car with him what i he is drunk and driving ……. is there any way that the court gives him to visting time so he doesnt see him at all ? what should i do ….
i dont want him to see my son
help me

iam residence of california

Making things short as possible:

I have had full custody of my son since he was a year old. Father has not wanted much to do, has been abusive and neglectful in the past to both me and our son who is now 6. I had a restraining order against the father and then had him arrested again for violation of that restraining order. This was in the beginning of 2004. Father was then arrested twice in March 2004, once on cocaine charge and another for fleeing and eluding a police officer on a 1 ½ mile chase going 105 mph. He was arrested and charged, but was already on probation. Some how he only received house arrest for these things.

Anyway, even though the grandparents have always enabled their son, my sons father, they have always protected my son and put his best interest at heart. I agreed to let the supervised visitation be within the grandparents house under the supervision of the grandparents. Still his father didn’t want much to do with our son. Well, sometimes he did, sometimes he didn’t. He hasn’t ever gave him a bath, got him ready for bed, put him to bed or any of those things. Eventually, the order was changed allowing the father visitation rights without supervision from time to time as mutually agreed by me. He went on to sometimes spending time with him to all of a sudden spending time, then taking him to his girlfriends house to sleep over with her son behind my back. I didn’t make any issue out of it until my son told me that he wasn’t fed all day, daddy was bye bye and his girlfriend was sleeping. So, my son and this two year old were left unsupervised and unfed. I immediately contacted the grandparents and THEY told the father that my son would have to stay with them.

So, a long time went on now my son is six. Dad has all of a sudden been spending time with our son again. He has a new girlfriend again, so evey time he gets a new one, he tries to act like the all American dad. Anyway, I haven’t said anything to him. I have always encouraged a good healthy relationship. Well, the dad always seems to mess up. The past few times my son spent with his dad the following has happened:

My son has been saying the F word and a couple other swear words. He doesn’t hear it in our house. I think that I have respectfully done my best to raise him right so far and he is a great kid. My son informed me that his dad says those words all of the time and my son actually asked him if he would stop saying those bad words. Fathers response to that was, “I will say whatever the heck I want to” I don’t grill my son when he comes home. He and I have a wonderful relationship. A few other issues I have are: His dad told him that the cops have been following him and around eveywhere and my son has told me that a cop followed them to the store and daddy’s girlfriend yelled at the cop for harrassment. The last time my son was up there, I picked him up and he told me that daddy kicks girls. He said that his daddy and his girlfriend got into a huge fight and his girlfriend was crying and yelling not to kick her. This is not safe and not a happy environment that my son is used to. I hate to be mean, but no wonder my son calls me and says that he is home sick. I have always encouraged him to go up there but from now on I think I will let it up to my son and will tell the grandparents that dad is not to take my son by himself. Any suggestions??
Everything was always fine when the dad was not allowed to take him places, but then he wouldn’t spend time with him which I am starting to believe that is what’s best. I won’t leave it up to my son. I will do whats best. Thanks for the advice except for Spike. Yeah, very uncalled for. So, you blame the good parents instead of the bad parents that choose not to change? Sounds like my sons father. Yep, you are just like him. A LOSER!!!
Everything was always fine when the dad was not allowed to take him places, but then he wouldn’t spend time with him which I am starting to believe that is what’s best. I won’t leave it up to my son. I will do whats best. Thanks for the advice except for Spike. Yeah, very uncalled for. So, you blame the good parents instead of the bad parents that choose not to change? Sounds like my sons father. Yep, you are just like him. A LOSER!!!

Ok, I need to say this beginning. My husband & I divorced a lil over 4 years ago. He has been through so much. He is going to b 9 in September. Here is the problem. My children have seen their father abuse myself, his new wife, and other people. My ex is into drugs, guns, knives, etc. I do the best that I can to keep stuff put up- Knives are on top of the frig, NO GUNS OR DRUGS OR ALCOHOL in my house. My son was suspended last Wednesday for 2 1/2 days because he took a letter opener to school. I have found my kitchen knives in his room, under my couch, tucked into the furniture etc. I dont know what to do. I have tried grounding, spanking, everything. I dont know what to do. I am so scared that he is going to hurt himself or others. He has been seeing a counselor. He has been on medication since he was 5. (ADHD). Does anyone have any advice. He is fixing to spend 6 weeks with his father. I am terrified.

I have a 21 year old Step Daughter who has recently been in and out of jail. She is a meth user. We have gotten her a sponsor to help her, but she has only contacted her once. She is doing nothing to help herself by getting help or a job. She lays around the house and does not clean up after herself and rarely bathes. She also brings home not so trust worthing people and I have tried to talk to my husband about putting an end to it. And all he says if I don’t let her have her friends over she will leave. What do I do? When my son had a problem we sent him on his way. He has learned to get by and live with the mistakes he has made, but my husband finds it alot different because she is a female. Please help me.

Just the mix, the is no alcohol, my husband buys it and puts it in crushed ice, and i caught him giving my son sipps, (nothing like acohol added)is that okay, or would it still have harmfull stuff in it? he is 19 months.
are u reading the question? there is no alcohol, it is not vodka. How would be be addicted to alcohol if there is none in it?
he diluts it aswell with 1/3 water

hey well he is 5 months old
just wondering when i take him to the docs tomorrow
what kind of medicine will they give him.
does it contain alcohol or any affect.
he is coughing a lot and starting to get the squeaky noise when you breath.
im breastfeeding him and i’m sick now because i let him cough in my face so iv herd i give him antibiotic’s.

drug tests? Also my 12 year old is on informal probation for shooting a BB gun obtained a surprise visit from his probation office who did a drug test – it came up positive for Amphetamines. My son doesnt do drugs but he is currently on Aderoll (spelled right) for ADHD. He has also BEEN on straterra, concerta and ritlin.

The doc. said that they took off all cold & cough medications due to people usin them to make meth & due parents givin theiir children for the own personal reason. So what should i do if i cant give him medications. So far i’ve tried, puttin the humidifier in his room, vix vapor rub, tylenol, cold pop cycle, airborne, steamed showers, soups…..etc. My son is 18mons. 23 Ibs. He’s been sick for 5 days now. Please help me..

My son learned in gym class that I am allowed to give him an alcoholic drink with my supervision, consent and in my home.
Is it legal?

Also too, is it legal if no one knows about it, next to if someone else finds out?

I know someone that is using this drug. I don’t know that much information on it. He doesn’t do that much at one time. But I often found him doing it repeatedly in a day. I am worried. I don’t know what to say to him to make him stop. He is my boyfriend, basically my future husband. And currently the father to my son. I just want to stop it before it gets more worse.
Serious answers, please!
Any more information on it..?

A father passing by his son’s bedroom was astonished to see that his bed was nicely made and everything was picked up. Then he saw an envelope, propped up prominently on the pillow that was addressed to “Dad” With the worst premonition he opened the envelope with trembling hands and read the letter.

Dear Dad:
It is with great regret and sorrow that I’m writing you.
I had to elope with my new girlfriend because I wanted to avoid a scene with mom and you.

I have been finding real passion with Stacy and she is so nice.
But I knew you would not approve of her because of all her piercing, tattoos, tight motorcycle clothes and the fact that she is much older than I am

But it’s not only the passion…Dad she’s pregnant. Stacy said that we will be very happy. She owns a trailer in the woods and has a stack of firewood for the whole winter. We share a dream of having many more children. Stacy has opened my eyes to the fact that marijuana doesn’t really hurt anyone.

We’ll be growing it for ourselves and trading it with the other people that live nearby for cocaine and ecstasy. In the meantime we will pray that science will find a cure for AIDS so Stacy can get better. She deserves it. Don’t worry Dad. I’m 15 and I know how to take care of myself.

Someday I’m sure that we will be back to visit so that you can get to know your grandchildren.

Love,
Your Son John

PS. Dad, none of the above is true. I’m over at Tommy’s house.
I just wanted to remind you that there are worse things in life than the report card that’s in my center desk drawer. I love you. Call me when it’s safe to come home.
I asked this here so I could get better advice and a good answer

I have two nephews, who suffer from mild autism, and we know it is from the shots, which they took unknowingly. I don’t want something to happen to Larry’s baby, or anyone elses baby..Please read this link……..http://www.thinktwice.com/……….if you have a child, or are going to have a baby..before you enter into the world of immunizations and make up your mind…I know, that if something happened to Dannielynn, it will probably be fluffed off as “well, you know her mom was a drug addict”….Please, anyone know how I can send this to him?
Well, there are people suing the government right now over being forced into taking the shots. Big pharmecuitical companies, and Washington lobbiest, have pushed for this..requirement? 96 shots now before they get out of school…My son has refused, and has done it legally…You just need to know what the law really says
I cannot believe the ignorance of some people…before the shots, 1 in 500,000 kids had autism..now, it is one in 163..who would subject their kids to this if they knew the truth? And can you prove to me there is NOT a link? Prove that, and I will remain quiet.
And to the person who resorted to name calling, you might do your self justice, to research this in a book, not tea leaves.
P.S., I had mumps, measles, AND chicken pox when I was little, and the body made it’s own defense mechanisms….These shots, are DESTROYING the natural immune system..the mercury, is what is causing the retardation. WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU PEOPLE???? TOO MANY KIDS ARE BECOMING AUTISTIC< BECAUSE PEOPLE LIKE YOU DON”T CARE???

http://www.thinktwice.com/

sorry for getting angry, but don’t let the doctors, greedy drug companies, or government lobbiest, destroy your lives, or the lives of your kids…Please accept my apologies, I am very passionate about this. It is protecting little innocent children if I can..including Dannielynn

Hey i’m tellin u right now that thiz ain’t a question..i dedicate this song 2 all the ladies who really needed respect…hit it..
Artist: 2Pac
Album: Strictly 4 My N.I.G.G.A.Z.
Song: Keep Ya Head Up
Typed by: OHHLA Webmaster DJ Flash

Little somethin for my godson Elijah and a little girl named Corinne

[Verse One]
Some say the blacker the berry, the sweeter the juice
I say the darker the flesh then the deeper the roots
I give a holler to my sisters on welfare
Tupac cares, if don’t nobody else care
And uhh, I know they like to beat ya down a lot
When you come around the block brothas clown a lot
But please don’t cry, dry your eyes, never let up
Forgive but don’t forget, girl keep your head up
And when he tells you you ain’t nuttin don’t believe him
And if he can’t learn to love you you should leave him
Cause sista you don’t need him
And I ain’t tryin to gas ya up, I just call em how I see em
You know it makes me unhappy (what’s that)
When brothas make babies, and leave a young mother to be a pappy
And since we all came from a woman
Got our name from a woman and our game from a woman
I wonder why we take from our women
Why we rape our women, do we hate our women?
I think it’s time to kill for our women
Time to heal our women, be real to our women
And if we don’t we’ll have a race of babies
That will hate the ladies, that make the babies
And since a man can’t make one
He has no right to tell a woman when and where to create one
So will the real men get up
I know you’re fed up ladies, but keep your head up

[Chorus - repeat 2X]
Keep ya head up, oooo child things are gonna get easier
ooooo child things are gonna get brighter

[Verse Two]
Aiyyo, I remember Marvin Gaye, used to sing ta me
He had me feelin like black was tha thing to be
And suddenly tha ghetto didn’t seem so tough
And though we had it rough, we always had enough
I huffed and puffed about my curfew and broke the rules
Ran with the local crew, and had a smoke or two
And I realize momma really paid the price
She nearly gave her life, to raise me right
And all I had ta give her was my pipe dream
Of how I’d rock the mic, and make it to tha bright screen
I’m tryin to make a dollar out of fifteen cents
It’s hard to be legit and still pay tha rent
And in the end it seems I’m headin for tha pen
I try and find my friends, but they’re blowin in the wind
Last night my buddy lost his whole family
It’s gonna take the man in me to conquer this insanity
It seems tha rain’ll never let up
I try to keep my head up, and still keep from gettin wet up
You know it’s funny when it rains it pours
They got money for wars, but can’t feed the poor
Say there ain’t no hope for the youth and the truth is
it ain’t no hope for tha future
And then they wonder why we crazy
I blame my mother, for turning my brother into a crack baby
We ain’t meant to survive, cause it’s a setup
And even though you’re fed up
Huh, ya got to keep your head up

[Chorus]

[Verse Three]
And uhh
To all the ladies havin babies on they own
I know it’s kinda rough and you’re feelin all alone
Daddy’s long gone and he left you by ya lonesome
Thank the Lord for my kids, even if nobody else want em
Cause I think we can make it, in fact, I’m sure
And if you fall, stand tall and comeback for more
Cause ain’t nuttin worse than when your son
wants to kno why his daddy don’t love him no mo’
You can’t complain you was dealt this
hell of a hand without a man, feelin helpless
Because there’s too many things for you to deal with
Dying inside, but outside you’re looking fearless
While tears, is rollin down your cheeks
Ya steady hopin things don’t all down this week
Cause if it did, you couldn’t take it, and don’t blame me
I was given this world I didn’t make it
And now my son’s getten older and older and cold
From havin the world on his shoulders
While the rich kids is drivin Benz
I’m still tryin to hold on to my survivin friends
And it’s crazy, it seems it’ll never let up, but
please… you got to keep your head up

Briefly, my wife of 3yrs. & mother of my 2.5 yr.old, used crack cocaine. several x’s. now she says she has 60+ days clean. she just regained more visiting time for her 8 yr.old son which she lost 5yrs. ago, from prior heroin addiction. She’d been clean about 6yrs. prior. she’s now not allowed to see him by court order. she’s had both kids around drug users & dealers. when i was at work. she’s stole, lied, & cheated. she would’nt even keep a pt. time job, keep house clean & would’nt take very good care of our son. she’s bi-polar,depressed, on med’s for it. slept,smoked cig’s,talked on phone most of the day. i had to put him in daycare. she really did nothing. she’s now in her own apt. w/a female ex-felon (crack)w/a 15yr.drug use habit. I pd. for the first month rent just to get her out of the house. now she’s unable to pay rent. says she attends 2-3 N/A mtg’s. a day. Our son is w/me. she says she made a mistake.& wants to return home. how many chances does she have to get it right? w/me

I have been through many detox and substance abuse programs. My father was the southeasts largest supplier of cocaine in the 80`s and 90`s. I had him arrested thinking that if I could take away the ease of access I could take away my addiction. I only made my addiction more expensive as now I have to pay for the cocaine that I use. I have cut way back (from 1/2 ounce daily in 1990 to several grams a year). The problem is when I get started I can`t stop until I have no more money. THis causes a strain on my marriage (to my fourth wife) as I do not come home until I`m broke and hurting.
Please someone give me some advice, if you have ever seen the movie where johnny depp plays the drug kingpin, this was my life in the 80`s and 90`s, but not as the kingpin, but the son caught up in the game. We had police paid off, planes running dope from Mexico to USA. I saw corruption, racketeering, money laundering, even murder of DEA officials and witnesses for the state. This left me scarred foreve

My son will be staying at a place called Faith House, run by a church group for ex-felons and recovering drug addicts and alcoholics. There are 14 guys and a live-in house manager. He said they told him he will be randomly tested for drugs once or twice a week. He wants to know if they will send him to a bathroom for the sample or if they will watch the urine come out of him (I honestly think it’s more because of bladder shyness that he’s worried)

I think the law is quite silly when it comes to alcohol. I just want some opinions, should I give my son a couple of beers? He’s 18 and worked hard enough so I think he deserves it.

She’s 42, lives with my mom and her son and she also has bi-polar disorder. My mother is fed up because she’s listening to my sister puke her guts up after every binge meal. she’s gone from 128 lbs to 86 lbs in the past year and getting worse. She is in therapy, but she refuses to tell her therapist about this problem, because she doesn’t see it as a problem, she tells my mom, it’s her body and stay out of her business, she’s an adult and all, but she’s also my best friend and every time I mention something about bulimia, she plays stupid and pretends she doesn’t have it. She knows the risks, she knows everything, my mom had brought home pamphlets, talked to her doctor, but the doctor told her to call the crisis hotline. He didn’t do anything. I fear for her life, she’s already had so many physical aliments that have led to surgery these past six months. I’m afraid she’s going to die right in front of us and there’s nothing we can do.
She’s killing herself and doesn’t see it as a problem. I know you can help anyone who doesn’t want it, but is there any advice you can give me on what to say to her?
edit..I know you can’t help anyone who doesn’t want it

hi. well here goes. my auntie just had a brain hemerage and died before i could even see her again and my husband has been the worst *** hole ever! i get yelled at for everything like having even one dish in the sink or the fact my son tipped the cat food on the floor while i was in the toilet etc. ive been so badly binge eating crap because its the only thing that makes me happy. i feel i want to be alone and i don’t want to go outside! i don’t have time for a barth or a book and i cant go to the shops because money is tight. my family are really great and supportive people but since the death its all been fighting over the will and cort battles for them {dad has 6 brothers and sisters and since he was the favorite then he got left all the house and money and assets and all his family want their fair share and cant decide what the want etc] so they just couldn’t handel messed up me and a over active child put on them! plus they run their own business and are training a new Secretary. i have only but one friend who is awesome and great but works full time then has family commitments so i don’t see her much. i just feel really moody and overwhelmed i don’t even ever want to talk or get out of bed, i don’t like outside or going to the park anymore and ive started to not like my son and see him as a pain and a hardship on me, which is so sad as he is a well behaved little boy and very bright but im just angry and withdrawn from him all day. what can i do? i just have lost happiness and all motivation for everything.
i feel if i had my own way id like to sit down all alone in my house all day with the curtains drawn [so in darkness] and be silent.
my son is almost 4 years old.