How Do I Get My Son Off Drugs?

My brtoher, my only brother and sibling (no sisters), got married at 23 going on 24. so for him, kinda youngish. also he had just got out of college, it wasn’t the right time really. well a year later he developed a bad habit of binge drinking, which got him 3 dui’s in the same year, 4 emergency hospitalizations bc he drank rubbing alcohol after running out of regular alcohol, and several times in rehab. his wife got pregannt about 2 months b4 i did, and about 5 months into her pregnancy, he stopped his binge drinking and seemed to have changed. well 2 months after their daughter was born, he was back to it again. his daughter, now 6 months, has wound up getting hrut from it. the day afetr ym baby who si now 3 months was born, his wife claims that he had tried to kill their daughter by trying to choke her—she told my father this and I found out through the grapevine—in a drunken rage when she was crying. then, just a week ago, in one of his drunken states, he held her and she fell, with him, and had bruises on her body so she had to be examined. that was when his wife made him go to our aprents’ hosue and he stayed for an week. well hes back there again, and he got drunk again, with the baby with him alone. my sil went to work tonight, and she called my parents and said she was frantic that he was doing something to their daughter or neglecting her. I felt bad for her, but couldnt help but wonder why if she was worried about the very life of her daughter, she didn’t just leave work? she claims she would get fired bc she was the only one there 9it’s a store in the mall0 but is anything worth more than your daughter/ I told her this and got her to leave work. But I am still in a state of shock over my brother whom Ive never known to be a ‘bad’ or violent person. I am terribly worried about my niece and something happening to her, and also him, bc of his drinking. I also feel bad for his wife and my parents, bc his wife always calls them almost every time he “acts up” (b4 their daughter was born too), which in a way is not fair to my parents bc they’re older and hes a grown man, 28 years old. anyhow, how can I help my brother?
i have a 3-month-old myself and am afraid to even leave her in the same room alone with him for a min now. (when eh comes over and I’m there with her). I am also wondering if I should offer to watch their daughter for a few days/ (her parents already have their hands full with her siblings)?
also, I know this is babys ection, but I posted this in family as well, but I wanted to psot here bc it does involve some aspects of aprenting. also bc I’m stressed otu for ym brother, and terrified of soemthing happenign to him or my niece, and feeling bad for his wife, and also my parents, bc he is their only son, how can I not let this affect my parenting/ bc also my parents were partly my support system, and now I have almost no support system, bc they are now trying to focus their energy on helping him, which I think si what is necessary, but its also scary for me
is there any1 at all who can give me some advice? also, any1 else who has similar issues with their family that is also a new parent?

Ok this song don’t know who sings it or what it is called but it goes a little something like this, Somwhere smoking crack now in and out of lock down I ain’t got a job now. It is about a women who strips to feed her son. If anyone knows who sings it or the name of it please let me know, Thanks

I had a drinking problem and recieved a P.I. and my son had to move into my sister’s home while I attended an intensive outpatient program. After that, I recieved a D.W.I. and let him stay with her until I cleaned up my act. I am ready now, doing very well and very happy as a matter of fact (I actually love the 12 steps-they are life skills). I know she is going to fight me tooth and nail over this, legally. I will go to any lengths to keep my son and do whatever is necessary in order to do so. Who can help me prepare for this upcoming battle? I finally have the guts as he alwyas comes over crying and saying how awful it is there (she’s very demeaning and controlling and argues non-stop), but it is nothing that would carry any weight. She used to cocaine and dated a dealer, etc. She put this in her pass and is very successful now and I respect that, but I will never be “good” in her eyes. Nobody is. Please don’t think I just want to play mom out of the blue.

My mum is 58 and she is completely stressed out from working online and taking care of two kids. The girls she works with a b!tchy and they hassel her too much. And my mum is raising my two nephews because my sister is a drug addict living on the streets escorting men. So my mum has to care of them I help her of course but the girls she works with make her feel like crap all the time.

There is this girl named britney in my town she’s 17 years old and has a 1 year old son. britney and her family have a bad reputation Basically they are well known for causing problems. britney’s mother is a alcoholic who doesn’t have a problem watching her grandson while under the influence. britney’s father committed suicide when she was young sadly although who could blame him, after all that family is trouble. her two brothers are in and out of jail… anyway recently Child Protective Services took her son in their custody because she was snorting prescription pills, smoking crack, and possibly shooting heroin, her son tested positive for drugs.. and because the family is unstable the boy will probably go to a adoption agencie since britney doesn’t know who fathered her son. will she get into trouble for having drugs in her son’s system?
will the mother be sent to juvenile intill she’s 21?
The mother neglects her child by not watching him properly. she takes him out without dressing him warmly Not putting a jacket on him, or hat and gloves. she takes her son out for a walk 2:00 in the morning and later then that strolling him arould when she has no business being out in the first place. she starts fights with people and becomes very violent in front of her son, (she’ll fight another person with her son there)
Because we live in a small town basically everyone is in everybody else’s business therefore rumors are spreading about her alot. of course Child Protective Services did take her child but people are talking about why they took him from her. she deserved it she shouldn’t have children when she can’t even take care of herseif, britney will probably grow up and be just like her mother a alcoholic with four more misfits as children just like her siblings.

5 years ago, my sister’s son was taken from her after a very bad drug binge. I was granted custody of him, which was a dream come true seeing as I had a hysterectomy when I was 22 and, was never able to have the family I dreamed of, especially after my husband left me when I could not have children. My sister has been and, in my eyes will always be an addict.

Although, I have remained estranged from her for the last 5 years she has begun to try and wedge her way back into our lives, citing that she has cleaned herself up. I know it’s all lies, all the lying and stealing she did to me proves she never really cared for me or her son. I gave her numerous chances and, she blew them all.

Now she is trying to regain custody of her former son and, I don’t want her to. He is my son now and, my miracle. I would rather drive the heroin needle into her arm myself then hand my 6 year old back over to her. I’ve begun the process to legally adopt him, in order to stop her but, is she a serious contender to get custody back?? I’m worried, I want her to have no part in our lives.

my ex/son’s father is a drunk. He’s around my son just about on a daily basis and sees him drinking beer/liqour on a daily basis. His father was a drunk just the same. I don’t want to be the one to keep him from being around his father, but I know him seeing him drink daily will instill the same alcoholic tendencies in him when he gets older. His father won’t keep the alcohol hidden or away and it’s gotten so bad, my 3 yr old can spot a beer product from a mile away. I’ve told my son, beer is bad, and ppl should not drink it, but for a boy who idolizes his father, how can I make it so he sees it in a bad light? He already wants his dad to leave when he sees him pop open a bottle of whatever because he knows his father will start his drunken tyrrads. what can i do or say to my son to prevent him from becoming a drunk monster like his dad??

I know that sounds stange.. but my nephew who is 3 monthes old is in the custody of his grandma.. ( me and my sister have different dads) my sister is horrible addicted to drugs, and just got sentenced to 5 years in prison.. they gave custody to her grandma.. i know she loves this child and all but she raised my other nephew who is the worst behave child i have ever met.. she is not able to take care of these children properly. shes over 300 pounds and in a wheel chair.. she doesnt have any money.. and the house is infested with so many cats, and 3 huge dogs.. it smells so bad of cat pee in there it makes me sick.. i am in no posistion myself to take care of a child.. im only 19 and struggle everyday to pay my bills.. but why would the state give her custody.. she cant take care of these children… she calls me and asks me to bring diapers because he doesnt have any.. i dont have any money either.. .but i somehow manage to get the money to get the diapers.. and when i get there.. the baby literally has NO diapers left but the one he has on… somone would love to adopt a baby and take care of it.. but I cant just make the state take the baby away… i dont know what to do…
cupidgirl- shes not my grandma.

I have a friend who has a 30 year old son, he is hooked on prescription pain meds,uses pain patches, xanax etc., does not work, and lives at home with his mother, who is my friend, this guy had a friend over, the friend was there till 5 am in the morning, he went home, and was found dead an hour later, evidently this friend either took or was given one of the pain patches and used that in combination with xanax, will there be an autopsy or investigation on this death and is there any liability involved for the mother and home owner here?

I am a mother of a 34yr old son who has stopped taking meth but is suffering from depression , and short attention spans. Does anyone have more info for me about what it feels like once you stop? I am clueless about the withdrawal?

My 46 yr. old alcoholic brother has been in and out of 3 rehabs now, several detox places, etc. It seems that as soon as he gets his head on relatively straight, makes goals for himself (good ones like finding a job to support himself and his daughter who lives far away in another country, etc etc etc) that he relapses within a few short hours/days after completing programs.

All of our family have tried to help him out by giving him food and shelter, SUPPORT, etc. for MANY years. I was pretty much THE ONLY ONE LEFT (with my husband and son)that would continue to take him in. The pros call me his ENABLER!!

Recently our 75 yr. old dad (ashamed to even call him his son) was diagnosed with cancer. He agreed to see him, then offered him a place to stay after the 60 day rehab–gave him $$, job offers. Soon as we got dad checked into the hosp., bro went on a 1 week binge, but finally call AA for help. They keep telling us we need to separate the emotions from his DISEASE. HOW???

My sister is financially ruined. I know her daughter and her daughters husband, are hooked on drugs. Amber is always stealing her mothers debit card, writing checks on her. My sister just ignores it, she’s about to loose everything because of her. She doesn’t do anything about it, she thinks her daughter and son in law are the greatest things to walk the earth. For her to keep ignoring what they are doing to her, they have to be drugging her. What should I do, she won’t listen to anyone? Please, I need some advise.

Ok. Hello everyone. My son is almost 17 years old, and suffers from acne for about 2-3 years.
His face is better than it used to be but is still a serious problem.

I want to help him. I tried some products online about natural healing. Most of them talk about a fast. They say that by throwing away the toxics of the body will help the body heal acne itself. But there are problems to these ways. For example they say for almost 2 months some certain foods should be avoided like meat, like milk and other.
How will a 17-year-old boy live and grow without milk and meat. Also they speak about detoxification of the body. We also visited a dermatologist.

Now my son drinks 2-3 cups of detox tea daily, tries to avoid some food, uses dalacin c 1% in the morning, adaferin 0.1% at the evening and washing his face with dermac soap twice every day.

Do you think this will help him ? Do you have any further suggestion ? In the next 10 days we will visit again a dermatologist. Tell me what to do…

I had my doubts that he was stealing beer from my house for about a 2 months, but once I found out for sure I banned any kind of alcohol in my house. Now he insists that I allow him to drink. What should I do? How can I keep him away from alcohol?

Me and my childs mother have seperated and she now has the child living with her. We are taking the matter of residence to court but its not for another 6 weeks.
She has told me that her solicitor has told her not to let me see the child until the matter is resolved at court even though I lost my job to look after him for 6 weeks whilst she was on a binge.
Does a solicitor have the right to say this or is it her just making it up?

and she is going to counseling to.She cheated on him with her boss out of state at a meeting. He is in AA for alcohol due to stress and them both losing a bussiness. He has never cheated in his marriage and she says he is a good husband and father and she forgives him. But today she told him she wants to stay seperated and may want to see other people. She wants him to come home Saturday night to stay overnight with his 2 young children while she stays with her mother and goes out with her girlfriend dancing and drinking. She says she needs time away from the kids and needs a night out. They have been married for 10 years and at the begining of their marriage took in her young sister and brother for 2 years because her mother had issues. In the last year her father had a stroke and now lives in their home with them. What do you guys think about this relationship and is there hope?
Thanks everyone for answering me I am staying out of it as much as possible but she put him on my door step. Things are so hard right now because his step mother whom he loves dearly just died at 4:30 this morning.

threatens her life, breaks in her house….she is afraid of threats and that if he loses his trucker’s license, he will always hang around..at least this ways they get a two or three month break from this stress till he loses his job. He keeps hanging around. They (my brother) called police where they found out he was in attic and broke in house without their knowledge and stole Christmas presents and other items. How can we get her to quit enabling him as she falls for his lies and sob stories..He on crushed and snorted oxycontin and maybe other drugs. he ignored attempts at rehab..after calling police and saying pressing charges..she gave him a blanket Chrsitmas eve and let him sleep on back patio.
well, we tried..we had a meeting once and all agreed not to give him money, items or food and help him reach bottom quicker and seek help as when his mom pays for rehab and he agrees to go, he doesn’t or he lies and says he went but he renigs on it. I think the death threats by gun and instability and his impulsiveness and blaming everyone else fo his problems stiffle stciking with calling police..plus he is hard to catch..the fear he is controlling us with is a factor and permissivemess and difficulty with saying no to his pleas and not feeling sorry for him mess things up..the ones firm in not helping him or not afraid of him, he leaves alone. what can we do?
that should be grandson not nephew
good suggestion, free to chat, but I don’t think they will call police due to how they are…siometimes but not consistency and that can mnullify the order.
thank you, little peewee for your compassionate answer and offers to help…it is making it hard on my mom..but it is up to the males in the family who are braver and younger to intervene. I am a 57 year old disabled woman. I do give suggestions but they are often ignored. It is very frustrating. He makes me so angry adding to my mom’s intense suffering as she is in real pain.