I purchased my home in December 2008. It came with a Guest house. I was very happy to have this guesthouse because I wanted to rent it out to my son for 400 dollars a month. It’s very nice and fairly new. I also need to add that I live in San Diego California where the cost of living is pretty high.
Before I moved my son in I set down some ground rules. I told him that I am moving him into the house so that he can get himself established. He is to work, go to school and not do drugs. He agreed. I am 6 years clean from drugs and alcohol and I refuse to let anyone take away my sobriety. I drug tested him and he came back clean.
Since he has been living with me he has paid a total of 500.00. He paid 400 dollars in February, 100 dollars in March, and nothing since. I was starting to get a little concerned. He hasn’t started school and he is hardly working.
This past weekend I was in New York and his girlfriend called and told me that my son and his friends are in the guesthouse smoking marijuana. She told me that they always do it in the house when I go away for the weekend. She also told me that when I tested him he had purchased some synthetic urine from the smoke shop and that is why he came back clean. I came home and confronted my son (not telling him where I got my information). I asked him to leave my home by July 4th weekend. He agreed that it was time seeing that he is 23 years old and he needs to move on. Do you feel that I gave him enough time to leave? Also, do you think that there is anything that I should have done differently? Thank you in advance for your answers.
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Details (If you care): Okay so, my friend wanted to get high, and this trailer trash ************, who claims to be the Zodiac Killers son, says that he can clean her pipe out w rubbing alcohol, put the stuff on a plate and when the rubbing alcohol evaporates from the resin that they can smoke it. Is that true? bc I told her that I will buy her an 8th and soak it in rubbing alcohol, and then we can let it evaporate, we’ll roll a blunt/ joint and if she smokes it and doesnt get sick, then I’ll pay her 100.00
Details (If you care): Okay so, my friend wanted to get high, and this trailer trash ************, who claims to be the Zodiac Killers son, says that he can clean her pipe out w rubbing alcohol, put the stuff on a plate and when the rubbing alcohol evaporates from the resin that they can smoke it. Is that true? bc I told her that I will buy her an 8th and soak it in rubbing alcohol, and then we can let it evaporate, we’ll roll a blunt/ joint and if she smokes it and doesnt get sick, then I’ll pay her 100.00
Details (If you care): Okay so, my friend wanted to get high, and this trailer trash motherfucker, who claims to be the Zodiac Killers son, says that he can clean her pipe out w rubbing alcohol, put the stuff on a plate and when the rubbing alcohol evaporates from the resin that they can smoke it. Is that true? bc I told her that I will buy her an 8th and soak it in rubbing alcohol, and then we can let it evaporate, we’ll roll a blunt/ joint and if she smokes it and doesnt get sick, then I’ll pay her 100.00
I have a friend who has liked me since we were kids. However he happens to be friends with my ex who is my son’s father. I don’t know how close they are but my 8 yr old son knows him as Daddy’s friend. This friend told me about a year ago that he liked me and basically that he had a lot to offer. That I wouldn’t have to work and could stay home with my kids if we got married. I kind of blew him off then since we were drinking and wrote the whole thing off to the alcohol talking. Now I am wondering whether that was stupid and am interested in possibly dating him since one of my girlfriends told me he was still interested possibly. Only problem is that now he’s moved to another town. There’s hardly any chance of running into him. Should I call him out of the blue for a date?
mine died of cancer and blessed us with five small lots and an old mobile home. We live in this mobile now. My brother and his wife were infuriated and jealous and made it a point to hurt my husband and me in any way they could think of. They called CPS and accused my husband of molesting our nine-year-old daughter. (They were NEVER at our house!) My daughter was questioned by CPS and “they” determined that there was no evidence of molestation. DUH! We have grown sons and daughters and they were horrified that their dad and I went through this. This happened about two years ago, but it has come to my attention that this was kept in the files of CPS. WHY??? I am angry, upset, furious. No charges were ever filed against my husband. I am a stay-at-home mom. My husband works 12 hours a day in another town. He NEVER touched our daughter and never would. NO, I AM NOT IN DENIAL ABOUT THIS! Why does CPS keep something like this on record. What can we do? Anyone else had a similar experience?
my friend Lauren and i are really trying to convince her sister Amanda not to name her daughter Crystal as her boyfriends last name is Meeth and her daughters name would be Crystal Meeth, would sounds and looks like Crystal Meth. She says she doesnt want to name her daughter anything else because ever since she was a little girl she has wanted to name her daughter Crystal if she had a girl and her son Kendall if she had a boy. What should we do? Her child will go through hell in school
5th time been on here about my friend helped her non stop now she been sober for 7 days she doesnt want to know me the prob is my son is 6 and in the same class as her kids my son has aspergers syndrome so he finds friendships so so hard usually i would pick her kids up sometimes and they would come n play now she blanking me and my son, my son is upset and now she actually told her family shes hid it for a year and been offloading on me she doesnt want to know me i am so hurt and now she is cutting my son out i cant understand people
My best friend of 15 years is a full blown alchohlic. She has tried help and nothing works, she don’t want to quit. She has a very bad attitude when she drinks and gets verbally abusive. I love her to death but really can not take it anymore. She lies to me when she is drunk thinking i am stupid and can’t tell, she talks bad about my husband and my son!!! But when she is sober, she is the sweetest person in the world. I know I should just tell her if she is gonna drink then to just stay away, but she is the only real friend i have and on top of that she lies to me about drinking when she comes over. I don’t want this around my son and newborn. She has even lost her son and drivers liscence. Now I have a party for my baby coming up and I slipped about it to her and there will be alcohol there. Although I didn’t tell her when it is, what do I do about it? she has insulted our families before at recent parties. What do I tell her? Should I X her out of my life? I am confused.
The friend he got into trob. w/ ( they broke n2 a “friends” house and shot paintballs in the house put holes in walls and stopped a toilet up and drank some alcohol- generally f-ed the place up good) has a pretty hard nosed stepdad and yet he is out and about skateboarding and hanging out w/ friends etc…. Am I being 2 harsh as a parent??? My grounding started the day this all happened in june and hasn’t ended yet. It’s not as if this was a minor thing- the “law” is involved and he has 2 be on probation 4 a year and if he doesnt obey me and his dad or if he breaks the probation rules he can be sent to boys school until he is 18. My son is 15 and his friend is 14.
My punishment is kinda stiff… No phone No friends No going anywhere unless u r w/ me or dad or maybe grandma.. NO SKATEBOARDING NONE – They stole 2 skateboards too- btw.
My friend is in her late 20′s she has 3 dui’s she has a parole violation. She is a bad person who only cares about her self. She has a major drinking problem too, her brother died from a drunk driver. She is currently dating a man who is pushing 40. He used to be an alcoholic he stoppted because he doesn’t want to lose his 10 year old son.
He is good and clean now he hates drinking and alcohol. My friend drinks behind his back. Because she is bored and she says needs to be bad once and a while. They live together the last time she got drunk. He told if she does it again it’s over. She said she won’t do it again but she has hit the bottle four times since then. She quit her job and is looking for a new one. So far she hasn’t been looking she just sitting around the house getting bored and wanting to drink. I told her to stop because he is a nice man. He is letting her live with him for free and he takes her out and everything. After all this she still drinks behind his back.
My friend is in her late 20′s she has 3 dui’s she has a parole violation. She is a bad person who only cares about her self. She has a major drinking problem too, her brother died from a drunk driver. She is currently dating a man who is pushing 40. He used to be an alcoholic he stoppted because he doesn’t want to lose his 10 year old son.
He is good and clean now he hates drinking and alcohol. My friend drinks behind his back. Because she is bored and she says needs to be bad once and a while. They live together the last time she got drunk. He told if she does it again it’s over. She said she won’t do it again but she has hit the bottle four times since then. She quit her job and is looking for a new one. So far she hasn’t been looking she just sitting around the house getting bored and wanting to drink. I told her to stop because he is a nice man. He is letting her live with him for free and he takes her out and everything. After all this she still drinks behind his back.
My son has a friend C they play well together when their alone but when C has another friend over & my son goes to play C teases, ignores, hits and is just mean. It really hurts and angers me as a mother. My son comes in upset. His parents think C does no wrong and says “let them work it out” ya, their kid isn’t being bullied! That’s why bullies get away with stuff; the parents are alcoholics anyway; don’t want to be bothered. They’re are neighbors and casual friends to so it gets sticky but I want to go off on C next time and say “don’t ask my kid to play if you have another friend over and are going to be a bully or be mean” or I won’t let him play with you at all! Example: Today C ask my son to come outside and play Pickle; my son goes outside and they run over to the trampoline and my son said what about Pickle and they ignored him and then C said your not my friend and they laugh at my son. I know C does this on purpose. I am really mad!
When I say casual friends with the parents I mean in past have had BBQs etc. but that has literally disappeared. We avoid doing anything with them. They are not mean to their kids; they spoil them and the kid is adopted (he doesn’t know) so I think he naturally has issues. I supported my son; told him it wasn’t his fault but C’s and that he wasn’t being a friend and that I would deal with it; next time he won’t go outside. I do encourage other friends as well. Thanks to all the answers.
My fiance and I have been together for five years, engaged for seven months. We are both 21, except I’m 6 months older than her. We have a 16 month old son together and we are living in an apartment. She stays home with him and doesn’t work. She is going back to school to get her high school diploma finally, and I’m am in college. A few days ago we got into an argument and she left with our son saying she was going to get groceries. She was pretty upset, and later after she got back she told me she really went to see someone she used to hang out with when she did drugs. She did go to the grocery store though, but only after talking to that guy for like 30 minutes. I’m not sure if she slept with him before I don’t think so but she might have, meth changes people when they are under the influence. I know for a fact that she has slept with at least 11 guys, though there is probably more. She used to do meth and sleep with other guys. She has done meth once since our son was born, but she says she doesn’t want to do it anymore; she felt bad after. That was back in 2007 though. Now I’m beginning to question if I should stay with her? I have the feeling that she can change her actions, but she will always like that scene and hanging out with thugs. I know she has a strong sense of responsibility now that we have a son, but what is stopping her from hanging out with old friends? When we get into serious arguments, she tends to look to her old acquaintances or boyfriend for support, and goes to talk with them? These arguments rarely happen though, and when I just let her speak her mind and tell me what to do I feel like she is trying to boss me around. Most of the time it is me that starts those arguments where she talks to them. I was thinking about splitting up with her today so bad, but I am worried about not seeing my son anymore. I know she loves me and I love her, but what should I do? I have talked with her about counseling, and she agrees we need it. I’m not sure if that will fix things though. I have looked it up, and our relationship has all the symptoms of a Toxic Relationship. I have read that people in a toxic relationship shouldn’t stay together, both partners just get worse and worse. Am I just killing myself slowly by staying with her? Please Help!
I forgot to mention, that those are people in her past before we got together. I meant to say 10 people, that is including me also.
Oh and by the way, she doesn’t do meth anymore. She has done it in the past, and she quit when she found out she was pregnant. She never did it again while she knew she was pregnant. She did do it once after my son was born, because she was stressed out cause I split up with her for a couple weeks cause I thought she was cheating on me then, but come to find out she didn’t. She said she felt guilty doing it and she gave whatever of the drug was left to her friend. She says she hasn’t done it since and I believe her, because I know how she acts when she is under its influence; and she hasn’t acted like that ever since that one time.
She hasn’t slept with anyone else since we have been together steady now for 2 years and 2 months.
So my high school reunion is coming up so I’ve been trying to catch up with some of my old high school friends I saw my old friend (lets call him) “Derek” on my-space and we got to chating online. He sent me pictures of his 3 sons and I sent him pictures of my two boys. The first thing I noticed about his son is that he had Fetal alcohol syndrome, so I have not responded to his email because I just don’t know what to say to him, obviously his exgirlfriend must have drank while she was pregnant, so I asked a mutual friend just now on FB and she said “oh yah I heard Derek’s ex-girlfriend was a big time alcoholic she had to be hospitalized for alchol poisoning twice when she was pregnant.” now I just don’t know what to say to him. Do I acknowledge that he has FAS and ask about it, or do i wait for him to bring it up? when he does bring it up how do I handle it, I mean I don’t want to get judgmental because honestly I don’t know how he could have stayed with her and had 2 more children after the first had FAS
the friend on FB that I asked is also his best friend and godmother to his children not just anyone.
Also I can’t really play dumb because I have a degree in abnormal psychology and biology so I know a thing or two about FAS
I don’t think i’m really getting the answers to my question.
i feel as though i’m just getting a bitch rant I think I should ask again in the morning
So my high school reunion is coming up so I’ve been trying to catch up with some of my old high school friends I saw my old friend (lets call him) “Derek” on my-space and we got to chating online. He sent me pictures of his 3 sons and I sent him pictures of my two boys. The first thing I noticed about his son is that he had Fetal alcohol syndrome, so I have not responded to his email because I just don’t know what to say to him, obviously his exgirlfriend must have drank while she was pregnant, so I asked a mutual friend just now on FB and she said “oh yah I heard Derek’s ex-girlfriend was a big time alcoholic she had to be hospitalized for alchol poisoning twice when she was pregnant.” now I just don’t know what to say to him. Do I acknowledge that he has FAS and ask about it, or do i wait for him to bring it up? when he does bring it up how do I handle it, I mean I don’t want to get judgmental because honestly I don’t know how he could have stayed with her and had 2 more children after the first had FAS
the friend on FB that I asked is also his best friend and godmother to his children not just anyone.
Also I can’t really play dumb because I have a degree in abnormal psychology and biology so I know a thing or two about FAS
I don’t think i’m really getting the answers to my question.
i feel as though i’m just getting a bitch rant I think I should ask again in the morning
So my high school reunion is coming up so I’ve been trying to catch up with some of my old high school friends I saw my old friend (lets call him) “Derek” on my-space and we got to chating online. He sent me pictures of his 3 sons and I sent him pictures of my two boys. The first thing I noticed about his son is that he had Fetal alcohol syndrome, so I have not responded to his email because I just don’t know what to say to him, obviously his exgirlfriend must have drank while she was pregnant, so I asked a mutual friend just now on FB and she said “oh yah I heard Derek’s ex-girlfriend was a big time alcoholic she had to be hospitalized for alchol poisoning twice when she was pregnant.” now I just don’t know what to say to him. Do I acknowledge that he has FAS and ask about it, or do i wait for him to bring it up? when he does bring it up how do I handle it, I mean I don’t want to get judgmental because honestly I don’t know how he could have stayed with her and had 2 more children after the first had FAS
the friend on FB that I asked is also his best friend and godmother to his children not just anyone.
Also I can’t really play dumb because I have a degree in abnormal psychology and biology so I know a thing or two about FAS
I don’t think i’m really getting the answers to my question.
i feel as though i’m just getting a bitch rant I think I should ask again in the morning
So my high school reunion is coming up so I’ve been trying to catch up with some of my old high school friends I saw my old friend (lets call him) “Derek” on my-space and we got to chating online. He sent me pictures of his 3 sons and I sent him pictures of my two boys. The first thing I noticed about his son is that he had Fetal alcohol syndrome, so I have not responded to his email because I just don’t know what to say to him, obviously his exgirlfriend must have drank while she was pregnant, so I asked a mutual friend just now on FB and she said “oh yah I heard Derek’s ex-girlfriend was a big time alcoholic she had to be hospitalized for alchol poisoning twice when she was pregnant.” now I just don’t know what to say to him. Do I acknowledge that he has FAS and ask about it, or do i wait for him to bring it up? when he does bring it up how do I handle it, I mean I don’t want to get judgmental because honestly I don’t know how he could have stayed with her and had 2 more children after the first had FAS
the friend on FB that I asked is also his best friend and godmother to his children not just anyone.
Also I can’t really play dumb because I have a degree in abnormal psychology and biology so I know a thing or two about FAS
I don’t think i’m really getting the answers to my question.
i feel as though i’m just getting a bitch rant I think I should ask again in the morning
So my high school reunion is coming up so I’ve been trying to catch up with some of my old high school friends I saw my old friend (lets call him) “Derek” on my-space and we got to chating online. He sent me pictures of his 3 sons and I sent him pictures of my two boys. The first thing I noticed about his son is that he had Fetal alcohol syndrome, so I have not responded to his email because I just don’t know what to say to him, obviously his exgirlfriend must have drank while she was pregnant, so I asked a mutual friend just now on FB and she said “oh yah I heard Derek’s ex-girlfriend was a big time alcoholic she had to be hospitalized for alchol poisoning twice when she was pregnant.” now I just don’t know what to say to him. Do I acknowledge that he has FAS and ask about it, or do i wait for him to bring it up? when he does bring it up how do I handle it, I mean I don’t want to get judgmental because honestly I don’t know how he could have stayed with her and had 2 more children after the first had FAS
the friend on FB that I asked is also his best friend and godmother to his children not just anyone.
Also I can’t really play dumb because I have a degree in abnormal psychology and biology so I know a thing or two about FAS
I don’t think i’m really getting the answers to my question.
i feel as though i’m just getting a bitch rant I think I should ask again in the morning
How do I get past my 3yr olds father jumping in bed with a mutal friend and getting her pregnant less then 3 months after we broke up?
I have 2 boys 3 & 5.My 5 year olds father (shawn) died 1 week before he was born due to pneumonia. I was single for a while then started dating shawn best friend Brian a year after shawn died. We dated for 4 years and 2 years into the relantionship we had my 3 year old. we have been broken up for 15 months now and i just found out he has been dating a mutal friend of ours and they have a 6 month old baby. That means she got pregnant (i think she trapped him) less then 3 months after we broke up.
The girl was a mutal friend, she dated one guy for 10 years and said she took birth control every day at the same time and she knew about medications affecting it because she worked at the doctors office. When me & brian broke up she said she would talk to him (i was in NC him in VA) and help to get him to come back that was the end of OCT beginning of NOV now i find out she got pregnant by him in JAN and she said “well sometimes things happen” I think she trapped him to keep him from coming back.
Anyways I dont want him back Im in a happy relationship but it just makes me crazy and so sick that he did that BOTH of them did that. I just want to get over it but i want my son to have nothing to do with that family (last i knew they both drank a lot, & he’s always been an alcoholic) i dont want him to be in that situation but i know i cant keep him from his dad. Now brian is saying he cant send me as much money because he has two kids to take care of, well so do i and i need whats owed. but its more difficult then that so we cant just go to court, because of medicaid and so on. I just want to get over it and not be so angry all the time. but how when i hate what he did to me and my son and it makes me sick!
