…in two days (29th)… it will be his 21st birthday. *J* is furious that I became an alcoholic after my second husband (a Police Officer) was sent overseas in 2003. I (think) that I know where my son is staying. J is very unrealistic about finances.
His Stepdad , *K*, is not accepting of my wishes of seeing my son at least get a card on his birthday. K is being sent back to Iraq again. I really miss my son and at least want him to have a card. My son has been through a lot of pain (his real Dad paid NO child support), and my son also saw me have a horrible nervous breakdown. He also witnessed my own father die. J was in the car when my Dad died of his third heart attack. J was 12 at this event.
What can I do? J has been in jail three times now, all related to minor drug charges, nothing for more than 2 mos.
I know hurt he is, and he doesn’t want to see me, but at the same time, he’s my first child, and I love him no matter what.
Advice please. THX
Thank you, emt and jam, you both gave great advice.
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ok my son father is in jail for transporting cocaine 64 kilos exact do you think the police took some of the coke he was arrested in texas he been in there for bout a year now he just got his sentence which is 54 mouths does that year he was already in count?
My son is turning one. His father and I are having family over, and I would like a low-key party where everyone is loosened up and relaxed. I want both sides of the fam to feel comfortable together, and possibly have a few simple and CHEAP games that we can play. We are very short on cash, so we really want an intimate and comfortable get together to celebrate my son’s first year of life.
What games can we play? How can I get both sides of the family to be comfortable with each other and talk? (preferably without alcohol) Any ideas? Let me know!
We are having a football themed party for our son’s first birthday in November. The party is going to be during the Eagles game on Sunday. If everyone who is invited shows, there will be 5 kids (including my 1 year old) and 25 adults. I would like to serve alcohol (beer and wine) but my husband says it is innappropiate for a children’s birthday party. I say that it is a party for our son, but the adults want to have a good time too. Please give me your thoughts.
My son is the only grandchild on both sides of the family. He doesn’t have any young relatives, which is why there is mostly adults.
Also, the ages of children invited range from 12-24 months.
I am not talking about hard liquor here. Just beer and wine.
Thanks for the input. I should mention that the party is not on his birthday. We are spending his birthday with immediate family, having cake and opening presents. It is not my intention for people to get drunk. But I thought that since most of the adults are coming without kids, they would be bored with a kiddie party, which is why we thought to have it during the football game. The children/babies will have an area for them to play and interact.
It will be two of us for about 12 months. This is how long I have been told a meth user needs to be clean to have any kind of chance. A woman and her son. I don’t have any experience with motor homes. Thinking of truck and 5th wheel.
my son and i have a very good relationship. he has always been able to come to me and answer me honestly. i had just picked him up from his best friend after spending the weekend. we went out to dinner and he was acting silly. i asked him if he ever smoked weed before. he said he tried it for the first time friday at his friends house. then he asked me if he was in trouble. i asked him the who, what, where, why, and hows. i did not get crazy because it’s more important to me that he feels that he can come to me. i did print some information about teens and alcohol and drugs. i would like some other things i could talk about that is not so textbook. straight to the point and hopefully he would so no if there is a next time. please help.
My son will be 15 months when he has to be left for the first time. We have never left him before with anyone. He is going to be staying with my mum and dad, who we dont really trust but there is no one else. I have friends but they dont have kids and sort of panic when he starts to cry.
Anyway, we are nervous about leaving him with my parents because
1) my mum drinks, a lot. I have never known her not to drink. I asked her to take me to afternoon/evening antenatal classes when i was pregnant with him as i didnt like driving and i didnt have my own car. And she said no and my dad ended up just dropping me off/picking me up. And you know why, because as soon as 3pm hits she HAS to pour a glass of red wine and she continues to pour glass after glass of wine until about 7pm after she finishes eating dinner she stops drinking.
2) Both my mum and dad smoke, my dad claims he has given up, but im not sure if he has or not. My mum is a heavy chain smoker, she smokes atleast a pack a day, if not a pack and a half. I dont want my son around all that smoke and chemicals and yukness. They have promised not to smoke inside while looking after him, but i dont believe it. When i go there in weekends with my son, if he goes down for a nap in the bedroom, they think its ok to smoke in the living room! I have said that i dont want him around it at all. And they said they promise to smoke outside
3) My mum goes to bed VERY early, like 7.30pm-8.30pm, 8.30 would be the latest i have ever seen her go to bed, she said she usually goes to bed around 8. I myself stay up late, to around 10.30-12 at night. My son goes to bed anywhere between those times too, usually around 11pm. I know its late, but it works for us as my fiance works evening/night shift so doesnt get home until 12-2am, so we all get a nice sleep in in the mornings.
4) The sleeping issue would be ok, because my dad stays up late usually. However he is not very confident around my son, like he will play with him for maybe 15 minutes max before he carries him back to either me or my fiance. I think he is just nervous. I tell him to read him a book, play peek a boo, or put on one of my sons dvds to watch together and try and encourage their grandad/grandson bonding time, but he still seems very scared. So i wouldnt want him to have to look after my son on his own
5) My mums hygiene standards are almost 0! If my son drops food from his high chair. A piece of fruit or a chicken nugget for example, she just puts it back up on his plate for him to eat again! Also if she changes his nappy, she doesnt clean his bum properly, i always have to tell her to wipe right up his crack and spread his cheeks apart to make sure he is completely clean. I have gotten him home before and changed his nappy and he still has poo around his bum!
We will also have to leave him with them some other time in november as im due with our second baby on the 18th. I know im probably being a bit over the top. But i just really want/need to know that he is going to be safe and well looked after. I will take his usual toys, some of his favourite books, dvds and pjs and a blanket so he still has all his home comforts. I would rather they look after him at our house, but we have 2 big dogs and well my parents dont like them. So thats not an option.
So if anyone has any tips/advice id love to hear from you.
Being European, I have been told by my Catholic parents, that alcohol is not to be served at my son’s first communion lunch/dinner in May. I have googled communion etiquette, but have not found any particular “guide lines”. Anyone?
I have heard of an MRI checking for brain damage. He has expressive language disorder, also problems with comprehension, retention of information, and receptive language. He is 5, still puts things in his mouth, cannot understand me sometimes. I’m scared hes misdiagnosed. No one will help. I have tried a Pediatrician (medi-cal) the school speech person, an aoption social worker, etc.
They all pass it onto someone else…. he’s falling WAY behind.
