How would you talk to somebody that is kinda an alcoholic with a son in jail and a younger son that is very misunderstood, talkative but quiet at times cause he feels people dont get him and really has no true friends. How would you make that mom feel better? How would you make her family feel closer? How would you show love in tough times if you where in there shoes? the reason i say this is because i am the younger son, i try so hard to make peace. people say I have cold emotions but im trying to be a warm hearted person. I hold the door for people and everything but its my listening skills that I am not good at. Im a follower trying to be a leader but I dont wanna be that cold hearted person. everyone even my mom makes fun of me. calling me sensitive. laughing behind my back and talking bout me behind my back. my mom makes facial jesters while im talking. when i turn around to look at her she stops and pretends she is listining. I go to school soon but I feel if my mom does this then my new friends will do this too. i’d rather live alone and play wow than to deal with the cruel people in this world. F*** im crying as I write this… I’m a 24 yo man that really has had enough. i have faith in me to go to church. my new years resolution is to go to school and stay in church every Sunday. I’m starting fresh. I want out of this situation that i am in. I’m not a burden on my mom. Its just when i talk to her and my friends I get misunderstood as a cold hearted jealous person. and all Im doing is asking questions! please help me. I just want my family to be happy.
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i am totally at a loss here people, without going into the personal aspects of every second of every day i’m alive, i need to give some clarification because i have some serious issues here i’m dealing with, and i need my friends to help me as much as you can, ok so here goes:
i need to know how YOU really feel about tough love, good or bad, i have an alcoholic son, who is getting more and more violent with everyone, should i practice tough love and kick him out to flounder, poss find his own way ,or does that make me a bad mom? be honest please, i feel guilty enough, so if you feel the need to chastise me feel free!♥
now, my Q’s about bi-polar disorder…..if anyone who can help me figure out if all this past year has possibly set me on an emotional Rollmaster, or could i have something else wrong, any and all help is appreciated, then i could be able to further explain and understand for myself as well as for a future doctor for clarification!
thank you so very much for helping me, i’m so confused about so many issues, yet i love all of you, some have very close special places in my heat, and i rely on you every day!♥
thank you everyone, i spoke w/my doctor she assures me that with all the stress, and all the added stress that i am just experiecing normal highs and lows, she suggested talking w/a theripist, however she knows me quite well, and said she didn’t think i needed it, she gave me vitamins, a pep talk, and told me maybe it was time for hormone replacement teraphy or natural therapy, pending blood tests!
thank you so much for all your support, and HARE, i have planted permanent sunshine in my soul, and it was my other son……thanks!♥
it is our problem. i mean when they tell us that they drink cause of us. cause they think they are in love with us and we dont want to be with them sort of like a controlling factor. will it help us with our feeling we are in bondage or quilty cause of their drinking. i mean all the emotional abuse that they put us through will it help with that? and also the physical abuse for all the years even though that stopped and it became mental abuse? will it help with that? and if so where can i get to one? and man why havent i known about this resource years ago i went through over 11yrs of physical to emotional to mental abuse the physical stopped when i put him in jail then the emotional rollerercoaster to mental torment. he maybe changing ,but i believe i have been damaged. well he tries not to drink when around me. he doesnt live with me, but when i take our son over there to him and his mom, who he stays with then he tries not to.i try to be nice so he wont give them hell. i am tired.
I like the little guy but I am a proud and functioning alcoholic. I had today off and I told my exwife I was planning on getting hammered in the morning and continue drinking until I pass out tonight. Well she told me she promised my son that I would come over fully knowing I planned on being drunk all day. So obvioiusly I didn’t show up. As I’m sitting here drinking I keep asking why don’t I feel any guilt? I am almost aggravated that she just put me in the position to choose drinking or my son. She tried that with our relationship while we were married and look where that got her. I’ll buy him a Transformer or something to make up for it but I guess I am just a strong person who keeps to their convictions
Here is a short version of why i want this i have been raising my son for the past year and half his dad was in his life for the first 6 months and we split up his father was previously in prison before i thought he had changed he did… soo needless to say hes back in prison for 6-30 years for home invasion 1st degree.. i left him for the reasons:
alcoholic
druggie
verbal abuser
never worked or wanted to work
and he when we split up he lived 7 blocks away (WALKING DISTANCE) and never called or came to even see his son never even came to his first birthday most important one of all hes never been there for him always was mean to him, always but his habits before his son soooooooooo glad i got ride of him for me but more for my son. he don’t need to be around that…. but the judge is going to ask me why i want his last name changed to mine and i need to know how to word it and sound very intelligent..i am but im not good at wording things. can you help me?
I like the little guy but I am a proud and functioning alcoholic. I had today off and I told my exwife I was planning on getting hammered in the morning and continue drinking until I pass out tonight. Well she told me she promised my son that I would come over fully knowing I planned on being drunk all day. So obvioiusly I didn’t show up. As I’m sitting here drinking I keep asking why don’t I feel any guilt? I am almost aggravated that she just put me in the position to choose drinking or my son. She tried that with our relationship while we were married and look where that got her. I’ll buy him a Transformer or something to make up for it but I guess I am just a strong person who keeps to their convictions
I like the little guy but I am a proud and functioning alcoholic. I had today off and I told my exwife I was planning on getting hammered in the morning and continue drinking until I pass out tonight. Well she told me she promised my son that I would come over fully knowing I planned on being drunk all day. So obvioiusly I didn’t show up. As I’m sitting here drinking I keep asking why don’t I feel any guilt? I am almost aggravated that she just put me in the position to choose drinking or my son. She tried that with our relationship while we were married and look where that got her. I’ll buy him a Transformer or something to make up for it but I guess I am just a strong person who keeps to their convictions
I like the little guy but I am a proud and functioning alcoholic. I had today off and I told my exwife I was planning on getting hammered in the morning and continue drinking until I pass out tonight. Well she told me she promised my son that I would come over fully knowing I planned on being drunk all day. So obvioiusly I didn’t show up. As I’m sitting here drinking I keep asking why don’t I feel any guilt? I am almost aggravated that she just put me in the position to choose drinking or my son. She tried that with our relationship while we were married and look where that got her. I’ll buy him a Transformer or something to make up for it but I guess I am just a strong person who keeps to their convictions
I’m 17 and i cheated on my girlfriend Brooke while she was in jail serving a one year sentence for possession of marijuana cocaine and heroin. I had a one night stand and it resulted on my son Joesph being born 3 weeks ago today. I promised her i would help her get clean but i have caught her shooting up and snorting coke. She told me i cheated so i obviously don’t care about her. When in fact i love her i feel so guilty i cheated should i still feel guilty?
They said that they found meth. I think it was sad because she just had a bay and her son died, like, 5 months ago of meth and anti-depressants. She also collapsed on the sixth story of a hotel in Florida before she died.
My ex husband has taken up friends neighbors that he rarely would hang around with while we were married due to the fact my ex was/is a recovering alcoholic and all they do is drink and party.
Now that he is friends with them he wanted to take my 6 year old son around them and out camping in their mobile home. When I heard this I held my son from that visitation but here is the main reason why I did not let my ex take him.
About 3 months ago their house was raided for drugs. It was a very big deal. The whole street was closed no one could get down the street unless you showed proof that you lived there or your car would be searched. They did find drugs and stolen property at the home and they are now up on charges and facing jail time.
Now am I wrong or would any parent in their right mind not let this happen? I will not let my son ride around in a mobile crack house with a bunch of drug dealing drunks. Also does anyone know how I can permanently prevent this from happening in the future?
don’t know how to explain this! i feel ridiculously stupid even asking advice…but here it goes!!! i am living with a 53 yr old alcoholic, his 14 year old bitchy daughter and literally and i mean literally psycho 17 year old son, now i can take mild abuse from the 17 year old because after all he has been sectioned a number of times and does have major issues. but when my alcoholic landlord starts calling me a fat slag and plenty more inappropriate words for sticking up for my boyfriends son (age 9) who was being picked on by the 14 year old, i started believing him…this was 2 weeks ago and i still cry over what he said to me and my boyfriends son, i have been looking for a new home since the argument and whilst i am looking i am still getting petty digs now and again such as towels have been hidden from me and jerry (my boyfriends son) then the 14 year old will call us dirty for not having a bath, how does she know we havnt had a bath….???? because she hid the towel’s and….so on…something like this happens every day, i know it all sound petty or even pathetic but it is dragging me down…what do i do when i live in a family house and the whole family hates me????? i am a fun, happy bubbly person…even my boyfriend is getting fed up with my moaning…but he isnt here when it happens!!!
please give me some advice on GETTING MY OWN BACK BABY!!!!
To make a long story short, my son has been drinking and smoking pot since 8th grade. I’ve tried everything. He’s been in “juvey” three times but nothing seems to have an affect. He started college but quit and now works usually from 4-10. By the time he gets home at night I’m ready for bed and that’s when the party starts. I find empty bottles and cans and paraphernalia all over my garage almost every morning. He can’t afford to get his own place and his father, my ex-husband, has little part in his life. He, too, is an alcoholic and pot user. Short of involving the police and legally having him removed from my house, what else can I do? I also have a 15 year old son who is bound to be next!
For example, they decided to start drinking and took drugs.
In my opinion, I do not feel sorry for people like this because it was their decision. I do not want to be a hypocrite but if they are my family or close friends; I do feel sorry for them and try to help them, but when I/we try to help consistently over and over, I start losing that feeling and I’ll just tell them, “Go f*ck yourself.”
My mom also works as a nurse in the psych unit and told me this story today…
There was this happy family with one son who was 15, but when the husband died, the mother became depressed and couldn’t work but they had money left for a period of time. So the mother gives the credit cards and debit cards to her son and says to take care of himself while I try to get better. The son starts doing cocaine and buying painkillers off the streets. (What surprised me is that this went on for four years.) So when the mother finds out that there is no money left to pay for the mortgage; shunconcious and calls the police. She tells the story about what happened and they go back and take the son because he was a junkie. So now the son is forced to live alone in a special psychotic home for people who are addicted to drugs.
e tries to kill herself by taking some pills. The son finds her
Now my question is: do you find this story sad or funny?
You’re probably wondering how could a person find this funny. Well.. first, it is a sad thing, but again, the son used HER money on him while he could plainly see that the mother was sick and ill. That is the funny part. How a person could do something stupid while they know that if they do that, they are hurting them more.
This 19 year old is a retard in my book.
I would also appreciate answers from people who have experienced this. Feel free to share any experience also.
I completely do not feel superior. I try to help the people I care about. But when they keep doing it and not learn their lesson, I just tell them, “Your problem now.”
They have made a wrong choice. But I am 100% sure that they have seen and know what it can do, but are still to naive and stubborn to try it.
from his mother….She was a crack head for years and years, and he pretty much had to grow up really really fast, and I feel like I get the end of that anger because of this mother – girlfriend paradox. I have a son with him, but I was just wondering, what he could do to deal with it. He drinks alot, which I told him isnt good, and I think he should stop. He also smokes alot too, but he uses the drinking to sleep. He doesn’t talk about his feelings, he’ll just talk about how he was on his own, at a young age and I feel like our relationship is getting shut out, because of this continuation of this past. What should I do?
I know Its long, If you think it’s annoyingly long then please just dont read/answer.
I just feel like giving up with life. Not committing suicide as such but Its like this horrible feeling like I cant kill myself because I dont want to but when I feel this way I dont want to go to work I dont want to see anyone or talk about It i just cry and cry and feel awful. Ive had a f*cking shit life but i’ve never used it to gain pity, never told many people about it and never really complained cos theres always someone whos got it 10x worse.
I grew up in a violent household my dad was smoking weed and my sisters were into drugs in their teens. One of them became a heroin addict and had to go to rehab far away from where I lived. She got clean then relapsed 3 years later and died. I have nightmares and flashbacks of the moment the police arrived at my house to tell us she was dead. I didnt speak to her for 3 months before she died because I was bitter about all the horrible things she did to me and my family when the heroin had a hold on her. I just couldnt forgive her so I didnt speak to her and then she spiralled out of control in the space of a few weeks and then she was just gone leaving her son orphaned (his dad is a waster who wants nothing to do with him) at 6 years old so he had to live with my other sister. She was not into drugs except weed but her and her boyfriend grew cannabis and got caught and now he’s looking at a custodial sentence.
I love my sister and her boyfriend is great and a great father to the kids and a great father figure to my nephew but again, I just cant forgive them for what theyve done. They live off benefits and have just moved to a beatiful 3 bed house that hard working people have been waiting years for. My mum has paid hundreds of pounds for things for the house. I wasnt bitter at first but I really am now because I am desperate (really, painfully desperate) to get my teeth fixed as they are slightly crooked, yet she refuses to help me out by paying a couple of monthly installments for the braces (something which, unlike my sister, I would be happy to pay her back for, with interest), Instead telling me I must wait untill I have saved, something which will take months. I was promised we could get the ball rollingin january. If my brother in law goes down I have to move in with my sister and help look after three kids at 18 (she cant drive and I can so I would have to do all the driving – kids to school, sister to community service etc) when half of my mates sit in school all day doing F*ck all and get to go home to a happy, close nit family.
My dad lives in france I hardly see him. I have to live with my grandparents and my mum and have a bad relationship with my nan who uses her age as an excuse to be rude to me and not expect anything back. There have been times i have wanted to punch her because i dislike her alot but I cant because she’s an old lady and i try to respect my elders. And Its HER house not mine so I have to bite my tounge and the frustration kills when i want to just scream at her and I cant because my mum will literally like slap me and stuff If I raise my voice etc.
Im self conciouss and I feel like I would be SO hapy with the way i looked If i could just sort out a couple of things. I work 9-6 monday to friday and I come home and Its just stress stress stress. There is something wrong with me mentally but I cant work out what it is. Its not something obvious I dont think – just something i’ve come to realise myself. I am completely different to other people around me in the way i act. I build up ideas and plans in my head for prettymuch everything and if something goes slightly wrong I get devastated. I will cry if i know friends are out on a friday night and i’m not.
I also get the feeling i am a nicer person than anyone else because im polite, friendly and generous and I dont keep friends for long usually because someone just ends up knocking me down. I have to dumb myself down for people. Im not saying im more intelligent than people but sometimes its just the way i speak like I use big words and i have to stop myself otherwise I look like an idiot.
I am a very nervous and insecure, paranoid person. I want to escape but I just cant. I am not expecting a miracle from anyone on here but some wise words would be of help. What can I do to overcome these feelings? Please no rude comments about my family, they arent perfect but theyre my family none the less.
Thanks
(p.s spelling and grammar might be bad Im in a hurry to get the question out so not gonna bother going through it all)
SundaeRose..Unfortunately not. The area where I live is a very expensive placeto live and I dont have any money saved.
I couldnt leavem if i tried
these are my people strugglin,hustlin
duckin police
livin illegal
Ive seen fist fights turn lethal
but he stands strong
black skin
with a gun gripped inside his palm
u can find me on his arm
where im never leavin
some call him a heathen
he tells me callem when i need him
duckin police and keepin freedom
he tells me I complete him
and if they talk to the police
then we may need to bleed’em
he handles deadly situations
with no hesitation
he never leaves the door
without equips prepared for war
and now im sure
I never knew a love like this before
sometimes I shoot his gun
he tells me im gone have his son
and if he goes to jail
I’ll come with cash to pay the bail
police are asking me questions
but I will never tell
the cops could offer me a deal
and I would never squeal
he can trust me to keep it real
these other ho’s are fake
the illegal actions we do
have our freedom at stake
so its friends and family only
for our own sake
he only sells the coke
were rollin up the weed to smoke
I gotta watch his back
I see the pigs and hide the crack
one time to hide the rocks
i had to stuff them in my crotch
we gotta do what we gotta do
because our love is true
who cares what muthafucas say
thats why we paid today
I couldn’t leavem if i tried
these are my people strugglin,hustlin
duckin police
livin illegal
Ive seen fist fights turn lethal
but he stands strong
black skin
with a gun gripped inside his palm
u can find me on his arm
where im never leavin
some call him a heathen
he tells me call’em when i need him
duckin police and keepin freedom
he tells me I complete him
and if they talk to the police
then we may need to bleed’em
he handles deadly situations
with no hesitation
he never leaves the door
without equips prepared for war
and now im sure
I never knew a love like this before
sometimes I shoot his gun
he tells me im gone have his son
and if he goes to jail
I’ll come with cash to pay the bail
police start asking me questions
but I would never tell
they said heres the deal
where are the weapons concealed
but obvioulsy my lips were sealed
and I will never squeal
because I choose to keep it real
those other ho’s are fake
the illegal actions we do
have our freedom at stake
so we ridin low key
for our own sake
he only sells the coke
were rollin up the weed to smoke
I gotta watch his back
I see the pigs and hide the crack
one time to hide the stash
i had to stuff it in my as*
we gotta do what we gotta do
because our love is true
who cares what muthafucas say
thats why we paid today
copywritten so no copycats
if you cant feel this you aint hood, so why are you here?
My boyfriend has terrible teeth. Some would call it meth mouth, and yes he did smoke meth for a few months quite a few years ago. When he lived with his mom he drank nothing but soda and when he lived with his dad he drank nothing but juice. He rarely drinks water, and his teeth are overly-sensitive to heat and cold. His teeth are basically rotting off, and on the top he has ONE full tooth- which wouldn’t be if he didn’t have a tooth-colored filling on it. He has 6 full teeth on the bottom and recently got a bottom denture but never uses it because it hurts his gums. On the top his upper teeth break at the snap of a finger – he was eating crushed up peanut butter granola bars and it broke one of his front teeth. It destroys his self-esteem, and I can’t help but feel terrible about it. An employer won’t even hire him because of his teeth – and we have an 8 1/2 week old son together. He nor his parents can afford to fix it for another 18+ months. What can I do to make him feel better?
And he has consistent toothaches that are pretty much resistant to even prescription pain killers. They keep him up at night and have even brought him to his knees in tears.
When he got his bottom teeth extracted they had him on a 10 day cycle of penicillin after every extraction to kill and prevent infection.
I’m eighteen almost nineteen years old and my life is such a mess, all my life i have been raised by my gran due to my mums drug addiction and from a very young child i seen everything to do with drugs and alcoholism and understood all the ins and outs to it ..reality to me has been very clear all my childhood. My dad walked out on me and hasn’t returned as his new wife doesn’t accept me as family and so he didn’t even send me a card for my 18th or a xmas present last year… so i have been living with my gran .. and also in the household lives my uncle who is a binge drinker and gambler .. we had an argument a few days ago and he attacked me .. their was a riot in the house however i didn’t phone the police as my gran didn’t want to go to court against her own son and i respect my gran and didn’t want to put her in an awkward position so i decided to leave .. after a few hours i got so worried leaving her with my uncle that i returned to the house .. however she wouldn’t throw him out as he didn’t have any were to go. Through out all this for the last 2 years i have been seeing this guy and ive been really close to him .. we practically love one another however i have been keeping him a secret from the family as he is 40 ..i know its wrong but u cant help who you fall in love with ..he found out and says i was either to get out the house and stay with him for a while or hes phoning the police . .at a point he even said he was coming to speak with my gran about the situation. I tried explaining to him that i would prefer it if we broke all contact as im too stressed out and our situation isnt helping and he says he has my house number and friends numbers .. he could phone at any time but i need to learn to trust him.. however .. im constantly on edge every day. He bought me xmas presents and says i was to get a train to his house to collect them and he would drive me back with them.. but then i have the stress of explaining to my gran where i will be for 5 hours and how im going to get a sack full of presents from a secret lover into the house! i was so under stress with keeping secrets and trying to keep the peace and make everything ok with the family .. to make matters worse .. my so called ”best friends” havnt phoned or texted me in 4 weeks.. they found out about what my uncle done and didnt even bother to come and see if i was ok.. plus they all drive and one lives downstairs from me .. when i text them i get no reply .. also its my birthday 4 days after xmas and none of them have contacted me when i asked them if they would like to go for a meal for my birthday .. im paying .. im on the verge of having a breakdown .. im in such a mess and so confused .. i feel depressed and betrayed by everyone .. i don’t know what to do or who to turn to.
