My husband and I are raising his 8 year old nephew, in order for you to understand a little better i will go into our background a little, and i’m sure i will be adding more details if I run out of room! Ok so my sister in law (hubby’s sister) has 6 children, none of whom have been raised by her, she is a drug addict, 3 of her children were taken by the state and put up for adoption (the oldest now 20) and I have the youngest living with us he is 8, (2 live with their fathers) (yes 6 children 6 different men too i believe) we have had the 8 year old for about 5 years off and on for months at a time, and for the last 2 1/2 years he has been living with us full time, we get no financial support for him, we have not gone for custody or adoption, even though everyone says we should, we have no legal right to him…..I’m not really sure why but my husband doesn’t want to because honestly we don’t know why………..
This child is a GREAT boy, he can be so much fun, and he is happy until he is asked to do something then everyone is so mean to him, and all we make him do is “work work work” (which is NOT TRUE AT ALL I honestly think he doesn’t get enough work) for the last few months, he has been so depressed, he walks around with his head hanging down, his lip sticking out, he whines about everything i swear he doesn’t know how to talk like normal person (i do not condone the whining at all) I honestly believe it has to do with his mom, but he also uses that as a reason for any of his behavior (his teacher also noticed that he would use that as an excuse whenever he was in trouble he would say “well i’m just mad at my mom” I don’t know what to do with him anymore, he is stressing me out beyond words, he is making my life hell, i am the one that is here with him everyday cause my husband works……. is he just being a kid? how can i help him? I am SOOOOO stressed.
yesterday i gave him spelling words (his teacher recommended we do work over the summer because he is way behind all his peers, he has to take special classes for speech & reading) I know he is under a lot of stress, but he takes it out on me everyday, I am the one getting the worst of it. I’m too the point i thought about just taking him down to the police station and handing him over but I don’t want to do anything like that, I don’t want him to end up in the system, this boy is like my son, I want to help him, i want to make it better, i don’t want to send him away, i want to face this problem but i don’t don’t how to do it. He has serious emotional problems, and I’ve tried getting him into counseling but the only place i can take him to, never calls me back, and they have a wait list a year long….. does anyone have any ideas?? he says we are mean, but we bought him a 50cc chopper style motorcycle for his bday, and he HAD a ps2, tv & dvd player in his room!
my opinion, is he just has a poor attitude towards life, he is always looking at everything in a negative way, everything is too hard and he “can’t” do it, and his attitude is doing nothing but making things worse, he has gotten all his privileges taken away, he is grounded for 5 days as of now, but i keep doing this, the same scenario over and over, the same fight over and over, he always tells me we are so mean, and we love our son more than him, when we do our very best to make him feel like he is our son too, i ever call him son, and i try to give him lots of love, but nothing seems to be working! I am beating my head against the wall……..
ok my other problem, when i do try to do something extra special, or plan something fun for him to do, that always seems to be when he acts the worst……
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I have a very controlling mother who has had a lifelong agenda of finding fault with me as a son and a single father of 12+ years now. Most recently I discovered that my mother had taken my 12 year old daughter to AA meetings, because “she needed to accept the fact that her father is an alcoholic”. I am not, nor ever been, and my daughter was taken to several of these meetings w/out my knowledge or permission. Is this legal to do w/out obtaining consent?
I have a very controlling mother who has had a lifelong agenda of finding fault with me as a son and a single father of 12+ years now. Most recently I discovered that my mother had taken my 12 year old daughter to AA meetings, because “she needed to accept the fact that her father is an alcoholic”. I am not, nor ever been, and my daughter was taken to several of these meetings w/out my knowledge or permission. Is this legal to do w/out obtaining consent?
