How Do I Get My Son Off Drugs?

affirmative action but -and here comes the irony- they do this after pledging their loyalty to GW Bush for 8 years -who we all know got into Yale even though he was known to be an alcoholic, a coke-head and a wild party guy- because he was a “Legacy” student with a father who-at the time- was head of the Republican National Committee.

So, if the alcoholic. coke-head son of an influential party member gets into Yale because daddy has money and connections that’s perfectly fine with the far right, but if anyone so much as used the phrase “Affirmative Action” in relation to Obama’s admission process at Harvard that’s grounds for impeachment?

My son is 17 . Though he never really claimed that he is atheist, but I think he is or atleast in few years he will be open about it, coz I dont see him participitating much in religious ceremony or even coming to church along with us(family). Even our pastor asks always why doesn’t our son doesn’t come to church along with me , my husband and 14yr old daughter. Thing is if i leave beside his view on religion or god, he is very good soon like anyone could wish for. He is very good in studies and always ranks in top 3 in his class, he has bright mind and he wants to study medicine later, which we are proud of. He is not into drugs, alcohol or even smoking, sometimes when my husband is little over drunk my son doesn’t like that and he always ask his dad to drink in limit. Not always, but whenever he free from his studies he always help me in daily chores , he is very loving to his young sister, and I have seen him always talking to my daughter that she has to be serious in studies and if has any problem come to him . I mean he is very good child, but what just bugs me he seems to not believe in god and doesnt practice our religion much, though he is always helpful to needy ones and gives respect to everyone. People always come to me saying that I have brought up my son really good, he is my pride. So should i really be worried if he turns out atheist or maybe agnostic ? my friends tell me i should be strict with him, but i don’t feel too and even my husband is not pushy about it. what should i do ?

My husband and I are raising his 8 year old nephew, in order for you to understand a little better i will go into our background a little, and i’m sure i will be adding more details if I run out of room! Ok so my sister in law (hubby’s sister) has 6 children, none of whom have been raised by her, she is a drug addict, 3 of her children were taken by the state and put up for adoption (the oldest now 20) and I have the youngest living with us he is 8, (2 live with their fathers) (yes 6 children 6 different men too i believe) we have had the 8 year old for about 5 years off and on for months at a time, and for the last 2 1/2 years he has been living with us full time, we get no financial support for him, we have not gone for custody or adoption, even though everyone says we should, we have no legal right to him…..I’m not really sure why but my husband doesn’t want to because honestly we don’t know why………..
This child is a GREAT boy, he can be so much fun, and he is happy until he is asked to do something then everyone is so mean to him, and all we make him do is “work work work” (which is NOT TRUE AT ALL I honestly think he doesn’t get enough work) for the last few months, he has been so depressed, he walks around with his head hanging down, his lip sticking out, he whines about everything i swear he doesn’t know how to talk like normal person (i do not condone the whining at all) I honestly believe it has to do with his mom, but he also uses that as a reason for any of his behavior (his teacher also noticed that he would use that as an excuse whenever he was in trouble he would say “well i’m just mad at my mom” I don’t know what to do with him anymore, he is stressing me out beyond words, he is making my life hell, i am the one that is here with him everyday cause my husband works……. is he just being a kid? how can i help him? I am SOOOOO stressed.
yesterday i gave him spelling words (his teacher recommended we do work over the summer because he is way behind all his peers, he has to take special classes for speech & reading) I know he is under a lot of stress, but he takes it out on me everyday, I am the one getting the worst of it. I’m too the point i thought about just taking him down to the police station and handing him over but I don’t want to do anything like that, I don’t want him to end up in the system, this boy is like my son, I want to help him, i want to make it better, i don’t want to send him away, i want to face this problem but i don’t don’t how to do it. He has serious emotional problems, and I’ve tried getting him into counseling but the only place i can take him to, never calls me back, and they have a wait list a year long….. does anyone have any ideas?? he says we are mean, but we bought him a 50cc chopper style motorcycle for his bday, and he HAD a ps2, tv & dvd player in his room!
my opinion, is he just has a poor attitude towards life, he is always looking at everything in a negative way, everything is too hard and he “can’t” do it, and his attitude is doing nothing but making things worse, he has gotten all his privileges taken away, he is grounded for 5 days as of now, but i keep doing this, the same scenario over and over, the same fight over and over, he always tells me we are so mean, and we love our son more than him, when we do our very best to make him feel like he is our son too, i ever call him son, and i try to give him lots of love, but nothing seems to be working! I am beating my head against the wall……..
ok my other problem, when i do try to do something extra special, or plan something fun for him to do, that always seems to be when he acts the worst……

My sister has a serious drug addiction. I never know what drug she’s doing from week to week. One week its Loratabs, then it’s Cocaine, then it’s OxyCotton, etc. She and her drug addict boyfriend are both unemployed. My sister received welfare, food stamps, and child support. She has openly admitted that she is a drug addict and that she uses her child support and sells her food stamps to get she and her boyfriends fix. She spent her $2000 tax check on drugs . . . she admitted this. She always accuses my mother and stepdad of not loving her and not wanting her because they always have a lecture for her. She has a 4 year old son, and no matter how many times we have offered or threatened to take him until she got sober, she absolutely refuses to give him up. I understand she loves him, but what I can’t understand is how a parent wouldn’t want a better life for their child. My biggest fears are that she is going to end up dead and that my nephew is going to grow up just like her. How do I convince her that she needs help and until she decides to get it she needs to let somebody else care for her child? I want to call CPS but that department never fails to disappoint me.

How come I am not capable of going to school full-time, working, and taking of care 2 year old my son?

People act like I am lazy. Is it common for a mom with a 2 year old to work full time, go to school full time, and take care of a 2 year old? How does everyone spend 16 hours a day on work and school; and, use the remaining 8 hours to sleep, shower, commute, and take care of a toddler?

I want to go to school so I do not need to apply for assistance from the state for the rest of my life.

People treat me in a sadistic and callous way because they want me to do what their mind tells them that I should be doing. Strangers want to determine how I live my life and when I am not capable of doing it, they esentially tell me that there is no reason I am not capable of doing what their imagination pictures me doing.

They are extremely sadistic and cause harm to me because I can not fulfill the expectations that their imagination has of me.

Most people do not want me to spend time with my son. They want me to work full time and go to school full time. Actually for a traditional student to succeed at school, they need to spend 3 hours on schoolwork outside of the classroom for every 1 hour spent in the classroom. Ask any community college or university. This is common knowledge.

I could drop off my son at daycare at 6am-5pm. Then, my mom could watch him from 5pm-1am. Then, I could watch him from 1am-6am. I could keep him awake from 1am-5am to spend time with him. He could sleep from 5am-6am while I shower and get ready for the next day. Some of the time I could have random high schoolers watch him because my mother is disabled. Then, all of the money I am making working could be spent on childcare expenses.

I could smoke crack to stay awake 24 hours a day. If my son gets upset because he does not have any stability and is unable to form any sort of attachment with anyone, I could drug him with psychiatric medication to keep him quiet. He will need to learn that he cannot trust anyone and how to develop antisocial personality disorder.

Maybe if I started doing that, then I would no longer be considered a deadbeat mom and an individual who is a productive member of society.

I guess I should get started on teaching my son how to be sadistic and cruel to others, so he will be able to blend into society. But, first I will need to wait until the develops Retroactive Attachment Disorder due to the instability.

Well, then maybe the state would be happier to pay money for him to stay in a foster home than to provide assistance to a single mother who is attempting to better the life for her son.

The state does not like single parents. The state prefers to put the child into a foster home of a drug addict or ciminal.

It sure sounds like the government policies help to improve society in general.

My half sister was 20 yrs older than me but she was still always there. she was a drug addict then committed suicide. at the funeral i didnt even cry because my half brothers girlfriend said he should be sadder because he knew her for 40 years and i only knew her for 18. i loved her and wished i had done something to help her. do i have a right to be sad or should my grief take the backseat to my parents, brothers and nephews?

A few months ago i bought a baby mattress for my son’s crib because we sold my daughter’s when she moved into a big girl bed. We bought another from a friend, who’s son was recently put into a toddler bed and she said she was done having children so we bought the mattress from her for about 70 bucks.

My son is about 3 months old, and she is now pregnant with another child and wants her mattress back. She said that she is “going through some hard times and just figured out she was pregnant and will need the mattress back for her new baby, and she would buy it from me for 50 bucks.” Oh, and to “Think about it. Don’t feel pressured to sell it but she really needs it and that it would something a good friend would do.” Is this lady smoking crack? I’m so pissed. I don’t even know what to do, say, “No it’s mineeee” and act like a 3 year old?

What would you do? Just give her the freaking mattress back and get another or not give it back? I don’t have to give it back since i did BUY it?
Natalie, the thing is that she says that but you can tell it means a whole different thing. She said to “not feel pressured but if i was a good friend i would think this over” so how is that over reacting? she is pressuring me to give this mattress to her, and if she wants it back then i will sell it to her for 70 bucks.