My mom is wasted. She is upsetting me and I really am not sure what to do.. When she was with my dad, she was uptight, very christian like, and a perfectionist.. when I was 18, the same month I graduated High School they split up… they both moved away…. she took my sister with her, right before I had my son, she returned… Atfirst I knew she changed, and I thought it was VERY good at first I thought it was for the better.. She was a bit more relaxed, still acted like a Sincere Christian although I noticed she actualy drank alcohol.. which was fine.. NOW… I get home from work and she is WASTED, tonight she is BEYOND wasted.. talking in weird voices and just sprawled out on the couch.. my son (5 years old) thinks its funny, but she is making comments to him which I think are Unappropriate, although he doesn’t seem to understand them.. He doesn’t have school tommorow, and instead of bringing him to his DAD Mom and Dad (they always watch him when he is off) I thought she might enjoy a day with him… NOW she is telling him ” Why do I have to watch you tommorow” ” I don’t know if I want you to stay home tommorow with me” She is playing guilt trips on him and acting like she is crying saying.. ” You don’t like me” making him start to cry and beg her for approval.. HELLO.. an I the ONLY PERSON that thinks this is wrong??? I told him to leave her alone.. and I told her to stop.. NOW.. she Upset my son.. he doesn’t understand whats going on.. She is yelling at me calling me stupid cause I told him to leave her alone, I finally got her in her room and I locked her door.. I don’t need this stress.. now he is in his room in a time out for calling me stupid.. and I feel bad for punishing him…?? ** Adding on.. I am not a uptight Christian type, I am relaxed, I enjoy my alcohol.. but getting wasted I feel if anything is for the bar scene or hanging with your friends.. Not Alone.. on a weekly basis..
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Modernization says Alcohol is very bad for health, so doesnt Jesus said as per according to old testament No drinks to be consumed and nor consume Swine, but christians have changed the whole thing, why ???
My 14 year old son came home very drunk last night and he stank of alcohol and even smoke. Last year he said he would never smoke or drink! I really really believed he wouldn’t.
What should I do?
Is it like this with most 14 year boys?
But he’s the type of person that would smoke and drink without caring about the consequences he is aware of them lately he seems to be living in a bubble, and thinks that these consequences don’t apply to him, I thought I raised him well everyone tells me I have…
He brilliant in school his teachers say hes a plesure to teach and he gets good grades…
Ive been made aware that his friends don’t drink or smoke…
My wife of 5 years and I have 1 child together. Our son is 3 years old. Shortly after his birth my wife began to drink often. About a year ago she became what I considered an alcoholic. She drank most every day and drank a lot. She was always drunk but when at work. She works evenings so she got drunk before work but not wasted and wasted when she got home.
After some big problems eg. driving drunk with our son and passing out when she was supposed to be watching him, I was at the end of my rope. I had a professional intervention done and put her into rehab for her health and for how she was behaving with our son and how she was treating me.
She was in rehab for 30 days and got out 2 weeks ago. The day before she got out of rehab she told me she had had sex in the parking lot with 2 different coworkers on 3 separate occasions over a 3 week period in March. One she had sex with once and the other twice right after she got off work for the night. My wife that I knew prior to alcohol would have never done such a thing. She told me this before getting out of rehab because she said the alcohol made her a monster and she wanted me to know so I could move on or forgive her and start anew life with her sober. She swears she will never drink again as it makes her a monster. She says if it was not for being an alcoholic that she would not have been in the state of mind of wanting to do anything to make herself feel better about herself. She says she would not like a person or think very highly of them if they behaved as she had…she swears she is not that person. In the last two weeks she has signed a post nuptial agreement in which she gets nothing if we get divorced…I get everything we acquire in the future including the house, cars and savings that we have now. She is trying to prove to me that she will never do such a thing again. She knows I am loyal and would never hurt her as she has done to me so she trusts me not to leave her and use the post nup unless she does something in the future to deserve it. She has returned to being a sweet caring wife but this could be because of guilt. Can alcohol really make a person a monster like this even when not drunk?
An illegal immigrant was free on bail awaiting a deportation hearing when he allegedly killed his teenage wife in Mahopac, a law enforcement official told The Journal News on Monday Paul Amay, 25, was detained by federal Immigration and Customs Enforcement agents after his release in March from the Westchester County jail, where he had served four months of a six-month sentence for driving drunk with his infant son in the car.
Amay was turned over to immigration officials on March 22, then freed by federal authorities after posting bail.
The deportation hearing was to decide whether he would be sent back to his native Ecuador. His next appearance was set for late January.
Amay has been in the United States at least since 2004 and had been arrested in Westchester at least four times for drinking in public and once for disorderly conduct, authorities said. Police had also responded to several domestic disturbances between him and his wife, Graciela “Gloria” Zhingri Amay.
Amay was arrested shortly after noon on Nov. 21, 2009, in Ossining after he was seen driving erratically. Police found his 7-month-old son unrestrained in the car and Amay’s blood-alcohol level was 0.29 percent, more than three times the legal limit for driving while intoxicated.
The arrest on misdemeanor charges of DWI and child endangerment came just a week after Gov. David Paterson signed Leandra’s Law, making it a felony to drive drunk with a child in the car. Amay would have been the first Westchester defendant charged under the law, but it did not take effect until mid-December, so he only faced misdemeanor charges.
When ICE agents learned Amay was in jail, the agency issued a detainer warrant so it would be notified when he was eligible for release. An order of protection, meanwhile, kept him away from his wife.
http://www.lohud.com/article/20101228/NEWS01/12280327/-1/NEWSFRONT/Mahopac-man-accused-of-killing-wife-was-facing-deportation
JACKSONVILLE, FL –- An illegal alien who hit and killed a Jacksonville karate instructor while driving under the influence of alcohol was sentenced to 10 years in prison Monday.28-year-old Marliano Alberto accepted the sentence as part of a plea bargain. The judge also revoked his license for the rest of his life.Police say Alberto was drinking and speeding when he crashed into 27-year-old Russell Nevado’s car on A.C. Skinner Drive last April.Nevado’s family, friends and students filled the courtroom Monday for the sentencing. Several people spoke, including Nevado’s fiancée, Sherry Mendoza.
“Russell represented the meaning of being a true angel,” she told the courtroom. “He lived life to the fullest, putting thought and effort into other people, his family and himself.”Nevado was a black belt karate instructor at his family’s studio. He and Mendoza planned to get married, start a family and open another karate studio.
His mother, Marilyn Nevado, broke down in tears as she described the day police showed up at her door to tell her about her son’s death. She says that she didn’t believe them until the officers showed her his driver’s license.
“It felt like my chest had been stabbed many times and someone ripped my heart out of my chest,” she said.
She said their family hasn’t been the same since Nevado’s death, but she hopes the sentencing will help them move forward with their lives. Still, she said, burying her son was the hardest thing she ever had to do.
“With no hesitation I would have given my life for my son to have lived longer.”
http://www.firstcoastnews.com/news/news-article.aspx?storyid=92015
The slant of your question: What do you think about this- do you truly expect anyone to say it is great or similar? My question asked what is your view point ,we are still allowed to have view points are we not ?
which of the following prospective jurors would the attorney for a defendant drunk driver be likely to challenge for cause or if necessary peremptorily challenge?
A. a women whose only son was truck and killed by a drunk driver
B. A secretary
C.A reformed alcoholic, who now lectures on the evils of alocohol
D. Both A and C
I have a neighbors (Father & Son) who are alcoholics, the son is unemployed and is drunk 90% of the time, the father works and drinks when he’s not at work. They always have booze with them when they drive, the son does not go anywhere with out a beer, and the father seems to always come home from work with a cocktail, he works at a Golf Course restaurant and a bar. Should I report them to the police and let them deal with it or wait until I know they are drinking and driving then call it in?
I like the little guy but I am a proud and functioning alcoholic. I had today off and I told my exwife I was planning on getting hammered in the morning and continue drinking until I pass out tonight. Well she told me she promised my son that I would come over fully knowing I planned on being drunk all day. So obvioiusly I didn’t show up. As I’m sitting here drinking I keep asking why don’t I feel any guilt? I am almost aggravated that she just put me in the position to choose drinking or my son. She tried that with our relationship while we were married and look where that got her. I’ll buy him a Transformer or something to make up for it but I guess I am just a strong person who keeps to their convictions
I like the little guy but I am a proud and functioning alcoholic. I had today off and I told my exwife I was planning on getting hammered in the morning and continue drinking until I pass out tonight. Well she told me she promised my son that I would come over fully knowing I planned on being drunk all day. So obvioiusly I didn’t show up. As I’m sitting here drinking I keep asking why don’t I feel any guilt? I am almost aggravated that she just put me in the position to choose drinking or my son. She tried that with our relationship while we were married and look where that got her. I’ll buy him a Transformer or something to make up for it but I guess I am just a strong person who keeps to their convictions
I like the little guy but I am a proud and functioning alcoholic. I had today off and I told my exwife I was planning on getting hammered in the morning and continue drinking until I pass out tonight. Well she told me she promised my son that I would come over fully knowing I planned on being drunk all day. So obvioiusly I didn’t show up. As I’m sitting here drinking I keep asking why don’t I feel any guilt? I am almost aggravated that she just put me in the position to choose drinking or my son. She tried that with our relationship while we were married and look where that got her. I’ll buy him a Transformer or something to make up for it but I guess I am just a strong person who keeps to their convictions
I like the little guy but I am a proud and functioning alcoholic. I had today off and I told my exwife I was planning on getting hammered in the morning and continue drinking until I pass out tonight. Well she told me she promised my son that I would come over fully knowing I planned on being drunk all day. So obvioiusly I didn’t show up. As I’m sitting here drinking I keep asking why don’t I feel any guilt? I am almost aggravated that she just put me in the position to choose drinking or my son. She tried that with our relationship while we were married and look where that got her. I’ll buy him a Transformer or something to make up for it but I guess I am just a strong person who keeps to their convictions
I have a son, whose father is legallay allowed to have our son for 2 weeks visitation. I am afraid after a drunken phone call last night that his father, who has a court order against him that says he is not allowed to drink while our child is in his custody, may try to pick up our child from the airport while intoxicated (similar things happened over a decade ago). Now, I have told my son, under no circumstances is he to get into a car if his father smells like alcohol. Will the law enforcement community help my son if he calls from an airport phone? What can he do, being a minor, to keep his father from making him and his little sister get into the car? If my son has the court order in his hand, and calls the police, are they going to help him? Or does he actually have to commit the driving crime (dui/dwi) and endanger our child before they can help? I have to allow this visitation, per court order. My son says he will do this, but I shouldn’t have to ask. So what do I do?
Otherwise he is a caring husband, good father and excellent son. We have been married for 12 years now and all my efforts for making him quit drinking have gone waste. He just doesn’t want to quit drinking and would never admit that he is drunk. It is now affecting his health also and he is losing interest in sex. Since past few years i have observed that he is not able to perform well in bed. He doesn’t want to listen to anything related with his drinking. But it is affecting our married life badly.
My 2 year old son’s dad and I have never have been married. We’ve lived together for 4 years, even after breaking up, thinking that parenting & money would be easier living together. As of this past weekend, I made a decision to move out in September. This is something dad agrees with, & supports. We both know the fighting has gone on too long.The problem is that dad is a drunk. He lives for alcohol & doesn’t care who his lifestyle affects. He comes home drunk from work (or anywhere, really) on a regular basis, even when he promises each night not to. He can get physical & violent (not in front of our son, this always happens after midnight, so he’s in bed). I want out of this sooner, but I can’t move before my new roommate is free of her lease in Sept. Is there something I can do legally? I’m tired of his alcoholic lifestyle & he doesn’t recognize his problem. And I know he’ll lie if accused of anything. He’s even threatened to lie if in court. I need help. I need to protect my son
We have no shared bank accounts, and I have a house full of my belongings and a situation that doesn’t allow for a “transition home” or anything like that. I have parents that will help, if needed. But I have to maintain my life while making this change. I have an awesome job and I can’t neglect that either.
I can’t just “leave”. Til September, I have nowhere to go, and a “shelter” won’t be happening. His mother is visiting this weekend and I don’t think she has a clue that his drinking is this out of hand, but I’m sure as heck going to tell her.
I appreciate all the advice so far, but I can’t see anything that would work yet. Isn’t there sometime I can do to force HIM out? If I leave, I’m leaving him with all my stuff and I can’t do that. My family is in another state, so this could get complicated, I don’t have local family to help me out. I just thought maybe I could get some sort of order for him to move out or something, and then I could maybe get some assistance to help pay the $900 rent for the next 2 months, or ask my parents.
The lease is in both nof our names. And as of June 1, we’re not on a lease, come to think of it. So I’m not sure what that means.
I’m not “tattling” to his mom, I just need for her to stop seeing me as the whiney, annoying party and him as a drunk. He never does it in front of her, she lives 400 miles away, we barely ever see her.
And I can’t just move. I know it’s hard to understand, it’s even harder to explain. But this is 2 levels of a home ful of my stuff, and everything is unorganized. All my picture proof of anything is on a broken laptop, etc etc. It’s a sticky situation.
My 2 year old son’s dad and I have never have been married. We’ve lived together for 4 years, even after breaking up, thinking that parenting & money would be easier living together. As of this past weekend, I made a decision to move out in September. This is something dad agrees with, & supports. We both know the fighting has gone on too long.The problem is that dad is a drunk. He lives for alcohol & doesn’t care who his lifestyle affects. He comes home drunk from work (or anywhere, really) on a regular basis, even when he promises each night not to. He can get physical & violent (not in front of our son, this always happens after midnight, so he’s in bed). I want out of this sooner, but I can’t move before my new roommate is free of her lease in Sept. Is there something I can do legally? I’m tired of his alcoholic lifestyle & he doesn’t recognize his problem. And I know he’ll lie if accused of anything. He’s even threatened to lie if in court. I need help. I need to protect my son
We have no shared bank accounts, and I have a house full of my belongings and a situation that doesn’t allow for a “transition home” or anything like that. I have parents that will help, if needed. But I have to maintain my life while making this change. I have an awesome job and I can’t neglect that either.
I can’t just “leave”. Til September, I have nowhere to go, and a “shelter” won’t be happening. His mother is visiting this weekend and I don’t think she has a clue that his drinking is this out of hand, but I’m sure as heck going to tell her.
I appreciate all the advice so far, but I can’t see anything that would work yet. Isn’t there sometime I can do to force HIM out? If I leave, I’m leaving him with all my stuff and I can’t do that. My family is in another state, so this could get complicated, I don’t have local family to help me out. I just thought maybe I could get some sort of order for him to move out or something, and then I could maybe get some assistance to help pay the $900 rent for the next 2 months, or ask my parents.
The lease is in both nof our names. And as of June 1, we’re not on a lease, come to think of it. So I’m not sure what that means.
I’m not “tattling” to his mom, I just need for her to stop seeing me as the whiney, annoying party and him as a drunk. He never does it in front of her, she lives 400 miles away, we barely ever see her.
And I can’t just move. I know it’s hard to understand, it’s even harder to explain. But this is 2 levels of a home ful of my stuff, and everything is unorganized. All my picture proof of anything is on a broken laptop, etc etc. It’s a sticky situation.
My 17 year old son had a dentist appointment on monday (i had one today)… he has his license so he drove himself and i thought everything was fine. well, at my appointment today, the denti9st informed me that my son smelled like alcohol, was slurring his words, hitting on random women, etc.
should i talk to my son about this? make him apologize? or what?
My son was drunk this weekend and I wasn’t impressed. I’m guessing he’s around 5’9 and 200 pounds. He told me he had capt. Morgans spiced rum with Pepsi but never how many he consumed. So I was wondering how many he had to get that drunk (Mumbling, he was stumbling around etc.)
I’m not challenging him to drink, I already said I wasn’t impressed. I was just wondering how many he had comsumed
Not the first time, he drove extremely intoxicated with son in 03, We were still married then. he is so defensive and believes he dosent have a problem. both of our sons 20 and 15 have nothing to do with him. was with him for 15yrs. this behavior is nothing new. trying to get court to order rehab or something.have protective order as of yesterday. would you feel guilty wanting rights revoked
My son is 14 years old and is in the 9th grade. Yesterday was his birthday and his teacher allowed him to have a celebation in the classroom. He says that his teacher gave him and about 5 of his classmates 3 shots of vodka. My son came home from school drunk and slurring his words.
My husband doesn’t really think that its such a big deal that our son came home drunk. He says that our son is old enough to make his own decisions and if he wants to be a drunk then that’s his business not ours. Is this right? Should my son be allowed to get drunk if he wants to? Should I allow his teacher to get away with this?? Help please!
