How Do I Get My Son Off Drugs?

Should i emigrate with boyfriend who cheated when F****d on drugs who is suicidally sorry?

So, its a long story and alot has happened but this is the shortened version, so sorry its very extreme and to the point – i need some real advice and guidance…. All thoughts greatly welcomed.

Me and my boyfriend have been together 2 years, (seeing each other for a year before that) and have been living together for a year. He works offshore so our relationship has always kept its excitement, ie, trying new things, still doing different activities etc. The last couple of months into the relationship we had sunken into a comfortable routine then he was hardly ever there. Prior to us moving in he had an extreme drug problem – ie waking up and snorting cocaine but he really turned himself around so we could be together. Things have gone from bad to worse, we hardly saw each other he was heavily back on the drugs – heavily smoking crack and drinking neat vodka until he could stand no more. He would do things and have no idea that he had done them the next day. I wanted to help him but couldn’t – i thought it was just a phase he was going thru (maybe a mid life crisis) For a few weeks i suspected he was either dealing drugs or cheating on me….he admitted to dealing drugs. Then a week before our anniversary (he was going to propose to me in a hot air balloon) 1 night out of the blue i found a letter on his laptop to his friend in prison explaining how he had a mad night on crack and slept with 2 prostitutes in a hotel….i knew that he wouldnt of admitted it so i packed my things and left. He is greatly remorseful, crying and begging everyday, Constantly calling and texting, and i believe him. I know what strange effects drugs have on people. I now feel sympathy for him because he tried to kill himself on 3 different occasions because he says he has lost the love of his life. (although he has a beautiful son from a previous relationship – why would he leave him?) He tried to OD, hang himself and slit his wrists. So i have now been going around to see him…on 1 occasion he wouldn’t let me leave the flat, head-butted me and smashed my phone then he cried and was sorry after. I still love him and want this to work but could i ever trust him not to hurt me again – physically or mentally…? he understands hes got drug problems and has been going to get himself sorted with counseling etc and has been straight for 3 days now. He wants me to move to Dubai with him for 3 months 2 his dads then he wants to travel the world together. (that was our plan) I dont want to be without him but what do i do…?! Is this all too much to overcome…weve got money so can pay for the best counseling but am i wasting my time…?

I still love him and dont want him to hurt anymore…but please help!

Thanks

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Also, he is leaving in 2 weeks and wants me to go – so i need a decision quick…
And don’t know if this is any useful information but he also has ADHD…

We had an extremely loving and very exciting relationship prior to his drug binge…why shouldnt i trust him again…? I havent already made my mind up but i know it sounds that way – i just dont want to regret my decision for letting him go – his theory for moving to Dubai is to come clean – ie no drug tollerance out there – please help! im completely lost!

My 24th birthday is in 4 days, meaning I’ve been an addict for 7 years. My adopted sister had her son eight days ago, and they want me to be the godfather, except they’re worried about my drug use around my nephew. Her husband, my best friend, broke down crying to me because he was so worried for my life. It’s scary, because he is a hard ass and is not known to cry at all. My twin brother has distanced himself from me. He is so disappointed that I have heard him denying that we’re related. Another good friend of mine is a former alcoholic, so he understands. He is trying to help, but I’m just a little jerk and won’t stop. All of them are trying to help me.

I have been using meth, coke, heroin, and pot. So far, I’ve only been able to get off weed.

I have been to rehab countless times and have overdosed twice. I really want to stop, but it’s like I’m sharing my body with someone else who refuses to cooperate and stop using. I’ve become very depressed about it.

Am I beyond getting assistance to kick my habits? Is it all up to me, even though my addictions have become so strong that I can’t break them? If you could give mr any advice or suggestions, that would be great. Thanks for your time.

How long will it take him to feel good if quitting cymbalta, clonazapam, suboxone, cocaine, alcholol, xanax and oxycontin, how long will his withdrawal be?
He is in a medical detox but I could only afford ten days and I am thinking he will need more then that with the amount of things he is coming off, I am just worried because they do not seem to be worried about it but I think he needs longer

My aunt is addicted to prescription drugs and has been for a while. She also has an eating disorder. She only drinks water and never eats. She is also addicted to smoking. She takes pain killers and morophene patches constantly. She doesn’t even need them but one doctor she goes to continues to prescribe them. He even knows whats going on. She gets so high on the pain killers sometimes she passes out in bed with a cigerette lit and she has almost burnt herself up multiple times. She gets so bad she can’t walk or talk she is so high on them. She don’t even know where she is and what day it is. I have suggested to my other aunts that we should do something but they say that the only person that can do anything about it is her son and husband (that is is seperated from). Her son is an alcoholic and doesn’t care and her husband would never say anything about what she is doing. I fear I am the only one that can help. Is there anything I can do to help her?

Re-action for these drugs: Marijuana, Ecstasy, Crystal Meth.
I’m just curious haha xD would you be mad or try to help them? What would you do?

There is this girl named britney in my town she’s 17 years old and has a 1 year old son. britney and her family have a bad reputation Basically they are well known for causing problems. britney’s mother is a alcoholic who doesn’t have a problem watching her grandson while under the influence. britney’s father committed suicide when she was young sadly although who could blame him, after all that family is trouble. her two brothers are in and out of jail… anyway recently Child Protective Services took her son in their custody because she was snorting prescription pills, smoking crack, and possibly shooting heroin, her son tested positive for drugs.. and because the family is unstable the boy will probably go to a adoption agencie since britney doesn’t know who fathered her son. will she get into trouble for having drugs in her son’s system?
will the mother be sent to juvenile intill she’s 21?
The mother neglects her child by not watching him properly. she takes him out without dressing him warmly Not putting a jacket on him, or hat and gloves. she takes her son out for a walk 2:00 in the morning and later then that strolling him arould when she has no business being out in the first place. she starts fights with people and becomes very violent in front of her son, (she’ll fight another person with her son there)
Because we live in a small town basically everyone is in everybody else’s business therefore rumors are spreading about her alot. of course Child Protective Services did take her child but people are talking about why they took him from her. she deserved it she shouldn’t have children when she can’t even take care of herseif, britney will probably grow up and be just like her mother a alcoholic with four more misfits as children just like her siblings.

I asked my ex to leave many timeshe finally moved out last april. He was mentally&physically abusive. heis an alcoholic& abuses drugs. He saw his son up until Sept&thats when he stopped paying support. . i would fight for him to see my son& most the time went nowhere except for bringing down my mental health. My ex had agreed to allowing me to bring my son across the border to see my fiance whom is in the army. i stayed there for a month and we went back and forth to see my parenst and to stay in the states. each timei made sure i had my ex’s permission. he never called or cared to see his son. about a month ago i had to see my ex to have him sign a pape. my son was pointing syaing who is that. my son doesnt even know who he is. about 5 months ago icalled the police on my ex for coming in and assualting me. other day i had to call the police cause he called me and wanted to see my son & really had me scared. what are teh chances i can get sole custody &have his rights taken away?

Why can this happen? He lives in another country and when I went to visit him for 10 days, he didn´t have any patience to me at all, he felt stressed with me, even though he just saw me at nights because he works during the day. I know for sure that he is not using drugs anymore and goes to meetings with people that had same problem like him and he is very happy doing this. But my worry is his conduct with me has changed so much. Thanks
Since I knew my son was gay about 10 years ago, I felt guilty and very sad, but after thinking about this reality I said to myself that homosexuality exists, and he is my beloving son (I have to sons) great guy, very sincere and excellent human being. That´s what more matters to me and my husband. He knows we love and admire him always, and the most important thing for us is his happiness. He´s a great architect and loves what he does.

My brother got mixed up with this girl a few years back and they had a baby. He is now 2. They are no longer together but share custody equally. My brother told me on Friday that she told him she had snorted heroine a few times recently. I freaked out. I do not have any experience with drug addicts, no one i have ever known has had a problem. He says they are working out getting her help but do not believe he can do it on his own. He is not on drugs, he is a nice boy, just got mixed up with a girl from the wrong side of the tracks. Her mother was a druggie her entire life, in and out of rehab.
She is in the army reserves, should i call them. Would they be able to get her help. I do not trust that baby going back to her without her going to rehab. I do not believe that heroine is the type of drug you do only once or twice. Also, if the army tests her, how long does it stay in the body? What if she tests clean? So confused but need to do something to help my nephew. I am 26 and my brother is 23. Thanks
My brother was at my house next to me when talking to her about it. It is not 2nd hand information. This is a real situation.
Aime: cross my t’s and dot my i’s. Trying to ruin her life? ? Are you serious? I am trying to help her. I do not want to see her go down the same road her mother did. And i DO NOT want any harm to come to the baby; a defenseless little boy who lives with me every other week. I don’t know where you are from but in my book, people just to do heroine to ‘try it out’. She needs help. People die because people like you sit back and watch. Ruin her life, i think not.

We live in a small town in PA and sent him to CA for Rehab, came back feeling and doing great for about 5 weeks then back on the stuff again. His mother will not let hem stay with her, so he lives with Dad ( me) and has a hard time doing anything responsible for a long period of time. He is wasting away. Ideas ? Help ?

I just found out last night from a very good source that my ex has started using meth. What can I do to help my son? Thanks in advance.

My ex back and forth whatever is on cocaine real bad, she still goes to work, but falls behind on rent, etc and I have to pick up the slack, after paying my share.

Saturday, we were on a date and some how ended up @ her mom’s(she said she needed to pay her mom some $$$) where her dope selling brother lives, she went inside, came out starting a fight from no where, got so loud her mom came out looking @ me like what did you do, instinctively I said , This is your daughter on drugs.

I know her mother is desensitized to that shit(offspring on drugs), b/c her other two daughters are bad on it, and one of the sons smokes it, and the youngest brother supplies it to them all! And they idolize him like he’s the best, if he gave a shit about them would he keep them hooked taking their money? I don’t think so.

Like I’d said this happened on Sat. today she started her shit brought it up told me to get out, after I just gave her all my money yesterday for rent, and paid on her furniture and TV. She’s making me feel really guilty as well.

My son lives with me and I found out he smokes marijuana, abuses cough syrup, and occasionally uses cocaine. I know he uses these drugs for sure and not sure about what other drugs he does that I do not know about.

He has dropped out of college and now is a bartender part-time and seems to have little motivation to do anything.

What is the best way to approach this situation?

Years of fighting doctors that have him hooked, mood swings, depression, living in a fog, can’t focus, behavior problems that showed up when he started these chemicals at two years old – but it doesn’t “exist” and I’m a “bad parent”. It’s clearly stopping him from accomplishing what HE wants to do in life, the talents he has are not coming out as they should.

Yes, I’ve been all over the FDA website, was on this years ago regarding Singulair that they FINALLY acknowledged as a major problem in many adolescents, but he just gets shoved from one to another. I try to take him off, use food high in antioxidants & anti-inflamatories, lots of vitamin C, but I can’t keep up or control it nor influence him.

I need to find an experienced way that works. He can’t function without these meds now. Playing the trumpet & clearing lungs works, but he’s so fogged, with “A.D.D.” that comes out as O.D.D., so he resists any homeopathic or natural approach. Not a “controlling parent”, just very concerned as I watch this bright kid lose himself – he’s essentially a drug-addict with the help & blessings of pediatricians over the past 15 years, and I’m just a “dingbat”. But I have watched this correlation between behavior patterns and increased chemical usage for 15 years now, it’s so obvious to me but I cannot convince anyone else.
Tired of this pill factory this country has got us on – any tried & true suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Any direct messages to this young man would also be very helpful – my sole voice & efforts have diminishing returns – no good at this point – I’m a “nag”.

Don’t try to sell me anything. Looking for real people who have managed their symptoms or weaned themselves or a loved one off of this stuff.

Thanks much.
Thxs Aeriol- We’ve been thru specific allergies tests, no change in protocol.Asthma has never been acute enough to land him on a nebulizer, but only once 10 years ago.Clearing his lungs via exercise & trumpet works well, but sitting or laying down causes him to cough during allergy season especially.It strongly appears that his body has been relying on these chemicals for so long, that he does need to be re-trained.Switching doctors in July, we’ll see if we can’t get a different approach as you’ve suggested.For any parent with a young child with mild asthma, BE WARNED about this chemical cycle that many doctors put your kids on.There is more data to back up my “gut” feelings about this, I’m no genius, but somebody’s making a lot of money off of these meds & doctors go along with it.Took me 4+ years to get the FDA to support my concerns re: SIngulair & it cost my son, as he lived in a “cloud”, basically “stoned”. With the new “healthcare reform”,it’s only going to get worse. Thx.

I have two teenagers who I am scared to death of them falling in to the sex, drugs, and alcohol consuming culture. Most of all gangs and the like. I have told the kids about the dangers of all three areas, but am I doing enough? I try to lead by example, but is that still enough? Please advise.

My family is questioning why I would not want my nephew in my house *especially* now that I have kids. ??? He has not sought help (never went to rehab or acknowledged that he has a problem), is extremely violent towards his immediate family (i.e., death threats)), has vandalized his parents’ home several times… I *love* my nephew and hope that he recovers from his addictions, but I am a parent who has an obligation to protect my own children. There was no nice way to break it to my family even though I tried. Now, I am being regarded as the bad guy. I seriously don’t understand… Am I the one who is crazy here? How would you have responded in this situation?

A nephew, age 46, wants to move in with me for a while as he was put out of his home. I let him stay here once before because he can really be nice but he can and often is verbally abusive, a total slob, will do nothing around the house, disappeared for days on end without calling, When he showed up he would sleep for two days. He’s really smart but doesn’t seem to want to do anything for himself. He does day work for a temp agency when work is available.

I want to be helpful but am afraid to go through the hell I went through with him the last time. I don’t know anything about drugs but it seems there must be some answer to this problem.

My son swears he is not doing drugs and he gets soooo frustrated with me. I do know he drinks.

The mother is 48, the son is 30. She introduced him to drugs when he was 13, and apparently this is how they bonded. She neglected and abandoned him when he was a child, and they meet up and do drugs together.
They are now on a drug binge together, and he’s lost a lot of weight. I’m worried for his health, and think its all despicable. How would you explain the psychosis behind all of this?