How Do I Get My Son Off Drugs?

My son used to not drink or drug. when he went to college he started doing a litle here and there. It did catch up with him. Now he is not married no kids and lives his mother and I. He has a job. Works very well. He has been on a Meth. program for 2 years. He has stolen some of my drugs. In the last 7 years i have had to fight 3 types of cancer and problems. Many surgeries etc. He may could walk away after a detox i don’t know. His job may have medical benifits in about another month or two. Idon’t know if the benifit would be drug rehab. My wife and I are stable but have been sinking slowley because of dying mother in law and two grandchildren that we help over 70 percent in there finances. Actually i see no reason for him to quit. Her goes to work and when he gets home he lay’s in bed and watches t.v. He is paying off debts etc. for when he was away from home for a few years. He used to be everybody’s buddy but they all grew up and had families. he does have it made.

My son went through drug rehab one year ago and is doing great. He has not relapsed at all and has set some quality goals for his life and is pursuing them. He is only 21 years old and is currently in vocational training and cannot afford his own medical insurance at this point in time, but I would like to provide that for him. Does anyone know if he’s eligible since he has a history of drug abuse?

My son is in a Drug and Alcohol Rehab and has been for 3 months. To work the program, he is looking at 18 months to complete it. So far he is doing good, but often gets depressed. He was addicted to Crack. Crystal Meth and Alcohol. I am not at all familiar with the drugs. If he completes the 18 months, what is the likelihood that he will go back on drugs and what are the long term side effects on his mind and body? He was using for 8 years. And I haven’t seen him in 8 years because of this. We talk on the phone and I send him what he needs until he is own his own. Can someone enlighten me on the chance of getting my ole son back to normal? Thanks so much!
I forgot to mention that my son is 32.
Where my son is, they will not give him any medications. They do not believe in it.

should i start not talking about him and foucus on other things?

My 10 year old son and I are being asked (told) to leave our home, because the owners couldn’t sell the property at the outrageous price of $800,000 for a 4-plex, so have decided to make it a rehabilitation home for alcoholics, and drug users.
Should I be PO’D as heck?
Yes it is legal for them to do this, to good families.
If some of you think kicking a child out of a safe, and secure home is just dandy, then I say you’re a liberal, and have no care for children.

he has abused many substances and i fear that he has used crystal meth lately with is uncle

My son is 17 years old, and has a severe drug addiction problem. He’s on nearly every Hallucinogen, and smokes marijuana daily. He won’t go into a drug rehab program, we’ve tried before. Can I commit him without his consent? I’ve heard before that at 17 he needs to sign a consent form, which he won’t. But there must be a way to get him help, he’s not even 18 yet. We live in Vermont if that helps. Thank you for your answers, we greatly appreciate them.

He is trying to get clean and I will make sure he does but don’t think jail is the place, does anyone have suggestions?

my husband was in rehab for 7 months straight out of prison. he was out only a month and a half until he relapsed last week. he had to stay in jail for 5 days. he told me the reason why he relapsed is because we always fight. we always fight because i don’t trust him. why should i? he’s lied to me numerous times in the past that he quit doing drugs and going to aa/nn meetings when he was still using. he also has a addictio to lying. i think he might be a pathilogical lier because he lies about anything and everything to everyone including his family. we fight alot because i always call him on his lies. he got kicked out of his half way house last week when he told me and his roommate he would be going to jail because his couselor sent his UA to the lab and the results will be coming back positive. his room mate yelled at me, told him he should leave me because my husband blames me for the reason why he does drugs and relapses all the time. i viewed his criminial record online jus now because he said he doesn’t know when he has to go back to court because he’s in drug rehab. this is what it says on the court minute text.

DEFENDANT ADMITTED TO COURT THAT HE RELAPSED AND
SHOULD HAVE ASKED FOR HELP WHEN HE HAD ARGUMENT
WITH HIS WIFE. COURT ADVISED DEFENDANT TO CALL
SITC OR SUPPORT SYSTEM FOR ASSISTANCE. COURT
DIRECTED DEFENDANT TO SET UP CRISIS PREVENTION
PLAN, USE IT AND PROTECT HIMSELF WHEN THE SAME

see he blames me for his drug addiction. why can’t the judge and his councelor see that his drug addiction is his fault and not mines. i don’t know what he says about me to them. i had called his councelor 2 weeks ago and left her message saying to test my husband because i think he is using again. of course he died it. he said he wasn’t using at the time and the reason he relapsed is because i told his councelor he was using which he claimed he wasn’t using at that time yet. he tells people i’m crazy and i only say these things because im mad at him. he says i stalk him because i don’t believe him that he’s going to his na/aa meetings which is so not true. i’ve only been to one aa meeting with recently. the other times he says i can’t come because he doesn’t want me to come and we fight about it because i don’t believe he’s actually going because he’s lied about attending them in the past. he’s also been to a meetings before when he was high. if he’s really going i don’t know why he won’t show me his meeting papers anymore. when he first got out he would show me his paper that was signed by the person in charge of the meeting and now he makes some lame excuse he lost them when i found it in his bag when i was looking threw them. i knew he was lying because he said he lost wallet with his meeting paper, debit card and some cash that was in their because he called me from the store and said he was buying dinner. i told him i thought you lost it, he said someone sent it to him in the mail at the half way house. the only address in his wallet is his id from our house. their was no address with his half way house address on it. i can’t believe he blames me and the courts believe everything he says. they blame me too. should i jus divorce him. i don’t know how much i can take of this anymore. he told me the councelors said to get a restrianing order on me because i left a message telling his councelor to test him for drugs. i don’t know why they would say that since he won’t tell me what he told them.

after all this i love him still. we’ve been together for 12 years since i was 15. married for only 3 and our son will be 6 next month. i’m afraid my son wants to be like my husband because’s he’s been misbehaving in school alot and when i ask him why he says he doesn’t want to be good. he wants to be bad. what should i do? i’m avoiding my husbands calls right now.
i also have depression and social anxiety. i’ve always suffered depression but every since my husband started using drugs its gotten worse. i guess he blames me like how i blame his for why i feel sad and isolate myself all the time but its hard when someone you love abuses drugs, lies to you and blames you for the reasons why they do what they do. i can’t believe he would do this. his jus lost his dad in december due to drugs. his real mom and step mom also died from drugs. i don’t know why he is doing this. sometimes i jus want to end my life because i don’t have anyone only my husband, my son, my mom and my brother. i don’t have anyone i can confide in because like i said i have social anxiety. i don’t have any friends to talk to and my therapist can’t see me until june 3rd because he’s booked.

I have two nephews and my brother is a rehab drug addict but with a minor mental issue and a wife that still has a drug issue, What should I do to help the problem? I have children of my own and I love my brother but I don’t want to hurt anyone and I’m all alone with this problem I worry about my nephews. I want to help they live in NJ and I live Phx. What do I do?
My nephews are twins and they are 3 years old and yes I’m willing to take them and take care of them but I also want to take care of my brother who is 28 with a mental problem and a sister in law who is not willing to change her ways I’m just afraid that I will lose my nephews if the court decides to put them in foster care,I don’t have any addiction what so ever. I just enjoy life.
My sister in law is 43 years old has four other children that are not under her care I just want to make sure if I fight for my nephews I will be able to take them legally and not hurt anyone I love my brother and he is trying to be a great dad he has asked his wife to stop using drugs cause he has stopped and he is trying I’m trying to convince my brother to leave his wife and come to my home with the babies and I could help him here and watch over my nephews. Give your opinion about the details.

My nephew is addicted to drugs and reciently signed himself into rehab. He is there for 14 days but feels that he needs to be in longer, but he doesn’t have insurance to cover the cost, where can he get help?

ruining all our lives..he’s addited to oxycontin and other drugs. He lies constantly, bilks relatives from money, stole Christmas presents Christmas eve, was discovered sleeping in my mother’s attic where he had gotten through two sticks and a chain on the patio door, broken in apartments, refuses rehab, broken his mother’s heart, loses jobs, apartments, cars, a wife, and much more. He steals repeatedly from relatives and breaks in our sheds and my mom’s house often. Made many death threats..people are scared to turn him in as he may retaliate or he may just be using controlling behavior. he gets away with murder.

Do they know they are ruining their lives and many others? Do they care? Is only thre drug important? What makes them quit? Need more insight..
how can you make them want rehab…I feel prison might get him off drugs..his mom pays and gets him in programs and he doesn’t show up, lies and says he went and then they find out he didn’t etc.

That’s the problem…we all decided not to give him money etc but his grandma (and sometimes) brother get the most begging and sometimes break down and help him…they are hounded and the “strong ones” generally are not approaced..his mom also breaks down sometimes and helps him behind her husband’s back who has thrreatened divorce if she helps him but she feels sorry for him when he is freezing and homeless…he also threathens his grandma a lot and she has helped him most (except maybe his mom)…he has ruined her life and she is dying and he is so stressing her out and hastening her death that is no more than 6 months away according to the doctor. We do need to be united but then he breaks in if we don’t help..somehow he cons his way in..a master manipulator and liar and stupid grandma
keeps buying his bull crp stories.
Abhishek Joshi –you offered some real insight into things. It’s true..I think this is a kid (well he’s 28 now but a kid to me still) who is full of anger. His dad was a jerk–never there…abandoned him..bought him drugs they took together when a teen, broke promises he’s visit all the time. This was a kid noone liked banging doors and cussing everyone out when only 2 years old..how we disliked him and talked about how rotten he was as he was..stole five sets of keys from me and apparently threw them in the gully and slashed my tires as a kid cause I wouldn’t let my son (who he liked) stay all night a few times so I’d bre forced to stay..breaking in houses as a teen and just a troublemaker. Spoiled like crazy by a mom who felt sorry for him that noone liked him with no parental insight and very permissive, buying him things like chinese stars, bb guns, minicars, bow and arrows (which he proudly and loudly announced much to my emabarrassment at the museam I took him to when
looking at stuffed birds that he loved shooting them between the eyes ith slingshots and such at about 5 years old..bought him things like garbage pail kids sticker and all these things at the inappropriate ages of 2-7 and saying to me don’t buy hiom toys for Christmas he doesn’t like them…sorry he got toys from me..what am I gonna buy him…weapons? She bought this bratty. ungrateful kid who cussed out teachers and threw chairs at them $300 shoes and jackets. he was very dependent on his mom and adept at xontrolling her….until she remarried at his age 18 where they essentially threw him aside for their own lives and the two males hated each other…Steve (the kid) blaming Mick (the new husband) for taking away his mom who he had frustrated but wrapped around his finger..Mick was also controlling with Sue (the mom) fake names in the middle torn between husband and son..the husband mostly won and it was then I felt sorry for the kid throw away in my opinion the son who had been
all becoming nothing although she still helps him sometimes behind husband’s back)…I think as you said the kid is full of anger..the family is disfunctional and people have been judging him from birth he feels unloved and is gonna make everyone pay even if it destroys him in the process. He was obsessed with guns and is an angry kid..angry at the world and his family and life..he sees himself homeless, suffering, losing jobs and possessions and wife and family and homes and blames everyone and the drug is his relief from the anger and pain and makes him happy and forget. It is a sad situation but whast you said helped me have more compassion for him.

has destroyed everyone’s life stealing multiple items and money from my now dying mom, disabled brother, other brother, and apparently has broken into multiple houses to support his habit and it again homeless and jobless and was hanging around my mom’s house..broke into her house before Christmas last year and was fopund hiding and living in the attic and stole multiple expensive Christmas presents.

He has stolen from me a credit card and changed $1000 before discover, has my social security number or did as he stole my driver’s licence and in my lifetime 5 complete set of keys. He somehow gets in the houses and cars even if locks are changed. I have a shed at my mom’s and he broke dozens of locks anfd it appears he has stolen stuff but I am afraid to look due to him living in it and using the bathoom everywhere in his drugged up state..broke windows and dead squirrels may be in there and I am afraid of the virus they may carry so don’t even know what he took from there..(cont)
it was the gills and a mess and now appears
half full but he claims he threw everything in the back which may be..I can’t see as it is all stacked to the roof due to his moving everything around. Naturally I do not want him in there. He used to be obsessed with guns and made multiple threats to kill everyone in the family. Everyone is terrified of him (he is addicted to oxycontin & possible other drugs. ..his mother has disowned him due to threats by her husband (who isn’t his dad) to divorce her if she helps him in any way (she is wealthy) as the nephew has lid so many times, cheated her of money, she spent thousands trying to get him help..he lies and doesn’t go to treatment..he did just go and claimsd he is off and (as usual) notone will help him..gee I wonder why after he stole so much and lied so much and threatened to kill everyone violently). I doubt if he is off drugs like he claims as he lies all the time.

My mom is dying and has about a month to live of her
prognosis and can’t take his continual begging and stressing and all. Anyway, I went to fireworks with my brother and a picnic and apparently this nephew was in my car..I knew right away as brights were on, radio way up, back light on..my other brother said druggie was in the car as the alarm lights were flashing and a big stack of my papers from the car was on the bench where this kid (in his late 20′s) was sitting and going through..he claimed h was not in the car..I found a purse in the car missing and it was found in my mom’s back yard where this guy slept on the porch..so I know he took it (luckily I took my wallet and purse with me and the purse was empty)..I don’t see these papers my nephew had that my brother said he put in the car just for a couple..those have my address on it..he did not know where I lived but now does. He is skilled at stealing people’s identities as this is what he and an accomplish did when they broke in the housing..the jerk..I hate him. I am terrified
now feeling no safety..I just left my mom as I was preparing some food for tomorrow and it hit me on the way home, he has my address.

I am in my late 50′s and never had a computer until this year. I am disabled and have no way to replace the computer, and printer, vcrs, big stereo birthyday present and two TVs..it took my whole life to get this stuff. I now only have $100 for food and gas and clothers and misc after the bills so obviosly can’t replace stuff hre steals if he comes here and braks in..he knows my cr so can see if I am here or not..what can I do to protect my belongings? He got into my mom’s at christams with two sticks and a lock in the sliding door.

My chain lock was breoken by my apartment so it does not appear too study. I also have a slide lock and live on the first floor so he could break a window..* am worried he may have taken some preapproved credit card forms and might break in to get those activated and ruin my credit. I hate where I live and am locked in
in here for life almost in I don’t get out and I must have good credit to be approved for the subsidizedFFousing I have breen on the list for 16 months for and may get in in the next 2 years..if he ruins my credit then what..I cabn’t stand it here as so small. Please advise. I do not know if I have enough proof to get a restraining order which I was unable to get on shed as it is my mom’s property and she won’t file and now is too sick. I have no money for rehab..he lies and does not go..she is too ill to go get a restraining order and maybe afraid..brother who is guardian said not going cause he wasn’t the victim this time..he almost seems to enjoy freaking me out more..how can I protect my property

Please help, this is serious.

threatens her life, breaks in her house….she is afraid of threats and that if he loses his trucker’s license, he will always hang around..at least this ways they get a two or three month break from this stress till he loses his job. He keeps hanging around. They (my brother) called police where they found out he was in attic and broke in house without their knowledge and stole Christmas presents and other items. How can we get her to quit enabling him as she falls for his lies and sob stories..He on crushed and snorted oxycontin and maybe other drugs. he ignored attempts at rehab..after calling police and saying pressing charges..she gave him a blanket Chrsitmas eve and let him sleep on back patio.
well, we tried..we had a meeting once and all agreed not to give him money, items or food and help him reach bottom quicker and seek help as when his mom pays for rehab and he agrees to go, he doesn’t or he lies and says he went but he renigs on it. I think the death threats by gun and instability and his impulsiveness and blaming everyone else fo his problems stiffle stciking with calling police..plus he is hard to catch..the fear he is controlling us with is a factor and permissivemess and difficulty with saying no to his pleas and not feeling sorry for him mess things up..the ones firm in not helping him or not afraid of him, he leaves alone. what can we do?
that should be grandson not nephew
good suggestion, free to chat, but I don’t think they will call police due to how they are…siometimes but not consistency and that can mnullify the order.
thank you, little peewee for your compassionate answer and offers to help…it is making it hard on my mom..but it is up to the males in the family who are braver and younger to intervene. I am a 57 year old disabled woman. I do give suggestions but they are often ignored. It is very frustrating. He makes me so angry adding to my mom’s intense suffering as she is in real pain.

My son is in his 40′s and is renting a room at my home. Recently I have discovered that he is using illicit drugs. My son brings over strangers from time to time and the phone is ringing off the hook with people looking for him. I need to get him out of my home but I can’t have my son living on the streets. His actions make my husband very upset and he no longer speaks with myself or my son. My family and my marriage is at a breaking point and I don’t know what to do.
I beleive the drug is methamphetamine

My son is in a program called Vista Bay and I was wondering if anyone has any info on it. They are a very expensive program and I need to know if they are legit. Thank you!