How Do I Get My Son Off Drugs?

I am breastfeeding my 5 month old son and do not drink alcohol. However I am going out for my sisters bacholorette party and I would like to have a few drinks. Does anyone know if a few drinks would affect my breastmilk and/or my baby? I have read about “pumping and dumping” for 24 hrs. after drinking, but I’m not sure if that is effective. My son comes first and just trying to find out if I shold stick to water and sodas that night? Thanks

My son is 24 years old and just graduated from university this summer. He has been living with me and the family for the summer while he gets ready to move to Europe. Since my ex husband was an alcoholic, my son eventually grew up to hate alcohol of any type and refuse to touch them. But it was never really bad until he came back home this summer.

We learned that he greatly looks down upon anyone who drinks. It get so bad that it got to point where my daughter once brought a case of beer home for her boyfriend, my son suddenly stop talking with her boyfriend and call him a low life and white trash and have threaten to hurt him a couple time. This was very scary since my son was a division 1 wrestler. We can also see he lose so much respect for his sister. He has even gone as far as refusing to shake anyone hand if they’re known to be a drinker. He also has punched his own father just because he tried to get my son to go to bar with him.

Odd thing is, he had a couple friends from Europe coming over this summer and he has absolutely no problem with them drinking or going to bar with them at all. When I asked him about this, he say Americans who drink alcohol are a low life white trash who just want to get drunk and worship alcohol while Europeans just treat it like any other drinks and don’t act like a idiot about it.

This is making me very uneasy and it is hurting me that he’s like this. I can’t even enjoy a glass of wine without him giving me a dirty look and it is just ruining his relationship with his father, sister, and her boyfriend. Once he saw me drinking a bottle of corona with Mexican food and he was like “what are you doing” I tried to explain him I enjoy beer with Mexican food, he was like “you’re being an idiot” which hurt me. I’ve even caught him pouring out a bit amount of wine or any alcohol around house a bit at a time and warned him he’ll not be able to live here if I caught him doing that again. I and my husband aren’t a big drinker, we may drink only a glass or so once every month or so. My daughter’s boyfriend like to drink but he’s not an alcohol, he just like to have a couple beer after work or so. Yet my son cannot respect this at all. Then he turns around and has absolutely no problem with his European friends drinking beer.

Why is he like this? What can I do to fix this problem before he move? I don’t want him to leave on a bad term.

O.k. here we go…This is really hard for me but I need help. I’m 23 years old, my husband is 26, & we have an 8 1/2 month old son (my world). My husband has always been a pretty heavy drinker but we’ve been together for almost 6 years & I was so young when we 1st got together that I didn’t care or even notice that much because I drank back then too. Anyhow, he got 1 DUI/DWI when we first started dating & I just let that one go…he got charged with that one. He almost got another one (a few years later) when he got mad at me one night & took off…paid a lawyer & beat it (never went on his record) but by this time I’ve realized he has a problem & at first I didn’t know how to deal with him. I’d rant & rave, scream & yell, cry & fight with him…to no avail. I couldn’t understand why “we” as his family were not enough to just make him quit. Did he not love us like we loved him? Should I honestly try to get him to change? What’s wrong with me? Is he gonna screw up again & cost us more money? All of these questions ran through my head day after day…I have become his “enabler” & am “codependent” on him–I know this in my heart because I find myself trying to help him weasel his way out of things to save us money or for him to keep his license (the 1st DUI is off his record & he got his CDL’s & began driving a truck…his supposed dream job) Like just last week, he got charged with another DUI (on a friggin’ 3-wheeler this time) & if he does happen to get out of this one & manage to save his license he will still be forking out hard earned money (around $4000) for a good lawyer who can help him. So, I left…I took my son & we moved back in with my parents. I told him when he decided to get help & straighten out his life for “himself” — that I may come back. If not, after awhile, I’ll divorce him & find somebody that can make me happy. I do love him, don’t get me wrong, with all my heart & soul. I’d walk to the ends of the earth for him but I know that I am also “weak” against him because I love him so & just want him to do better. My question that I need some help with is “Do you think I should stay away from him completely (as far as me, not his son; I can’t keep him away) or should I include him in some things (family events), go to dinner with him, a movie or something, & go back to my mother’s house…no overnight stays & only every now & then to give him some sort of incentive or hope that he has a chance to possibly get his life back?” He’s stayed sober for months at a time but he’s more of a binge drinker…when he does it, he does it big. He’s starting AA on his own for the first time tomorrow & I’m going to start Al anon just in case he’s too far gone & I have to divorce him–I can deal with it better. That’s the last thing I want but I have to do what’ s best for my son. I guess I just feel so bad because I love to be around him sober (we’re perfect, so to speak) & going from seeing a person everyday of your life pretty much to not seeing them at all is drastic & just as heartbreaking as being with him. I’m going to stick to my guns & stay at my mother’s just to see what he’s going to do on his own but I just wanted to see what someone else thought about basically just “dating” until he either proves to be one thing or another…I know nothing else to do because even though he’s done some stupid things & I think he’s just ignorant at times my heart longs for him. He’s not verbally or physically abusive, he does work everyday, he’s a very active person, but he’s still young, too. I guess he’s what you call a functional alcoholic (from what I’ve read) The only thing we’ve ever really fought about was “his drinking or something to do with drinking” I used to drink with him but not anymore, I just don’t desire to after all I’ve been through with it. I don’t want my son growing up to think that its o.k. to drink all the time & he’s got his options–he can take ‘em of leave ‘em. Tell me what ya’ll think!!

My husband has a serious drinking problem and he hasn’t been home in 5 days now! He missed his and our son’s birthday! Could he be a a severe drinking binge, or is cheating on me also? I am not saying that I am ok with the drinking and not coming home but maybe he could get counseling. If he is cheating and drinking too much, well I can’t keep doing this! This has been an ongoing problem with the drinking throughout our relationship. I just can’t do this anymore we have been together 12 years and I have put up with this! We now have 2 small boys and this is not healthy for them! I can’t stand them asking where is daddy? I am so fed up!! I don’t know what to do anymore! Please give me some advice!
He has been calling me off and on. He does have a cell that he turns off when he doesn’t want to talk. When I am able to talk to him he says that he is on his way home! I just spoke with him again and he said that he has been drinking at our old vacant house that is on the market. He said he would be home in the morning, we will see!

Ohio is one of the states that allows underage consumption with the presence of a guardian/parent. I know this is true for the home but am unsure about the public.

Is it allowed for a parent to buy his or her son an alcoholic beverage in PUBLIC? Say at a restaurant or sporting event? As long as that can be proven? Im having trouble finding documentation for that.

He has a court date for Monday morning, and I really don’t know what to do, its Saturday now, I can’t get hold of any lawyers, and even if I could, I can’t afford one now. Advice please

He knew he would become an alcoholic if he started drinking. He has changed and is not the father that he used to be. I just found out that he is drinking a lot. Do I keep my mouth shut?

This is my first question! LOL.
Sex? Oh my goodness.

He’s a musician and believes this behavior is normal.

I’ve thoroughly checked his room, but kids are creative.