My son is 19 years old and his fiancee and him attend UF And live around 4-5 hours away. Well anyways his fiancee is pregnant with there first child she claims she missed a pill and that is how she got pregnant. And well anyways my son made it clear before that, that he was not ready to become a father until they were out of school. Well he somewhat flipped out on his fiancee and that is why his fiancee and him came to my house when she broke the news to him. Well anyways his fiancee are close i consider her a daughter i never had. Well anyways we were talking the other night and she told me she has noticed that my son has been drinking a massively amount. He was in the ER the day before her and i talked for alcohol poisoning. And he is still talking she say’s she trys to talk to my son and comfort him and everything but he is just pushing her away. I am thinking about driving down there and sitting down with my son and having a talk with him because if he keeps up at this pace he will hurt himself or even die and i do not want to lose my son. And i also want him to understand that he can not be like this around his baby or his fiancee and that he could lose them both. Advice?
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My kids are 35 and 32. When their dad left they were 10 & 13. Soon after that ( I recently found out) they started drinking. As they grew up it got progressivly worse. These are people who have (at one time) have professional jobs, great relationships etc.. I have enabled them a lot over the years. Paying their bills, house payments, food, clothes cars, insurance payments, you name it, I’ve done it. All along, knowing it was wrong. I had so much guilt over their dad leaving. They have “both” lived with me at one time or another. They have destroyed my homes and my heart. I know you will all say, ” It was my fault” I moved from California to Washington, with my present husband of 20 years. Soon after we got here, my oldest son came here for 3 months. It drove me crazy, again my fault. One day while I was at work, my husband put him on a bus and shipped him to New Mexico. He was homless and had just the clothes on is back. Eventully, I mailed him his stuff. My question is. How do I sleep at night ? How can I get myself to realize I am powerless? I feel like one day I will get “the call” and one of my kids will be dead. I constantly live with this. I have stopped paying their ways, but I feel guilty that I live in a beautiful house, I am warm, I have a good job, good credit, nice cars, someone who loves me and a little money in the bank. I don’t know how to stop the insanity that I am causing myself over their screwed up lives. I have already done the Counseling thing. I could never follow the Counselor’s help because at that time, I couldn’t do the right thing and kick them to the curb. I love my kids, but hate that they are choosing this destructive path in life. I just want peace within myself and don’t know how to get it. Please give me some suggestions. Thanks!!
he left me while i was 6 months pregnant to go back with his ex. but he came back after my son was 9months old. when he went to jail i visit him every month even missed a visiting day.when he got out everything was good. then he cheat on my don’t know how many times and the only reason i found out was because he give me a s.t.d i forgave him he cheated again i found out how?? he gave me another s.t.d last june and he said he cheated because i didn’t show he love. i forgive him again.
he hit me on many accounts one because i didn’t wanna got out or he took the car and disappeared for three days when im the only one work in the household. i forgave him!
his dealing with a meth and crack problem which he stole my washer and dry and stole money out my bank account his had some of his drug friend at my house while i was at work.
im i doing the right thing for me and my two kids my lil girls 7 and my sons 2?
I just found out that my son’s ex-girlfriend is pregnant and it may be his. My problem with this pregnancy is that this girl does hardcore drugs, (she snorted cocaine during a previous pregnancy, not by my son.) I am wondering if there are laws that protect the fetus against harm such as she may be exposing the fetus to. Whether it is my son’s or not I don’t think it is right for a child to start life with the problems one would have from drug exposure.
my son was put on 3 yrs probation, for robbery w/his cousin. now he do smoke weed, which i can say doesn’t bother me, i don’t but i’m ok w/it he’s a grown man.. ok he was goin to report regulary like he was suppose to and she would always down him on how she could lock him up and he found a job @ this chicken coop but it was 10 miles outside the city limits, she denied em travel for it, so he continued lookin and of course living in CLOVIS NEW MEXICO, w/that type of rap sheet he can’t get one. but my point is he stop reporting, he gave two dirty U.A’s first one was intake. so he got caught and can’t get out til they find him a bed in rehab. she was caught doing METH, but by turning herself into a rehab(which didn’t help) she can continue to work for the probation and parole office, not to mention, she has giving so many of her probationers breaks on the same situation(dirty ua’s and absconding) so why is it so hard on my son??
allan & john, yes all of it is @ fault from him to her, but y should he look bad and not her, they both drug users, only diffrence is she WORKS
for Law Enforcement, so who’s really wrong. i jus want’d to know is that fair, not for no one to put my child down, we’ve all made misstakes (ALL)!!!
I am placing this here because I think a teen would know rather than a parent.
Okay, so the other night my 15-year-old son and his friend were still up at 4 a.m. When I came downstairs, I saw traces of flour everywhere. I noted the flour cannister on top of the fridge where it belongs. I asked him if this was was flour or powdered sugar and what they were doing with it. He said it was sugar and they were “making something.” I was frustrated and just told them to go up to his room and go to bed. 15 min later I notice the flour cannister is gone from on top of the fridge! I call him back down and ask where it is. He tries to pretend he doesn’t know! Finally he says “oh yea – it is in my room. We were trying to make playdough.” HUH??? I know that isn’t the case cuz there is no trace of “play-dough” anywhere, but what the heck could they have been doing with it?? My only thought was bagging it up and selling it as cocaine, lol, but no evidence of that either. Any ideas?
Anima09 “attitude problem?”
Anyway, I could see the “mischevious boy” thing. Knowing my son, I bet it was the trying to make an explosion thing, like an experiment. I am glad I asked cuz I had no idea flour could (maybe?) do that? I really didn’t think he was bagging it up, just joking. And he was definitely not trying to bake me something, haha. Anyway, just was curious cuz it was so odd to me!
I have been with my partner for almost 2 years. In this time, his ex wife has had joint custody of the children (3-14y,13y,5y) and has had a total of 12 boyfriends. As each boyfriend leaves the picture a new one enters. The second to last one sent my partner an email that she had written between a friend, where she talks about her cocaine abuse, bloody noses, and passing out, etc, while the children were with her. We called Children’s Aid, but to our dismay they said there was nothing they could do…. they can not make her do a drug test as it violates her rights (What about the CHILDREN”S RIGHTS???!?!) Regardless, her most recent ex boyfriend argued with her that her cocaine addiction was too much for him, in front of our 14 year old son. This past weekend, he cried, and is very worried about her use. At the time, he is wondering if she does it, and says that the newest boyfriend is a dealer according to his friends. CAS has not helped us to this point ….what can we do??
my mate just told me that the money that i gave her to give her son for his parole, she never gave it to him. He has to pay it off by july 19,2008, then he’ll be free, what should i do? because i wonder what did she tell him about the money?
we have custody of our nephew now for 6 yrs. his mother is a heroine addict and his father is not only on drugs, but he is a theif, constantly in and out of jail. we have been in counseling for a few years but the nephew just doesnt understand why his parents arent around.
If your teenage son or daughter was doing any of the following, Which would you find LEAST BOTHERSOME
a) doing drugs/alcohol/drinking and driving
b) having multiple sex partners or homosexual
c) doing badly in school
why?
My son will be staying at a place called Faith House, run by a church group for ex-felons and recovering drug addicts and alcoholics. There are 14 guys and a live-in house manager. He said they told him he will be randomly tested for drugs once or twice a week. He wants to know if they will send him to a bathroom for the sample or if they will watch the urine come out of him (I honestly think it’s more because of bladder shyness that he’s worried)
My SIL & brother come in from the city every weekend. Just about every weekend she diaspears to do crack and binge drink, leaving the care and responsiblity of my two nephews with us. They just dont care, they lack total empathy. My youngest nephew (3) has down syndrome and frequent seizures, he is tube fed. The ‘button’ is infected and I’m so scared I will over dose him in on his meds bc I just dont know when he is suppose to have what. I feel so incompetant and stressed. I live with my parents bc they are elderly and have some health problems. I have 2 daughters 5 & 5mos, plus a neices & nephews that we raise 7 & 10. My father just had a knee surgery & my mother is just getting over pnemonia. Last night my Sil & brother came to town. He left to help a friend who got stuck. Not long later my SIL was talking with me in the kitchen, she left the room and I heard a door open and close… she snuck out! She most likely wont return till Monday, stay in the guest room for 2 days and come out angry w/ us! This all just happens so often that its become normal. They do this on birthdays, Thanksgiving, Easter, Christmas. I mean when I was 39wks pregnant, my mother was sick w/ pnemonia, my father had strep, and they left for a week! This was when my nephew w/ down syndrome just started getting tube fed & no one was told about anything. Its difficult bc you just learn how to give him his meds and the docs change them and she doesnt inform us on ANYTHING! Her oldest son was living with us last year bc he couldn;t miss any more school or he would fail. He started coming to me with owiies and problems and she got mad at me! He’s 9 and when they disapear I’m the one talking to him, telling him its not his fault. She cant even use the excuse that the youngest is stressful bc this has been going on 4 ten yrs! She misses they youngest ones appointments and takes none of it serious. It does no good to talk to them bc nothing changes & it causes even more problems. We all feel like we’re enablers but what do we do? If she did this to her family once, they would call CPS on her in a heart beat. she never does anything like this to them EVER and I’m soooo angry! What do I do?
I guess why I’m letting my brother ‘off the hook’ or not coming down as hard is because he has a disability as well & his finer motor skills are lacking thus he can’t really give meds or do feedings. Thank you for all the feed back.
Just asking because i go to a alternative school ( cause i got in trouble ) and i see alot of kids that look like they come to school out of it and sh!t like that do u think thats right. HTF cann u let your child hurt there life like that with stupid sh!t continously like that?? I dont do drugs i would thinks its proaly the most overated ga*est thing to get into nowa days. I would probably bust the breaks off my childs a** if i found him doing smoking drugs rather than alchol unless he was doing the big time alchol ( like ill probably not be as hard if he was doing beer or what not ) but the thing about smoking drugs it accumalates more. Stuff like bar alchols arent as bad to me its a way lesser image. I dont think that sh** is attractive for girls to do it thats a fu**in turn off to me. Yah it probably is a rush and you probably get a good fu**** up filling from it but at what expense? I think these parents need to stop being bit*** and crack down on this sh** how about yall?
Lmao satin yes there is a way to stop you i know that lol. I bet a good beat down from highly strick or disciplinary parents will help or even boot camp. Usually the kids that say that the parents cant really do anything to stop it is the parents that havent seen physical or ” breakdown” disiplinary action at work. I havent been to boot camp but just imagine it as a freakin alternative school with a drill sargent lol i bet that will get you right. No one cant be brokendown disciplinarly expecially when things get personal and stuff gets serious as hell.
I am writing this to get some answers so I wont feeling guilty. Or sick to my stomach about this, My spelling is not great so i hope you can understand. My daughter is 18 I have no control any more over her no more. Now I like to start with this. In 1994 I was married and adopted a 2 year old girl named Trinity she was already my wife’s child. The first day I meant Trinity she has never seen me before. She called me Dada it made me feel really good she sure was beautiful. I was married for 6 months things were starting to go down hill really fast and to fast. My wife started to drink and having sex with other men and with their wife’s and doing drugs. She was starting to come home really late when i had to go to work. Starting to D U I’s going to jail spending a lot of time with her friends because she was bored at home. I had to do cook, clean babysit my daughter or she was at her grandma and grandpa house while I was at wot work. Mom would always call and convince Trinity to stay Grandparents house.
Okay now the story is going to get even better, 2003 I finely said no more I could not handle this no more. I told my wife that I need a divorce. Grandma came over and had my sign a temporary custody papers so I can work graveyards. SO I thought. Well she lived grandma for 4 years, in July in 2008 she had 4 heart attacks in one month not cool so we thought. I went to see her and to she how was doing. Found out that my daughter will be living with aunt and uncle. Man I was really upset and looking forward to having her move in with me and my wife that I am truly happy with. I wanted to find someone that would take Trinity my daughter in and have her now how it feels to have a mother that loves her. I thought grandma would want that for her granddaughter. I need to back up here a year and a half ago grandma said that you would have to have alot of money to pay for a lawyer to get you daughter to live with you. So don’t even try and take her. and that her son and daughter in law will get her in our well. Me and my wife was very up set.
Well her aunt and uncle had a really bad time with her trying to teach her the right way it did not work with them. I get a phone call from her she was really upset wanting to move in with us. That she could not handle her aunt no more. I did not understand why they were not getting along. So I said yes I been waiting for the longest time to have her move in. Okay she moved in June of 2007she turned 16 years of age in May 3rd.Bad timing 16 years old. Well a year and 4 months later okay here we go. We thought we could trust her, Me and my wife took a 3 week vacation and had everything hooked up so if she needed food money for gas it was bad all the dishes were dirty and on the table. There were red stains in the carpet plates and cups all over the floor. O and by the way i did end up sighing custody papers to have her live with me. But any ways our freezer was shut off and all the meat and other food was spoiled and there was water 6 inches deep. Orange juice was all over the outside walls and all over our patio. We had found beer cans, wine battles and drugs hidden in her room and behind our big T.V. So I found a place to see if I could get some help for her and get her a second chance in life and maybe we could be a family.
It took me two months to find it I was able to have our church help pay for it and me and my wife payed some to get her help. Well we took her there and boy it was a nightmare. And we said our good buys she said that she loved my wife and hugged her good buy. But she said F#@ you and flipped me off and said I will never see you again and want nothing to do with you. One month later we had family therapy over the phone. She said she loves us and misses us and all the work she was doing and going to try and graduate from high school there. And on our first visit she huged us and kissed me for the first time she had never kissed me before that made feel really good.
Well 8 months later she turned 18 we went and got her so she can come home. We had made plains to go to Montana for my in-laws 50 year Anniversary. Plus our family reunion for a week and half. Our therapist said perfect make sure she does not have a cell phone and any contact with friend it’s your family time together. well on our way home we Trinity had a family mamber getting baptized and Grandma and Grandpa were there. Well her aunt came up to us and told us maybe she not tell you but i going to tell you any ways Grandma gave her a cell phone and put her on their contract. It was one of those new touch screen phones. Well they said it was for her birthday and bla bla bla about it. i told them That she can’t have it she was not aloud to have one on this trip and she is all ready on a contract with us and she all ready has a new phone from last year. well uit was free and had a really good deal. I did not want to argue with her about it but a was v
My son just turned 3 now. his mother, we werent married, has legal custody.i get him 12-14 hours a week depending what mood she is in. she is selling weed and cocaine from her home. I have talked to a couple of her siblings. who think she is using coke because she has been acting really weird toward them lately. what should i do? call child services? she hasnt had a job in years. she does do little side jobs for cash so she has little evidence of income but she lives pretty well for making less than 150 bucks a week. She just called and demanded i pay her money for a 1200 dentist bill that she wont show me. i have never been behind on support, ever. she didn’t bring him over sunday, visitation 9-5. her reason, he was up all night and went to bed at 6:30 am. this was the night that people at his birthday party said late night she was blowing coke. and explains why either she or him didnt go to bed til 630 in the morning. she just uses him to get to me and get what she wants. she does what ever she wants. how can it be legal. i need advice. please help.
stoned, per what my kid tells me. I know his mom, and supposedly she’ll be really angry with him if she finds out, but, she needs to intervene instead of being so concerned about her boyfriend and her. He’s 15, her son. My kid doesn’t want me to tell on his friend or to speak to his mom because then he’ll be angry with him and the boy in question is losing his close friends. But, he needs help and I don’t want him getting other fellow teens hooked on the stuff. What are my options? Are there anonymous teen drug intervention services that I can call to get him help since his mother is oblivious to the situation? He’s getting the drugs from a fellow kid at school that is known as a ‘pot head’ that he’s recently been hanging out with and also from an older person at his mom’s boyfriend’s house. We’re in Santa Clara County, Calif.
stoned, per what my kid tells me. I know his mom, and supposedly she’ll be really angry with him if she finds out, but, she needs to intervene instead of being so concerned about her boyfriend and her. He’s 15, her son. My kid doesn’t want me to tell on his friend or to speak to his mom because then he’ll be angry with him and the boy in question is losing his close friends. But, he needs help and I don’t want him getting other fellow teens hooked on the stuff. What are my options? Are there anonymous teen drug intervention services that I can call to get him help since his mother is oblivious to the situation? He’s getting the drugs from a fellow kid at school that is known as a ‘pot head’ that he’s recently been hanging out with and also from an older person at his mom’s boyfriend’s house. We’re in Santa Clara County, Calif.
I really need some help. I need to get out of this vicious cycle that im in. I just cant seem to get out of it
7 years ago i watched what i ate, would go days without eating & was at a low weight of 8st & very small framed. I had my son & the pinging straight back that i thought would happen didnt.
When my son was a year i got down to a weight of 9st which is where i would love to be now instead of the 10st 10 that i am 
I have got heavier & heavier the past few years peaking at my highest right now & it is down to binge eating. I am so bad, with what i stuff in my mouth, making myself feel really sick & uncomftable. It is gross what i can consume in a small amount of time. If making myself sick was a option & i could do it I SOOO WOULD!!!! Have tried a few times even years back & i never could do it.
Every week i say that im going to be good limit what i eat, eat good stuff cut out the crap but it never happens. I so want to get back to the 9st mark so bad, i feel sick when i look in the mirror seeing the double chin that has come back. The fat around my middle, the big chunky thighs.
When im good im good & can eat well & il work out, although i worry with working out that il get heavier as muscle weighs more than fat. I hate seeing the numbers go up on the scales. It wouldnt matter if i was a size 8 but 10st i would HATE that. When im good it only lasts about 3 days b4 i have something naughty & then i go OTT & i then am bad for about a week just eating bad stuff all the time
I hate it, years ago i could leave junk, could stick to losing weight & would focus but now i have gone the other way & am a huge binge eater & it makes me feel sick.
I am starting to feel really down about this whole vicsious circle that im in
Our son tested postive for meth, and he swears that he has never done it, because he knows that it could kill him.
There is this girl named britney in my town she’s 17 years old and has a 1 year old son. britney and her family have a bad reputation Basically they are well known for causing problems. britney’s mother is a alcoholic who doesn’t have a problem watching her grandson while under the influence. britney’s father committed suicide when she was young sadly although who could blame him, after all that family is trouble. her two brothers are in and out of jail… anyway recently Child Protective Services took her son in their custody because she was snorting prescription pills, smoking crack, and possibly shooting heroin, her son tested positive for drugs.. and because the family is unstable the boy will probably go to a adoption agencie since britney doesn’t know who fathered her son. will she get into trouble for having drugs in her son’s system?
will the mother be sent to juvenile intill she’s 21?
The mother neglects her child by not watching him properly. she takes him out without dressing him warmly Not putting a jacket on him, or hat and gloves. she takes her son out for a walk 2:00 in the morning and later then that strolling him arould when she has no business being out in the first place. she starts fights with people and becomes very violent in front of her son, (she’ll fight another person with her son there)
Because we live in a small town basically everyone is in everybody else’s business therefore rumors are spreading about her alot. of course Child Protective Services did take her child but people are talking about why they took him from her. she deserved it she shouldn’t have children when she can’t even take care of herseif, britney will probably grow up and be just like her mother a alcoholic with four more misfits as children just like her siblings.
