I am getting married in March and at first my fiance and I were not planning on having alcohol at the reception because his family is Mormon and they do not drink or approve of alcohol. My fiance, friends, and members of my family aren’t heavy drinkers, infact we rarely drink but still want the option available.
Also, my fiance is the oldest of four kids and the only male. His sisters are all married and had very simple small mormon weddings which are different. My fiance is dragging his feet on asking his parents about the rehearsal dinner and I feel that they should host it because he is their only son, its the last wedding in the family, arent helping anywhere else, and have not spent anywhere close to a fortune on his sisters’ weddings and are able to afford a simple dinner
Should I leave alcohol out because his family doesnt like it and go ahead and plan on providing the rehearsal dinner too? We would not serve alcohol at the rehearsal if his parents were paying for it.
His parents are not contributing a dime to the reception and that is fine with me.
The rehearsal dinner would be simple, relaxe, very casual, buffet style at a barbeque place or mexican food restaurant and we could always do a cash bar so people that want to drink can. If his parents were paying for any of the reception cost we would not serve alcohol.
The rehearsal dinner and reception are two different issues. If his parents host the rehearsal there will be no alcohol. I have already planned on that. The alcohol issue is regarding the reception.
The issue with the rehearsals is hosting at all, since its not a common part of Mormon weddings.
Ok when I say that the rehearsal dinner would be SIMPLE and relaxed and at a barbeque place would you really think that it would cost more than his sister’s weddings? His sister’s dresses cost more than an entire dinner would cost. Its a 40 person dinner at about 10 dollars a head. I’m not looking at a dinner costing more than 500 bucks. It doesnt matter. I love his family, I know his family, I am fully aware of their customs. The only reason we are even having a wedding is because his mom would be pissed if we eloped, which I have strongly considered and would love but cant.
I am serving alcohol, I will pay for the rehearsal if I have to. I respect their beliefs but I am not going to do backflips and compromise my own. Thanks for your answers anyway.
