How Do I Get My Son Off Drugs?

He is my nephew and he lives with me. I take care of him and make sure that he has everything that he needs and wants. My brother is a drug addict and he does not take care of any of his kids. My nephew was adopted by my brother and his ex wife and neither of them seem to care about him. I have been taking care of him all his life. I want to adopt him and he does not want to ever leave me because for once in his life he has a stable home. He is only five years old and has been through more than any child should have to go through.

5 years ago, my sister’s son was taken from her after a very bad drug binge. I was granted custody of him, which was a dream come true seeing as I had a hysterectomy when I was 22 and, was never able to have the family I dreamed of, especially after my husband left me when I could not have children. My sister has been and, in my eyes will always be an addict.

Although, I have remained estranged from her for the last 5 years she has begun to try and wedge her way back into our lives, citing that she has cleaned herself up. I know it’s all lies, all the lying and stealing she did to me proves she never really cared for me or her son. I gave her numerous chances and, she blew them all.

Now she is trying to regain custody of her former son and, I don’t want her to. He is my son now and, my miracle. I would rather drive the heroin needle into her arm myself then hand my 6 year old back over to her. I’ve begun the process to legally adopt him, in order to stop her but, is she a serious contender to get custody back?? I’m worried, I want her to have no part in our lives.

i recently went to court to retain custody of my 2 yr old son, i went in front of the judge submitted a dna test police reports and such his order was mother is to complete 9 months of intensive impatient drug treatment, there was a no contact order issued he also made it pertantly clear that she can only see him at my approval under supervision after she completes 9 months of rehab

we recently moved to dobbs ferry from florida the order was issued in florida is there a law that protects me fro running into future problems seeing as the judges orders clearly state that i am the custodail parent and that she is to have no contact which means no calling me my wife my mother grandparents etc… weather it be her or anyonbe else doing it for her

my 2 year old son is very happy with the only woman he has ever called mommy he is very happy he is taken to the park he is given nothing but unconditional love and this women who the last time saw him in febuary of 09 he cried as soon as i put him in her arms which was @ a halfway house and she still went out and smoked cracked

i dont get it i know i have to tell my son about her and i cannot wait until he is to old but he cant be to youbg either i do want him to know about her i will not ever tell him about the bad things i want him to choose if he wants a relationship with her assuming at that time she has long term sobreity (meaning 2 plus years)

i do not want him to resent me because he one day finda a birth certificate or sees pictures etc… i am just concerned about my son he has a good life and she (his biological) is only that and he will know her by her first name she has other kids whom she has nothing to do with i am just confused as to how to handle this situtation i knopw i am protected by the law i also know when the biological is sober she is not a bad person but i also know she cant tay clean to save her ass longer then a few months and all i want is for her to get well so my son can decide if he wants her in his life once he is old enough meaning somewhere between 5 & 7 yrs of age if i can find a correct way to tell him without tramatizing him because he has a Mommy and doesnt need a person in his life that wnats him to call her mommy yet is only there once every few months for day or so he was a convenience she used to ask me to keep him awake so she could play with him @ 11 pm @ night when he was only a yr old if he wouldnt eat she would force feed him i one time had to take him out of her hands and tell her to get the f**k away from my kid another time i had to pick her sorry azz up off the floor as she was passed out on drugs (many times)n i just dont know what to do i want the best life for my son and if that means she is a part of it somehow some way ok as long as he knows that she is only the biological , not the mommy

my son has so much love given to him by my wife and her sister and brother in law and all her cusins and her parents and ofcourse my mother and grand parents and aunt and uncles and cousins and so on please anyone who has experienced such things pos on this,thanks,

May GOD as you understand him/her/it bless you and your family

My son, who is 8, has been staying with my parents for the past two years. When I force him to come home, he cries, won’t sleep, and I end up letting him go back there. I have never been neglectful of my son; I am a good parent. (I also have a 4-year-old daughter who is an absolute angel.) Part of my son’s problem rests in his initial upbringing. His father was an abusive alcoholic, and I got out of that situation. Regardless of what I told the courts during our custody battle when he was 3, his dad still sees him regularly. Also, my son has some developmental disablilities, like ADHD and other behavior problems. I am married, and my son hates my husband. Every time he’s home, he says that he wants me to get a divorce and get back with his dad, and he says it in front of my husband. My son requires someone to be with him at school, and my mom goes every day, since she is a homemaker. I work full-time, I’m in school, and I have another child, so I don’t have time to do this.
Needless to say, this is taking it’s toll on my health and family. My son wants to live my parents, and even though it hurts me, I know he’d probably be happier. However, I don’t want to screw him up by letting him do this. I need advice.

It’s kinda complicated but my sister who is the mother of my nephew no longer has custody of him. She is a drug addict and practically abondened him with our mom, who now has custody of him (and is also a functional drug addict). I take my nephew half the time and care for him as well, but I have no legal right to him. His father is a dead beat who pays child support, but has no involvement whatsoever.

My question is, who has more rights? If I wanted to, could I go for custody at the next hearing since the custody my mother has is temporary? Does the uninvolved father who’s all of a sudden apperared out of no where have more of a chance than me, the aunt who has been involved his entire life and who has primarily cared for him?

His mom is currently working as a prostitute, and Im serious. How do you explain to him that what his parents are doing affects him in a negative way? Also what do you say when you run into either of them. His father currently is incarcerated and I ran into his so called mother~the egg donor~ over the weekend. She pretended to pretend that I was someone else. She had the nerve to say why dont we (meaning my husband and I) allow her to come over to see him. I told her that we feel it is best that right now she stays away because she is all messed up. I told her that he was alright and well taken care of. He has been in counseling for many years, sometimes it seems to be working and at times it doesnt seem to be working. Also we have tried several times to allow her to come and see him, to be fooled yet once again by her claiming she was straight, and find out that she lied. What do we do? I can not afford an attorney to file for permenant custody, we just ahve temp custody.

My 4 yr old grandsons mother has gone off on another drug binge and again says she does not want him, my son needs custody, how do we register him for school with her not around, we don’t know what the next step should be, how do we legally handle things when we don’t know where the mother is? School starts in our area in 2 weeks.

My son’s father has not had any contact with me since I was 4 months pregnate, by his own choice. He has no idea when my son was born or even what his name is. He is not even on the birth certificate because state law mandates that the father be present to have his name on the birth certificate. I would like to patition the courts for formal custody, just in case his father ever decides to track me down. But I am not 100% sure he is the father and I know the courts will want a fathers name and they will seek a paturnity test if I am not positive on who the father is. My major problem is the other possible father know the man who I’m pretty sure is my son’s father. I was in contact with him awhile back but he made no effort to help pay for a paturnity test and didn’t want to see my son unless he knew for sure that he was the father. SO how do I get formal custody from the courts without the potencial daddies finding out. #1 is a druggie and alcoholic #2 is a good guy and a great father.

Okay let me try to make this as short as possible but with all the details….
My boyfriend has a criminal record that consists of the following…(*) drug possesion, (*) possesion of a gun, (*) robbery, (*) gta, (*) illegal use of credit cards (information, not the actual cards)….he has been in & out of prison most of his life. The past 3 years he has done good, working a steady job where he makes good money, no drugs or weapons, nothing. He has been reporting to his parole officer, not missing one visit or test (drug) at all. The only thing that has happend was his son’s mother filed a restraining order on him (which ended today) Im thinking she did this cause she knew he was doing good and he did want to be in his childs life~~>she didnt. He wants to fight for visitation rights if anything…but beings how she is still hooked on drugs and always leaving their son with the grandparents…mabey custody of the lil guy. How would we go about starting the procedure? Any help welcome!!
In the year of the restraining order he has stay away from her completly…and as much as it killed him, he only seen his son from a distance. No pictures, no phone records…nothing! She has tried to contact him many, many times with no such luck. He ignored all her calls & letters. The grandparents would always contact him if anything had happend to his son.

He has no problem taking drug test to show he is clean & can verify his employment…etc.

i was only fifteen when my nephew was born. and my sister is drugs addicted. they live in california, while i live in indiana, and i thought my nephew was already adopted by some parents. then my grandma from california told me that we can still fight before my nephew turned 5 years old, and hes 4 now his bday is in dec. so i need to get it started asap

so since im 20 now, and i want to get him, so what is the possiblities? what do i need to do?

and remember we live different state, so do i have to move calif to get him or what? just tell me what should i do from first step, please help!

When my husband and I started dating his son was still an infant. He kicked his ex girfriend out finally because she was abusive. Punching him in the faace over and over until he bled from his eyes and one night it was so bad he almost died. She was really bad with cocaine, crack and smoking weed so he just said this is not the environment our son needs and I honestly don’t even love you enough to make something like this work. Unfortunately for me this situation did not get any better. In the last almost 4 years I have had to deal with her being homeless, finding her a place to stay, making sure that I tucked in her son every night and told him that I loved him and mommy loved him too just so he wouldn’t wonder why mommy hadn’t called or came to get him in three weeks, I’ve delt with her crazy screaming fights over my husband trying to look out for the best interests of his child. She is honestly completely insane and has many many many mental problems. She has a very long history of abuse with her family and witnessed her father kill her mother so it’s understandable that she would be a little off balance, but I have taken up her slack and raised her child to what he is. We have custody and when she is stable enough we trade him off every other week so she gets him an equal time, but she is barely ever stable enough to do this. She just called today to get him for the weekend because she said she just got a new apartment. This will be her 6th home in 4 months and it’s beginning to confuse my step son. He will go by his old homes and think she still lives there and want to see her, or go to her old jobs and think she still works there and cry until we go in so he can see she isn’t there. She hasn’t been able to keep a steady living environment because she is hooked on drugs so bad she can’t keep a job. She is about to probably go to jail for shopliffting fromher last job. She says she doesn’t do drugs around her son and that when she has him he is safe and happy. I honestly don’t believe it. i have had to buy groceries for her before because she couldn’t feed him. Or go out and buy clothes for him just so she would have something for him to wear. I’m just honestly getting tired of it all. my husband wants his son to have his mother because he never really had his and mine was absent for a very long time. but this environment is not good for him at all. I want my husband to make it so she has to have special visitation rights until we know that she is stable enough to care for him and I’m not sure how to go about saying this to him. He’s afraid she will take off with his son and honestly he is probably right and she would try. I just am at a loss as to what to do.
The only thing on her record is a possession charge from two years ago and then the most recent shopliffting so proving all of this to a judge would require some witnesses. it’s possible but my husband and I both have such a hard time with the idea of dragging such a little boy through this. I feel bad to say it but I do hope she goes to jail for shopliffting and hopefully it straightens her out.

He lives with her family. But she wont allow me to see him. I pay each week for him. And shes taking me to court. But she wont let me see him until its all over and done with. But since its 50/50 is it illegal for her not to let me see my son. I am not abusive or alcoholic or anything.

Any help would be appreciated

Ok, i just found a type of skin cancer on my nephew. for one, he has jet black hair and dark skin (mexican decent). he just turned 2 this past 3rd of September. i was in the middle of bathing him when i went to wash his hair i felt a little bump. first i thought it was dry skin from craddle cap, then i lifted up his hair and their it was. a pink little lump. oh my goodness. i couldn’t believe what i was seeing. get this right next to it another one seems to be growing. WHY IS THIS HAPPENING. what could have caused it. could it be from his mother who is a drug addict or her feeding him nothing but milk. poor baby he’s been through so much, now this. i plan on taking him to emergency in the morning. HIS MOTHER WON’T GIVE MY BROTHER MY NEPHEW’S INFO SO THAT WE CAN GET HIM MEDICAL INSURANCE, GEE HE JUST TURNED TWO AND HE NEEDS HIS IMMUNIZATION SHOTS, WHICH I DON’T BELIEVE SHE’S KEPT UPTO DATE ON THAT.
WHAT CAN I DO??
HOW CAN I GET FULL CUSTODY OF MY NEPHEW? AND GET HIM THE CARE HE NEEDS?

My ex and I divorced in June 2008. I was awarded primary residential parenting time, he got every other weekend. We both had joint decision making. He was a very bad alcoholic and he currently takes medication for anxiety.

He had good behavior up until September so I changed the parenting papers so that he had primary residential responsibilities, and I moved in with him, and his ex girlfriend. I did this because I joined the army and I planned on leaving our son with him for the 6 months I was in training. His girlfriend left him the weekend before Christmas, and he told me he had been using drugs with her. When moving her and her sister’s belongings out of the house I found needles, cut straws, burnt pieces of aluminum, and other drug paraphernalia. He told me he had done cocaine two weekends, then added he had also done methamphetamine every weekend for the first two months that I had been staying here. Later he changed his story back to just cocaine. He also has gotten over drunk several times, and even had to go to detox one night.

I can’t leave my son with him while I go to the army. I don’t trust him as a parent anymore. I want to leave my son with my father and his girlfriend who live in Nevada, but the divorce decree that we have states that neither of us can take the child from the state unless the other agrees, and he won’t agree to it. I don’t have money for an attorney, and I know it’s going to be a long uphill battle.

Any suggestions on what I can do?