The babys father and i have been dating off and on for almost 2 years. He has cheated on me numerous times.. i cant even count on both hands and those are just the ones i know about not to mention the lying, verbal and emotional abuse, and even a few physical encounters that i will admit i started. Since ive been pregnant he has started using cocaine heavly and recently got off probation and has started smoking weed again. He has a house full of people and all but his grandma and his younger siblings are using some sort of drug. His mom lives there and is so into tweak its not even funny. I dont want him to have custody of my child because his house is disgusting there is really trash everywhere and the dog goes to the bathroom in the house not all of it gets cleaned.. there is plenty of violence drug use profanity and abuse of every kind in this home and i dont want my son raised in a mess that way. how can i prove to the courts that he is an unfit father and should not have custody?
Also he has warned me that if i try to take his son from him he will fight dirty and he can guarentee that he will drop clean.. so if he already plans on quitting for an extended period of time so that he will drop clean for the courts how can i catch him unprepared? i have also used cocaine 2-3 times during my pregnancy. i know there is no good excuse for it but i felt that he would like me or want to be around me more if i did. believe me i regret it everyday but im afraid he will use that against me. i want his name on the birth certifcate becuz im only 17 and i will need his help finacially. again please help if you can its very important to me. thanks ASHLEY
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My husband and I have been married for 5 months now, and he has a 2 year old son with his past “hook up”. There was a brief “relationship” for about a month or two simply because he found out she was pregnant. The father could have been him or 2 other guys (shows you how contained she is)…. Blood tests showed that my husband is in fact the father. We have had him since he was about 6 weeks old every weekend. We have custody papers stating that she has full physical custody, but we share joint custody. Since he was born, she has moved 9 times, a couple of times she never told us her new address (which is contempt of court according to the papers). While she was pregnant, she told my husband that she would never quit smoking weed. She just moved an hour further away with her on again off again boyfriend who is clearly on drugs (nasty teeth, myspace reference to drugs and so on) We even found a nude picture of our son on her public myspace page! We printed it and went to the police station. There was to be more investigation, and we notified DHS, who then went to her house and TOLD her that we were having her myspace investigated, so she should make it public. Her status, which I can still see, changed to “NAME thinks little girls should keep their noses in their big fat boyfriends butt cracks”. We still believe that she and her boyfriend are on drugs, but do not know if we can demand a drug test on her. Our current lawyer has been no help, as his wife is fighting cancer, and he is trying all he can to stay out of court.
His mother never calls when we have him for any amount of time to check on him, and if she does call, it is always about money. She does not have a highschool education, and has even attempted to take the GED exam 2 times and still has not passed. She has no steady employment, even when she worked at her father’s store. She has threatened us and shown her ugly side several times (which we have documented) She has been late for pick ups and drop offs several times also, and has even forgotten what day it was when we called. He usually has a full diaper, and is filthy like he hasnt taken a bath when we pick him up. We also noticed lots of plaque on his teeth when we pick him up. He has gotten sick with her several times, and it has been severe a couple times, and she says shes taken him to the doctor, but has no documentation… How does a doctor miss pneumonia and say that the child is “fine”??? Anways, please give me some advice or some support as of what to do!?!
I forgot to also add that we are to split medical bills 50/50, and she owes us over $1,000 so far. She says she will pay but never does.
She has also lost custody of her older daughter to her parents for being unfit. Shouldnt that be held against her?
Sorry, it was a paternity test, not just a blood test! He is the father!
My new found sister is supposedly a recovering drug addict. She has numerous boyfriends and is not as responsible as she can be. She has moved from her previous city to where I am to be close to the only family she has. (we both share the same dad and her mother passed away 5 years ago)She has been here only 3 and half weeks and already has had to move into 2 homes. My husband and I are at our wits end. I would like to find something to have her sign if she becomes unable to care for the 3 children she has. Her 2 year old is suffering from severe hair loss.I donot wish to do anything legal until I can tak custody of the children. If anyone can help.I would greatly appreciate it. Thank You,
Cathie
My ex was a meth. addict and gave up rights she can have supervised visititation with her great grandparents. Now she said she is going to sue my for custody so she can see our son more. She has already had two more children with a man that beats her and does drugs and I don’t want my son in the type of enviroment. Can she get custody of him? She has finally got her first job she has been living of off welfare.
Thanks for any help.
The mother is a known meth user. Is in a home for mothers on meth ,but is always breaking the rules.This has gone to court 2 times sents Jan. but the judge keeps letting her keep him in the home with her. My son has done drug tests orderd by the courts and has passed all of them. She is do to get out of this home soon to go back to a roommate who is a user. Please help.
My 15 year old nephew grew up in South Central Los Angeles with his Grandmother. He met his father & aunts last year. He’s been in & out of trouble & schools. A few months ago, he lost his dad’s (my brother-in-law) i-Pod, and was accused of being a “drug addict,” kicked out of his dad’s house, and told never to return (just because of an i-Pod!!). My wife (his blood-related aunt) & I brought him home with us Easter Day 2008. Now, he’s excited about doing distance schooling and working from home. He’s anxious to prove himself to us. We know all the potential he has to succeed, and all the love and respect he shows us. He’s a great kid that’s just had some really bad, big-city-luck.
My questions:
Now that we have him, how do I LEGALLY enroll him in school? How do I take him to the optometrist to get glasses? How do I take him to a doctor’s office to get a really good check-up? and on WHO’S insurance? His dad’s? or his grandmother (right now SHE has legal custody
and I am sure that his father may argue this. I don’t want to keep my son from his father at all, but I am wanting to accept a job offer out of state, and if I stay in California, I don’t think it will be healthy for my son. His father is an alcoholic, and just got his 3rd DUI. He still continues to drink, and refuses to get help. He says he’s getting help, but he’s referring to his court ordered classes that he takes with the DUI school! He is still drunk some nights when I call him.
How will the court approach the alcoholism, and can I use that as a reason that I don’t want him to have full custody? I’m totally all for visitation, and have done all I can to ensure and support their relationship, but I have seriously had it with the drinking and don’t want my son around it! What can I do to ensure that he isn’t exposed to it?
We have no formal or court ordered custody agreement, only a child support judgement. I have decided that until his father gets professional help for his alcoholism, that I will not allow him to take him from where we live, back to his home. He can only come here and visit with him. If he pursues this in court, do I have a right to request he have only be allowed visitation in my son’s primary home (mine). It doesn’t necessarily have to be supervised, just away from the alcohol. Aside from his alcoholism, he and I are probably as close as people can be without being together. We both love our son very much, and care for eachother very deeply. I have no problem with him being in my home, thats not the issue, I just don’t want his son growing up around a drunk. I don’t want him to have a lifetime of dissapointments because his father can’t get his act together. He hasn’t been a threat as of yet, but who knows…it can only get worse if he doesn’t get professional help.
I have physical and pretty much legal custody of my son. His father is an alcoholic and wont to go to rehab..?
We have no formal or court ordered custody agreement, only a child support judgement. I have decided that until his father gets professional help for his alcoholism, that I will not allow him to take him from where we live, back to his home. He can only come here and visit with him. If he pursues this in court, do I have a right to request he have only be allowed visitation in my son’s primary home (mine). It doesn’t necessarily have to be supervised, just away from the alcohol. Aside from his alcoholism, he and I are probably as close as people can be without being together. We both love our son very much, and care for eachother very deeply. I have no problem with him being in my home, thats not the issue, I just don’t want his son growing up around a drunk. I don’t want him to have a lifetime of dissapointments because his father can’t
I have had custody of my 5 year old nephew for the last 2 years. I had to fight in court for a long time to get that. MY sister (step) who is a complete drug addict keeps threating to take me to court and take him away from me. It has been almost a year since she has even seen him. Although I doubt she will ever clean up enough to get him it scares me to think she “could” one day just take him away because she is the biological mother. Is there a way that I can adopt and her lose all rights to him?
the mother is a drug addict i have no kids but have been trying to get him and his sis for years. my nephew is not only physical but verbal w/ us. I want to help but do not know what to do. Do not get me wrong I love everything that I have I just want more for this child some advice would help. thank you
He is a 7 yr. old boy and the father is an alcoholic who drinks heavily every single day, cuts himself when he drinks, and is often passed out and naked. He is on welfare, and no one can see him getting better. The mother doesn’t know this is happening, what to do, can she get custody for her son after she didn’t get it the first time around.
My husband is an alcoholic, getting buzzed everyday and absolutly blitzed every month or so. I am staying with a friend, and considering the big “D”. He can be great with our dau.(1yr), but what if he slips up on one of his custody weekends? He has done it with my step son (5), but I don’t know if it was because he knew I wouldn’t drink, and would take care of them. She needs to see her dad. Right?
I need help trying to figure out how to go for Custody of my 19 month old nephew. My brother is the baby’s father but my brother and the baby’s mom aren’t together. The baby lives with his mother, his grandmother and great grandparent’s. We feel as if tho the mother and other grandmother are neglecting the baby. The baby’s mother is 16 years old and my brother is 18.
- The baby constantly comes over here and clothes that are too small when he does have clothes that fit (His clothes are 0-3 months, 0-6 months and newborn when he is 19 months old)
- The baby’s mother’s mother is a drug addict and even lost a baby from doing heroine and crack while she was pregnant
- The baby’s mother’s mom lost all her kid’s (She has 5 that are living, she lost four of them and doesn’t legally have custody of the baby’s mom)
- The baby’s grandmother almost had my nephew taken from her when she was pulled over for driving and doing drugs with him in the car
- The baby has cuts and bruises everytime he comes over our house
- The baby’s mom constantly tells my mom she doesn’t want to be a mother and she can have the baby
- The baby has come over covered in fleas
- When the baby was 3 months old he had a playstation 2 fall on his head and his mom didn’t tell my mom right away because she didn’t want my mom thinking she was a bad mom so the baby ended up not going to the hospital until a few hours after it happened
- They falsely accused my family of Child neglect and lied and told us that they were told we couldn’t see him until child serives said it was okay and the lady from child services who was our case worker told us she never said that
- They once lied about the baby having surgery just to get us to watch him
My mom is worried about going for custody because the babys grandmother threatened her before saying if she tried going for custody that she would make sure she dragged it out and we wouldn’t see the baby for two years. How can I go about going for custody and making sure it doesn’t take long for us to get the baby? We thought about going for custody and asking if the baby could stay with us until the custody battle was finished, how does that work and how do they decide where the baby stays while we are trying to get custody? We are worried they are going to lie again after they find out we want custody and try to say we can’t see him.
He is my nephew and he lives with me. I take care of him and make sure that he has everything that he needs and wants. My brother is a drug addict and he does not take care of any of his kids. My nephew was adopted by my brother and his ex wife and neither of them seem to care about him. I have been taking care of him all his life. I want to adopt him and he does not want to ever leave me because for once in his life he has a stable home. He is only five years old and has been through more than any child should have to go through.
5 years ago, my sister’s son was taken from her after a very bad drug binge. I was granted custody of him, which was a dream come true seeing as I had a hysterectomy when I was 22 and, was never able to have the family I dreamed of, especially after my husband left me when I could not have children. My sister has been and, in my eyes will always be an addict.
Although, I have remained estranged from her for the last 5 years she has begun to try and wedge her way back into our lives, citing that she has cleaned herself up. I know it’s all lies, all the lying and stealing she did to me proves she never really cared for me or her son. I gave her numerous chances and, she blew them all.
Now she is trying to regain custody of her former son and, I don’t want her to. He is my son now and, my miracle. I would rather drive the heroin needle into her arm myself then hand my 6 year old back over to her. I’ve begun the process to legally adopt him, in order to stop her but, is she a serious contender to get custody back?? I’m worried, I want her to have no part in our lives.
i recently went to court to retain custody of my 2 yr old son, i went in front of the judge submitted a dna test police reports and such his order was mother is to complete 9 months of intensive impatient drug treatment, there was a no contact order issued he also made it pertantly clear that she can only see him at my approval under supervision after she completes 9 months of rehab
we recently moved to dobbs ferry from florida the order was issued in florida is there a law that protects me fro running into future problems seeing as the judges orders clearly state that i am the custodail parent and that she is to have no contact which means no calling me my wife my mother grandparents etc… weather it be her or anyonbe else doing it for her
my 2 year old son is very happy with the only woman he has ever called mommy he is very happy he is taken to the park he is given nothing but unconditional love and this women who the last time saw him in febuary of 09 he cried as soon as i put him in her arms which was @ a halfway house and she still went out and smoked cracked
i dont get it i know i have to tell my son about her and i cannot wait until he is to old but he cant be to youbg either i do want him to know about her i will not ever tell him about the bad things i want him to choose if he wants a relationship with her assuming at that time she has long term sobreity (meaning 2 plus years)
i do not want him to resent me because he one day finda a birth certificate or sees pictures etc… i am just concerned about my son he has a good life and she (his biological) is only that and he will know her by her first name she has other kids whom she has nothing to do with i am just confused as to how to handle this situtation i knopw i am protected by the law i also know when the biological is sober she is not a bad person but i also know she cant tay clean to save her ass longer then a few months and all i want is for her to get well so my son can decide if he wants her in his life once he is old enough meaning somewhere between 5 & 7 yrs of age if i can find a correct way to tell him without tramatizing him because he has a Mommy and doesnt need a person in his life that wnats him to call her mommy yet is only there once every few months for day or so he was a convenience she used to ask me to keep him awake so she could play with him @ 11 pm @ night when he was only a yr old if he wouldnt eat she would force feed him i one time had to take him out of her hands and tell her to get the f**k away from my kid another time i had to pick her sorry azz up off the floor as she was passed out on drugs (many times)n i just dont know what to do i want the best life for my son and if that means she is a part of it somehow some way ok as long as he knows that she is only the biological , not the mommy
my son has so much love given to him by my wife and her sister and brother in law and all her cusins and her parents and ofcourse my mother and grand parents and aunt and uncles and cousins and so on please anyone who has experienced such things pos on this,thanks,
May GOD as you understand him/her/it bless you and your family
My son, who is 8, has been staying with my parents for the past two years. When I force him to come home, he cries, won’t sleep, and I end up letting him go back there. I have never been neglectful of my son; I am a good parent. (I also have a 4-year-old daughter who is an absolute angel.) Part of my son’s problem rests in his initial upbringing. His father was an abusive alcoholic, and I got out of that situation. Regardless of what I told the courts during our custody battle when he was 3, his dad still sees him regularly. Also, my son has some developmental disablilities, like ADHD and other behavior problems. I am married, and my son hates my husband. Every time he’s home, he says that he wants me to get a divorce and get back with his dad, and he says it in front of my husband. My son requires someone to be with him at school, and my mom goes every day, since she is a homemaker. I work full-time, I’m in school, and I have another child, so I don’t have time to do this.
Needless to say, this is taking it’s toll on my health and family. My son wants to live my parents, and even though it hurts me, I know he’d probably be happier. However, I don’t want to screw him up by letting him do this. I need advice.
It’s kinda complicated but my sister who is the mother of my nephew no longer has custody of him. She is a drug addict and practically abondened him with our mom, who now has custody of him (and is also a functional drug addict). I take my nephew half the time and care for him as well, but I have no legal right to him. His father is a dead beat who pays child support, but has no involvement whatsoever.
My question is, who has more rights? If I wanted to, could I go for custody at the next hearing since the custody my mother has is temporary? Does the uninvolved father who’s all of a sudden apperared out of no where have more of a chance than me, the aunt who has been involved his entire life and who has primarily cared for him?
His mom is currently working as a prostitute, and Im serious. How do you explain to him that what his parents are doing affects him in a negative way? Also what do you say when you run into either of them. His father currently is incarcerated and I ran into his so called mother~the egg donor~ over the weekend. She pretended to pretend that I was someone else. She had the nerve to say why dont we (meaning my husband and I) allow her to come over to see him. I told her that we feel it is best that right now she stays away because she is all messed up. I told her that he was alright and well taken care of. He has been in counseling for many years, sometimes it seems to be working and at times it doesnt seem to be working. Also we have tried several times to allow her to come and see him, to be fooled yet once again by her claiming she was straight, and find out that she lied. What do we do? I can not afford an attorney to file for permenant custody, we just ahve temp custody.
My 4 yr old grandsons mother has gone off on another drug binge and again says she does not want him, my son needs custody, how do we register him for school with her not around, we don’t know what the next step should be, how do we legally handle things when we don’t know where the mother is? School starts in our area in 2 weeks.
