How Do I Get My Son Off Drugs?

I have been raising her son for the last 5 years while she parties her life away, *I am 22 she is almost 38* she had 6 children, 5 were taken by the state, and then she got pregnant w/ the youngest…I have literally put my life on hold to raise HER child, he *her son is 8yo* has caused so many problems in our family, he is VERY mean to our 3 year old, we have caught him hitting, spitting, pushing, and taking toys from our child, just out right being very angry and taking it out on our son. Last night he went to church and ate WAY too much candy and came home complaining of a stomach ache and then he vomited all over the floor, and the whole time all I could think about was where is she? I find myself feeling more and more anger and resentment towards her, because of the things i deal with on a daily basis because of her son, he also gets into a lot of trouble at school almost daily, we are doing everything for this child out of our own pocket, and we get nothing but stress in return
we are the only ones in the family who has stepped up so this child doesn’t go into states custody, we don’t want to adopt him because we honestly don’t want to continue raising him, we have never had a chance to be a family with just our 3 yo, I may sound mean to some of you, but I am being honest, I am mad because my child is not getting the attention he deserves, my son should be the first born, have our utmost attention, but i feel he has been pushed aside so we can deal with our “problem” what do you think?? go ahead speak your mind!!!
I’m sorry! I have so much to say and forgot some things, SHE is my “sister in law”
the thing is I LOVE this little boy, even through all the problems, I do love him, and no one else in the family will take him, NO ONE< we have tried getting his grandparents to help us out, maybe take him for at least a year just so we can have a break but they says it’s “too much stress” my husbands mother has heart disease and has had multiple heart attacks, and there is no one else in the family stable enough to raise him, the lil boy’s older sister could but she is too selfish and immature, I guess there is really nothing i can do unless i’m willing to hand him over to the state….. this is SO HARD! and thank you all for answering! I just really needed someone to talk to about this! I have been pretty upset these last few months.

He is trying to get clean and I will make sure he does but don’t think jail is the place, does anyone have suggestions?

I recently found out my son has been smoking crack, and he cant stop. I was curious as to what it feels like to make someone not want to stop. So if youve tried crack, did you stop and what does it feel like that people like it so much? Thanks

he has no idea now but im sure he will wonder who is real mother is later. how do i telll him and should i keep pictures of her and his sister to let him know where his genes come from?

ive been finding my son in the closet smoking crack lately. by the way hes 16 and a half. i found this out today when his homies came by, they went into the closet and started smoking crack. but im ok with that but i just dont know if this is a normal 16 year old habit?
i started too yesterday

last night i was driving to the bank to get money from my check, and i pass by this bridge and see my 12 year old son smoking crack with my 32 year old brother. I didn’t say anything and kept driving, I was thinking about this all last night, how should i confront him?

So yesterday, I saw my son with his friends doing “strange” things. They were snorting a white powder (which is crack). After awhile, he was saying things about Battletoads and Mudkips(He is a BIG pokemon player) Now yahoo, what do I do?
I found out who the drug dealer is.
His name is Sniffy, In California, and is 38