I have a small petite 8 yo boy that weighs 45 lbs. When he gets hurt or severly scolded, or given consequences for behavior before the behavior occurs. He sometimes goes into a complete loss of self control screaming and crying, groaning like a wild animal and has said multiple self injury statements escalating to the point of saying He was going to get his dad’s gun and kill himeself. I don’t react to his behavior. Some people say he is manipulating me while others jaws drop at the mention of him saying this. He is supposed to be ADHD, but he makes A’and B’s and is no longer on meds. His dad is an alcoholic with a host of issues and my son doesn’t see him much. I work reg. hours and don’t give into my sons every want. His Dad says it must be me because he lives with me. Any suggestions would be great.
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Yesterday, I was woken up at 2am by a knock at the door, and it was my son with 2 police officers. The officer informed me that my son was in possession of alcohol and was cautioned about underage drinking. The officers had also found him and his two friends in the early process of vandalizing an abandoned car and officers were called to the scene after a complaint was made from one of the people who lived nearby.
My son apparently snuck out of the house while I was sleeping when this all happened.
What can I do? I am very concerned!
My son is 17 years old , and at this rate won’t see 18 .
He is doing drugs , marijuana , cocaine , pills . Running Away , Stealing $ from, home , my job , my bosses house .
I took him to outpatient counceling which did nothing for him .
I am looking for a residential program that doesn’t want 1000.00 to 4000.00 a month I can not afford that . I am now a single parent because of all this stuff with my 17 year old stealing . I have 5 other kids besides him
I need help !!!!!
The police department said there is nothing they can do , so that’s not hte answer.
I am living under lock and key
But I am running out of lockable spaces and that is no way to live .
I’ve found out that my son is using drugs including marijuana, ecstasy, methamphetamine, cocaine, acid, etc. I can’t get him to talk to me. He hates me right now. Honestly, he sickens me to death right now as well with all of the trouble he is causing, and I can barely stand to look at him, let alone talk to him or try to reason with him. He is currently injured from drug related injuries. He is in serious trouble with the police, but luckily we have a great lawyer, and he shouldn’t have to do any jail time. I don’t know what is going to happen to him in regards to school. I don’t know what to do with him anymore. His father died two years ago, and we don’t have any family around to help us with this. I can’t kick him out of the house. I know that many people would recommend this, but I can’t live with the thought of my son being on the streets in the winter time, possibly killing himself. He is constantly angry and standoffish. Anytime someone tries to talk to him about anything personal, it turns into a yelling match. He doesn’t seem to trust, relate to, or care about anyone, and he won’t open up. He seems to hate being around others besides his friends, who I’m sure are using as well, and if he is not out of the house, he is holed up in his room by himself. It kills me to see that he’s so angry and upset all the time, and I can’t get through to him, despite countless efforts. I know some things have happened in his later childhood that have probably left him emotionally scarred, but he refuses to get help, mouthing off to me and the doctors and making threats if I try to send him back. I just want to help him. I don’t want to enable him, but at the same time, I can see that he is hurting or that something is bothering him, because he’s incredibly smart and would not be doing this otherwise. He never used to be like this. I noticed changes in him after his father’s death, and I’m sure that could have something to do with it among other things, because he never used to be this way. I’m just a concerned mother, and I’m worn out and so lost as to what to do with my child.
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He lies, fights, is very bad in school, he screams at me and my girls. His mom is on drugs and dont want him, he was living with his memaw for like 4 years, she could not handle him so we got him like a year ago and he is just awful. he said that his mom told him to give me hell and I ask him y he listens to her and he said what and i suppose to do not listen to my mom. , he is old enough to make his own decision, he always has an excuse for everything and is always blamin it on the other person, like when he got caught stealing at a sex store, he said that his friend put it in his pocket, he is very over weight, he weighs 165 pounds and is just turning 12, he is almost 5 feet tall.he cries if i limit his food punches walls, slams doors and tells me you havent seen nothin yet. he caught my cat in its mouth with a fish hook after i told him to stop b4 the cat gets the hook so it got stuck in tiggers mouth he kicks our dogs around and says it was an accident.what if he lies on me, Jail
His is gone most of the time working, I tell him what has happened when he gets home everyday, instead of hi honey, how was your day, I have to always be upset and tell him what his son done wrong, I wont whip him nor his dad will whip him, he just usually grounds him and I hate for him to do that to him cause he needs to get out and exercise b4 he dies from being over weight. his dad says give him all the food he wants he is a growing boy so i dont know what to do, i hate see his dad whip him too. we just need advice,
I think he does have ADHD. He has all the symptons and he heard us over talking about it and now when he gets in trouble he blames it on having ADHD. If he goes and gets counciling which I am looking into then I am afraid that he will lie on me or his dad and get my kids taking away and me or both of us put in jail. He has already threated it to me when he caught the cat with the hook, I told him to pick the knife up that his dad had to cut the fishing string from the hook that was in the cats mouth. He said no so i said pick it up he said no i said if yo dont i am going to whip you you he said yeah and when you do i am going to put u in jail, so he did not pick it up so i smacked him on his butt and he said i am calling the police and your going to jail so i came home and handed him the phone and he said if you punch me again i will call them i didnt even punch him. He said hookin the cat was an accident and his dad believed him and he did not get into any truble
anytime he gets in trouble he says that is all my mom did so I get that from her like its heritary or something, Or he says my cousin i used to live with lied alot so i picked it up from him
