How Do I Get My Son Off Drugs?

Ok. so. here’s the problem.
My son Michael has a girlfriend named Molly, who I really like.
They’ve been dating for three years now and he was talking to his sister Pheobe about how much he loves Molly and might marry her.

Yesterday I night, I came into my son’s room to bring him his laundry and he was making out with another girl on his futon! Idon’t know what to do. I’ve known Molly for years and don’t want to see her hurt, but I also don’t want to let my son cheat on her. Also, I think Pheobe knew he was kissing other girls- maybe doing more- and I’m worried about the example he’s setting.

He says they were drinking but I know what alcohol smells and I didn’t find any bottles. They were not drinking

Please help, I don’t know what to do

My husband and I were on the fast path. We met at work, bought a house after 2 months, pregnant after 8 months and engaged after 9 months of dating. I have a son from a previous relationship and my husband and him are the best of friends. 6 months before we got married my husband tried to commit suicide after I left him from yet another one of his spending sprees. For 2 years he would go on binges of spending, blow up credit cards, blow through are savings and then say he was sorry and would never do it again. After I would rebuild the savings he would go on another shopping spree. I finally gave up and left him, 2 days later we were in the hospital because he tried to kill himself. He got diagnosed with being Bipolar. I am a nurse so I understood all about this. I choose to forgive him and go on with life and the wedding. He was put on meds and started counseling.
We got married and had a beautiful wedding, everything I had ever dreamed of. We then went on our homeymoon and was away for a week. We then had a week at home wit the kids before work started again. We work at the same place so everyone knows are business. 3 days after being at work him and another co-worker started talking. One thing led to another, they exchanged numbers and well after 5 days of talking to her he tells me he is not in love with me and leaving me for another girl. This all happened 3 weeks and 1 day after we got married.
He moved out of the house and into his mothers.For the next 3 days he was with her. No sex but fooling around, BJs, emails and sexting. After those 3 days he was calling me asking me what happened. He couldnt remember. When he found I we were over, again he wanted to kill himself. We were back at the ER for a pysch eval. This time he got sent away for 15 days at a behavioral health center for intense counseling and medication adjustments, they said he was in a manic phase, part of being Bipolar.
It has been 3 months since he told me the news. He just moved back in last week as well as went back to work. My life has been a mess. The other women also works with us. I just cant seem to get the images out of my head. He is trying, taking his medication, going to outpatient therapy and has found God, attending church which he has never done in the past. He showers me with notes, cards, affection and so on. I have seen all this before though when he messes up. I have no trust for him. I wake up every morning wondering when and what will be the next time that he hurts me. I dont know if he can be faithful. I love him but hurt so much. I dont feel like its true, pure love anymore. I just am so confused and dont know what to do. Some of my own family wont even talk to me anymore because I chose to marry him. Help, please help with any advice.

Should i emigrate with boyfriend who cheated ?
So, its a long story and alot has happened but this is the shortened version, so sorry its very extreme and to the point – i need some real advice and guidance…. All thoughts greatly welcomed.

Me and my boyfriend have been together 2 years, (seeing each other for a year before that) and have been living together for a year. He works offshore so our relationship has always kept its excitement, ie, trying new things, still doing different activities etc. The last couple of months into the relationship we had sunken into a comfortable routine then he was hardly ever there. Prior to us moving in he had an extreme drug problem – ie waking up and snorting cocaine but he really turned himself around so we could be together. Things have gone from bad to worse, we hardly saw each other he was heavily back on the drugs – heavily smoking crack and drinking neat vodka until he could stand no more. He would do things and have no idea that he had done them the next day. I wanted to help him but couldn’t – i thought it was just a phase he was going thru (maybe a mid life crisis) For a few weeks i suspected he was either dealing drugs or cheating on me….he admitted to dealing drugs. Then a week before our anniversary (he was going to propose to me in a hot air balloon) 1 night out of the blue i found a letter on his laptop to his friend in prison explaining how he had a mad night on crack and slept with 2 prostitutes in a hotel….i knew that he wouldnt of admitted it so i packed my things and left. He is greatly remorseful, crying and begging everyday, Constantly calling and texting, and i believe him. I know what strange effects drugs have on people. I now feel sympathy for him because he tried to kill himself on 3 different occasions because he says he has lost the love of his life. (although he has a beautiful son from a previous relationship – why would he leave him?) He tried to OD, hang himself and slit his wrists. So i have now been going around to see him…on 1 occasion he wouldn’t let me leave the flat, head-butted me and smashed my phone then he cried and was sorry after. I still love him and want this to work but could i ever trust him not to hurt me again – physically or mentally…? he understands hes got drug problems and has been going to get himself sorted with counseling etc and has been straight for 3 days now. He wants me to move to Dubai with him for 3 months 2 his dads then he wants to travel the world together. (that was our plan) I dont want to be without him but what do i do…?! Is this all too much to overcome…weve got money so can pay for the best counseling but am i wasting my time…?

I still love him and dont want him to hurt anymore…but please help!

Thanks

Additional Details
Also, he is leaving in 2 weeks and wants me to go – so i need a decision quick…

And don’t know if this is any useful information but he also has ADHD…
Thanks for your answer below…But we had an extremely loving and very exciting relationship prior to his drug binge…why shouldnt i trust him again…? I havent already made my mind up but i know it sounds that way – i just dont want to regret my decision for letting him go –

He wont do rehab in the UK because he says he has tried – his theory for moving to Dubai is to come clean – ie no drug tollerance out there – please help! im completely lost!

Should i emigrate with boyfriend who cheated ?

So, its a long story and alot has happened but this is the shortened version, so sorry its very extreme and to the point – i need some real advice and guidance…. All thoughts greatly welcomed.

Me and my boyfriend have been together 2 years, (seeing each other for a year before that) and have been living together for a year. He works offshore so our relationship has always kept its excitement, ie, trying new things, still doing different activities etc. The last couple of months into the relationship we had sunken into a comfortable routine then he was hardly ever there. Prior to us moving in he had an extreme drug problem – ie waking up and snorting cocaine but he really turned himself around so we could be together. Things have gone from bad to worse, we hardly saw each other he was heavily back on the drugs – heavily smoking crack and drinking neat vodka until he could stand no more. He would do things and have no idea that he had done them the next day. I wanted to help him but couldn’t – i thought it was just a phase he was going thru (maybe a mid life crisis) For a few weeks i suspected he was either dealing drugs or cheating on me….he admitted to dealing drugs. Then a week before our anniversary (he was going to propose to me in a hot air balloon) 1 night out of the blue i found a letter on his laptop to his friend in prison explaining how he had a mad night on crack and slept with 2 prostitutes in a hotel….i knew that he wouldnt of admitted it so i packed my things and left. He is greatly remorseful, crying and begging everyday, Constantly calling and texting, and i believe him. I know what strange effects drugs have on people. I now feel sympathy for him because he tried to kill himself on 3 different occasions because he says he has lost the love of his life. (although he has a beautiful son from a previous relationship – why would he leave him?) He tried to OD, hang himself and slit his wrists. So i have now been going around to see him…on 1 occasion he wouldn’t let me leave the flat, head-butted me and smashed my phone then he cried and was sorry after. I still love him and want this to work but could i ever trust him not to hurt me again – physically or mentally…? he understands hes got drug problems and has been going to get himself sorted with counseling etc and has been straight for 3 days now. He wants me to move to Dubai with him for 3 months 2 his dads then he wants to travel the world together. (that was our plan) I dont want to be without him but what do i do…?! Is this all too much to overcome…weve got money so can pay for the best counseling but am i wasting my time…?

I still love him and dont want him to hurt anymore…but please help!

Thanks

Additional Details
Also, he is leaving in 2 weeks and wants me to go – so i need a decision quick…

And don’t know if this is any useful information but he also has ADHD…
Thanks for your answer below…But we had an extremely loving and very exciting relationship prior to his drug binge…why shouldnt i trust him again…? I havent already made my mind up but i know it sounds that way – i just dont want to regret my decision for letting him go – his theory for moving to Dubai is to come clean – ie no drug tollerance out there – please help! im completely lost!

Should i emigrate with boyfriend who cheated when F****d on drugs who is suicidally sorry?

So, its a long story and alot has happened but this is the shortened version, so sorry its very extreme and to the point – i need some real advice and guidance…. All thoughts greatly welcomed.

Me and my boyfriend have been together 2 years, (seeing each other for a year before that) and have been living together for a year. He works offshore so our relationship has always kept its excitement, ie, trying new things, still doing different activities etc. The last couple of months into the relationship we had sunken into a comfortable routine then he was hardly ever there. Prior to us moving in he had an extreme drug problem – ie waking up and snorting cocaine but he really turned himself around so we could be together. Things have gone from bad to worse, we hardly saw each other he was heavily back on the drugs – heavily smoking crack and drinking neat vodka until he could stand no more. He would do things and have no idea that he had done them the next day. I wanted to help him but couldn’t – i thought it was just a phase he was going thru (maybe a mid life crisis) For a few weeks i suspected he was either dealing drugs or cheating on me….he admitted to dealing drugs. Then a week before our anniversary (he was going to propose to me in a hot air balloon) 1 night out of the blue i found a letter on his laptop to his friend in prison explaining how he had a mad night on crack and slept with 2 prostitutes in a hotel….i knew that he wouldnt of admitted it so i packed my things and left. He is greatly remorseful, crying and begging everyday, Constantly calling and texting, and i believe him. I know what strange effects drugs have on people. I now feel sympathy for him because he tried to kill himself on 3 different occasions because he says he has lost the love of his life. (although he has a beautiful son from a previous relationship – why would he leave him?) He tried to OD, hang himself and slit his wrists. So i have now been going around to see him…on 1 occasion he wouldn’t let me leave the flat, head-butted me and smashed my phone then he cried and was sorry after. I still love him and want this to work but could i ever trust him not to hurt me again – physically or mentally…? he understands hes got drug problems and has been going to get himself sorted with counseling etc and has been straight for 3 days now. He wants me to move to Dubai with him for 3 months 2 his dads then he wants to travel the world together. (that was our plan) I dont want to be without him but what do i do…?! Is this all too much to overcome…weve got money so can pay for the best counseling but am i wasting my time…?

I still love him and dont want him to hurt anymore…but please help!

Thanks

Additional Details

Also, he is leaving in 2 weeks and wants me to go – so i need a decision quick…
And don’t know if this is any useful information but he also has ADHD…

We had an extremely loving and very exciting relationship prior to his drug binge…why shouldnt i trust him again…? I havent already made my mind up but i know it sounds that way – i just dont want to regret my decision for letting him go – his theory for moving to Dubai is to come clean – ie no drug tollerance out there – please help! im completely lost!

The whore is married through herself at him, they were using drugs and decided to hook up for months, she has three other kids by the way from her husband. I moved out and have been raising our son for the past 6 months on my own. He is now sober and clean for a month and wants to make it work, how could it ever? What should I do? We have been married for four years and have a three year old together…I need help!!!