How Do I Get My Son Off Drugs?

Ok. so. here’s the problem.
My son Michael has a girlfriend named Molly, who I really like.
They’ve been dating for three years now and he was talking to his sister Pheobe about how much he loves Molly and might marry her.

Yesterday I night, I came into my son’s room to bring him his laundry and he was making out with another girl on his futon! Idon’t know what to do. I’ve known Molly for years and don’t want to see her hurt, but I also don’t want to let my son cheat on her. Also, I think Pheobe knew he was kissing other girls- maybe doing more- and I’m worried about the example he’s setting.

He says they were drinking but I know what alcohol smells and I didn’t find any bottles. They were not drinking

Please help, I don’t know what to do

He has been waiting and working to get into the high school he is in. They only accept so many students each year and you have to earn the right to go there. My son is a good student and has never gotten into any trouble before. Saying this as his mother i am sure people will say that i am just in denial, but he really is a good kid and has a good head on his shoulders. Last week i received a call from the school that he was found drinking in shop class. Now he might be getting kicked out of the school he worked so hard to get into. He said it was the first time he has never done this before. i believe him, but i am concerned about it. alcoholism runs in my family and when i was his age i was already an alcoholic. Does anyone know if there is anything i can do to make sure he doesn’t go down that road. We always talk and he knows i am there for him whenever he needs me, but i know he is at the age when his friends have more influence on him than i do sometimes. i just want a better life for him then i had and i am hoping someone might have some ideas to help prevent this.

I would, his/her life would be hell untill their 18.

How many of you would do the same?

How many of you are dillusional and believe talking to your child, or letting him live his own life is the way to go?

Thx
@revolt, its a figure of speech.

Im not literally gonna stand there and try to kill my child, im saying if my son ever does such a thing, theres gonna be some serious punishments, and you bet your ass he wont even think about doing it again.

i am struggling to know how to handle this well. background briefly – i left my husband 2 years ago he is an alcoholic and was involved with other women online and using text sex lines etc and i think meeting them. he wasnt prepared to stop. it was amicable as it could be kids see him and he spends xmas with us, has a gf now he lives with. i quite quickly became involved with a man i had loved a long time ago who was a friend in an unhappy marriage. we took it very very slow with the kids, he does not live with us, it was a long time before they even saw us hold hands. only in last 8 months maybe have they seen him stay over. my daughter age 10 is very happy and genuinely has no prob with it. we are very careful they see nothing inappropriate. it is a loving relationship but the physical side has never been in their face. but my son who is 12 has probs with it he asks if we wear pjs in bed (yes) and if we get undressed in front of each other – i tell him no. well he does like my bf and has a good relationshio with him tells him he loves him etc. but last night long after kids in bed we were making love (very quietly and under covers) when my son burst in and turned on the light and said, what are you doing and tried to pull the covers off us. we quickly covered up but it was obvious what was going on. he burst into tears and sat on teh end of the bed and it was an hour of ttears and him not talking to us before we got him settled back in bed. although i was cross at him obviously trying to catch us out i didnt tell him off cos he clearly got probs wit this. after half an hour he came back in and shouted ‘what are you doing now? i can hear you, im not stupid i know whats going on’. well nothing was going on luckily. but honestly, how do i handle this? he is now saying that he will never be happy while i am with my bf, that he would prefer it just the three of us, that it is not like his dad being here (well i know that and really, given how these things can go we are all, y ex included, trying to make it the best posible sort of break up. ) but i know these things are awful for kids, and y son and i have always been close but i can see that being damaged now but also i can see that his responses are crossing a line. he is being very controlling of what i can and cant do and follows me everywhere. can this be resolved? has anyone been through this that can give me advice? do i give up my bf? ( i do really really deeply ove him but i not want to damage my son any more) any advice at all please help cos i have tried to be considerate of my son, he is almost all we ever talk about or worry about – but it getting me nowhere and i am feeling resentful now which i know is awful. thanks for reading.

i was walking in my step son’s room for something…he was smoking a joint….i dont know what to say so i just closed the door.(.weed isnt bad as tobacco and alcohol but can be if you smoke it all the time)IDK if i SHOULD lecture him or encourage him what should i do?? hes a good kid funny,smart,and more.. he’s not a trouble maker and he listens to me and his mom.. what should i do? should i lecture him as tell him to wait?

Ok, Anyway i sent my 12 year old to school, with lunch, But i couldnt get the desert in time so i sent him to shool with some sugercubes for desert about 3 anyway and the school accused him with possession of crack cocaine they said it was the so called ”Arctic White” Cocaine when the tests came back it was suger. Anyway he got put in Juvinile hall before the results came in can i sue or what?
And again the reason i gave him 3 suger cubes is because i didnt have the time to get the brownies done!

my son was put on 3 yrs probation, for robbery w/his cousin. now he do smoke weed, which i can say doesn’t bother me, i don’t but i’m ok w/it he’s a grown man.. ok he was goin to report regulary like he was suppose to and she would always down him on how she could lock him up and he found a job @ this chicken coop but it was 10 miles outside the city limits, she denied em travel for it, so he continued lookin and of course living in CLOVIS NEW MEXICO, w/that type of rap sheet he can’t get one. but my point is he stop reporting, he gave two dirty U.A’s first one was intake. so he got caught and can’t get out til they find him a bed in rehab. she was caught doing METH, but by turning herself into a rehab(which didn’t help) she can continue to work for the probation and parole office, not to mention, she has giving so many of her probationers breaks on the same situation(dirty ua’s and absconding) so why is it so hard on my son??
allan & john, yes all of it is @ fault from him to her, but y should he look bad and not her, they both drug users, only diffrence is she WORKS
for Law Enforcement, so who’s really wrong. i jus want’d to know is that fair, not for no one to put my child down, we’ve all made misstakes (ALL)!!!

I came home early the other day and caught my son giving oral sex to my 14 year old daughter’s friend. She is staying with us for a while, since her mother has been in the hospital from a very bad car accident. Her mother and I are very close, I don’t know wether I should tell her or not. This girl has had some trouble in the past drugs, alcohol, running away etc. I don’t know whether or not they are having sex or not. What should I do?
thanks

He has a court date for Monday morning, and I really don’t know what to do, its Saturday now, I can’t get hold of any lawyers, and even if I could, I can’t afford one now. Advice please

a sentence structure that is:

A.indeterminate
B.mandatory
C.structured
D.determinate

Large Problem broke out at the high school my 14 year old son attends at. Right now I’m a student resource counselor at the same high school my son attends, I help troubled teenagers and many times they come to me if they have any issues/problems at school and/or at home.

Recently at school,a child in the same grade as my son, (he is 15) was caught in posession of an ounce of cocaine, apparently has been selling it since school started to his peers by grams. Since I am a counselor at this school, fortunately I was told everything that happened. According to the information, police asked him several questions about where he got it, how long he was selling it, who he was selling for; and it turns out this boy played dumb the whole time and wouldn’t give any information out, and the police were not able to get anything out of him. After 2 weeks, all charges were dropped and he was released scott free,nothing on his record or anything.. but was expelled from the high school.

Does this seem wrong to you? I live in Canada, so the laws will be a little different here. What is your opinion, I personally thuoght he would have gotten jail time, and would have been charged. Cocaine is a hard drug, and has potential to ruin people’s lives VERY easily..

An ounce of cocaine is well over a 1000 dollars.

She is a meth addict for over three years and has been enabled by my mother who has decided to put her hands in the air and give up. She says that my addict sister can just leave with her son. What! It is pure dysfunctional drama. But the loser is the little boy. My sister even asked him to pee for her for a drug test my mother was giving her. Should I butt in or stay out.

So yesterday, I saw my son with his friends doing “strange” things. They were snorting a white powder (which is crack). After awhile, he was saying things about Battletoads and Mudkips(He is a BIG pokemon player) Now yahoo, what do I do?
I found out who the drug dealer is.
His name is Sniffy, In California, and is 38