How Do I Get My Son Off Drugs?

My son and his girlfriend are not able to care for their three children in a proper manner. The mother is an alcoholic and my son has just gotten laid off from his job. He tries to find a job and he goes and gets the kids and stays from house to house with the kids. The baby is a two year old down syndrome child and needs special attention. My husband works 12 hour days and I work with special needs kids at the high school level. We have just signed up to start taking Foster Care classes next month to get a certificate to be Foster Parents. When we do get the certification will we still get paid benefits to help with our grandchildren if we are given temporary custody of them? My husband and I are already living from paycheck to paycheck. We want to be able to adequately care for our grandchildren. We have gone to pick the kids up and they are always hungry and dirty. We have to do something but we need the financial help desperately.

My son and his girlfriend are not able to care for their three children in a proper manner. The mother is an alcoholic and my son has just gotten laid off from his job. He tries to find a job and he goes and gets the kids and stays from house to house with the kids. The baby is a two year old down syndrome child and needs special attention. My husband works 12 hour days and I work with special needs kids at the high school level. We have just signed up to start taking Foster Care classes next month to get a certificate to be Foster Parents. When we do get the certification will we still get paid benefits to help with our grandchildren if we are given temporary custody of them? My husband and I are already living from paycheck to paycheck. We want to be able to adequately care for our grandchildren. We have gone to pick the kids up and they are always hungry and dirty. We have to do something but we need the financial help desperately.

Married 6 years. Husband’s alcoholism progressively got worse, although he still retained his job as a school administrator. He loves the bars. I tried to keep up with him for a while, but couldn’t. He became verbally abusive, flirted with other women (I can’t prove adultery) and refused to get help. His mother and extended family try to talk to him sometimes, but don’t really force the issue. After all, he is the favorite son and cousin. He and I are both 54. I nagged, begged, made excuses, etc. I went and got him when he couldn’t find his car many a ‘next day’. He is the Cell Phone King and loves to wife bash. He has told lies about me, even sober. He lost his cell phone when he was out TWICE in bars and guess who he blamed? He finally left after I continually told him that if he wanted to live the single life, he needed to live it outside of our home. He has been gone a month, living in the same town. He has not tried to call or communicate. I don’t want the drama anymore, but I wonder if he truly doesn’t really care and I need to accept it. Is the fact that he doesn’t communicate a sign that he is ready to move on? I can’t ask him anything; he refused to talk about anything serious when he was home.

There are so many parents, both moms & dads, that just up and leave their children.. Or lose custody and don’t fight to get it back. My mother lost custody of me when I was 8 & my sisters were 1, and 4. She never attempted to get us back. She when on to develop a more extreme addiction to crystal meth, and never looked back.

My sons father never even attempted to get to know him. He left when I was 4 months pregnant. I don’t understand how someone could just flat out not care, not have guilt, and not want to have their children.

How could somebody do this? How can someone just NOT care? Call me crazy, but I freak out leaving my son overnight, more less just giving up on him & not caring.

My little brothers wife died during child birth about a month ago he is 24 and she was 22. Well it was a beautiful baby boy and he is so adorable. Well me and my older sister and my parents have been going over a lot to check on the both. He hasn’t really been bonding with his son at all and he often just sleeps for super long periods of time and leaves his son in his crib. I went over today and he was passed out with a few bottles of alcohol next to him and his son was screaming. I am worried about them both to be honest. Well i fed my nephew and got his diaper changed and got him dressed and was cuddling with him when my brother came to and i asked him if he wants me to take his son for awhile so he can work through his grief and he got raging pissed at me and cussed at me and told me to leave and that no one can take his son.I don’t know what to do to be honest i am worried about my nephews safety and well being but my brother wont let me help him out. Advice?

every day theirs parents that insult everybody, including their own, that their’re abandon from their family, except a son or their daughter. that with all the insult they take , till they take care of them. without support of another member. and without doing a intervension.

i quit my bad habits when i learned i was pregnant and the babys father was suppose to too, but hasnt. he is a compulsive liar whose addicted to meth. i want my son to have the best upbringing, and in this world i believe that starts with a loving family, with both parents to guide him with unconditional love and stability.i dont want to raise my son without a father. ive always felt such a void growing up without one myself. watching my mom work constantly with very limited time to even get to know her kids. i regret being so naive. i dont want the babys father in my life and i refuse to let him be in my sons life. a man that will never love our son more than he loves meth. ive waited 7 months thru all his lies for him to get his life together and get off drugs, but now its getting close to my due date and i want to do whats best for my son. would like to find a loving couple that is interested in adopting my son. i need help. i dont know what steps to take

i quit my bad habits when i learned i was pregnant and the babys father was suppose to too, but hasnt. he is a compulsive liar whose addicted to meth. i want my son to have the best upbringing, and in this world i believe that starts with a loving family, with both parents to guide him with unconditional love and stability.i dont want to raise my son without a father. ive always felt such a void growing up without one myself. watching my mom work constantly with very limited time to even get to know her kids. i regret being so naive. i dont want the babys father in my life and i refuse to let him be in my sons life. a man that will never love our son more than he loves meth. ive waited 7 months thru all his lies for him to get his life together and get off drugs, but now its getting close to my due date and i want to do whats best for my son. would like to find a loving couple that is interested in adopting my son. i need help. i dont know what steps to take

My son was diagnosed with shaken baby syndrome. Once this was established children youth and services stepped in and took both my son and my daughter. this was in feb of last yr. I have been doing everything they asked me to like parenting evaluations psychiatrist’s etc. the judge finally ruled my kids father to 22- 44 months in prison. Now im still trying to get my kids back. they are in a foster family because no one in my family could take them. Now they want to put my children up for adoption! Ive had positive feedback from every appointment i go to. i am now 9 weeks pregnant and my case worker threatened to to take my newborn baby too when she is born. For no reason! i have no criminal history im not a drug addict or alcoholic. I do suffer from very high anxiety and depression, since all of this has occur ed! my son was 4 months old when his father did this and now hes 15 months! and my daughter just turned 3! i have an attorney and she told me to just go along with anything C.y.s wants me to do! but im not going to let them put them up for adoption! i have court coming on the 28th for a permanency hearing! im so nervous! and i don’t even know why they want to do this to me! im stable i have everything my children need and more im a loving mother!all i did was let there dad watch them one night and this happens! at first C.y.s tried charging me for perpetrator by omission but the judge ruled that out! ive done there services and they still wont help me get my kids back!!!! im at a loss. im trying to stay positive but its extremely hard. i have visitations only once a week and it drives me crazy to see them cry when they have to leave! my daughter doesn’t understand why she cant stay at home with mommy. i think about them 24/7 and i feel there’s nothing i can do! no one gives me answers tow hat i can do. i will fight though and never sign adoption papers. but C.y.s told me they can do it without my consent!!! i just don’t understand why the feel they have the power to tear my family apart my children are my world i feel as if i have no heart anymore! im constantly sad and i cant sleep at night anymore! if you have any answers that would help me on how to get my kids back home please let me know im at a complete loss!
Well first, Yes i am handling my stress and anxiety i go to a therapist every week. I am trying to stay healthy and yes that makes sense that if im not healthy i wouldn’t be any good to my children BUT the thing is once i get them home i know emotionally and mentally i would feel a ton better!!! i am a single mom and they are EVERYTHING to me. I miss hearing there laughter and i miss all the little things like waking up and making them breakfast! i miss holding them and comforting them! cys knows i am a good parent! my house is under control i’m a very clean person and my children have always had everything they’ve ever needed! and YES i wasn’t home when it happened that is why he got charged and is now sitting in prison! my kids and i are the ones suffering from all this! they deserve to be with me and i will not stop fighting for them. Thank you for the positive responses. I have wrote in a journal everything that has happened my appts. my goals that were met and conversations. i wil

or that her boyfriend did cocaine?
sorry i meant that her son smoked weed

I don’t mind helping my boyfriend take care of the small things, but I’ve been thrown in to the mommy role over night. We’ve been together 5 months and his son calls me mommy. Sometimes I get overwhelmed, I am not used to being around a kid 24/7. also his son has emotional problems. his mother is a meth addict and he often freaks out screaming/crying/throwing a fit for no reason and is hard to control. I’m very patient with the boy and nice but I just feel like this is too much responsibility. any advice on how to cope? tips to make things smoother?
the child actually has emotional problems….We are supposed to get him in to counseling because he freaks out so bad. it’s not normal toddler fits, it’s a result of an unstable life

My ex husband went into rehab right after Thanksgiving for cocaine. We have joint custody of our 5 year old son. He gave power of attorney to his mother. She is not complying with the divorce papers. Took my name off of the pick up list at school, and will not return any of my calls. What are my rights? I I get him can I keep him until his father returns ? My son lives with his father, and visits me on the weekends, but I have not seen him since Thanksgiving.

Please help I’m going crazy without him !! I live in Fl

My Brother is 24, and has a 4 year-old son, whom he has custody of. My Brother has not had a job since he was 17 and worked 2 days a week at a pet store for 3 months. He is a heroin addict, and has been going to a methadone clinic for over a year now. He claimed he was off the junk, but then OD’d last month, had a seizure, and ended up in the hospital where we found all his fresh track marks. He has 4 teeth left in his mouth from doing drugs, including a 3 year addiction to meth. He has pretty much been a drug addict since our parents divorced when he was 10. Yes, you read that right, 10. He drinks about a 1.75 ltr. of booze every Friday and Saturday, when his son goes to his mother’s for her visitation time. She isn’t any better. She is extremely verbally and emotionally abusive to her son, and is also a drug addict and a heavy drinker, although not as bad as my brother.

My brother’s home is a disaster zone. There is no clean places to walk through, and in all my travels across the US I have NEVER seen even a public toilet as gross as his toilet is. He does not own a vacuum, and has lived in his current apartment for 9 months without it being cleaned once. There is trash and old food everywhere in their place, and dirty laundry piled up 3 feet high (no exaggeration). My brother smokes, as does his father, like a chimney, and together they smoke 5 packs a day. They have no problem smoking around the kid, who has had a permanent smokers cough since he was 2 months old.

My nephew is a great kid, who is starting to really show the signs of all the abuse and neglect he is given. He was potty trained, but has recently begun to crap his pants again. He does it constantly now, and also randomly chooses to pee on his own bed. Not wet the bed, but rather it will be the middle of the day, and he will stand up and pee on his bed. He also eats terribly, and most of the time his diet at home consists of doughnuts and power bars and pop and candy, which my brother and his dad whom he lives with thinks is a perfectly fine diet.

My nephew comes over to either my home or my mother’s home and always asks us if he can live with us, and gets very upset when it is time to go. Not a tantrum (I have 3 girls of my own, I know the difference), but genuinely sad that he has to go back to that environment. When he is at my home, he never has an accident in his pants. He eats great, and sleeps through the night no problem. He is a great little kid, and I am having such a hard time knowing what to do!

My mother keeps trying to give my brother the benefit of the doubt, but I just think enough is enough. My brother is moving out this week, into an apartment with an alcoholic friend of his who also has Hep. C, and he sees no problem with this. The guy also lives in a VERY bad area in Minneapolis.

I love my brother, and I know he had a very tough childhood, but I am right in feeling like he needs to grow up and put his son first? Should I step in and contact child services? Reading what I have written, it almost seems so obvious, but, when it comes to family, it never is.

My sister has a serious drug addiction. I never know what drug she’s doing from week to week. One week its Loratabs, then it’s Cocaine, then it’s OxyCotton, etc. She and her drug addict boyfriend are both unemployed. My sister received welfare, food stamps, and child support. She has openly admitted that she is a drug addict and that she uses her child support and sells her food stamps to get she and her boyfriends fix. She spent her $2000 tax check on drugs . . . she admitted this. She always accuses my mother and stepdad of not loving her and not wanting her because they always have a lecture for her. She has a 4 year old son, and no matter how many times we have offered or threatened to take him until she got sober, she absolutely refuses to give him up. I understand she loves him, but what I can’t understand is how a parent wouldn’t want a better life for their child. My biggest fears are that she is going to end up dead and that my nephew is going to grow up just like her. How do I convince her that she needs help and until she decides to get it she needs to let somebody else care for her child? I want to call CPS but that department never fails to disappoint me.

I am adopting my 3 month old nephew from my drug addicted sister who can no longer care for him. The issue is, I have never had kids!! I did this as a favor out of love since i do not want the kid in foster care or to be adopted out to strangers. I financially cut it, and the CPS approved of me after doing a background check. I am reading up on baby books, but nothing tells me the one thing I want to know!!

WHAT IS A TYPICAL DAY LIKE WITH A 3 YR MONTH OLD AND HOW TO GET IT ON A NORMAL SLEEP SCHEDULE???? WHAT DO I DO WITH IT BESIDES CHANGE DIAPERS AND DO BABY TALK? WHEN DO I MAKE BOTTLES? HOW DO I MEASURE FORMULA CORRECTLY??? I know i need to get it into a sleep schedule since the books say 3 months is the age for that, and I know he needs to learn to self-soothe and sleep alone and nap only twice a day. JUST HOW DO I SCHEDULE THE DAY OUT PROPERLY? LIKE WHEN TO WAKE HIM, WHEN TO PUT HIM TO SLEEP, HOW TO MAKE BOTTLES WHEN HE IS AWAKE ALL THE TIME??
Thanks!

We Are Running Out OF Time
Please Hear US!
My niece 10yrs & nephew 12yrs were taken from their crack addicted mother and their father who is not addicted to anything; the court claims the father neglected to keep the children safe; although their mother didn’t use drugs in front of them; she was actually never at the residence; she would disappear for days; then return home and sleep all day; their father would provide for the children every need; however Georgia DFCS said they were being deprived and took both my niece and nephew into state custody. My sister has all but given up on getting her children back; she’s refused to go into treatment; their father was instructed to take residence elsewhere. DFCS didn’t contact us (the immediate family) during their investigation nor did they contact us after the children were taken into custody. After being notified by my the father; myself and another sister submitted to a back ground check, finger printing & drug screening with hope that DFCS would consider placing the children with us. We passed the test; however, we were told that the father had first choice; however, there is a process that he would have to go through before he could get the children out of foster care; things such as moving out; he did that; he moved in with his brother; after he complied to their request; he was later told he had to attend parenting classes that were assigned to him by DFCS ; all of which could take months; possibly years.
The father is 69 yrs old; he suffered from 3 minor strokes in the past; however, he recovered; he’s in good shape. But with stress of dealing with his children being in foster care could possibly bring on another stroke. I believe he remained healthy and strong for his children and now that they are gone; I don’t know what would happen; I’m afraid his health will deterate ; he cries every time I talk with him; he’s worried and he’s under an extreme amount of stress and pressure. He’s willing to do what ever it takes to bring his children home and he’s fully capable of taking care of his children. But if we continue to wait any longer, I’m afraid we may have to deliver yet some more bad news to his children/my niece and nephew. It’s enough to know that their mother is gone; it would be horrible to loose their father.
We, the immediate family and the father has requested that DFCS place the children with us; As stated above DFCS told us that we will have to wait….Why can’t my niece and nephew be placed in our home (Aunt) instead of foster care until their father comply with DFCS request? We won’t the children home with us; they need their father and their father needs them, they need to be in an environment they are familiar with; and family members they have known since birth.
Someone please help us immediately….Jessica & Jamal would like to come home. Jessica is a straight “A” honor student and I feel the longer she’s away from home the more it will effect her in a negative way. Jessica is actually counting the days; the last time we spoke she told us she had 26 days before she can come home; she’s holding on. I can tell in her voice that she’s holding on; she’s trying her best to be strong…I can also hear in her voice that she’s cracking. her brother Jamal is a very polite boy…he loves his X-Box and Play Station games; he’s funny and out going; DFCS recently told us that he may be placed on medication…we requested that they get a second opinion; we begged that they get a second opinion; but the longer he’s in DFCS the more time DFCS will have to do what they feel is best. January 23, 2009; Jessica called her father from school crying; Jamal has started to act out in school. These children need help ASAP! Someone please help us…I’m begging for help….I’m usually on the computer day and night search for someone to give us some advice. We need you right now. These children were not in immediate harm; they have a addicted mother; that’s the only crime, and the children and their father paying the price.
We are not looking for money; we need advice, we need to be heard !
I’m begging that someone out there hear me before it’s to late. To late for Jessica; Jamal and their father. Someone please help us; PLEASE……Don’t let this story be another DFCS error/horror story TITLED: THE JESSICA & JAMAL DFCS HORROR
PLEASE WE NEED THE COMMUNITY HELP!
WE NEED TO BE SERIOUSLY HEARD.

Aunt
Merissa Young; Arenda Young & D’Quilla Young & Mr. Charles Lackey
youngmerissa@yahoo.com; arenday@bellsouth.com

My nephew has suffered alot. My brother left him when he was 5 years old. My brother wants nothing to do with any of his kids but that is another story…anyways his mother is an alcoholic and drug addict and has neglected him ( no food, has left him at school til 6pm) you get the point…well he is now staying with me and my daughter, but i have noticed he lies alot, pretends to not know things, and is very manipulative. What should I do!!

My nephew is 15 months old and we are having a hearing later this month to terminate my brother and sister in laws rights (she is a drug addict and he is crazy). I have 3 children of my own 11,9 and 7 years old and she is pregnant again. I really want a girl but I go crazy with the 4 children I have now.not to mention the expense of raising 4 children Should I consider this unborn child or am I crazy?