My son is very lonely, no friends, leaves apart, no drugs, no alcohol. He can’t hold a job for more than 3 months I don’t know why. He always broke I have help him sometimes with rent but I can’t do this any more. I want to stop but I’m so scared that he loose his place I’m always worried about him. What to do? let him alone to be responsible no mattjer wjat? He dosn’t tell
me what’s going on. is like he try to do the right things and then sometnings happen.I want my some happy.
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the baby’s father, (we’ll call him travis), has cheated on me and has been verbally and physically abusive to me, as was his father to him and his mom and sister. both travis and his father also abused drugs. (they both say all that’s in the past, but i wonder sometimes). not only did travis’ father cheat on his mom, but a child came out of one of his affairs.
my father wasn’t abusive, but he stayed out all night on many weekends, leaving my mom with us kids and had at least one affair that i am aware of. my father also abused drugs and alcohol.
i am so scared that my son will grow up to treat women this way and that he will turn to drugs. ever since i found out i was having a boy, i have been thinking of techniques and planning speaches that will hopefully lead my boy on the right path.
i had given travis one too many chances to redeem himself and had finally broke it off with travis 3 weeks before i found out i was having his baby.
i am so scared now that i have brought another life into this mess. with my issues with men after how i’ve been treated for the past 15 years, putting up with lying and cheating and abuse from several bad relationships, and not having a single ounce of trust in men, i don’t know how i am going to pass this along to my son in hopes that he won’t put any female through what me, my mom and travis’ mom has been through… not to mention us kids that witnessed a lot of it.
i know i might be rambling a bit, but does anyone have any suggestions of how to teach my son to treat women respectfully, and to make sure that he treats the ones he cares for extra special?
i have been worrying myself to death about this, even though i won’t know how he will turn out for two more decades. please, some wise words.
i greatly appreciate any and all input.
the baby’s father, (we’ll call him travis), has cheated on me and has been verbally and physically abusive to me, as was his father to him and his mom and sister. both travis and his father also abused drugs. (they both say all that’s in the past, but i wonder sometimes). not only did travis’ father cheat on his mom, but a child came out of one of his affairs.
my father wasn’t abusive, but he stayed out all night on many weekends, leaving my mom with us kids and had at least one affair that i am aware of. my father also abused drugs and alcohol.
i am so scared that my son will grow up to treat women this way and that he will turn to drugs. ever since i found out i was having a boy, i have been thinking of techniques and planning speaches that will hopefully lead my boy on the right path.
i had given travis one too many chances to redeem himself and had finally broke it off with travis 3 weeks before i found out i was having his baby.
i am so scared now that i have brought another life into this mess. with my issues with men after how i’ve been treated for the past 15 years, putting up with lying and cheating and abuse from several bad relationships, and not having a single ounce of trust in men, i don’t know how i am going to pass this along to my son in hopes that he won’t put any female through what me, my mom and travis’ mom has been through… not to mention us kids that witnessed a lot of it.
i know i might be rambling a bit, but does anyone have any suggestions of how to teach my son to treat women respectfully, and to make sure that he treats the ones he cares for extra special?
i have been worrying myself to death about this, even though i won’t know how he will turn out for two more decades. please, some wise words.
i greatly appreciate any and all input.
the baby’s father, (we’ll call him travis), has cheated on me and has been verbally and physically abusive to me, as was his father to him and his mom and sister. both travis and his father also abused drugs. (they both say all that’s in the past, but i wonder sometimes). not only did travis’ father cheat on his mom, but a child came out of one of his affairs.
my father wasn’t abusive, but he stayed out all night on many weekends, leaving my mom with us kids and had at least one affair that i am aware of. my father also abused drugs and alcohol.
i am so scared that my son will grow up to treat women this way and that he will turn to drugs. ever since i found out i was having a boy, i have been thinking of techniques and planning speaches that will hopefully lead my boy on the right path.
i had given travis one too many chances to redeem himself and had finally broke it off with travis 3 weeks before i found out i was having his baby.
i am so scared now that i have brought another life into this mess. with my issues with men after how i’ve been treated for the past 15 years, putting up with lying and cheating and abuse from several bad relationships, and not having a single ounce of trust in men, i don’t know how i am going to pass this along to my son in hopes that he won’t put any female through what me, my mom and travis’ mom has been through… not to mention us kids that witnessed a lot of it.
i know i might be rambling a bit, but does anyone have any suggestions of how to teach my son to treat women respectfully, and to make sure that he treats the ones he cares for extra special?
i have been worrying myself to death about this, even though i won’t know how he will turn out for two more decades. please, some wise words.
i greatly appreciate any and all input.
the baby’s father, (we’ll call him travis), has cheated on me and has been verbally and physically abusive to me, as was his father to him and his mom and sister. both travis and his father also abused drugs. (they both say all that’s in the past, but i wonder sometimes). not only did travis’ father cheat on his mom, but a child came out of one of his affairs.
my father wasn’t abusive, but he stayed out all night on many weekends, leaving my mom with us kids and had at least one affair that i am aware of. my father also abused drugs and alcohol.
i am so scared that my son will grow up to treat women this way and that he will turn to drugs. ever since i found out i was having a boy, i have been thinking of techniques and planning speaches that will hopefully lead my boy on the right path.
i had given travis one too many chances to redeem himself and had finally broke it off with travis 3 weeks before i found out i was having his baby.
i am so scared now that i have brought another life into this mess. with my issues with men after how i’ve been treated for the past 15 years, putting up with lying and cheating and abuse from several bad relationships, and not having a single ounce of trust in men, i don’t know how i am going to pass this along to my son in hopes that he won’t put any female through what me, my mom and travis’ mom has been through… not to mention us kids that witnessed a lot of it.
i know i might be rambling a bit, but does anyone have any suggestions of how to teach my son to treat women respectfully, and to make sure that he treats the ones he cares for extra special?
i have been worrying myself to death about this, even though i won’t know how he will turn out for two more decades. please, some wise words.
i greatly appreciate any and all input.
I admit I spent more time on the couch drinking than I did playing with my boy whom now is 12. I did still go out and play catch with him lots and watched all his sport games cheering from the sidelines. I went to all his school events, volunteered as a room mom etc.My husband divorced me because of my alcohol abuse. I am in treatment now. I call my son and his step mon says he does not want to talk to me then continues to hurl insults in such a cruel way. She even had my 83 year old dad that I live with because of his alzheimers crying!I have tried to reason with her through my tears that we need to talk and she just yells louder. I pray my boy is not able to hear her. Legally I have my boy on wednesdays plus my share of the holidays.Since to Christmases ago I have not seen my son. People tell me to get a lawyer but I have always been to emotional to stop my crying. I don’t want my son seeing this mess.I write my son every week or so with no response. My x says he does receive them
He has stayed w/ my spouse, 18 yr old son on and off for past 20 yrs. Has been through 2 60 day treatment programs this year alone. Has worked on getting a a “good” job for over 2 mos. When he finally gets it, he relapses and screws it up. Our father, as well as his sponsor at AA both think he needs to be commited for at least 6 mos to a year. After a 6 day binge, he is willing to seek add’l help, but problem seems to always come up after he spends 2 mos. trying to get a job that once he gets it, he starts a binge, which is precisely what just happened. My husband no longer wants him to stay w/ us, he has no home, needs further treatment. I have researched what it takes to commit someone, but since he is willing to go for treatment, not an issue. Our dad thinks we can commit him and then we be the one to judge when he can be released. I have been his #1 enabler, but NO MORE. How to explain to dad this is not how commitment works? Can print out variety of research. HELP PLEASE!!
One major thing that presents a big obstacle is that my brother has not been able to work for approx. past 7 years. Therefore, he is homeless! He never has been able to follow through with any type of after care treatment when we allow him to stay with us. When he relapses, it causes a great deal of havoc within our home, so NO MORE staying w/ us. Has had 2 relapses after his last 60 day treatment program which ended only 2 mos. ago. With no job, no insurance, he is only entitled to state sponsored rehab programs. To me, he needs to address psychological issues MORE than his alcoholic tendencies. ANY SUGGESTIONS OTHER THAN THE OBVIOUS ONES OF ME ATTENDING AL-ANON, OF CEASING TO BE HIS ENABLER ARE MORE THAN WELCOME!!! THANKS A BUNCH !!!
As of latest writing of this question, brother is once again going to go into treatment center/rehab for his alcholism…..do they provide adequate mental health counselling in these rehabs? Think he needs to focus more on the psychological issues he has that perhaps can lead him to drink…..any suggestions???
He has stayed w/ my spouse, 18 yr old son on and off for past 20 yrs. Has been through 2 60 day treatment programs this year alone. Has worked on getting a a “good” job for over 2 mos. When he finally gets it, he relapses and screws it up. Our father, as well as his sponsor at AA both think he needs to be commited for at least 6 mos to a year. After a 6 day binge, he is willing to seek add’l help, but problem seems to always come up after he spends 2 mos. trying to get a job that once he gets it, he starts a binge, which is precisely what just happened. My husband no longer wants him to stay w/ us, he has no home, needs further treatment. I have researched what it takes to commit someone, but since he is willing to go for treatment, not an issue. Our dad thinks we can commit him and then we be the one to judge when he can be released. I have been his #1 enabler, but NO MORE. How to explain to dad this is not how commitment works? Can print out variety of research. HELP PLEASE!!
One major thing that presents a big obstacle is that my brother has not been able to work for approx. past 7 years. Therefore, he is homeless! He never has been able to follow through with any type of after care treatment when we allow him to stay with us. When he relapses, it causes a great deal of havoc within our home, so NO MORE staying w/ us. Has had 2 relapses after his last 60 day treatment program which ended only 2 mos. ago. With no job, no insurance, he is only entitled to state sponsored rehab programs. To me, he needs to address psychological issues MORE than his alcoholic tendencies. ANY SUGGESTIONS OTHER THAN THE OBVIOUS ONES OF ME ATTENDING AL-ANON, OF CEASING TO BE HIS ENABLER ARE MORE THAN WELCOME!!! THANKS A BUNCH !!!
As of latest writing of this question, brother is once again going to go into treatment center/rehab for his alcholism…..do they provide adequate mental health counselling in these rehabs? Think he needs to focus more on the psychological issues he has that perhaps can lead him to drink…..any suggestions???
see im a transexaul and its fake pubic hair . it might be from my sons meth lab. hes always spillin the shit on my bed .help please
So my boyfriend has a little brother who is 5 and he 19 but he has always taken care of him, and he can’t make him mind AT ALL!. It drives me crazy, Tim can’t make teddy go to sleep at a good time, he stays up and watches cartoons in till 5 IN THE MORNING. He’s so sneaky, he will sneak out and watch TV when Tim is asleep and Tim will find teddy pass out on the couch when he gets up to use the bath room. I don’t live with him, but I can hear teddy saying no to Tim all the time and its 2 in the Moring. It gets on my nerves sooooooooooo BAD. I told him to take away his toys and not give them back in till he minds. Tim lives with his dead beat dad and 2 other brothers who don’t help out at all. So it’s just Tim all the time taking care of teddy when it should be his father. the mother is gone no one can find her because she’s on meth…So I told Tim that teddy should be in bed by nine, and teddy doesn’t even have a room to himself he sleeps in his brothers rooms for Christ sake. IT DRIVES ME CRAZY LISTENING TO IT. He gets no respect from teddy, I told Tim you should spank him (not with a belt) but just do it! He needs to know who the boss which teddy thinks he is. I HATE IT!!! I’m pulling my hair out over here, I’m seriously thinking about breaking up with him if he won’t take care of it. I don’t know what to do. PLEASE HELP ME
Yesterday, I was woken up at 2am by a knock at the door, and it was my son with 2 police officers. The officer informed me that my son was in possession of alcohol and was cautioned about underage drinking. The officers had also found him and his two friends in the early process of vandalizing an abandoned car and officers were called to the scene after a complaint was made from one of the people who lived nearby.
My son apparently snuck out of the house while I was sleeping when this all happened.
What can I do? I am very concerned!
Let us face facts. Nooses in trees will set off violence and resentment. BUT….The Klan can take a permanent vacation because our cities and towns where African Americans live is where Black people live in fear of young black men and Black teen boys. The dealing of crack cocaine and the endless shootings and robberies need the REAL attention. The negative attitude many of our young black men and teens have towards education and proper English needs attention. I am seeing many African American families where the daughter goes to college and the son ends up in prison. Black Africans immigrating to the USA do not have that kind of attitude and their English is damn near perfect, even spoken better than most educated whites. This is a mystery to me. I guess Jesse Jackson and Al Sharpton are afraid to confront the crack dealers and young black men too, like most people. Or maybe they can’t make any money doing that. The late Corretta Scott King worked for us, not for media hype.
Let us face facts. Nooses in trees will set off violence and resentment. BUT….The Klan can take a permanent vacation because our cities and towns where African Americans live is where Black people live in fear of young black men and Black teen boys. The dealing of crack cocaine and the endless shootings and robberies need the REAL attention. The negative attitude many of our young black men and teens have towards education and proper English needs attention. I am seeing many African American families where the daughter goes to college and the son ends up in prison. Black Africans immigrating to the USA do not have that kind of attitude and their English is damn near perfect, even spoken better than most educated whites. This is a mystery to me. I guess Jesse Jackson and Al Sharpton are afraid to confront the crack dealers and young black men too, like most people. Or maybe they can’t make any money doing that. The late Corretta Scott King worked for us, not for media hype.
this poem was sent to him and he read it on the country radio station the bull husband heard it and told me about it and i have a son back in colo that i really want to read this poem to cuz he has let this drug take over his life and its killing me to watch him die to this drug
I’ve been his step for 7 yrs. He went thru puperty and came out a jerk. Really. His other siblings I have no problem with. He hates rules and recently I found some paper about him talking not so nice about me. Like don’t have your dad marry some old b—h because you can’t do what u want anymore. See before me dad was at work all the time and they were all getting into trouble with cops and stuff. The neighbors couldn’t handle any of them. They 2 youngest were on their way to foster home because they were missing school and dad wasn’t aware. See his ex left him and the kids 8 years ago and became a meth user. In and ot of prison.I’ve become close to the ex’s sis. She can’t understand step-son problem either. He’s causing so much grief for all of us.We just want him to graduate at this point and let him leave. But I’m going crazy being the one who’s always home with him. Dad works 12pm-2am. I’ve tried my best but this boy is just trouble. Nothing like his siblings. he’s 17 God help me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Hes’ touched my daughter inappropriate
he’s gone to counseling
has a small record
shoved dad around(dad won’t hit him back he’s his son)
Now smokes dope chews
Had someone falsely arrested (we corrected that one with the police)
Mean to his little brother
I could go on and on
And no I don’t call him a jerk to his face. I try to act nice but it’s hard on me.
live love , I hope to find some info on the schools but he is 17. I hope to find something for him. I don’t want his life wasted.
I’ve been his step for 7 yrs. He went thru puperty and came out a jerk. Really. His other siblings I have no problem with. He hates rules and recently I found some paper about him talking not so nice about me. Like don’t have your dad marry some old b—h because you can’t do what u want anymore. See before me dad was at work all the time and they were all getting into trouble with cops and stuff. The neighbors couldn’t handle any of them. They 2 youngest were on their way to foster home because they were missing school and dad wasn’t aware. See his ex left him and the kids 8 years ago and became a meth user. In and ot of prison.I’ve become close to the ex’s sis. She can’t understand step-son problem either. He’s causing so much grief for all of us.We just want him to graduate at this point and let him leave. But I’m going crazy being the one who’s always home with him. Dad works 12pm-2am. I’ve tried my best but this boy is just trouble. Nothing like his siblings. he’s 17 God help me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Hes’ touched my daughter inappropriate
he’s gone to counseling
has a small record
shoved dad around(dad won’t hit him back he’s his son)
Now smokes dope chews
Had someone falsely arrested (we corrected that one with the police)
Mean to his little brother
I could go on and on
And no I don’t call him a jerk to his face. I try to act nice but it’s hard on me.
live love , I hope to find some info on the schools but he is 17. I hope to find something for him. I don’t want his life wasted.
I’ve been his step for 7 yrs. He went thru puperty and came out a jerk. Really. His other siblings I have no problem with. He hates rules and recently I found some paper about him talking not so nice about me. Like don’t have your dad marry some old b—h because you can’t do what u want anymore. See before me dad was at work all the time and they were all getting into trouble with cops and stuff. The neighbors couldn’t handle any of them. They 2 youngest were on their way to foster home because they were missing school and dad wasn’t aware. See his ex left him and the kids 8 years ago and became a meth user. In and ot of prison.I’ve become close to the ex’s sis. She can’t understand step-son problem either. He’s causing so much grief for all of us.We just want him to graduate at this point and let him leave. But I’m going crazy being the one who’s always home with him. Dad works 12pm-2am. I’ve tried my best but this boy is just trouble. Nothing like his siblings. he’s 17 God help me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Hes’ touched my daughter inappropriate
he’s gone to counseling
has a small record
shoved dad around(dad won’t hit him back he’s his son)
Now smokes dope chews
Had someone falsely arrested (we corrected that one with the police)
Mean to his little brother
I could go on and on
And no I don’t call him a jerk to his face. I try to act nice but it’s hard on me.
live love , I hope to find some info on the schools but he is 17. I hope to find something for him. I don’t want his life wasted.
I’m 28 and 5 years ago my bf of 6 months but best friend before, died suddenly in a horrific car accident he was only 23, it was such a shock for me i could just about cope, 6 months after that my auntie dies at the age of 50 of alcohol poisoning, then a month after that my nan dies they all were very close to me, i was very up set but smoke weed to block it out, any way 2 years after that a friend from school i hadn’t seen for 3 years died at the age of 21 from cancer, and iv just found out today that my best friends mums been fighting for her life in a coma threw banging her head died last nite, i feel like death is all around me, i cant understand that someone can be gone with in seconds, i worry for my son he is 10 I’m so worried some think will bad happen to him, as iv lost a few other friend along the way from getting murdered, i mean i just can get over this, how can i stay strong with out cracking up, thats what i feel like I’m heading,
I don’t understand why I cant lose my “after baby body”. My Son will be a year old on Sept.4th and I am still 140 pounds. I am 5’3, and the weight is going straight to my stomach. I look perfect at a weight of 125, but these last few pounds are not leaving. I have tried everything. I am desperate and at my wits end. I feel my last option is drugs (Illegal) but I don’t want to be a drug addicted and neglectful mother. I love my son and I want to be a good mom but I want to be a beautiful wife also. although my husband is loving and doesn’t complain I Know he doesn’t look at me the same, I don’t look at me the same. It may sound vain but it is important to me. How can I lose this weight and why has it been so hard? I want the drugs because I know they will work…how do I keep from reaching that point? Please Help.
My son is a cocaine addict 23, years of age. He has a difficult time understanding why he can’t drink and again why is cocaine a diffiuclt drug to stop using?
