This disagreement is about our 20 year old son.He has been going out on and off with this girl to say the least she is a loon. She is depressed a Cocaine addict and Ecstasy addict.My son started to date her two years ago when she was 16 and her found out she was using drugs and she said she would quit, but of course she did not. They breakup due to her drug behavior like she cheats on him at a drug party and in a few months she gets into trouble and lonely because she either screwed up her current relationship or her friends had enough of her.They got back together in the end of september and it lasted until the beginning of december. When she was at my house i noticed she lost a lost of weight and she was shaking lot. My sons friends had to leave because she had an anxiety attack. This girl acted paranoid all the time and his friends told me she was having nose bleeds. Here is the disagreement between me and my wife,she thinks again in time this girl will want him back and this whole crazy cycle will start again. I think this girl has been addicted to coke and Ecstasy since she was 16 now she is just 18 and having nosebleeds lose of weight and acting paranoid. i believe that this girl does not have long to be on this Earth and not to be mean problem solved. my wife says i am wrong… am I ?
I am physically disabled, and I have bipolar. I have a very low income. I get housing assistance and disability. I divorced my ex husband 8 years ago for domestic violence. A year later, I forgave him, and we became “okay” friends again.
My ex and I spend a lot of time together. He goes to work sometimes, lives with his parents, and is an alcoholic. His parents also take care of him and pay all of his bills.
We always argue because he wants his son to spend days & nights at his grandparents house which is also his house. But my ex husband rarely spends any time with his son when he is there.
Also, when my son is there, the grandparents are so nice to him, and buy him lots of cool toys & video games, that he doesn’t even want to come back to my house. He cries and says, why can’t I live with my grandparents all the time.
Basically, my question is, “Who will win custody of my son if this goes back to court… Me or my ex husband?”
Thanks so much.
My wife and I are in an argument over what the definition of alcohol abuse is versus misuse. From what I learned in my high school health class misuse IS abuse if the person drinking is underage as in our son’s case. My wife believes that abuse is reserved for raging alcoholics and that our son is just experimenting like everyone else his age. I have mixed views given my own “experimentation”, but I want to handle this better than our parents did. Our son also recently received a public intoxication ticket and we had to pick him up from the police station.
In the grand scheme of things the answer does not help us with our underage son, but it at least puts us on the same page as how best to handle it.
my son is 32, hiv, and an alcoholic. he has chosen to live as a homeless person for years. now the weather is bad and he needs to come indoors to keep from getting sick. however he has not respected the rules, me or my husband. this almost cost me my marriage this week. it will be at least two weeks until i can get my son into treatment, so what do i do send him to a shelter?