basicly my son will soon be turning 17, nearly all of his mates are 17 too, some older than 17, and a few younger. and he wants to have a big birthday celebration with about 40 of his friends. Now I don’t have a problem with that number of people around our house and garden, but i was wondering what would happen if the police we’re called out over a noise complaint or something, and they turn up to find a lot of drunken 17 year olds? Would i be fined or anything because they were at MY house?
Now i will point out to any people un-aware of the laws regarding alcohol in england, that in england the age you can drink and buy alcohol is 18. The law also says that if you are having a meal in a pub/bar you can buy beer/cider/wine at 16, aslong as someone over 18 buys it FOR you, i.e it’s not your money. And the law also says that in the privacy of your own home, a child as young as 5 can be GIVEN any alcoholic beverage they wish by a parent/guardian. (yes, i know that last law is ridiculous, but it’s still the law).
so as my son and most of his friends would be underage by 1 year, would the police mind? or would they turn a blind eye because at least these teenagers arent going around getting drunk on the streets, but are in a safe controlled enviroment?
thanks for any answers (sorry if this was a bit long)
And a quick note to anyone here who says anything about my ‘bad morals’ or “he shouldn’t drink anyway hes too young”, i wasn’t asking about that, i was wanting to know what what likely happen if the police were called down and saw the party. I think people need to face the fact that teenagers have ALWAYS drank underage and ALWAYS will, so it’s up to us as parents to make sure they know the conesequences of it and the dangers of it. Other than that i don’t mind my son drinking as he is only underage by 1 year…
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For starters, my best friend, Jovi, well she’s having a problem with her parents. I am 16, she is 14. We all live in America. It’s really her parents, they fight, a lot. Basically every week actually, and then they are good again. And it really hurts her when they fight. Stuff they usually fight about is so dumb. It’s usually stuff about their son (who is an alcoholic), her accusing him of cheating on her (which he really never would do), and other stuff. I think it might be becuase when they were much younger (before Jovi was alive), her dad mistreated her mom when they lived in Venezuela (it’s unfortuntly common there). A lot of the problems occur when they drink, which they do a lot. Well tonight they got into a fight and Jovi’s mom told her that she was going to move back to Venezuela this December. Jovi is now saying she actually wants her parents to get a divorce (which they sometimes want), and it’s making me upset. It’s hard for me to watch her sit there and not try anything…
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…to help fix it. It almost makes me feel angry at her, like she doesn’t care about them. Now something you should know about Jovi, she’s really a selfish person, a good person, but unkowingly selfish. I think that’s part of why she wants them to split, because it hurts her when they fight and she’d feel better if that ended with divorce. Another thing about her, she doesn’t think about cause and effects, like what will happen in the future. And I am really really close to her whole family (they really are great people when they get along), but I just don’t see how any of her family could possibly benefit from a divorce. Her mom (unemployed), completely relys on her husband for money and she speaks no English. Jovi attends a really, really expensive private/catholic highschool (she has some financial aid for making great grades). Honestly, I think Jovanna has a really great future ahead of her. She will probably be the first of her family to go to college and the…
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…And just have a great life. I don’t know how this could affect it though. I don’t know what to do and I told her to talk to both her parents for real and tell them that what they are doing is hurting her. She told me she is going to do that. Well, basically that’s it. AND for anyone telling me to stay out of it, it’s not gunna happen becuase my best friend is asking me what she should do and I want to give her the best advice I can give her. I really don’t, and I know she really doesn’t want to see them break up. AND most of you say it’s usually for the better. This for sure wouldn’t be, as Jovi then might move to Venezuela where she can’t get anywhere near as good an education as she could here, and I really want her to have a great life. So please, help me out.
Thanks
My son’s “father” is an alcoholic and he is mentally abusive. (He isn’t honest or stand by his word) I do not feel safe with my son there. I have since moved on and found a very good role model for my son. He’s hardworking, honest and genuinely loves my son and I. I NEED full custody in order to protect him. Please help me.
My son spilled a little bit of soda pop on my keyboard and now the spacebar and the D key are sticking BADLY!!! I tried cleaning it by removing the affected keys and using a q-tip dipped in rubbing alcohol (that’s what I use to clean my mouse and it works just fine) but it doesn’t seem to have helped at all! Did the alcohol just make it worse or what?? What should be used to clean a keyboard in this instance if alcohol is not a good thing? I’ve already ordered a new keyboard so if I have damaged this one with the alcohol…I’m covered. Please help so I don’t make this mistake again if this was the wrong thing to do!
We have been married for close to 2 years. We have a 15 months old daughter who is my lovely cutie. Combined annual income: $70,000. Before marriage, I had dated 3 women and her 11 men. We are from different cultures: I am African and she’s American. I grew up in a stable christian home; She grew up in a dysfunctional family (dad had 2 extramarital affairs and has kids from them and mum too). My flaws; shower once every 2 days, kinda of messy but I clean up after myself, easily irritated but I have never physically or emotionally abused her, I have a high sex drive
My thinking: Marriage business is between hubby and wife (I keep family out; I rarely call my family but we love each other dearly). 2. Her mum is always in our business. When we have arguments, she vowed to always to stand by her kids. (Eldest son: Alcoholic, keeps moving in and out of house, wife “beater”, all the money he makes he sends it to her “fiancee”; )
Her thinking: If we have arguments she can tell her mom about them. 2. She pays $650/month (due to messed up credit) for her car note. (Camry 2007). I drive a 1999 Malibu which we got at $1000. 3. She wants to pay off $300 every week to a baby sitter yet her aunt charges 100/week (they don’t get along): My mother was willing to baby sit again for free (she baby sat her when she was 2 months until she left when she was 8 months) my mum is a retired professional pediatric nurse. 4. She needs to have a treat every week at a restaurant and have a tour to her hairdresser; $120/week 5. Before marriage she had debts totaling to about $25,000 (which I was willing to help take care of when we get financially stable. 6. She believes that her dad is a “devil’ since he doesn’t agree with her way of thinking. (I get along with my dad in-law; he minds his own business unless you seek for advice from him. he admits that he screwed up with the extramarital affairs but he can never change what happened. He has always asked me not to ever put our daughter thru. that; having another woman in my life)
When we I don’t agree with her she says I am mean minded and sometimes when I lose it, she calls ex-bf (who had proposed to her and later changed his mind) for “advice”. Ex-bf always put pressure on her to look nice and he contributed to her big debt.
P.S: Recently we separated and I was wondering whether divorce is an option (Kinda of not what my family virtues are)
My friend is in her late 20′s she has 3 dui’s she has a parole violation. She is a bad person who only cares about her self. She has a major drinking problem too, her brother died from a drunk driver. She is currently dating a man who is pushing 40. He used to be an alcoholic he stoppted because he doesn’t want to lose his 10 year old son.
He is good and clean now he hates drinking and alcohol. My friend drinks behind his back. Because she is bored and she says needs to be bad once and a while. They live together the last time she got drunk. He told if she does it again it’s over. She said she won’t do it again but she has hit the bottle four times since then. She quit her job and is looking for a new one. So far she hasn’t been looking she just sitting around the house getting bored and wanting to drink. I told her to stop because he is a nice man. He is letting her live with him for free and he takes her out and everything. After all this she still drinks behind his back.
My friend is in her late 20′s she has 3 dui’s she has a parole violation. She is a bad person who only cares about her self. She has a major drinking problem too, her brother died from a drunk driver. She is currently dating a man who is pushing 40. He used to be an alcoholic he stoppted because he doesn’t want to lose his 10 year old son.
He is good and clean now he hates drinking and alcohol. My friend drinks behind his back. Because she is bored and she says needs to be bad once and a while. They live together the last time she got drunk. He told if she does it again it’s over. She said she won’t do it again but she has hit the bottle four times since then. She quit her job and is looking for a new one. So far she hasn’t been looking she just sitting around the house getting bored and wanting to drink. I told her to stop because he is a nice man. He is letting her live with him for free and he takes her out and everything. After all this she still drinks behind his back.
I want to go to the Caribbean as soon as my baby is a little older and I have a bunch of cash (let me dream). I do not drink alcohol and would not take my son. I’m not into shows or loud music. I just envision me in the sun on the ocean reading, napping, getting massages and generally just relaxing and eating healthy, but good, food.
In other words, I want a quiet, beautiful cruise – not a party cruise.
Which cruise line is the best for this?
Our adopted son (9 years old) has Fetal Alcohol Syndrome. He is currently reading on a 1st grade level. He wants to “read better”.
http://enews.earthlink.net/article/top?guid=20070511/4643ea40_3ca6_1552620070511-912916872
Texas Mother Accused of Mutilating Baby
HOUSTON – A mother who claimed the family dog tore off her baby son’s genitals was arrested Friday and accused of mutilating the boy herself with a sharp instrument.
Katherine Nadal, 25, was led away in handcuffs while awaiting a court hearing on custody of the 3-month-old boy, Holden Gothia. She was charged with injury to a child and held on $100,000 bail.
Nadal had a history of prescription drug abuse and tested positive for cocaine and methadone the day after Holden was mutilated, authorities said.
Some of the story has been left out and there is a pic of her here tell me what you think? Is this the best treatment?
I am asking about prescription drugs here and I am specifically interested in psychiatric drugs, do you think that hooking people on mind altering addictive drugs is the best treatment?
“they shouldn’t be allowed to have children!!!! ”
That is a bad attitude, in fact it sucks, no one has the right to say this, the thing of it is is these are mind altering addictive drugs and people that are hooked on them and using them don’t know what they will or won’t do no more then a psychiatrist does, we need to stop this drug scourge we are calling best treatments, it is wrong and it is hurting and killing our people. This has to stop!
In Kentucky Wynema Worley was on antidepressant elavil and drove her little boy in the lake to die! She didn’t mean to I am sure it was what the elavil she was on did to her. I keep telling people and no one is listening, when is anyone going to listen that there is absolutely no valid and reliable scientific evidence for doing any of this, these psychiatrist and drugs need to stop. You are talking about Andrea Yates I think and there are others too.
1.you’re like a journalist how you can cut n paste n twist, you r awful.
2. mama told me when i was young, sit beside me my only son.
3.take me to the place where you go, where nobody knows, if it’s not our day.
4.me i like sleeping, especially in my molly’s chamber
5.with your bitch slap rapping and your cocaine tongue you get nothing done.
out of these 4
2 verses are irish rap
2 verses are grime
drug using,child abusing in every crazy estate
they arent lazy,theirs just no one to motivate
hazy in the morning,and full of hate
comedown so bad,they purchase an 8th
so lets translate calculate,serve the facts on a plate
modern day impact on,the youth could be great
but to this date,they let their pupils dillate
so who is to blame?its the goverment
when they,gona discover its bent
half sealing crack with rubber,not cement
from the slums themselves,but wearing a posh accent
they would lay sleep,during a crazy event
thats what happens when,you have a lazy president
taking from the poor,and not the rich
leads to another whore,found in a ditch
watever happened to our great ireland
were buying politicians sauna shoes suits
cerial and sweets even material treats
basicaly every thing in our bacterial streets
getting on my nerves is every c??t minster
so when i say this im blunt and sinister
this song is a vigor threat
so dont think im blowing smoke like a cigereete
sick of the conditions were in similar and inhumane
like the corporate companys treatment to the chicken
in the food chain
using us like a vampire use vein
then off to a plane to spain
holiday drinking champagne
with a prostitute called elaine jane
sniffing cocaine with the tax payers paying
my anger my hate i cannot contain
subliminal messages tryna burn my brain
but i refrain from grain to grain
nothing touching my flawlees membrane
so goverment take my words as serious as cancer
or ill summon demons outa hell lika necromancer
I represent for the homeless,
Let down by a nation,
More interested in war in this nation,
When children are sleeping at railway stations.
No home or money,
They wish they could call their mummy to put a hot meal in their tummy,
So at night when the temperature drops,
I’m asking you to remember what you got,
These kids go home to a cardboard box,
They’re the soul survivors,
Warming their hands with a flick and a flame in their lighters,
All their life they’ve been frightened.
On the streets with their head down,
Knowing deep inside that they’ve really been let down,
By a country that’s crippled,
And I thought mankind was supposed to be simple.
I represent single Mums,
All alone on their own trying to put food in the mouths of her two sons,
And the fathers gone, there’s no cash flow, lack of income,
But that’s just the way it is,
She counts fifteen needles pushing her pram on the way to the lift,
And this is where Blair said it’s safe to live and raise kids.
She finds her way out of the block,
With two kids in a pram and a rip and a stain in her top,
She goes to sign on just to maintain the little she’s got,
For her kids sake,
But they’ll never seen a decent life,
But they can dream and they’ll sleep tonight,
They’ve been hung out and left to dry,
The kids are in bed, Mums left to cry.
where from los angeles, ca.
i never smoke…don’t drink alcohol..
and what things that i should know for getting life insurance? and what is the best coverage? advice pls?
ok my best m8 is a egular crack user and smokes endless amounts of weed. she has already got 3 kids and she is 20 now. shes pregnant again about 5 months and she still does endless drugs. she also gets thru a bottle of ace lightning a day ( she has cut down from 3) but they are very big its sum cheap cider drink we get in the uk. i duno wat 2 do. one of her sons is autistic and she cant even long after any of her kids. she had her 1st at 12. she sleeps with any1 and never uses protection shes had chylamidia 4 times and herpes tice. i duno wat 2 do
no chylamidia is treatable it only leaves you infertile if you dont treat it. as for herpes she caught it straight away and it cleared up. shes one of them lucky gals
social services anlready no, but she is a very good actress. her bf is also a dealer so yeah. i look after the kids for her 3 times a wekk and i take um 2 skool etc. if the kdis got taken away her bfs mates would kill me and shed kill herself. shes very messed up
It’s kind of a long story but i’ll reward the best answer 10 points for the help. It all started when I caught my son Spray and his friends who are 17 smoking crystal meth in our wine cellar a few weeks ago. After interrogating my son he told me that he got it from my neighbor Phil. After confronting my neighbor about the situation he told me that he saw the boys buying a medium sized ziploc bag that contained what he said looked like “crack” from a african-american man whose street name is Rolo who lives down the street in a rundown trailer. So I called the local police who said they do thier best to try and get to the bottom of the situation and a few days later they came to my door asking me some questions. I invited the two in and when I did they immediately asked if they could search our house, I obliged. Well when they got to my study they were looking through my desk and found a manilla envelope that was enclosed that I had never seen before. Being curious I asked them if I could open it and explained that I had never seen it before. Upon opening it a baggy dropped out of the envelope that one of the officers immediatly grabbed it and asked me if I knew anything about it. I of course said no and the officer asked me too put my hands behind my back and I asked what I was being arrested for and he said the baggy had cocaine in it and that I was under arrest for the possession for a Schedule 2 narcotic, read me my Miranda rights and led me to his cruiser. after arriving to the jail I was givin my phone call to make bail and I called my son who cussed me out for disturbing his XBOX time and hung up, I had to wait 3 days in a holding cell for my ex-wife to bail me out. Of course I was and still am furious and am tired of being treated this way from my drugabusing son. I know he planted the drugs in my house because of the arguement we had the week before. When I got home he sold my uke, my laptop, all my TV’s and just about everything in my house. I called his cell phone asking him what happend and he laughed and said that I’ll never get it back. I again called the police and they came over and told me they’ll “look into it” and just left. I am sick of this behaviour and would like to disown him and move in with my cousin Kholl who told me I can stay with him until I get back on my feet. My question is how do i go about disowning my deliquent son. SERIOUS ANSWERS ONLY PLEASE.
Please stop calling me a troll, i can’t help the nicknames people give others. This is a serious issue and I would like it to be treated so.
It’s kind of a long story but i’ll reward the best answer 10 points for the help. It all started when I caught my son Spray and his friends who are 17 smoking crystal meth in our wine cellar a few weeks ago. After interrogating my son he told me that he got it from my neighbor Phil. After confronting my neighbor about the situation he told me that he saw the boys buying a medium sized ziploc bag that contained what he said looked like “crack” from a african-american man whose street name is Rolo who lives down the street in a rundown trailer. So I called the local police who said they do thier best to try and get to the bottom of the situation and a few days later they came to my door asking me some questions. I invited the two in and when I did they immediately asked if they could search our house, I obliged. Well when they got to my study they were looking through my desk and found a manilla envelope that was enclosed that I had never seen before. Being curious I asked them if I could open it and explained that I had never seen it before. Upon opening it a baggy dropped out of the envelope that one of the officers immediatly grabbed it and asked me if I knew anything about it. I of course said no and the officer asked me too put my hands behind my back and I asked what I was being arrested for and he said the baggy had cocaine in it and that I was under arrest for the possession for a Schedule 2 narcotic, read me my Miranda rights and led me to his cruiser. after arriving to the jail I was givin my phone call to make bail and I called my son who cussed me out for disturbing his XBOX time and hung up, I had to wait 3 days in a holding cell for my ex-wife to bail me out. Of course I was and still am furious and am tired of being treated this way from my drugabusing son. I know he planted the drugs in my house because of the arguement we had the week before. When I got home he sold my uke, my laptop, all my TV’s and just about everything in my house. I called his cell phone asking him what happend and he laughed and said that I’ll never get it back. I again called the police and they came over and told me they’ll “look into it” and just left. I am sick of this behaviour and would like to disown him and move in with my cousin Kholl who told me I can stay with him until I get back on my feet. My question is how do i go about disowning my deliquent son. SERIOUS ANSWERS ONLY PLEASE.
It will be two of us for about 12 months. This is how long I have been told a meth user needs to be clean to have any kind of chance. A woman and her son. I don’t have any experience with motor homes. Thinking of truck and 5th wheel.
I want to do my best to try and give my son the tools he needs to make the best decisions and avoid alcohol, ect as well as other dangerous behaviors when he gets older. He is less than 1yr old now so i know it is a bit early to think about stuff like this but I love him so much and want to be the best father i can. Even though i had a good upbringing with strong moral foundation i spent the better part of the last decade making decisions I often regret and certainly do not want my son to make. How can I convey this info to him so that it will have an impact on him later on? Thanks and God Bless!!
I just thought I would get a little bit more insight on the subject…I’m not planning on trying to break up a marriage or anything like that…I’m just confused. Let me give you a little more info before ya’ll start bashing me…
I’m married but seperated pending a divorce and child custody hearing. My wife has been smoking crack and snorting coke while I’m working my a$$ off and I told her to get out. I have our 4 month old son and I’m going to try to terminate her parental rights. I found out she has a long history of alcohol/drug abuse and mental illness. I can’t even begin to tell you how evil she is. She once told me that she wished I would kill myself and said another time that she would kill our son and then herself…so basically SHE’s OUT THE DOOR! FOREVER! I did love her at some point because of our son and enough to marry her…now i’m struggling through this divorce. My best friend that I have known all my life and grew up with found out that we could be friends again because my wife is out of the picture and never let me contact my friends (which I honored cause Im an idiot ok I got it) Anyway, since I moved away from her when I was 9 we have always remained close and still visited each other and I have always been in love with her and even got ballsy enough to tell her when I was probably about 13-14 (Im 23 now). She moved off farther away and met her now husband…got married and had a baby…now they moved back closer to home and she has a lot more contact with me almost on a daily basis. I met her husband and he seems like a great guy. I’m so proud of her and I am glad that she has a happy family but these feelings that I have had ALL MY LIFE, even when we were so far apart, won’t go away EVER and I don’t feel like they ever will…I’m just stuck and don’t know what to do…Just looking for some advice…
I just want to point out again that I would never have ANY intentions of breaking up a happy marriage I swear to God. I know it’s not right by the church, law, etc. but that doesn’t help the feelings that I have. I would never interfere and I am very grateful to her husband for letting us remain friends, I would never dishonor another man like that…I just trying to find some coping skills to deal with it because thats all I can do is deal with it and live with it forever. But since I can not ask her the “why” question it will always be pondering in my mind…not looking to harm her marriage in any way whatsoever…
My son is a meth user and I am going to do what one of the answers I saw said. “How to keep your son off drugs?” Answer: Move around alot so they can’t get into communities, -redirect thier focus. He also has a daughter (2yrs old) I am going to have him make a U.S. scrap book for her from her Daddy. We would also like to meet other families across America during this time. No outlandish spending just getting real. I’m thinking of spending a year.
