My 16 Year old was attacked at a party by 2 older people unknown (At the Time) AGES RANGE 18-20. NOW MY SON IS BEING CHARGED FOR CLASS C FELONY ASSAULT 2ND DEGREE…One of the guys got in a pretty big fight after (And got injured I guess). but I took my son to the Hospital he had several bruises and scrapes as well as a head injury.Now that this guy is claiming this…Does this mean he’s admitting to attacking my child? Can I file charges on him as well? To my understanding he and some of his older friends were at this home with 13-16 year old kids supplying alcohol and drugs to these kids and picking at all the younger boys…I have hired an attorney we meet on Dec. 3rd…My point is…Can I file charges on him and others now that I know for sure who they are? And he claims to have witnesses (14-15 Years in age Girls) That he’s obviously still giving illegal things to…! (bargaining)..My son has a witness as well…Which is honest never in trouble and she is a straight A Honor Student…This other guys witnesses are already in the juvenile system…What are our chances? And what charges should we file if any now that this guy is slightly leaking he hit my son?
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I am going to be honest because I need advise and would appreciate serious responses.
I am a single mom and work hard. I’ve been sick with Cancer the past 3 yrs but am finally getting better. I have an 18 yr old daughter in college that does not speak to me.
My son is 14. He has seen a lot and I feel bad for both of them but I thought families were suppose to stick together, no matter what. I feel a little childish by saying that but I was raised old story and it is what it is.
I’ve spoiled them and I know it. I have realized this for the last couple year’s but was to sick to act on it and make changes that needed to be made. I was over whelmed with guilt and allowed to much to go on although they took advantage of my being sick.
Over the years we have went to counseling, church guidance, school counseling, etc…….
The only thing that works is if they want something. Things will go good until they get what they want and it’s back to the same old routine.
My son has learned most of this from by 18 yr old daughter. I finally gave up and let her go. Now my son thinks he can do the same. At lease that is what seem’s like is happening.
Today I had an epiphany and realized what she said was true but the other way around. I have always been right here for my kids and am the typical mom that love her children unconditionally. My epiphany was,”they gave up on me”.
What I ask is some opinions on what I should do. Should I hold my ground? Should I give in more? What change can be made to make us better as mother and son? I’ve talked until I’m blue in the face.
We all know there is not a handbook on this stuff but I live in fear I will lose my son as well.
He is not running around (yet), no drugs, no smoking, no alcohol. He attends church every week and is a good boy….so far.
I admit I am afraid because of what happened with my daughter. I take a lot of blame because I got sick and could not be a part of their lives like I once was. And of course I’m the adult and am suppose to set examples.
I’m getting very frusterated and he is to…….
For the Christian reader’s, please say a prayer for us.
at a light intersection in Texas. He was driving the car and his friend was in the passenger seat wearing no seat belt. My son was driving while intoxicated wearing his seat belt. His friend was also intoxicated of alcohol plus drugs. His friend was a force of distraction while my son was driving.His friend was also not wearing his seat belt. The state of Texas is now trying to put this charge called Assault of Intoxication/ Severe Bodily Injury. I assume its because of the passenger his friend, medical condition.
I know I need to hire a lawyer.
Anyone please give me advice on what else to do and what can help my son!
He is an alcoholic who is not taking care of our children properly when in his care, his house is not liveable and is in filthy condition, he does not provide proper supervision for the children ages 10 and 13, he does not enforce any rules with them, or make my son take his adhd medication when he is there, among other things. He is almost always drunk when he is around them. My children need to be taken out of this bad situation and into my custody so that they can be well taken care of. I just don’t know where to start!!!
My divorce was final yesterday and I’ve been dating someone… He’s every thing I want in a man and treats me with respect unlike my abusive and alcoholic ex. My son (not of the marriage) is five and absolutely loves him and wants us to get married…should I spend more time alone and casually date for a while before committing to a relationship? I really could settle down with this guy but am afraid of getting into another relationship without making sure I am healthy first. HELP!
Hello, everyone 
I have a 25 yeasr old son who was addict to crystal meth. He went to the rehab center last year in may 2010, and will be coming home next month in march. Since he left to rehab, I haven’t spoke with his girlfriend. The last time I’ve spoken to her was november 2010. She use to call me everytime but I haven’t heard a thing from her.
I left a message on facebook in janaury 26 telling her to give me a call, she called me. I ask have my son gotten in contact with her she said he write her the other day! All of a suuden, her phone started to mess up. I told her to call me in ten minutes, she agreed. Well, she never cakled me back I had to call her back! When I called she never answered my call. Its been almost a month from the message i’ve sent to her and still’ no call. What do you think is going on? I’ve been calling but no answer? I’m concered because they suppost to be geting marroed when he gets out! DETAILS PLEASE!
Hello, everyone
I have a 25 yeasr old son who was addict to crystal meth. He went to the rehab center last year in may 2010, and will be coming home next month in march. Since he left to rehab, I haven’t spoke with his girlfriend. The last time I’ve spoken to her was november 2010. She use to call me everytime but I haven’t heard a thing from her.
I left a message on facebook in janaury 26 telling her to give me a call, she called me. I ask have my son gotten in contact with her she said he write her the other day! All of a suuden, her phone started to mess up. I told her to call me in ten minutes, she agreed. Well, she never cakled me back I had to call her back! When I called she never answered my call. Its been almost a month from the message i’ve sent to her and still’ no call. What do you think is going on? I’ve been calling but no answer? I’m concered because they suppost to be geting marroed when he gets out! DETAILS PLEASE!
Hello, everyone
I have a 25 yeasr old son who was addict to crystal meth. He went to the rehab center last year in may 2010, and will be coming home next month in march. Since he left to rehab, I haven’t spoke with his girlfriend. The last time I’ve spoken to her was november 2010. She use to call me everytime but I haven’t heard a thing from her.
I left a message on facebook in janaury 26 telling her to give me a call, she called me. I ask have my son gotten in contact with her she said he write her the other day! All of a suuden, her phone started to mess up. I told her to call me in ten minutes, she agreed. Well, she never cakled me back I had to call her back! When I called she never answered my call. Its been almost a month from the message i’ve sent to her and still’ no call. What do you think is going on? I’ve been calling but no answer? I’m concered because they suppost to be geting marroed when he gets out! DETAILS PLEASE!
My sons father is a criminal, addicted to meth, and assaulted me in my home while I had the baby in my arms. I called the police they took him to jail for warrants out of another county. I didnt pursue the charges but did file a report…I know I was an idiot, but was just happy that he would be in jail for what I thought was a couple of years. Boy was I wrong, he only served 3 months in jail, he is due out next week. My son and I moved after the assault….will I be in trouble for moving? He doesnt know our address and frankly, Im worried if he knows where I am living he will come back and this time things will be worse. We have a case with the TX attorney General, he is 15 grand behind on child support, the papers state I have to give him my address and contact number for the baby…..What do I do? Attorney I spoke to is wanting a 3500.00 retainer fee, legal aid wont help because they claim I am above the income level….Im freaking out here! It’s too late to pick the assalt charge up….I’ve already checked….
i have been trying to concieve for a while. last month after believing that i might be pregnant i found out i wasnt. i stayed in bed crying all day since it was the first time i had been late and my hope were so high. a few days later my cousin calls to tell me she is pregnant with her second child. she almost had her 18 month old taken away b/c she tested positive for Meth while pregnant. her son is developing behind schedule. its so unfair. i cant be happy for her even though i pray for the baby i dont even want to look at her. her and her mom are coming to see my son in a program in the morning. i just want to shake her and cry because she is probably still on drugs and risking this babys health. and my aunt gushes about what a good mother my cousin is. good mothers dont do drugs while pregnant and almost have the welfare take them. how do i deal with this? im a good mother and take all necessary precautions such as taking vitamins and eating healthy just incase i get pregnant and s
My son invited some friends over and it quickly got out of hand. Random people showed up in a matter of minutes toting alcohol which was shared to underage drinkers (<21). An unknown boy, age 17, was left behind and was very drunk. The police showed up and issued us a citation for being the homeowners. What happens next?
My wife recently was released from jail on drug charges. She is addicted to crack cocaine. She convinced our adult son who is M.M.R. (Mildly Mentally Retarded ) to move in with her and be his payee for his SSD check that he receives each month from social security. I have already tried to contact The Local Social Security office and since my wife and I have been separated for four years they just think that I am just trying to get her into trouble as the jilted future ex-husband but I care about my son and she is genuinely taking advantage of him. Is there anyone I can call in Upstate N.Y. that can Investigate this?
I have 2 sons, 20 and 25. My 25 year old who is @ 6’4″ – 225lbs, is known to abuse drugs/alcohol. He and my younger son have a “co-dependent” relationship. I went to Texas to help my younger son with paperwork for a new “job adventure” that he and my older son took on, (both A.D.H.D.) my older son (with an “instigating” girlfriend) started cussing me and when told to leave me alone yanked me off the floor by my hair, hit me several times and pushing me down to the floor several times. I HAD to call the law. I put a warrant out for his arrest and had an emergency protective order put in. I told my younger son that he best call his brother and girlfriend to tell them they better get a hotel room until I got out of there and back to Alabama. He was extremely angry with me about calling the law. He did not call his brother and he and the girlfriend showed back up, I had the “deadbolt” locked. They started beating on the door really mad. My youngest son got so mad at me because I told him I was calling the police (because of the “protective order”)..he let them in anyway. I barricaded myself inside a bedroom until the law got there. My youngest son was not present at the time this happened yet kept telling me, because of the older son’s irrational behavior and temper that we were going to “get another place”. We never did. The older son was telling his little brother that I attacked him…etc… He actually believed it…( I am disabled, have neuro-vascular problems, degenerative disk disease in my total spine and muscle weakness upon repetitive or extreme exertion, 5’4″ and 125lbs) After the oldest was taken into custody, the younger son wanted to “bail” him out that very moment on a $50,000.00 bond. He couldn’t find his wallet (I was always “keeping up” with everything he kept losing) He decided to call the law on me and told the police that I stole his wallet and had his brother falsely arrested… which he called back to tell them “he found his wallet”… He and my older son’s “girlfriend” started cussing me so horribly because they were mad that I had my son arrested… I had bruises all over me and now having more difficulty walking… The youngest son would not pay me what he owed me, saying wait until HE got paid..(he has PLENTY of money already from his dad’s death in 2000).. The day before he had me to hold onto some cash for him from a refund. It was about $110.00. I wanted to get back home and away from the abuse (not the first time and I was already abused by their late father and and his father years back)… He didn’t want to pay me so I used his cash I was holding to pay a taxi to take me to an airport, I rented a car in which I was thankful I had enough money in my checking account to cover. I drove almost 8 hours to get home in quite a bit of pain. The next day I was really feeling the after affects..physically as well as emotionally… (“WHY”?) My husband took me to the hospital to get checked. As we were thier waiting we found where my oldest son had sent an extremely violent and profane text message threatening my husband and I both. I called in this to the Alabama police. They gave me a case number, etc.. He DID show for his hearing in Texas and will be “arraigned” in a couple of weeks.
I spoke with the Asst. D.A. in Texas. My son did not enter a plea at all. Was told to get an attorney. I know that my son could spend year or more in jail yet the Asst. DA asked what I would want done…?
I personally hold both of my sons responsible, including the girlfriend… I told the DA something to the effect of REHAB, counseling, probation, etc… but I really don’t think that is going to help my son(s) learn that you don’t abuse ANY women… I know for a fact that MONEY is the most important thing in their life, admitted by both sons, sadly enough. I left “money” and “abuse” to get MY life in perspective after a 16 year marriage. It seems that this “abuse” of women runs in the family… I never thought I would be traumatized again as my current husband and I have what others call and I would agree a “perfect marriage”, what I deserved and what I was blessed with after all the traumatizing events that I have endured throughout my life.
SO?… Here I am not wanting to see my sons anymore(?) because of this, my motherhood has been ripped from my heart..and it’s going to take me quite some time to heal over the emotional scars that have been “re-opened”, being betrayed by my younger son… I have thought seriously about filing a civil suit against all 3… They have plenty of money..(I am on full disabilty)
.I have had my gas turned off over 4 months ago for a $194.00 bill. They are well aware of this yet I still have to take a cold shower or heat water to take a bath? They don’t care about me… they only come around when they “need some ‘advice’, feel sick, heartbreaks, tummy aches”…etc…They expect my undvided attention…I have given it… They are never there for “me”, their own mot
BTW? I have another profile on YAHOO and I DON”T mind reading about someone else’s problems and have helped quite a few… If you feel you must give “useless” answers “to get points” then I feel sorry for you… I DO CARE about other people. I AM an empath…
To ALL of you that have given sincere responses?.. I send you my very sincere thanks!!! Bless you ALL!
I have 2 sons, 20 and 25. My 25 year old who is @ 6’4″ – 225lbs, is known to abuse drugs/alcohol. He and my younger son have a “co-dependent” relationship. I went to Texas to help my younger son with paperwork for a new “job adventure” that he and my older son took on, (both A.D.H.D.) my older son (with an “instigating” girlfriend) started cussing me and when told to leave me alone yanked me off the floor by my hair, hit me several times and pushing me down to the floor several times. I HAD to call the law. I put a warrant out for his arrest and had an emergency protective order put in. I told my younger son that he best call his brother and girlfriend to tell them they better get a hotel room until I got out of there and back to Alabama. He was extremely angry with me about calling the law. He did not call his brother and he and the girlfriend showed back up, I had the “deadbolt” locked. They started beating on the door really mad. My youngest son got so mad at me because I told him I was calling the police (because of the “protective order”)..he let them in anyway. I barricaded myself inside a bedroom until the law got there. My youngest son was not present at the time this happened yet kept telling me, because of the older son’s irrational behavior and temper that we were going to “get another place”. We never did. The older son was telling his little brother that I attacked him…etc… He actually believed it…( I am disabled, have neuro-vascular problems, degenerative disk disease in my total spine and muscle weakness upon repetitive or extreme exertion, 5’4″ and 125lbs) After the oldest was taken into custody, the younger son wanted to “bail” him out that very moment on a $50,000.00 bond. He couldn’t find his wallet (I was always “keeping up” with everything he kept losing) He decided to call the law on me and told the police that I stole his wallet and had his brother falsely arrested… which he called back to tell them “he found his wallet”… He and my older son’s “girlfriend” started cussing me so horribly because they were mad that I had my son arrested… I had bruises all over me and now having more difficulty walking… The youngest son would not pay me what he owed me, saying wait until HE got paid..(he has PLENTY of money already from his dad’s death in 2000).. The day before he had me to hold onto some cash for him from a refund. It was about $110.00. I wanted to get back home and away from the abuse (not the first time and I was already abused by their late father and and his father years back)… He didn’t want to pay me so I used his cash I was holding to pay a taxi to take me to an airport, I rented a car in which I was thankful I had enough money in my checking account to cover. I drove almost 8 hours to get home in quite a bit of pain. The next day I was really feeling the after affects..physically as well as emotionally… (“WHY”?) My husband took me to the hospital to get checked. As we were thier waiting we found where my oldest son had sent an extremely violent and profane text message threatening my husband and I both. I called in this to the Alabama police. They gave me a case number, etc.. He DID show for his hearing in Texas and will be “arraigned” in a couple of weeks.
I spoke with the Asst. D.A. in Texas. My son did not enter a plea at all. Was told to get an attorney. I know that my son could spend year or more in jail yet the Asst. DA asked what I would want done…?
I personally hold both of my sons responsible, including the girlfriend… I told the DA something to the effect of REHAB, counseling, probation, etc… but I really don’t think that is going to help my son(s) learn that you don’t abuse ANY women… I know for a fact that MONEY is the most important thing in their life, admitted by both sons, sadly enough. I left “money” and “abuse” to get MY life in perspective after a 16 year marriage. It seems that this “abuse” of women runs in the family… I never thought I would be traumatized again as my current husband and I have what others call and I would agree a “perfect marriage”, what I deserved and what I was blessed with after all the traumatizing events that I have endured throughout my life.
SO?… Here I am not wanting to see my sons anymore(?) because of this, my motherhood has been ripped from my heart..and it’s going to take me quite some time to heal over the emotional scars that have been “re-opened”, being betrayed by my younger son… I have thought seriously about filing a civil suit against all 3… They have plenty of money..(I am on full disabilty)
.I have had my gas turned off over 4 months ago for a $194.00 bill. They are well aware of this yet I still have to take a cold shower or heat water to take a bath? They don’t care about me… they only come around when they “need some ‘advice’, feel sick, heartbreaks, tummy aches”…etc…They expect my undvided attention…I have given it… They are never there for “me”, their own moth
I have 2 sons, 20 and 25. My 25 year old who is @ 6’4″ – 225lbs, is known to abuse drugs/alcohol. He and my younger son have a “co-dependent” relationship. I went to Texas to help my younger son with paperwork for a new “job adventure” that he and my older son took on, (both A.D.H.D.) my older son (with an “instigating” girlfriend) started cussing me and when told to leave me alone yanked me off the floor by my hair, hit me several times and pushing me down to the floor several times. I HAD to call the law. I put a warrant out for his arrest and had an emergency protective order put in. I told my younger son that he best call his brother and girlfriend to tell them they better get a hotel room until I got out of there and back to Alabama. He was extremely angry with me about calling the law. He did not call his brother and he and the girlfriend showed back up, I had the “deadbolt” locked. They started beating on the door really mad. My youngest son got so mad at me because I told him I was calling the police (because of the “protective order”)..he let them in anyway. I barricaded myself inside a bedroom until the law got there. My youngest son was not present at the time this happened yet kept telling me, because of the older son’s irrational behavior and temper that we were going to “get another place”. We never did. The older son was telling his little brother that I attacked him…etc… He actually believed it…( I am disabled, have neuro-vascular problems, degenerative disk disease in my total spine and muscle weakness upon repetitive or extreme exertion, 5’4″ and 125lbs) After the oldest was taken into custody, the younger son wanted to “bail” him out that very moment on a $50,000.00 bond. He couldn’t find his wallet (I was always “keeping up” with everything he kept losing) He decided to call the law on me and told the police that I stole his wallet and had his brother falsely arrested… which he called back to tell them “he found his wallet”… He and my older son’s “girlfriend” started cussing me so horribly because they were mad that I had my son arrested… I had bruises all over me and now having more difficulty walking… The youngest son would not pay me what he owed me, saying wait until HE got paid..(he has PLENTY of money already from his dad’s death in 2000).. The day before he had me to hold onto some cash for him from a refund. It was about $110.00. I wanted to get back home and away from the abuse (not the first time and I was already abused by their late father and and his father years back)… He didn’t want to pay me so I used his cash I was holding to pay a taxi to take me to an airport, I rented a car in which I was thankful I had enough money in my checking account to cover. I drove almost 8 hours to get home in quite a bit of pain. The next day I was really feeling the after affects..physically as well as emotionally… (“WHY”?) My husband took me to the hospital to get checked. As we were thier waiting we found where my oldest son had sent an extremely violent and profane text message threatening my husband and I both. I called in this to the Alabama police. They gave me a case number, etc.. He DID show for his hearing in Texas and will be “arraigned” in a couple of weeks.
I spoke with the Asst. D.A. in Texas. My son did not enter a plea at all. Was told to get an attorney. I know that my son could spend year or more in jail yet the Asst. DA asked what I would want done…?
I personally hold both of my sons responsible, including the girlfriend… I told the DA something to the effect of REHAB, counseling, probation, etc… but I really don’t think that is going to help my son(s) learn that you don’t abuse ANY women… I know for a fact that MONEY is the most important thing in their life, admitted by both sons, sadly enough. I left “money” and “abuse” to get MY life in perspective after a 16 year marriage. It seems that this “abuse” of women runs in the family… I never thought I would be traumatized again as my current husband and I have what others call and I would agree a “perfect marriage”, what I deserved and what I was blessed with after all the traumatizing events that I have endured throughout my life.
SO?… Here I am not wanting to see my sons anymore(?) because of this, my motherhood has been ripped from my heart..and it’s going to take me quite some time to heal over the emotional scars that have been “re-opened”, being betrayed by my younger son… I have thought seriously about filing a civil suit against all 3… They have plenty of money..(I am on full disabilty)
.I have had my gas turned off over 4 months ago for a $194.00 bill. They are well aware of this yet I still have to take a cold shower or heat water to take a bath? They don’t care about me… they only come around when they “need some ‘advice’, feel sick, heartbreaks, tummy aches”…etc…They expect my undvided attention…I have given it… They are never there for “me”, their own mothe
traditional expenses in his words are rehearsal dinner, all alcohol at reception, and honeymoon. Now remember they have been married 1 year already!
her ex was watching there daughters when she came down to nc to visit with her son he fell asleep and the girls went outside she dosnt do drugs or abuse or neglect her kids but they wont listen to her or the kids they have drug tested the foster parents and they have come up positive for cocaine and marijuana but this does not seem to matter to the courts we need to bring these children back home to there mother please help
don’t know how to explain this! i feel ridiculously stupid even asking advice…but here it goes!!! i am living with a 53 yr old alcoholic, his 14 year old bitchy daughter and literally and i mean literally psycho 17 year old son, now i can take mild abuse from the 17 year old because after all he has been sectioned a number of times and does have major issues. but when my alcoholic landlord starts calling me a fat slag and plenty more inappropriate words for sticking up for my boyfriends son (age 9) who was being picked on by the 14 year old, i started believing him…this was 2 weeks ago and i still cry over what he said to me and my boyfriends son, i have been looking for a new home since the argument and whilst i am looking i am still getting petty digs now and again such as towels have been hidden from me and jerry (my boyfriends son) then the 14 year old will call us dirty for not having a bath, how does she know we havnt had a bath….???? because she hid the towel’s and….so on…something like this happens every day, i know it all sound petty or even pathetic but it is dragging me down…what do i do when i live in a family house and the whole family hates me????? i am a fun, happy bubbly person…even my boyfriend is getting fed up with my moaning…but he isnt here when it happens!!!
please give me some advice on GETTING MY OWN BACK BABY!!!!
WE have been divorced for 6 years now/ I tried to do this 2 years ago but the lawyer told me my chances were slim..I called CPS and they didnt give a crap..all they do is go there and ask him if he is an alcoholic..of course he says no and they say ok sorry to bother you. I forgot to mention that last year he had FELONY charges against him for child abuse allegations from his 9 year old step daughter, he took pre trial diversion. But his second wife has recently divorced him (He kicked her out to move in his best friends wife) and my son has been telling me more and more things..so the only witnesses i have are my son, hospital records, court records, the school counselor and his second ex wife. He already pays support..well he is ordered but he rarely pays it so i dont care about that. CPS wont do anything because they say my son is 12 and old enought to take care of himself and it isnt illegal to be drunk around your kids.
I am 27 (almost 28) and married with one son. I’m heavy, and I want to have a baby. I’ve been trying for a while with my husband… but it isn’t working. I have quit smoking and I have been exercising and working on my weight. I don’t eat meat, cheese, or milk, get a lot of veggies, work out for about 35 minutes a day cardio and 20 min with weights and 3 times a week do yoga at home. . .
I don’t want to do fertility treatments yet and my doctor said I shouldn’t be trying because I am too fat. I don’t know. I’ve always been heavy. I was 311 when I had my son when I was 19. When I was much younger I did meth (from ages 12 to 17) and during that time I was still 200-260. Who has ever seen a fat tweeker? Well that was me.
Of course, I don’t do drugs or drink or anything now! I haven’t touched them in over 10 years – just in case you were wondering.
I had irregular periods for a long time, but started taking Vitex and that evened them out.
It’s been about 9 – 10 months total since we have been trying and nothing. We went through a rough patch May to July, I don’t know – but we weren’t trying then. But all in all it’s been 9-10 months and I am getting so frustrated.
Of course I have “considered” losing weight – heck if you read the first part of the question – I am even working really hard on it! lol
