How Do I Get My Son Off Drugs?

My friend is in her late 20′s she has 3 dui’s she has a parole violation. She is a bad person who only cares about her self. She has a major drinking problem too, her brother died from a drunk driver. She is currently dating a man who is pushing 40. He used to be an alcoholic he stoppted because he doesn’t want to lose his 10 year old son.

He is good and clean now he hates drinking and alcohol. My friend drinks behind his back. Because she is bored and she says needs to be bad once and a while. They live together the last time she got drunk. He told if she does it again it’s over. She said she won’t do it again but she has hit the bottle four times since then. She quit her job and is looking for a new one. So far she hasn’t been looking she just sitting around the house getting bored and wanting to drink. I told her to stop because he is a nice man. He is letting her live with him for free and he takes her out and everything. After all this she still drinks behind his back.

technical legal issue? In other words, he definately had the drugs in his car and they were his but because of a screw up in the legal system he was found not guilty. I wouldn’t be happy but i have seen some families that are-like he never really did it!!

I am a woman 39

years old. I have 20 kids with 21 men. I am a Harlem alumn. I have no job. All of my children live in the street. I am trying to encourage my middle children to begin selling crack to supply me. My kids recently started smoking some magic dragon. My son slangs rocks like a slingshot, but wont do the bizz. I really hope I can quit so I can help my kids acheive there dreams, and become crack dealers, pothead, wife beaters, and a politician. My whole family has began a religion called Cracktholicism, where we worship Jesus Crack aka White Jesus. The last prophet for man however, was John F. Kennedy. We eat sausage every Thursday. We concentrate on spending family time together. Usually, we all go to the park and get high. We believe that a family that smokes together jokes and snorts coke together. Anyway what should I do?

My friend is in her late 20′s she has 3 dui’s she has a parole violation. She is a bad person who only cares about her self. She has a major drinking problem too, her brother died from a drunk driver. She is currently dating a man who is pushing 40. He used to be an alcoholic he stoppted because he doesn’t want to lose his 10 year old son.

He is good and clean now he hates drinking and alcohol. My friend drinks behind his back. Because she is bored and she says needs to be bad once and a while. They live together the last time she got drunk. He told if she does it again it’s over. She said she won’t do it again but she has hit the bottle four times since then. She quit her job and is looking for a new one. So far she hasn’t been looking she just sitting around the house getting bored and wanting to drink. I told her to stop because he is a nice man. He is letting her live with him for free and he takes her out and everything. After all this she still drinks behind his back.

. We have three kids 9,3,11/2. We separated 4 yrs ago because I used her mistake as an excuse for my leaving. We both have made many mistakes and have very deep issues but we are willing to work on and aware of many of our faults. She was honest about her mistake. But I used the painful feelings as another excuse run away and to go on a pity driven drug binge for 6 months. After 6 months she drove me to the V.A. (Desert storm disabled vet) because I was really close to death or homicide or both. After 9 months inpatient psych-ward ( 8weeks lockdown 7 mo. inpatient program) and 4 months transition house. She took me back. (Diagnoses bi-polar..lots o meds) I’ve made many changes and reversions “good months bad months” but stopped meds a yr after I left transition (felt they were masking/ hindering getting to the deep real issues) I put my wife through incredible emotional abuse and neglect every month of every year of our relationship. My eldest son as well.
Well I found a civilian psychotherapist 9 months ago. 4 months ago I started having some really enlightening realizations of the true pain and scars I’ve caused. 2 months ago my wife said something I perceived as a horrific hurt and I reacted as I usually do when hurt (perceived or real) with scary rage and horrible words the worst blow up ever (only 2 minutes long but 119 seconds toooo long) and I cant express in strong enough words the feelings of guilt and shame I feel. Well after that my wife wants to separate for a while so she can get herself in order. I understand and can’t blame her for a nana second. Well since then my therapist and I have gotten even deeper…scary deep but I asked him for a no bull-shit evaluation of my personality. Last week he gave it and I’ve researched and nervously agree. I have NPD (narcissistic personality disorder).My question..Long overdo I know) T he research and most people agree there is no cure but I truly want to change… for myself..Ha ha.
alittle irony there. But I also want to save the love of a beautiful, smart truly incredible woman who never deserved an ass like me. I want to change. Is it possible and how the hell can I ever make up for the mountains of crap I’ve piled on my wife.