How Do I Get My Son Off Drugs?

My 16-year-old son stole my 1855 antique Singer sewing machine (which has been in the family for 6 generations), sold it to an antique dealer for $1,500, and used the money to buy vodka, marijuana, and methamphetamine, and for he and 2 friends of his to hire prostitutes. He also took my car without permission to go do all this. I work in the evenings and don’t get home until after 10pm, and he did this while I was at work. I was worried sick when I got home last night and he wasn’t there, no note or anything. I called him on his cell phone but he didn’t answer. When I tried again, it was turned off. I tried again and again, but he still had his phone turned off. I decided to go looking for him, when I realized the car was gone (I work about 3 blocks from home, so I always walk to work).

Long story short, my son finally came home at 3 in the morning, stinking drunk and reeking of marijuana smoke. It was clear that he was high as well. I was thankful he hadn’t been hurt, but I was also quite angry that he has done this and gotten me this worried, so I said “I’m going to punish you like you’ve never been punished before! You’re grounded for a year!”. Then I sent him straight to bed.

This morning we had a discussion about his offense, and he admitted that he’d taken my sewing machine and sold it to get money for alcohol, drugs, and prostitutes. He also admitted that he’d taken my car, had been driving while drunk and high, and had picked up 2 friends of his, one of whom I had forbidden him to hang out with (this “friend” of his is 21 years old but still in high school, as he has repeatedly failed, uses drugs, abuses alcohol, and was physically violent toward his ex-girlfriend before they broke up a few months ago. He is now facing charges for sending her threatening phone calls since then. Needless to say, I do not want my son hanging out with him).

I reassured my son that I was thankful he was safe and that I loved him, but I told him that I am extremely disapointed in him. I also gave him the following grounding terms:

No going outside or leaving the house, except to go to school and for yardwork
No TV
No Computer
No Video games
No Phone (I took away his cell phone and he’s forbidden to use the home phone)
No Friends
No Desserts
No Bedroom door (I have removed it)
Plenty of extra chores
He also has to copy substance abuse books by hand
Early bedtime 8pm every night

I have talked this over with my husband, who is out of town (because of his job, he is usually gone for a few days to a week at a time, then he has a few days off). He agrees that this is a good punishment.
I can’t help but wonder, though. Am I being too harsh? I know this is a very severe punishment, but what he did was very serious and I don’t want to take it lightly. Please help. Any advice would be appreciated. My son has always been very responsible before now, and is generally well- behaved. I never thought he’d do something like this, and it really scared me.

Thanks.

When my son was 3 had a severe fever that landed him in the ER. They treated him with an alcohol bath so he was completly naked in the room. While they was bathing him they did not use privacy curtains around him. They also took his temperature rectally with no privacy curtains. Who was present in the room was my husband and I, my twin sister, my mother, the dr., and various nurses. My son asked me why they did not use privacy curtains during the alcohol bath and rectal temperature. Would privacy curtains had been appropriate at the time his naked body and naked butt was exposed.
He had just turned 3 years old
jandiesmommy

What happened with your son, what did they do to make him freak, and how old was he?

When my son was 3 had a severe fever that landed him in the ER. They treated him with an alcohol bath so he was completly naked in the room. While they was bathing him they did not use privacy curtains around him. They also took his temperature rectally with no privacy curtains. Who was present in the room was my husband and I, my twin sister, my mother, the dr., and various nurses. My son asked me why they did not use privacy curtains during the alcohol bath and rectal temperature. Would privacy curtains had been appropriate at the time his naked body and naked butt was exposed. In the long run my husband and I were thankful that they cured our son.

Would privacy curtain had been appropriate in my son’s emergency?
When my son was 3 had a severe fever that landed him in the ER. They treated him with an alcohol bath so he was completly naked in the room. While they was bathing him they did not use privacy curtains around him. They also took his temperature rectally with no privacy curtains. Who was present in the room was my husband and I, my twin sister, my mother, the dr., and various nurses. My son asked me why they did not use privacy curtains during the alcohol bath and rectal temperature. At the time he was not really offended by not having privacy curtains around him and now he is 20 and wishes he had them at the time. Would privacy curtains had been appropriate at the time his naked body and naked butt was exposed. In the long run my husband and I were thankful that they cured our son.

Would privacy curtain had been appropriate in my son’s emergency?
When my son was 3 had a severe fever that landed him in the ER. They treated him with an alcohol bath so he was completly naked in the room. While they was bathing him they did not use privacy curtains around him. They also took his temperature rectally with no privacy curtains. Who was present in the room was my husband and I, my twin sister, my mother, the dr., and various nurses. My son asked me why they did not use privacy curtains during the alcohol bath and rectal temperature. At the time he was not really offended by not having privacy curtains around him and now he is 20 and wishes he had them at the time. Would privacy curtains had been appropriate at the time his naked body and naked butt was exposed. In the long run my husband and I were thankful that they cured our son.

This is my first question! LOL.
Sex? Oh my goodness.