My step-daughter moved out west to be near her family who is trying, one last time, to help her get on her feet. Her deadbeat husband followed her out here and is now living in a shelter and gets food stamps and offers no support or help to his wife or his 3 small children, yet expects to see them and she allows it. He knows how her entire family feels about him and he avoids us like the plague. He’s not supposed to stay with her but we suspect he does from time to time. She got into a house recently that the local housing authority is paying the rent on and she is expected to at least get a part time job. She’s an emotionally abused woman and can’t turn him away because she feels he needs to see his kids. We have tried too many times to make her see what a bad influence he is. He does nothing but manipulate her and the system to survive and get what he wants. When he gets cleaned up and is responsible and his contributing THEN his reward should be to see her and his kids. She won’t give him that ultimatum. That falls on deaf ears. Nothing we suggest or share with her is effective. His presence may cause her to get kicked out of her home. He has arrest records and is wanted in another state for burglary and shoplifting. He’s actually skipped out on his parole and the police here and back there do know of his where-abouts but I guess he’s not important enough to extradite. He’s a drug addict and alcoholic who was even caught trying to steal beer from a local supermarket recently. My step-daughter was doing fine until the deadbeat showed up and now she can’t seem to move forward because he keeps interfering in her life. She may be spiraling out of control and the next step could be to lose her house and be on the street and the state would step in and take the kids. She has burned her bridges with her family for so many years. They have tried and tried and tried, spending thousands of dollars trying to help her but she messes it up over and over. She’s VERY stubborn and never listens to advice and has to learn everything the hard way. She’s 40 now and has nothing to show for her life other than 3 small children, whom she car barely handle and a deadbeat husband who showed up one day and is wrecking everything. I don’t know…maybe we should just sit back and let the chips fall where they may? That’s the only thing we haven’t done yet. Maybe she truly has to reach rock bottom for her, losing her kids, to make her see how serious the situation is.
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The father of my baby is an alcoholic and I don’t trust him to be alone with the baby ever! He knows that I don’t trust him and he agreed to let me be there just in case. This baby means everything to me and if anything ever happened due to his lack of experiance I would kill him. He’s 25 ad the youngest of 8 children. No experiance with babies. I’m the olderst of 7. When he drinks he blacks out and doesn’t remember anything he says or does. He can’t focus and he certainly won’t be able to hold my baby or feed him or even change his diaper. And God forbid he ever tried to give the baby a bath while he’s drunk. He can’t stand when I cry how will he deal with the baby crying? I cannot trust this man to be alone with my baby. I want him to be involved, it’s his son, and probably the only chance he’ll ever have at having a child. I care about him being active, but I care about my son being taken care of first! What do I do? 27 weeks pregnant bein induced at 37 weeks due to HBP
hi. well here goes. my auntie just had a brain hemerage and died before i could even see her again and my husband has been the worst *** hole ever! i get yelled at for everything like having even one dish in the sink or the fact my son tipped the cat food on the floor while i was in the toilet etc. ive been so badly binge eating crap because its the only thing that makes me happy. i feel i want to be alone and i don’t want to go outside! i don’t have time for a barth or a book and i cant go to the shops because money is tight. my family are really great and supportive people but since the death its all been fighting over the will and cort battles for them {dad has 6 brothers and sisters and since he was the favorite then he got left all the house and money and assets and all his family want their fair share and cant decide what the want etc] so they just couldn’t handel messed up me and a over active child put on them! plus they run their own business and are training a new Secretary. i have only but one friend who is awesome and great but works full time then has family commitments so i don’t see her much. i just feel really moody and overwhelmed i don’t even ever want to talk or get out of bed, i don’t like outside or going to the park anymore and ive started to not like my son and see him as a pain and a hardship on me, which is so sad as he is a well behaved little boy and very bright but im just angry and withdrawn from him all day. what can i do? i just have lost happiness and all motivation for everything.
i feel if i had my own way id like to sit down all alone in my house all day with the curtains drawn [so in darkness] and be silent.
my son is almost 4 years old.
hi. well here goes. my auntie just had a brain hemerage and died before i could even see her again and my husband has been the worst ass hole ever! i get yelled at for everything like having even one dish in the sink or the fact my son tipped the cat food on the floor while i was in the toilet etc. ive been so badly binge eating crap because its the only thing that makes me happy. i feel i want to be alone and i don’t want to go outside! i don’t have time for a barth or a book and i cant go to the shops because money is tight. my family are really great and supportive people but since the death its all been fighting over the will and cort battles for them {dad has 6 brothers and sisters and since he was the favorite then he got left all the house and money and assets and all his family want their fair share and cant decide what the want etc] so they just couldn’t handel messed up me and a over active child put on them! plus they run their own business and are training a new Secretary. i have only but one friend who is awesome and great but works full time then has family commitments so i don’t see her much. i just feel really moody and overwhelmed i don’t even ever want to talk or get out of bed, i don’t like outside or going to the park anymore and ive started to not like my son and see him as a pain and a hardship on me, which is so sad as he is a well behaved little boy and very bright but im just angry and withdrawn from him all day. what can i do? i just have lost happiness and all motivation for everything.
feel if i had my own way id like to sit down all alone in my house all day with the curtains drawn [so in darkness] and be silent.
oh and the leave my boy with my husband and go out for awile isnt gunna work. he isnt much of a farther just a good money provider. he wouldnt help if his life depended on it.
Gary, 46, gives his eight-year-old son non-alcoholic beer, which his son loves. What good kid he is too, he’s so solid and big for his age which Gary is so proud of. He refers to it as liquid bread. Somehow, people find out about this and had called Child services. Once child services investigated they assured the intrusive people that no abuse had taken place and non-alcoholic beer has no alcohol in it and therefore isn’t illegal. Anyway, these people aren’t happy even after being reassured by child services over and over.
