How Do I Get My Son Off Drugs?

I need help… Here’s the story. I know it’s a little long but please read it.

My Mom left my brother and I when I was 13 (he was 15 1/2). She just up and left us. She said she had a mental breakdown and just couldn’t handle us anymore (we were very bad kids, raised by our abusive, alcoholic father. He just left us home alone most of the time so we were not well behaved and had zero structure when we went to live with her). My brother and I were separated because we had to go live with friends. I ended up in foster care. Long story short my brother lives in WA State and I ended up in Virginia. My Mom now lives in NY. I visited my brother 5 years ago that was the last time that I saw him. I’ve seen my Mom once when my son was born in 2009. It’s been over 10 years since we’ve all been together (since she left us). My Mom is very sick. She has pancreatitis very bad… she is 60 and we don’t believe she will live longer then 5 years. Money is tight for all of us (my Mom lives off of disability because she can’t work). My brother offered to fly her out to see him and his family. They really wanted me to come. They will not have the money to fly my Mom back over there and my Mom definitely won’t have the money to go there on her own ever. I believe this is the only oppurtunity for all 3 of us to be together again. My Mom and I have never met my brothers 2 kids and my brother has never met my son or husband. I feel like we can gain some type of closure to some things that happened by this trip and I think it’s something I need to go to. Here is the dilema. My husband is out of state for training for his job. He won’t be back until after my Mom leaves WA. My brother offered to pay half my ticket if I come but my husband said he doesn’t feel comfortable with me taking my son on his first trip a lone and that he wants to be there to experience his first big trip- it’s something he doesn’t want to miss. He’s also afraid there may be some type of drama since our family has had so many issues. My husband grew up in a very religious home and half the stuff my family did seems outrageous compared to his family so he doesn’t fully understand the situation and that it is not going to be bad at all. This is a good thing. I can go and leave my son… but my son is 5 months old and exclusively breastfed. I do NOT want to be away from him. I will not be away from him for that time (only 3 or 4 days but still). So I can not go… or leave my son with my in laws and go by myself. I feel like my husband is being selfish and I don’t agree with his reasoning. Please help on this situation…

I need help… Here’s the story. I know it’s a little long but please read it.

My Mom left my brother and I when I was 13 (he was 15 1/2). She just up and left us. She said she had a mental breakdown and just couldn’t handle us anymore (we were very bad kids, raised by our abusive, alcoholic father. He just left us home alone most of the time so we were not well behaved and had zero structure when we went to live with her). My brother and I were separated because we had to go live with friends. I ended up in foster care. Long story short my brother lives in WA State and I ended up in Virginia. My Mom now lives in NY. I visited my brother 5 years ago that was the last time that I saw him. I’ve seen my Mom once when my son was born in 2009. It’s been over 10 years since we’ve all been together (since she left us). My Mom is very sick. She has pancreatitis very bad… she is 60 and we don’t believe she will live longer then 5 years. Money is tight for all of us (my Mom lives off of disability because she can’t work). My brother offered to fly her out to see him and his family. They really wanted me to come. They will not have the money to fly my Mom back over there and my Mom definitely won’t have the money to go there on her own ever. I believe this is the only oppurtunity for all 3 of us to be together again. My Mom and I have never met my brothers 2 kids and my brother has never met my son or husband. I feel like we can gain some type of closure to some things that happened by this trip and I think it’s something I need to go to. Here is the dilema. My husband is out of state for training for his job. He won’t be back until after my Mom leaves WA. My brother offered to pay half my ticket if I come but my husband said he doesn’t feel comfortable with me taking my son on his first trip a lone and that he wants to be there to experience his first big trip- it’s something he doesn’t want to miss. He’s also afraid there may be some type of drama since our family has had so many issues. My husband grew up in a very religious home and half the stuff my family did seems outrageous compared to his family so he doesn’t fully understand the situation and that it is not going to be bad at all. This is a good thing. I can go and leave my son… but my son is 5 months old and exclusively breastfed. I do NOT want to be away from him. I will not be away from him for that time (only 3 or 4 days but still). So I can not go… or leave my son with my in laws and go by myself. I feel like my husband is being selfish and I don’t agree with his reasoning. Please help on this situation…

I need help… Here’s the story. I know it’s a little long but please read it.

My Mom left my brother and I when I was 13 (he was 15 1/2). She just up and left us. She said she had a mental breakdown and just couldn’t handle us anymore (we were very bad kids, raised by our abusive, alcoholic father. He just left us home alone most of the time so we were not well behaved and had zero structure when we went to live with her). My brother and I were separated because we had to go live with friends. I ended up in foster care. Long story short my brother lives in WA State and I ended up in Virginia. My Mom now lives in NY. I visited my brother 5 years ago that was the last time that I saw him. I’ve seen my Mom once when my son was born in 2009. It’s been over 10 years since we’ve all been together (since she left us). My Mom is very sick. She has pancreatitis very bad… she is 60 and we don’t believe she will live longer then 5 years. Money is tight for all of us (my Mom lives off of disability because she can’t work). My brother offered to fly her out to see him and his family. They really wanted me to come. They will not have the money to fly my Mom back over there and my Mom definitely won’t have the money to go there on her own ever. I believe this is the only oppurtunity for all 3 of us to be together again. My Mom and I have never met my brothers 2 kids and my brother has never met my son or husband. I feel like we can gain some type of closure to some things that happened by this trip and I think it’s something I need to go to. Here is the dilema. My husband is out of state for training for his job. He won’t be back until after my Mom leaves WA. My brother offered to pay half my ticket if I come but my husband said he doesn’t feel comfortable with me taking my son on his first trip a lone and that he wants to be there to experience his first big trip- it’s something he doesn’t want to miss. He’s also afraid there may be some type of drama since our family has had so many issues. My husband grew up in a very religious home and half the stuff my family did seems outrageous compared to his family so he doesn’t fully understand the situation and that it is not going to be bad at all. This is a good thing. I can go and leave my son… but my son is 5 months old and exclusively breastfed. I do NOT want to be away from him. I will not be away from him for that time (only 3 or 4 days but still). So I can not go… or leave my son with my in laws and go by myself. I feel like my husband is being selfish and I don’t agree with his reasoning. Please help on this situation…

Even though he was just recently arrested for possesion of meth but swears to everyone he is clean now but you can tell by looking at him he’s nit.

My ex wife and i are divorced because my ex got violent and became an alcoholic shortly after giving birth to my son. And well against my better judgment about a month ago i let my ex take my son and well she put him into the hospital for a week. And i have full custody of my son now. And well my fiancee has been more or less the only true mother to him. But lately my son has gotten very violent towards her and refuses to let her come within 5 feet of him with out throwing a fit. He has also started grabbing his penis a lot and whenever she or i change him he grabs it and tugs so hard on it makes me cringe. And he has started to refuses to bathe with her and will only take bathes with me. He sobs anytime he see’s her and i do not know what to do. And well the only way he will sleep is if he sleeps with me. And at night he always comes in and curls up next to me and goes back to sleep. I am not sure what to do i love my son more then anything but i am not sure if this is healthy or not. I trust my fiancee more then anything and i am 110% sure she has never done anything inappropriate to my son or anything like that. She is very protective of him and loves him like one of her own. She is pregnant with her first and my 2nd so i know she will make a great mom. Advice?

Is it “patriotic” to attack and exploit other nations for their resources? The USA has bombed 50 countries since WW II. Should we prepare ourselves by becoming self-sufficient ? Are we able to indentitfy who the real enemy is ? Once identified, how will we be able to route them out ?

My family is questioning why I would not want my nephew in my house *especially* now that I have kids. ??? He has not sought help (never went to rehab or acknowledged that he has a problem), is extremely violent towards his immediate family (i.e., death threats)), has vandalized his parents’ home several times… I *love* my nephew and hope that he recovers from his addictions, but I am a parent who has an obligation to protect my own children. There was no nice way to break it to my family even though I tried. Now, I am being regarded as the bad guy. I seriously don’t understand… Am I the one who is crazy here? How would you have responded in this situation?