We broke up once before and got back together. now a year and a half later. I need to get away. He’s not a bad person just an alcoholic. Every night he becomes wasted, he pees on furniture, trashes the house, he’s also bi polar. I’ve asked him to leave, and he says that he’ll look for a place but he never does, he just manipulates the emotions and snakes back in. I’m emotional drained and I just want him gone. He won’t leave. He’s acting out of love and doing what he thinks is right, it just coming from a warped perception. The thing that sucks is that we just moved out of state, and just signed a year lease. I cannot afford it by myself. He already told me that he does not want to pay for anything. I thought about leaving, but all my furniture is mine. what do I do
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We broke up once before and got back together. now a year and a half later. I need to get away. He’s not a bad person just an alcoholic. Every night he becomes wasted, he pees on furniture, trashes the house, he’s also bi polar. I’ve asked him to leave, and he says that he’ll look for a place but he never does, he just manipulates the emotions and snakes back in. I’m emotional drained and I just want him gone. He won’t leave. He’s acting out of love and doing what he thinks is right, it just coming from a warped perception. The thing that sucks is that we just moved out of state, and just signed a year lease. I cannot afford it by myself. He already told me that he does not want to pay for anything. I thought about leaving, but all my furniture is mine. what do I do
My son’s father is a drug addict and I almost never allow him to see his father. One of my best friends is an alcoholic and I am trying to help her through it. They both act very similar and I’m wondering if there is any difference between being a drug addict and an alcoholic. Both can be violent and I don’t ever allow them around my son when they are high or drunk. It’s very hard not to distance myself from these people totally.
My ex-husband is an alcoholic and I’m scared that my son would turn into one also. So, I’m looking for organizations or societies that might us be informed about alcoholism. I don’t want my son to be like his father. I want him to realize the consequences of abusing alcohol so that he would try to stay away from it. Please help me. I want to save my son.
My 46 yr. old alcoholic brother has been in and out of 3 rehabs now, several detox places, etc. It seems that as soon as he gets his head on relatively straight, makes goals for himself (good ones like finding a job to support himself and his daughter who lives far away in another country, etc etc etc) that he relapses within a few short hours/days after completing programs.
All of our family have tried to help him out by giving him food and shelter, SUPPORT, etc. for MANY years. I was pretty much THE ONLY ONE LEFT (with my husband and son)that would continue to take him in. The pros call me his ENABLER!!
Recently our 75 yr. old dad (ashamed to even call him his son) was diagnosed with cancer. He agreed to see him, then offered him a place to stay after the 60 day rehab–gave him $$, job offers. Soon as we got dad checked into the hosp., bro went on a 1 week binge, but finally call AA for help. They keep telling us we need to separate the emotions from his DISEASE. HOW???
Hey there the names Michele. I’m 18, and my son is almost 9 months. I live with my dad who is a very bad alcoholic. He drinks beer from morning to night and becomes verbally abusive and sometimes physically. He doesn’t care about anyone else but himself and that is very hard for me since I need help with my son. He’s kicked me out when i was pregnant too many times I can’t even count, and even after I gave birth to my son. I bounced back from town to town, living with my sister and my dad. I have taken the next step on being a good mother and protecting myself and my son from this monster, and filled out an application for housing. They said they were gonna send me a letter letting me know when there is an appartment open, but that was a few weeks ago, and i need to call them. My only option is to move out, my sister who has raised me my whole life lives in a different town about 45 minutes away, and my mom and I don’t have the best mother daughter relationship. I don’t think I can take this anymore, I’m very depressed and that affects how I parent my son. My son’s father wants nothing to do with us so that makes me more angry.
I’ve researched online about support groups for teenagers who have alcoholic parents, and the nearest to me is about 6 hours away. My dad has been to rehab 3 times, detox once, and he’s also been in the [nut house] and had to take anger managment. I’ve had a very bad childhood he’s drank my whole life and I rarely see him sober.
Does anyone have any advice for me?
Please help!
Thanks!
One of my friends (a middle aged woman who lost her legs in an accident over 20 years ago) is an alcoholic. She knows it, we know it, frankly, the whole town knows it. It’s starting to interfere with her work and it’s having a horrific influence on her 20 year old son who is my best friend.
We are trying to get her to go for help, such as an AA meeting, but she keeps saying she “needs to do it” her way. Which means detox or some other medical method. She doesn’t have time for that, and refuses to even try going to one AA meeting. Myself, two of my friends and my boyfriend said even though we don’t drink (me and my boyfriend not at all) we will go with her to be there for her.
Does anyone have any ideas on how to convince her to try going??Or even have other ideas that has a less social environment but still a strong support system?? Sorry this is a book, but please, I would really appreciate other input. Both my parents were alcoholics, father died due to it.
It hurts me to watch her do this to herself and her son. And I want to help her but she needs to stop making excuses and want to help herself. I know that much is the hard part….
We tried a semi-intervention last night. We sat down and talked to her last night and told her EVERYTHING about her son, about how we feel and about how she is effecting everyone. I guess we can only hope that she was really listening.
