I do not want to chat with anyone unless they are an AA or NA member. I am desperate for help. I have a problem with alcohol and I need support and advice from someone in the program. I just want to talk to someone who has been through or is going through the same problems I have. My email is christyandzach50@yahoo.com My 10 year old son is zach and I need help in this area of alcoholism. Please please email me if you have it in your heart to talk. I need help. I need to talk to someone. Thank you. christy
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I’ve goggled and found a few. My son’s father and I split because of drinking. I really still love him and want him to quit. it’s getting worse. I want to stage an intervention, I know he need to want to quit, and he does want to, he just doesn’t have the support. I want to focalize and organize the support he needs.
I think that one thing I can do is email him poems everyday. This is a big message to him, trust me. Can you help me collect some?
thanks
I’ve goggled and found a few. My son’s father and I split because of drinking. I really still love him and want him to quit. it’s getting worse. I want to stage an intervention, I know he need to want to quit, and he does want to, he just doesn’t have the support. I want to focalize and organize the support he needs.
I think that one thing I can do is email him poems everyday. This is a big message to him, trust me. Can you help me collect some?
thanks
My kids are 35 and 32. When their dad left they were 10 & 13. Soon after that ( I recently found out) they started drinking. As they grew up it got progressivly worse. These are people who have (at one time) have professional jobs, great relationships etc.. I have enabled them a lot over the years. Paying their bills, house payments, food, clothes cars, insurance payments, you name it, I’ve done it. All along, knowing it was wrong. I had so much guilt over their dad leaving. They have “both” lived with me at one time or another. They have destroyed my homes and my heart. I know you will all say, ” It was my fault” I moved from California to Washington, with my present husband of 20 years. Soon after we got here, my oldest son came here for 3 months. It drove me crazy, again my fault. One day while I was at work, my husband put him on a bus and shipped him to New Mexico. He was homless and had just the clothes on is back. Eventully, I mailed him his stuff. My question is. How do I sleep at night ? How can I get myself to realize I am powerless? I feel like one day I will get “the call” and one of my kids will be dead. I constantly live with this. I have stopped paying their ways, but I feel guilty that I live in a beautiful house, I am warm, I have a good job, good credit, nice cars, someone who loves me and a little money in the bank. I don’t know how to stop the insanity that I am causing myself over their screwed up lives. I have already done the Counseling thing. I could never follow the Counselor’s help because at that time, I couldn’t do the right thing and kick them to the curb. I love my kids, but hate that they are choosing this destructive path in life. I just want peace within myself and don’t know how to get it. Please give me some suggestions. Thanks!!
has any 1 on here ever lived with an alcholic my husband is 1 and he is driving me round the bend at the moment he is on a bender and causing alsorts of problems in our family sometimes i wish he would go out and not come back i know that sounds horrible but hes getting me so down. My 14 years son told him today i wish you was dead and he doesnt care 1 bit that hes said it can some 1 please help me i dont know what to do if i leave i really think he will drink himself to death if i dont leave my kids are gonna be damaged when hes really drunk he says really hurtfull things has any 1 else had to deal with this and what did you do thankyou x x
he knows he has a problem but only says he has when hes drunk
I have a boyfriend who drinks everyday. At least a six pack or so. If there is liquor in the house he’ll drink it till it’s gone. We have a son together and I love my boyfriend, but I don’t want to be with someone who is dependent on alcohol, ya know? He told me when we first started dating 2 years ago that he drinks a lot, I understood that. 2 years ago, though, we didn’t have our son! I would say something to him, and I’ve tried to say something to him, but it makes him mad, like I’m giving him an ultimative, he says. It’s not that at all. The father figure at had in my life at one time died almost 2 years ago from alcoholism and I don’t want to see anyone else that I love go through that again. What should I do? Does anyone know anything I could say to him that won’t sound like an ultimative?
And i do put my son before anyone else. I, my self, am not in any danger except maybe getting my heart broken, but say if he was abusive or something, which he’s not, I would have left a long time ago, I just don’t want to go through this again, but I want my son to know his father.
PEOPLE!!!! I know he can’t quit drinking at the drop of a hat damn it! I just want him to SLOW DOWN A BIT!!!!
The three adult kids were glad to see us move out of state and leave our home into the care the youngest and her family. Now, after ten years, we’re back. They have to either move out of our home or live with us 24/7. They hate me for trying to be bosy about its maintainance. They are resentful that they have lost their privacy and autonomy. They won’t move out. The son-in-law provokes me by being mean to our nine year old grandson. But we’re not moving out. I cry, openly, in town, at meetings, and any time I think about them hating me. Will A.A. help?
I am 35 years old and have always been estranged due to the stuff my mom does. She lies about everything, she will lie to get things her way she will lie to get attention she will lie to cover her butt. I am finally done for she told my sister I said something about her husband which was a total lie and created such hurt within our family. I have been dealing with this for to long and I am done. My father agrees she is getting worse but just says she is my wife. He has to drink 3-4 beers before he even gets home from work. I have a son that loves his Pop Pop but I cannot keep subjecting him to this drama. Every holiday everyday is a drama. My sister just says well that is how she is, my brother comes around once a year or when he wants something, his wife has already called her an alcoholic and she is of course an outcast. My husband has been attacked physically by my father for defending me. SHOULD I BE DONE??????????????? I wish she would just die. She threatens to kill herself!
I am in a “newer” relationship (5 yrs.), 3 yrs. married to a younger man, this has really bothered me from day one. When I met him, I was going through a divorce from my now ‘EX’ , of being with him for almost 18 yrs. with a son and daughter, my ‘EX’ is an alcoholic, a-lot of abuse, verbal and physical. My new husband is a wonderful man, he is also a drinker, we have already had our share of problems, I am scared that the same thing will happen all over again! I am in Love with my husband, although I feel as if I trust him not to hit me, then that is when he will. ANY SUGGESTIONS??
I am sick of the media glamorizing Paris Hilton, Nicole Ritchie, Lindsey Lohan, Tara Reid, etc etc etc by calling them “PARTY GIRLS.” This sends a dangerous message to young people. The reality is that these very troubled stars are DRUG ADDICTS AND ALCOHOLICS.
Perhaps the death of Anna Nicole Smith (and her son) will make the media STOP GALMORIZING DRUG ABUSE. I really hope so. What do you all think about this issue?
My husband of 12 years is a alcoholic. I told him to leave a month ago but even after all the lies and abuse and having him rip my heart out and eat it, I’m still worried about him and I’m soooo angry and I need help coping really bad. I live in Podunk and it’s hard to find al-anon meetings that aren’t miles away, my car barely gets me to work. I have an 11 y/o son that is seeing not only his father being an asshole but his mother going psycho as well. I’m trying to keep myself together for him but this all hurts so bad. Surely there are women out there that can give me advice. Somebody at least tell me everything is going to be ok. I’m so scared and lonely, I have no family close by. I’m 49 and I feel 75. I haven’t heard from my husband in 2 days and the thoughts of him dead or in jail or sleeping with some slut are driving me insane. My head is so screwed up. I have nobody to turn to but the frikin internet, is that not sad. I need help seriously. Please.
I have a very controlling mother who has had a lifelong agenda of finding fault with me as a son and a single father of 12+ years now. Most recently I discovered that my mother had taken my 12 year old daughter to AA meetings, because “she needed to accept the fact that her father is an alcoholic”. I am not, nor ever been, and my daughter was taken to several of these meetings w/out my knowledge or permission. Is this legal to do w/out obtaining consent?
My husband gradually became a bad alcholic over the years. We’ve been separated 6 months & he asks to come home. I asked him to leave if he wouldn’t give up drinking & he chose to leave.
Here is my question: We have a 3 1/2 yr old son who adores his daddy. My husband is very good with him, BUT can’t be trusted to not drink while caring for him. I have to supervise when hubby interacts with our son.
Part of me wants to let him come home & be in my son’s life, but I think this could be bad for my son. I don’t want him growing up in an alcoholic home. My husband’s mother was a disgusting drunk & he really resents that his father never kicked her out!
If you have an alcoholic parent, are you glad this parent lived with you (or didn’t live with you) & which would have been best for you in the long run? I want to know how my son might feel about my decision to refuse to let my husband come home.
Hubby is verbally abusive to me, but not physically abusive. He’s NEVER mean to our son.
I guess I should have added this part: I have been in Alanon for 6 months and I have a family therapist I see every week. These are very helpful, but I wanted to know how adult children feel looking back on their lives with alcoholics parents.
My husband left because I told him to get into AA or another program and commit to recovery or get out of the house. He said he isn’t an alcoholic, won’t go into a program and he left.
I don’t really want him back after all I’ve been through, but I will work through this if it will be best for my son.
My best friend is 27 years old. She’s married to a 24 year old man. They get drunk almost daily. They have a 1 month old son, and she has an 8 year old daughter. They continuously get into fights. Fist fights, fights where he chokes her and tells her he’s going to kill her (no the police wont do anything unless she files a report…… and soc. services wont do anything without proof either, so dont suggest those two things to me)
So.. I’ve been trying to get them into AA for help but Its not working. Are there any other tactics or techniques that you can use to convince someone to get help? Thanks
My husband is an alcoholic, getting buzzed everyday and absolutly blitzed every month or so. I am staying with a friend, and considering the big “D”. He can be great with our dau.(1yr), but what if he slips up on one of his custody weekends? He has done it with my step son (5), but I don’t know if it was because he knew I wouldn’t drink, and would take care of them. She needs to see her dad. Right?
