How Do I Get My Son Off Drugs?

My husband and I were on the fast path. We met at work, bought a house after 2 months, pregnant after 8 months and engaged after 9 months of dating. I have a son from a previous relationship and my husband and him are the best of friends. 6 months before we got married my husband tried to commit suicide after I left him from yet another one of his spending sprees. For 2 years he would go on binges of spending, blow up credit cards, blow through are savings and then say he was sorry and would never do it again. After I would rebuild the savings he would go on another shopping spree. I finally gave up and left him, 2 days later we were in the hospital because he tried to kill himself. He got diagnosed with being Bipolar. I am a nurse so I understood all about this. I choose to forgive him and go on with life and the wedding. He was put on meds and started counseling.
We got married and had a beautiful wedding, everything I had ever dreamed of. We then went on our homeymoon and was away for a week. We then had a week at home wit the kids before work started again. We work at the same place so everyone knows are business. 3 days after being at work him and another co-worker started talking. One thing led to another, they exchanged numbers and well after 5 days of talking to her he tells me he is not in love with me and leaving me for another girl. This all happened 3 weeks and 1 day after we got married.
He moved out of the house and into his mothers.For the next 3 days he was with her. No sex but fooling around, BJs, emails and sexting. After those 3 days he was calling me asking me what happened. He couldnt remember. When he found I we were over, again he wanted to kill himself. We were back at the ER for a pysch eval. This time he got sent away for 15 days at a behavioral health center for intense counseling and medication adjustments, they said he was in a manic phase, part of being Bipolar.
It has been 3 months since he told me the news. He just moved back in last week as well as went back to work. My life has been a mess. The other women also works with us. I just cant seem to get the images out of my head. He is trying, taking his medication, going to outpatient therapy and has found God, attending church which he has never done in the past. He showers me with notes, cards, affection and so on. I have seen all this before though when he messes up. I have no trust for him. I wake up every morning wondering when and what will be the next time that he hurts me. I dont know if he can be faithful. I love him but hurt so much. I dont feel like its true, pure love anymore. I just am so confused and dont know what to do. Some of my own family wont even talk to me anymore because I chose to marry him. Help, please help with any advice.

Not the first time, he drove extremely intoxicated with son in 03, We were still married then. he is so defensive and believes he dosent have a problem. both of our sons 20 and 15 have nothing to do with him. was with him for 15yrs. this behavior is nothing new. trying to get court to order rehab or something.have protective order as of yesterday. would you feel guilty wanting rights revoked

I had 5 shots last night of 99 blackberries, its 90 proof. 2 AM is about when I took my last shot. If I use a breast pump how many times should I pump & throw out the milk before its safe to give to my son again?

Serious – Mature answers only – please. Trying to make a long question short. We have been/lived together over 5 years. He is 36 – I am 45. When we hooked up – he expressed a desire to have a child – he has none. I had 2 sons – aged 12 & 15 – and had been divorced for 9 years. I was not willing to go thru raising children again. He chose me over a child. We spend every moment outside of work together – because we are so compatible and enjoy our time together. I want for him to marry me – he says he wants to marry me – but he insists on putting a big-ol’ rock on my finger – something he knows I do not want. His ex-wife was a controlling – suicidal – drug addict. I am none of those – and those are not what he wants. I do not want to be a “girlfriend” – I want to be his wife – I want that commitment. Why wont he marry me?

My son has used drugs for over 20 years, he is 36. He went back to jail again for breaking probation. He will miss the birth of his son. He has left his wife with no money plus over due bills. He told me he can not stop his drug use even though he is sick of his behave. Is there any hope for him?

i had 4 bottles of beer last night and was a little tipsy and i’ve got a little headache this morning. my son usually breastfeeds in the morning but he was given formula instead. do i need to pump now or is it ok to breastfeed tonight?
WTF??!! i had 4 beers in 20 months time. do i not deserve to go out and have a good time?! it’s not like i went out the week after my son was born. it’s my first night out since he was born and you guys are judging me that easily?!
thanks for all the great advice. you’ve all been really helpful and supportive (except the two who thought i was negligent). he had a feed this evening and he’s been fine. thanks again

my wife is an alcoholic and doesn’t see that she is – so we’ve grown apart and don’t have much of a relationship now. Our son is now grown up and out of the house. If you have any experience with getting or trying to get a divorce in this situation I’d like your advice. My wife and I each have our own careers.

When me and my baby’s father broke up a month ago, he told me to go after child support, so i did. plus, if i didn’t medicare told me that if i didn’t go after child support they would take away my son’s insurance. so i had no choice in the matter anyways.

well, i guess someone from child support showed up at his house looking for him and now hes so mad he is telling me that is going to go for full custody.

i don’t think he has a chance to get my son but i still cant help but worry. i am diagnosed bipolar and i am unemployed right now but i am in a government program that helps young mothers find employment. i have been there everyday just like it would be a job. so those are the only two negative things i would have against me.

he has custody of his daughter from another woman and the only reason he has custody of her is because the mother smokes crack. he barely pays any attention to his poor daughter and he smokes weed around her and hes an alcoholic. i want to call CPS on him but if i did, he would know it was me. and he said if i did he would kill me.

what happens when someone goes for custody? do i really have anything to worry about?
i have lots of family and friends around. i have very little money but i have always came up with a way to give my baby everything he needs.

I had this really toxic relationship with my ex-fiance:
we were both abusive to the other in some manner
(he financially and verbally abused me, I was verbally abusive in return)
he really brought out the worst in me
we just weren’t right for each other
and the worst part is that we wasted 6 years on each other
he kept me locked up pretty tight:
isolated me from my family/friends and broke into my bank account
so it was hard to do but I finally I got out

And it didn’t take long for things to turn for both him and me:

Without my ex in my life I was finally able to meet my mr. right,
he and I got married,
he works a military job while I stay at home and take classes
we have a spacious apartment, a solid car,
great communication- very open and honest and respectful,
a very experimental and all-around fun sex life,
which resulted in us now being 7 months pregnant,
(my husband calls our son our “surprise blessing”)
I finally have everything I ever dreamed of
its not perfect, but I’m happy,
and its been so long since I’ve been happy…

My ex, on the other hand, was pretty happy when we were together,
he freaked out when I left,
even joined the military in an effort to win me back
when that didn’t work, we tried to be friends
the friendship was going great
I talked to him and coached him into asking a girl out that he liked
he sent me the greatest wedding present when I got married
but as soon as he found out my husband and I were pregnant
thats when things went down hill real fast:
he started drinking…he now binge drinks every weekend
and when he drinks he texts me to say some pretty cruel things…
having been together 6 years, he really knows how to hurt me
so I stopped talking to him
and eventually he stopped trying to talk to me

I figured it was best that way…we lost our friendship a long time ago
no point in trying to keep something alive when its long dead

But now…now I don’t think I’ll be able to avoid him anymore since
he’s been assigned to the same base that my husband will be based on for at least the next year…
even with hundreds of soliders, the base is still considered very small, and you can barely go anywhere in town without running into someone you know from base.
Plus, my husband has just taken a new job…which might make him my ex’s boss for alittle while when he first comes to base…
I really don’t think my ex is dumb enough to say anything to me
and, even if he is dumb enough, my husband could take care of it.
I know my fears are completely irrational
but having been in such a toxic relationship with him…
I’m afraid that his mere presence in the same time zone as my husband and I will ruin everything…
like all of my happiness, all the things that are finally going right for me, all of it will crumble before me when he shows up…
I know thats not going to happen but I’m still just so afraid…

have any of you had this happen?
where you think you’ll never have to see this person again
and you’re glad because the relationship was just so horrible
but then you’re thrown together,
living in the same town, on the same base
and you’re just so scared by their presence
with no real reason to be scared….
please tell me I’m not alone on this?

I can’t figure out why I’m so afraid…
my husband says not to be so afraid, that he’ll protect me.
And I really doubt that my ex will try anything…but I’m still just so frightened.

my son has to under go monthy random alcohol and drug test is this a blood test or urine? Required for custody battle…

My 24th birthday is in 4 days, meaning I’ve been an addict for 7 years. My adopted sister had her son eight days ago, and they want me to be the godfather, except they’re worried about my drug use around my nephew. Her husband, my best friend, broke down crying to me because he was so worried for my life. It’s scary, because he is a hard ass and is not known to cry at all. My twin brother has distanced himself from me. He is so disappointed that I have heard him denying that we’re related. Another good friend of mine is a former alcoholic, so he understands. He is trying to help, but I’m just a little jerk and won’t stop. All of them are trying to help me.

I have been using meth, coke, heroin, and pot. So far, I’ve only been able to get off weed.

I have been to rehab countless times and have overdosed twice. I really want to stop, but it’s like I’m sharing my body with someone else who refuses to cooperate and stop using. I’ve become very depressed about it.

Am I beyond getting assistance to kick my habits? Is it all up to me, even though my addictions have become so strong that I can’t break them? If you could give mr any advice or suggestions, that would be great. Thanks for your time.

my future mother in law says that her adopted son which is my bf has a bad temper cuz he was born a coke baby so is it true and if so wut other side effects are there?
Like seriously i just found this out and can’t find anything about it on the internet and have no idea what to do. I don’t know if its something I should know about for future references. I mean he’s not abusive or anything he just has a bad temper and I just want to know what other side effects he has that I don’t clearly see if it’s dealing with bein born the way he was.

He needs help for medical expenses, which I have been paying for..Zoloft is $90.00/month. He needs consuling ( Icannot pay). I am 70 yrs. old and trying to live on my pension and went back to work part time to help him. Does he qualify for Medicaid? Please help me, I am at the end of my rope????.

My son’s father came back into our life after 6 years. He was a big drugy.
He has been clean for 2 years.

I made a promise to myself to keeo moving forward and discuss or dwell in the past.

Things have been going well. He is shaping up to be a great dad and my son loves as if he was never away.

He and I are getting a long swimmingly. I even thought we were friends. He calls me almost everyday and talks about his day, talks to me about our son, etc. He even confides in me.

BTW we were each others first like real love. We were together 5 years before we split.

On Friday night he called me to hang out together. My son was sleeping over his aunts so I excepted I mean we have known each other since we were 13. He asked me once before but I was busy.

So he told me was madly in love with me back then.

Then his stupid ass kissed me. Then I went to pick up my sons bike from his house and he tells me he had a good time the other night.

Ummm, did I mention he has been dating someone for 2 years? He says he doesn’t love her.

Bottom line is I know he loves me. He always has and always will. I’ve always trumped any women in his life including his mother. I would almost feel bad for his gf but turns out she is crazy.

It must be hard to see him look at me the way he does. As girlfriend to see the way he speaks to me and treats me. Honestly, if he hadn’t got hooked on drugs and done all the ish we’d still be together I think.

I don’t know how I feel about him. I get a sense that he still has a bit of liar in him left over from his drugy days.

What do you think go with the gut or give him a chance? He hasn’t given me any reason not to believe him since he has been back.

Hmmmm, opinions, advice, etc?

Yes this is really happening! Lol, I know my life is like some dramatic comedic movie, lol.
Artmom, I would see your point about his current gf except I meant it literally when I said she is crazy. He has had a restraining order against her and she is a drug user. She has stepped on my toes many times trying to get in good with my son. I did not appreciate that.
Lol, I am not putting up with anything.

I do not want him back but I know he wants me back. I guess I was kind of confused when I wrote this.

I guess I mean should I continue to be his friend even though he is still in love with me?
@Dogma: Lol, I know how this question must sound. There is much more to the story and much more to our history together but it’s to much to write. His gf? I have no sympathy for her. She is a dope fiend and has 2 lovely girls that she just got taken away from her due to a drug habit.

Again I don’t want to be with him though I know he wants to be with me. The question is more can I continue to be friends with him though he is still in love with me?
@PullMyEFinger: Thank you for actually giving some useful advice!!

My son just completed drug rehab and I’m wondering if any company will give him health insurance now.

My son went through drug rehab one year ago and is doing great. He has not relapsed at all and has set some quality goals for his life and is pursuing them. He is only 21 years old and is currently in vocational training and cannot afford his own medical insurance at this point in time, but I would like to provide that for him. Does anyone know if he’s eligible since he has a history of drug abuse?