How Do I Get My Son Off Drugs?

My 2 year old son’s dad and I have never have been married. We’ve lived together for 4 years, even after breaking up, thinking that parenting & money would be easier living together. As of this past weekend, I made a decision to move out in September. This is something dad agrees with, & supports. We both know the fighting has gone on too long.The problem is that dad is a drunk. He lives for alcohol & doesn’t care who his lifestyle affects. He comes home drunk from work (or anywhere, really) on a regular basis, even when he promises each night not to. He can get physical & violent (not in front of our son, this always happens after midnight, so he’s in bed). I want out of this sooner, but I can’t move before my new roommate is free of her lease in Sept. Is there something I can do legally? I’m tired of his alcoholic lifestyle & he doesn’t recognize his problem. And I know he’ll lie if accused of anything. He’s even threatened to lie if in court. I need help. I need to protect my son
We have no shared bank accounts, and I have a house full of my belongings and a situation that doesn’t allow for a “transition home” or anything like that. I have parents that will help, if needed. But I have to maintain my life while making this change. I have an awesome job and I can’t neglect that either.
I can’t just “leave”. Til September, I have nowhere to go, and a “shelter” won’t be happening. His mother is visiting this weekend and I don’t think she has a clue that his drinking is this out of hand, but I’m sure as heck going to tell her.
I appreciate all the advice so far, but I can’t see anything that would work yet. Isn’t there sometime I can do to force HIM out? If I leave, I’m leaving him with all my stuff and I can’t do that. My family is in another state, so this could get complicated, I don’t have local family to help me out. I just thought maybe I could get some sort of order for him to move out or something, and then I could maybe get some assistance to help pay the $900 rent for the next 2 months, or ask my parents.
The lease is in both nof our names. And as of June 1, we’re not on a lease, come to think of it. So I’m not sure what that means.

I’m not “tattling” to his mom, I just need for her to stop seeing me as the whiney, annoying party and him as a drunk. He never does it in front of her, she lives 400 miles away, we barely ever see her.

And I can’t just move. I know it’s hard to understand, it’s even harder to explain. But this is 2 levels of a home ful of my stuff, and everything is unorganized. All my picture proof of anything is on a broken laptop, etc etc. It’s a sticky situation.

My 2 year old son’s dad and I have never have been married. We’ve lived together for 4 years, even after breaking up, thinking that parenting & money would be easier living together. As of this past weekend, I made a decision to move out in September. This is something dad agrees with, & supports. We both know the fighting has gone on too long.The problem is that dad is a drunk. He lives for alcohol & doesn’t care who his lifestyle affects. He comes home drunk from work (or anywhere, really) on a regular basis, even when he promises each night not to. He can get physical & violent (not in front of our son, this always happens after midnight, so he’s in bed). I want out of this sooner, but I can’t move before my new roommate is free of her lease in Sept. Is there something I can do legally? I’m tired of his alcoholic lifestyle & he doesn’t recognize his problem. And I know he’ll lie if accused of anything. He’s even threatened to lie if in court. I need help. I need to protect my son
We have no shared bank accounts, and I have a house full of my belongings and a situation that doesn’t allow for a “transition home” or anything like that. I have parents that will help, if needed. But I have to maintain my life while making this change. I have an awesome job and I can’t neglect that either.
I can’t just “leave”. Til September, I have nowhere to go, and a “shelter” won’t be happening. His mother is visiting this weekend and I don’t think she has a clue that his drinking is this out of hand, but I’m sure as heck going to tell her.
I appreciate all the advice so far, but I can’t see anything that would work yet. Isn’t there sometime I can do to force HIM out? If I leave, I’m leaving him with all my stuff and I can’t do that. My family is in another state, so this could get complicated, I don’t have local family to help me out. I just thought maybe I could get some sort of order for him to move out or something, and then I could maybe get some assistance to help pay the $900 rent for the next 2 months, or ask my parents.
The lease is in both nof our names. And as of June 1, we’re not on a lease, come to think of it. So I’m not sure what that means.

I’m not “tattling” to his mom, I just need for her to stop seeing me as the whiney, annoying party and him as a drunk. He never does it in front of her, she lives 400 miles away, we barely ever see her.

And I can’t just move. I know it’s hard to understand, it’s even harder to explain. But this is 2 levels of a home ful of my stuff, and everything is unorganized. All my picture proof of anything is on a broken laptop, etc etc. It’s a sticky situation.

My brother in law is addicted to pills. It started out with Vicodin (not his) and now he has 3 separate doctors prescribing drugs to him without the knowledge of the others. He has wiped out their savings and got cash advances on secret credit cards for almost $15K in 6 months. He refuses to go to rehab because he thinks nothing is wrong with him. My sister asked him to leave a week ago and he is now staying with his parents. Before he left, he told my 5-year-old nephew that “your mom doesn’t want me to live here and I won’t get to see you anymore”. My nephew has been acting out and saying she is mean and if she loved him she would let his dad come home. My sister won’t let my nephew see his dad because he slurs, stumbles and is verbally abusive to anyone in the vicinity. She doesn’t want my nephew to know anything about what is going. I think she should explain that his dad is sick and can’t be around them right now. Any thoughts?

My 2 year old son’s dad and I have never have been married. We’ve lived together for 4 years, even after breaking up, thinking that parenting & money would be easier living together. As of this past weekend, I made a decision to move out in September. This is something dad agrees with, & supports. We both know the fighting has gone on too long.The problem is that dad is a drunk. He lives for alcohol & doesn’t care who his lifestyle affects. He comes home drunk from work (or anywhere, really) on a regular basis, even when he promises each night not to. He can get physical & violent (not in front of our son, this always happens after midnight, so he’s in bed). I want out of this sooner, but I can’t move before my new roommate is free of her lease in Sept. Is there something I can do legally? I’m tired of his alcoholic lifestyle & he doesn’t recognize his problem. And I know he’ll lie if accused of anything. He’s even threatened to lie if in court. I need help. I need to protect my son
We have no shared bank accounts, and I have a house full of my belongings and a situation that doesn’t allow for a “transition home” or anything like that. I have parents that will help, if needed. But I have to maintain my life while making this change. I have an awesome job and I can’t neglect that either.
I can’t just “leave”. Til September, I have nowhere to go, and a “shelter” won’t be happening. His mother is visiting this weekend and I don’t think she has a clue that his drinking is this out of hand, but I’m sure as heck going to tell her.
I appreciate all the advice so far, but I can’t see anything that would work yet. Isn’t there sometime I can do to force HIM out? If I leave, I’m leaving him with all my stuff and I can’t do that. My family is in another state, so this could get complicated, I don’t have local family to help me out. I just thought maybe I could get some sort of order for him to move out or something, and then I could maybe get some assistance to help pay the $900 rent for the next 2 months, or ask my parents.
The lease is in both nof our names. And as of June 1, we’re not on a lease, come to think of it. So I’m not sure what that means.

I’m not “tattling” to his mom, I just need for her to stop seeing me as the whiney, annoying party and him as a drunk. He never does it in front of her, she lives 400 miles away, we barely ever see her.

And I can’t just move. I know it’s hard to understand, it’s even harder to explain. But this is 2 levels of a home ful of my stuff, and everything is unorganized. All my picture proof of anything is on a broken laptop, etc etc. It’s a sticky situation.

My 2 year old son’s dad and I have never have been married. We’ve lived together for 4 years, even after breaking up, thinking that parenting & money would be easier living together. As of this past weekend, I made a decision to move out in September. This is something dad agrees with, & supports. We both know the fighting has gone on too long.The problem is that dad is a drunk. He lives for alcohol & doesn’t care who his lifestyle affects. He comes home drunk from work (or anywhere, really) on a regular basis, even when he promises each night not to. He can get physical & violent (not in front of our son, this always happens after midnight, so he’s in bed). I want out of this sooner, but I can’t move before my new roommate is free of her lease in Sept. Is there something I can do legally? I’m tired of his alcoholic lifestyle & he doesn’t recognize his problem. And I know he’ll lie if accused of anything. He’s even threatened to lie if in court. I need help. I need to protect my son
We have no shared bank accounts, and I have a house full of my belongings and a situation that doesn’t allow for a “transition home” or anything like that. I have parents that will help, if needed. But I have to maintain my life while making this change. I have an awesome job and I can’t neglect that either.
I can’t just “leave”. Til September, I have nowhere to go, and a “shelter” won’t be happening. His mother is visiting this weekend and I don’t think she has a clue that his drinking is this out of hand, but I’m sure as heck going to tell her.
I appreciate all the advice so far, but I can’t see anything that would work yet. Isn’t there sometime I can do to force HIM out? If I leave, I’m leaving him with all my stuff and I can’t do that. My family is in another state, so this could get complicated, I don’t have local family to help me out. I just thought maybe I could get some sort of order for him to move out or something, and then I could maybe get some assistance to help pay the $900 rent for the next 2 months, or ask my parents.
The lease is in both nof our names. And as of June 1, we’re not on a lease, come to think of it. So I’m not sure what that means.

I’m not “tattling” to his mom, I just need for her to stop seeing me as the whiney, annoying party and him as a drunk. He never does it in front of her, she lives 400 miles away, we barely ever see her.

And I can’t just move. I know it’s hard to understand, it’s even harder to explain. But this is 2 levels of a home ful of my stuff, and everything is unorganized. All my picture proof of anything is on a broken laptop, etc etc. It’s a sticky situation.

My 2 year old son’s dad and I have never have been married. We’ve lived together for 4 years, even after breaking up, thinking that parenting & money would be easier living together. As of this past weekend, I made a decision to move out in September. This is something dad agrees with, & supports. We both know the fighting has gone on too long.The problem is that dad is a drunk. He lives for alcohol & doesn’t care who his lifestyle affects. He comes home drunk from work (or anywhere, really) on a regular basis, even when he promises each night not to. He can get physical & violent (not in front of our son, this always happens after midnight, so he’s in bed). I want out of this sooner, but I can’t move before my new roommate is free of her lease in Sept. Is there something I can do legally? I’m tired of his alcoholic lifestyle & he doesn’t recognize his problem. And I know he’ll lie if accused of anything. He’s even threatened to lie if in court. I need help. I need to protect my son
We have no shared bank accounts, and I have a house full of my belongings and a situation that doesn’t allow for a “transition home” or anything like that. I have parents that will help, if needed. But I have to maintain my life while making this change. I have an awesome job and I can’t neglect that either.
I can’t just “leave”. Til September, I have nowhere to go, and a “shelter” won’t be happening. His mother is visiting this weekend and I don’t think she has a clue that his drinking is this out of hand, but I’m sure as heck going to tell her.
I appreciate all the advice so far, but I can’t see anything that would work yet. Isn’t there sometime I can do to force HIM out? If I leave, I’m leaving him with all my stuff and I can’t do that. My family is in another state, so this could get complicated, I don’t have local family to help me out. I just thought maybe I could get some sort of order for him to move out or something, and then I could maybe get some assistance to help pay the $900 rent for the next 2 months, or ask my parents.
The lease is in both nof our names. And as of June 1, we’re not on a lease, come to think of it. So I’m not sure what that means.

I’m not “tattling” to his mom, I just need for her to stop seeing me as the whiney, annoying party and him as a drunk. He never does it in front of her, she lives 400 miles away, we barely ever see her.

And I can’t just move. I know it’s hard to understand, it’s even harder to explain. But this is 2 levels of a home ful of my stuff, and everything is unorganized. All my picture proof of anything is on a broken laptop, etc etc. It’s a sticky situation.