How Do I Get My Son Off Drugs?

My nephew has suffered alot. My brother left him when he was 5 years old. My brother wants nothing to do with any of his kids but that is another story…anyways his mother is an alcoholic and drug addict and has neglected him ( no food, has left him at school til 6pm) you get the point…well he is now staying with me and my daughter, but i have noticed he lies alot, pretends to not know things, and is very manipulative. What should I do!!

he has been fighting for custody for his son, the love of my life. missed his court date yesterday and she got full custody. then he steals 200.00 from his girlfriend and blows it up his nose. i put him in treatment when he was 18. my only thought is i will never be able to see that beautiful boy and i am just dying inside. help!!!!! i just want to give up with him. he has hurt his family so many times. i am to the point of kicking him out of my life. he is my only son and i have always been there for him, but, now i don’t know.

he has been fighting for custody for his son, the love of my life. missed his court date yesterday and she got full custody. then he steals 200.00 from his girlfriend and blows it up his nose. i put him in treatment when he was 18. my only thought is i will never be able to see that beautiful boy and i am just dying inside. help!!!!! i just want to give up with him. he has hurt his family so many times. i am to the point of kicking him out of my life. he is my only son and i have always been there for him, but, now i don’t know.

My sister has been hooked on crack for 10 years. I am raising her son. She is 30 and has never had a job or been responsible for anything in her life. When my mom died a few years ago, her will said that whatever money my sister received from her life insurance should be held in my trust. That money has run out and now my sister is receiving settlement money from the lawsuit over my mom’s death. (mesothelioma) This money legally doesn’t have to be held in my trust. It could go straight to my sister but she agreed that because of her drug issue, my brother and I could hold on to it for her so she doesn’t go blow it. There is about 75 thousand dollars total. Well, a year has passed and my brother and I are fed up being responsible for this money. She is constantly calling asking for more money, even though we agreed on a set budget. Obviously she is going and blowing this money on crack. We don’t usually tell her no because legally, it is her money to do with what she wants. But we are so sick of the lies and deceit and the constant calls. And we are scared that drug dealers will show up at our house because she has told them we have all this money for her but won’t give it to her.
If this were your sibling, or your adult child, would you just give them the whole 75 thousand and let them go blow it on crack?. Even though you know there is a good likelihood it would cause her to overdose and die? Or would you just keep answering the phone calls and give it to her a little bit at a time so she will be less likely to be able to go on a massive binge that will kill her?
My brother and I are so sick of all of this but at the same time, we don’t want to live with the guilt of knowing that she died because we gave her all that money at once.
And she absolutely refuses long term rehab. She went a couple of times to 30 day programs, but she left to smoke crack within a week of getting out.
Is there anyway to get legal control of her money because of her addiction?
Thanks for your help.

I have two teenagers who I am scared to death of them falling in to the sex, drugs, and alcohol consuming culture. Most of all gangs and the like. I have told the kids about the dangers of all three areas, but am I doing enough? I try to lead by example, but is that still enough? Please advise.