How Do I Get My Son Off Drugs?

My son will be staying at a place called Faith House, run by a church group for ex-felons and recovering drug addicts and alcoholics. There are 14 guys and a live-in house manager. He said they told him he will be randomly tested for drugs once or twice a week. He wants to know if they will send him to a bathroom for the sample or if they will watch the urine come out of him (I honestly think it’s more because of bladder shyness that he’s worried)

My son will be staying at a place called Faith House, run by a church group for ex-felons and recovering drug addicts and alcoholics. There are 14 guys and a live-in house manager. He said they told him he will be randomly tested for drugs once or twice a week. He wants to know if they will send him to a bathroom for the sample or if they will watch the urine come out of him (I honestly think it’s more because of bladder shyness that he’s worried)

My son will be staying at a place called Faith House, run by a church group for ex-felons and recovering drug addicts and alcoholics. There are 14 guys and a live-in house manager. He said they told him he will be randomly tested for drugs once or twice a week. He wants to know if they will send him to a bathroom for the sample or if they will watch the urine come out of him (I honestly think it’s more because of bladder shyness that he’s worried)

I have known this individual for over two years. He was a kind and wonderful person with a promising career in the field of neuroscience. A head injury he received at 18 initiated his prescription drug abuse, and he has been hooked ever since. His grades are plummeting, he lost his job, and numerous behavioral issues are starting to surface. I tried contacting his family once before to inform them of the issue, but they didn’t seem concerned and did nothing about it.

I later found out from his sister that his parents were aware of the issue. She tried to get him help, but they told her to shut up about it. They are from a small town, and she told me that they didn’t want people knowing their son was an addict. I hate to portray them this way, but the mother is legitimately a “refrigerator mother” and the father is entirely apathetic. Their son desperately wants help, but they would prefer to ignore the issue and have him handle it on his own.

When things became very bad, I contacted them yet again and they finally flew into FL to see their son. It soon became clear that they wanted to get me out of the picture, and to get me to shut up because they are embarrassed. They would rather live in denial than deal with the inconvenience of having an addict family member.

I feel as though they are going to throw their son in rehab, and leave him there to rot. They have never been actively involved in any of their children’s lives (they are likely responsible for the development of these issues in the first place -3/4 of their children suffer from similar problems). They are not proactive, and though they knew their son had this problem, they wouldn’t even do so much as to call him to see how he was on a regular basis. I refuse to let him sit there in rehab alone with no support system. What do I do?

if a trainer can influence (and sell) his fighters to snort cocaine what more if its his son? free cocaine everyday for JR. Have you noticed JR’s behavior lately? Beating women has something to do with drugs he is using…

My son is 34 and I have not seen him for 5 yrs, he now has come home for help, he is so depressed, (up and down) I am trying to be very supportive and get him Counceling. I’m just not sure how a recovering meth addict acts after withdrawal? I am so happy and scared at the same time.

My son said his friend who is supposedly addicted to ectasy will be getting an implant placed right under the skin. If he takes ectasy again, he will not be affected by the drug at all…..I told him I didn’t believe such a thing exists. If it were true, I’d sure we’d all know about this. Anyone ever hear such a thing?

My son’s father used to have a coke habit, but he quit for awhile. We aren’t together and he has little to no contact with my son– I have primary custody of the child. But I’m beginning to suspect that he’s using harder drugs again.

It’s been long enough that I can’t remember what he was like when he was doing cocaine regularly.

He’s very good at hiding the signs. I want to know what to look for before I go to court for full custody of the child.

Sorry if my question was not really a question, but it is an odd situation I am in and I need some advice!!

I was best friends with a girl since I was 10 years old. We hung out just about everyday until we turned 17 years old. At that point in time she was starting to hang out with the wrongs friends and got into drugs. Now I am 23 years old, married and live a happy life without any drama or craziness. It seems as though every time she gets on the right path again she calls me. (She has been on and off drugs since she was 17!) Well she keeps on losing my number or maybe just keeps getting hooked on drugs, but called me today after not speaking for over a year. She said that everyone she knows is a screw up but me and wants me to be the god parent of her soon to be son! As you know I didn’t talk to her for a whole year and had NO idea she was even pregnant! Well in shock that she found me again and completely overwhelmed I said I would get back to her. I have NO idea what to do. In a way I owe it to the baby to have a normal life if god forbid something happens to her (which there is a high chance of happening given her past) or I try again to keep her out of my life and close the door in her face which seems mean. So advice pleeaaaasssseeeeee!!!!
I think she pops into my life because I am the only thing that has ever been stable in her life. Well I am assuming this, she says even though we never speak I am still her best friend. Whenever we speak she brings up what we spoke about dealing with our future. Example when we were kids we dreamed of living together and having this perfect life, but that has obviously changed and she doesn’t see that! In a way I feel bad for the child, she is not a bad person, but should not have had a child. I think the longest she stood in one place was 3 months. She is constantly moving and her life is never together. Right now she has no heat or electric!!! If this is the case will I legally get the child???

I brought my son to a drug rehab center about 5 months ago but I don’t see any changes on him. He always feel depressed and seems he always crave for drugs. What should I do with this?

I am a mother of a 34yr old son who has stopped taking meth but is suffering from depression , and short attention spans. Does anyone have more info for me about what it feels like once you stop? I am clueless about the withdrawal?

My son is a cocaine addict 23, years of age. He has a difficult time understanding why he can’t drink and again why is cocaine a diffiuclt drug to stop using?

My son is a meth addict. He cooks, uses, and sells.
We have no money. Where in Indiana is the best place for him to go to be treated for his methamphetamine addiction? Other locations are ok, I just would not know how to get him to a place far away.

the son is 24, we put him in a faith based rehab because we don’t hve the $ to pay, my husband spend all his time worrying about his son that my daughter and I are left out of everything, it is like I am single again.

my husband was in rehab for 7 months straight out of prison. he was out only a month and a half until he relapsed last week. he had to stay in jail for 5 days. he told me the reason why he relapsed is because we always fight. we always fight because i don’t trust him. why should i? he’s lied to me numerous times in the past that he quit doing drugs and going to aa/nn meetings when he was still using. he also has a addictio to lying. i think he might be a pathilogical lier because he lies about anything and everything to everyone including his family. we fight alot because i always call him on his lies. he got kicked out of his half way house last week when he told me and his roommate he would be going to jail because his couselor sent his UA to the lab and the results will be coming back positive. his room mate yelled at me, told him he should leave me because my husband blames me for the reason why he does drugs and relapses all the time. i viewed his criminial record online jus now because he said he doesn’t know when he has to go back to court because he’s in drug rehab. this is what it says on the court minute text.

DEFENDANT ADMITTED TO COURT THAT HE RELAPSED AND
SHOULD HAVE ASKED FOR HELP WHEN HE HAD ARGUMENT
WITH HIS WIFE. COURT ADVISED DEFENDANT TO CALL
SITC OR SUPPORT SYSTEM FOR ASSISTANCE. COURT
DIRECTED DEFENDANT TO SET UP CRISIS PREVENTION
PLAN, USE IT AND PROTECT HIMSELF WHEN THE SAME

see he blames me for his drug addiction. why can’t the judge and his councelor see that his drug addiction is his fault and not mines. i don’t know what he says about me to them. i had called his councelor 2 weeks ago and left her message saying to test my husband because i think he is using again. of course he died it. he said he wasn’t using at the time and the reason he relapsed is because i told his councelor he was using which he claimed he wasn’t using at that time yet. he tells people i’m crazy and i only say these things because im mad at him. he says i stalk him because i don’t believe him that he’s going to his na/aa meetings which is so not true. i’ve only been to one aa meeting with recently. the other times he says i can’t come because he doesn’t want me to come and we fight about it because i don’t believe he’s actually going because he’s lied about attending them in the past. he’s also been to a meetings before when he was high. if he’s really going i don’t know why he won’t show me his meeting papers anymore. when he first got out he would show me his paper that was signed by the person in charge of the meeting and now he makes some lame excuse he lost them when i found it in his bag when i was looking threw them. i knew he was lying because he said he lost wallet with his meeting paper, debit card and some cash that was in their because he called me from the store and said he was buying dinner. i told him i thought you lost it, he said someone sent it to him in the mail at the half way house. the only address in his wallet is his id from our house. their was no address with his half way house address on it. i can’t believe he blames me and the courts believe everything he says. they blame me too. should i jus divorce him. i don’t know how much i can take of this anymore. he told me the councelors said to get a restrianing order on me because i left a message telling his councelor to test him for drugs. i don’t know why they would say that since he won’t tell me what he told them.

after all this i love him still. we’ve been together for 12 years since i was 15. married for only 3 and our son will be 6 next month. i’m afraid my son wants to be like my husband because’s he’s been misbehaving in school alot and when i ask him why he says he doesn’t want to be good. he wants to be bad. what should i do? i’m avoiding my husbands calls right now.
i also have depression and social anxiety. i’ve always suffered depression but every since my husband started using drugs its gotten worse. i guess he blames me like how i blame his for why i feel sad and isolate myself all the time but its hard when someone you love abuses drugs, lies to you and blames you for the reasons why they do what they do. i can’t believe he would do this. his jus lost his dad in december due to drugs. his real mom and step mom also died from drugs. i don’t know why he is doing this. sometimes i jus want to end my life because i don’t have anyone only my husband, my son, my mom and my brother. i don’t have anyone i can confide in because like i said i have social anxiety. i don’t have any friends to talk to and my therapist can’t see me until june 3rd because he’s booked.

ruining all our lives..he’s addited to oxycontin and other drugs. He lies constantly, bilks relatives from money, stole Christmas presents Christmas eve, was discovered sleeping in my mother’s attic where he had gotten through two sticks and a chain on the patio door, broken in apartments, refuses rehab, broken his mother’s heart, loses jobs, apartments, cars, a wife, and much more. He steals repeatedly from relatives and breaks in our sheds and my mom’s house often. Made many death threats..people are scared to turn him in as he may retaliate or he may just be using controlling behavior. he gets away with murder.

Do they know they are ruining their lives and many others? Do they care? Is only thre drug important? What makes them quit? Need more insight..
how can you make them want rehab…I feel prison might get him off drugs..his mom pays and gets him in programs and he doesn’t show up, lies and says he went and then they find out he didn’t etc.

That’s the problem…we all decided not to give him money etc but his grandma (and sometimes) brother get the most begging and sometimes break down and help him…they are hounded and the “strong ones” generally are not approaced..his mom also breaks down sometimes and helps him behind her husband’s back who has thrreatened divorce if she helps him but she feels sorry for him when he is freezing and homeless…he also threathens his grandma a lot and she has helped him most (except maybe his mom)…he has ruined her life and she is dying and he is so stressing her out and hastening her death that is no more than 6 months away according to the doctor. We do need to be united but then he breaks in if we don’t help..somehow he cons his way in..a master manipulator and liar and stupid grandma
keeps buying his bull crp stories.
Abhishek Joshi –you offered some real insight into things. It’s true..I think this is a kid (well he’s 28 now but a kid to me still) who is full of anger. His dad was a jerk–never there…abandoned him..bought him drugs they took together when a teen, broke promises he’s visit all the time. This was a kid noone liked banging doors and cussing everyone out when only 2 years old..how we disliked him and talked about how rotten he was as he was..stole five sets of keys from me and apparently threw them in the gully and slashed my tires as a kid cause I wouldn’t let my son (who he liked) stay all night a few times so I’d bre forced to stay..breaking in houses as a teen and just a troublemaker. Spoiled like crazy by a mom who felt sorry for him that noone liked him with no parental insight and very permissive, buying him things like chinese stars, bb guns, minicars, bow and arrows (which he proudly and loudly announced much to my emabarrassment at the museam I took him to when
looking at stuffed birds that he loved shooting them between the eyes ith slingshots and such at about 5 years old..bought him things like garbage pail kids sticker and all these things at the inappropriate ages of 2-7 and saying to me don’t buy hiom toys for Christmas he doesn’t like them…sorry he got toys from me..what am I gonna buy him…weapons? She bought this bratty. ungrateful kid who cussed out teachers and threw chairs at them $300 shoes and jackets. he was very dependent on his mom and adept at xontrolling her….until she remarried at his age 18 where they essentially threw him aside for their own lives and the two males hated each other…Steve (the kid) blaming Mick (the new husband) for taking away his mom who he had frustrated but wrapped around his finger..Mick was also controlling with Sue (the mom) fake names in the middle torn between husband and son..the husband mostly won and it was then I felt sorry for the kid throw away in my opinion the son who had been
all becoming nothing although she still helps him sometimes behind husband’s back)…I think as you said the kid is full of anger..the family is disfunctional and people have been judging him from birth he feels unloved and is gonna make everyone pay even if it destroys him in the process. He was obsessed with guns and is an angry kid..angry at the world and his family and life..he sees himself homeless, suffering, losing jobs and possessions and wife and family and homes and blames everyone and the drug is his relief from the anger and pain and makes him happy and forget. It is a sad situation but whast you said helped me have more compassion for him.

i have looked into many rehabs in order to send my son so that I can help him get off of heroin. I have heard a lot about “drug-free detox” and rehab centers…can anyone let me know of a good one?

Have looked into Narconon…really like it but would like some feed back.

Thanks

A desperate mother