How Do I Get My Son Off Drugs?

My aunt is addicted to prescription drugs and has been for a while. She also has an eating disorder. She only drinks water and never eats. She is also addicted to smoking. She takes pain killers and morophene patches constantly. She doesn’t even need them but one doctor she goes to continues to prescribe them. He even knows whats going on. She gets so high on the pain killers sometimes she passes out in bed with a cigerette lit and she has almost burnt herself up multiple times. She gets so bad she can’t walk or talk she is so high on them. She don’t even know where she is and what day it is. I have suggested to my other aunts that we should do something but they say that the only person that can do anything about it is her son and husband (that is is seperated from). Her son is an alcoholic and doesn’t care and her husband would never say anything about what she is doing. I fear I am the only one that can help. Is there anything I can do to help her?

My sister has been hooked on crack for 10 years. I am raising her son. She is 30 and has never had a job or been responsible for anything in her life. When my mom died a few years ago, her will said that whatever money my sister received from her life insurance should be held in my trust. That money has run out and now my sister is receiving settlement money from the lawsuit over my mom’s death. (mesothelioma) This money legally doesn’t have to be held in my trust. It could go straight to my sister but she agreed that because of her drug issue, my brother and I could hold on to it for her so she doesn’t go blow it. There is about 75 thousand dollars total. Well, a year has passed and my brother and I are fed up being responsible for this money. She is constantly calling asking for more money, even though we agreed on a set budget. Obviously she is going and blowing this money on crack. We don’t usually tell her no because legally, it is her money to do with what she wants. But we are so sick of the lies and deceit and the constant calls. And we are scared that drug dealers will show up at our house because she has told them we have all this money for her but won’t give it to her.
If this were your sibling, or your adult child, would you just give them the whole 75 thousand and let them go blow it on crack?. Even though you know there is a good likelihood it would cause her to overdose and die? Or would you just keep answering the phone calls and give it to her a little bit at a time so she will be less likely to be able to go on a massive binge that will kill her?
My brother and I are so sick of all of this but at the same time, we don’t want to live with the guilt of knowing that she died because we gave her all that money at once.
And she absolutely refuses long term rehab. She went a couple of times to 30 day programs, but she left to smoke crack within a week of getting out.
Is there anyway to get legal control of her money because of her addiction?
Thanks for your help.

what drug was it? How did you recover? how long was you addicted? how long have you been in recovery? are you still seeking therapy?

I have a 22 year old nephew hooked on heroin. This is causing are family much turmoil, He is going to rehab today, but only for 30 days. This is his second or third attempt to come clean and I seriously think he needs longer treatment. Any comments would be helpful . Thanks !!

My 18 year old son is addicted to crack cocaine. I have tried to watch him; tried threatening; tried cutting off communication; nothing works. He now has stolen from me and he’s sitting in jail. I know he needs treatment, but ppl are saying its a lost cause; some say there is hope and some say he will always use. Is there any hope for recovery? Honestly?

I don’t even know what I want to ask, I just am reaching out anywhere I can think of. I have a 20 year old son who is addicted to marijuana, and is now dabbling with ecstasy. I found this out from his twin brother, whom is clean and has a new baby. He has great concerns for his brother, he has even contacted the show “Intervention”. I have sent my son to rehab three times, to therapy, to see a psychiatrist, I’ve even had him arrested in my own home. He is currently on probation, so I’m in the process of contacting his probation officer & needless to say I am kicking him out of my house (yet again). All this is coming to a head today which is not only the week of Christmas, but it’s also my birthday. I’ve been going through this with him since he was 15, I don’t know what else to do. He’s been back in my home for a little over a month now, he swore this time he was going to stay clean & he had no where else to go. I’m at my wits end and I just don’t know what else to do. I’m looking for a local NA group for ME (Baton Rouge area). I just need a little advice or support from anyone who has been here…my heart is breaking. I lost my mom last summer to cancer, and I thought that would be the break thru for him. He broke down in my arms & cried like a child because he felt like his grandma died being disappointed in him, his words. Then when his twin brother had a baby, he swore that would be it. He didn’t want his nephew to have a drug addict for an uncle, again HIS words. It hurts so dam much to watch him self destruct like this..help, anyone…

My son just turned 40 and lives in SC his gf called me earlier and told me he is back on Crack after a few weeks clean. She is in need of help and with him not working they can’t afford a rehab center. He is not using a l but she would like him to get clean and stay clean. She in no way supports his habit he gets with friends and they buy it and all of them smoke it together. There are no minor children involved in this matter but i fear for my son’s life as well as his gf’s safety.

the son is 24, we put him in a faith based rehab because we don’t hve the $ to pay, my husband spend all his time worrying about his son that my daughter and I are left out of everything, it is like I am single again.

My family is questioning why I would not want my nephew in my house *especially* now that I have kids. ??? He has not sought help (never went to rehab or acknowledged that he has a problem), is extremely violent towards his immediate family (i.e., death threats)), has vandalized his parents’ home several times… I *love* my nephew and hope that he recovers from his addictions, but I am a parent who has an obligation to protect my own children. There was no nice way to break it to my family even though I tried. Now, I am being regarded as the bad guy. I seriously don’t understand… Am I the one who is crazy here? How would you have responded in this situation?

everything.She lost her job and he got demoted trying to help her with the kids, she would bring them to his job and make him watch them.They have been late on the rent, he was buying a car and he lost that. The kids are already having troubles. I am trying to get him to understand how dangerous her situation is, he is not trying to listen but is there at least something I can do to help the kids to not get involved in the same world as there Mom’s, her parent and siblings are also into drugs so I can not contact Grandparents.

A nephew, age 46, wants to move in with me for a while as he was put out of his home. I let him stay here once before because he can really be nice but he can and often is verbally abusive, a total slob, will do nothing around the house, disappeared for days on end without calling, When he showed up he would sleep for two days. He’s really smart but doesn’t seem to want to do anything for himself. He does day work for a temp agency when work is available.

I want to be helpful but am afraid to go through the hell I went through with him the last time. I don’t know anything about drugs but it seems there must be some answer to this problem.

I have two nephews and my brother is a rehab drug addict but with a minor mental issue and a wife that still has a drug issue, What should I do to help the problem? I have children of my own and I love my brother but I don’t want to hurt anyone and I’m all alone with this problem I worry about my nephews. I want to help they live in NJ and I live Phx. What do I do?
My nephews are twins and they are 3 years old and yes I’m willing to take them and take care of them but I also want to take care of my brother who is 28 with a mental problem and a sister in law who is not willing to change her ways I’m just afraid that I will lose my nephews if the court decides to put them in foster care,I don’t have any addiction what so ever. I just enjoy life.
My sister in law is 43 years old has four other children that are not under her care I just want to make sure if I fight for my nephews I will be able to take them legally and not hurt anyone I love my brother and he is trying to be a great dad he has asked his wife to stop using drugs cause he has stopped and he is trying I’m trying to convince my brother to leave his wife and come to my home with the babies and I could help him here and watch over my nephews. Give your opinion about the details.

ruining all our lives..he’s addited to oxycontin and other drugs. He lies constantly, bilks relatives from money, stole Christmas presents Christmas eve, was discovered sleeping in my mother’s attic where he had gotten through two sticks and a chain on the patio door, broken in apartments, refuses rehab, broken his mother’s heart, loses jobs, apartments, cars, a wife, and much more. He steals repeatedly from relatives and breaks in our sheds and my mom’s house often. Made many death threats..people are scared to turn him in as he may retaliate or he may just be using controlling behavior. he gets away with murder.

Do they know they are ruining their lives and many others? Do they care? Is only thre drug important? What makes them quit? Need more insight..
how can you make them want rehab…I feel prison might get him off drugs..his mom pays and gets him in programs and he doesn’t show up, lies and says he went and then they find out he didn’t etc.

That’s the problem…we all decided not to give him money etc but his grandma (and sometimes) brother get the most begging and sometimes break down and help him…they are hounded and the “strong ones” generally are not approaced..his mom also breaks down sometimes and helps him behind her husband’s back who has thrreatened divorce if she helps him but she feels sorry for him when he is freezing and homeless…he also threathens his grandma a lot and she has helped him most (except maybe his mom)…he has ruined her life and she is dying and he is so stressing her out and hastening her death that is no more than 6 months away according to the doctor. We do need to be united but then he breaks in if we don’t help..somehow he cons his way in..a master manipulator and liar and stupid grandma
keeps buying his bull crp stories.
Abhishek Joshi –you offered some real insight into things. It’s true..I think this is a kid (well he’s 28 now but a kid to me still) who is full of anger. His dad was a jerk–never there…abandoned him..bought him drugs they took together when a teen, broke promises he’s visit all the time. This was a kid noone liked banging doors and cussing everyone out when only 2 years old..how we disliked him and talked about how rotten he was as he was..stole five sets of keys from me and apparently threw them in the gully and slashed my tires as a kid cause I wouldn’t let my son (who he liked) stay all night a few times so I’d bre forced to stay..breaking in houses as a teen and just a troublemaker. Spoiled like crazy by a mom who felt sorry for him that noone liked him with no parental insight and very permissive, buying him things like chinese stars, bb guns, minicars, bow and arrows (which he proudly and loudly announced much to my emabarrassment at the museam I took him to when
looking at stuffed birds that he loved shooting them between the eyes ith slingshots and such at about 5 years old..bought him things like garbage pail kids sticker and all these things at the inappropriate ages of 2-7 and saying to me don’t buy hiom toys for Christmas he doesn’t like them…sorry he got toys from me..what am I gonna buy him…weapons? She bought this bratty. ungrateful kid who cussed out teachers and threw chairs at them $300 shoes and jackets. he was very dependent on his mom and adept at xontrolling her….until she remarried at his age 18 where they essentially threw him aside for their own lives and the two males hated each other…Steve (the kid) blaming Mick (the new husband) for taking away his mom who he had frustrated but wrapped around his finger..Mick was also controlling with Sue (the mom) fake names in the middle torn between husband and son..the husband mostly won and it was then I felt sorry for the kid throw away in my opinion the son who had been
all becoming nothing although she still helps him sometimes behind husband’s back)…I think as you said the kid is full of anger..the family is disfunctional and people have been judging him from birth he feels unloved and is gonna make everyone pay even if it destroys him in the process. He was obsessed with guns and is an angry kid..angry at the world and his family and life..he sees himself homeless, suffering, losing jobs and possessions and wife and family and homes and blames everyone and the drug is his relief from the anger and pain and makes him happy and forget. It is a sad situation but whast you said helped me have more compassion for him.

has destroyed everyone’s life stealing multiple items and money from my now dying mom, disabled brother, other brother, and apparently has broken into multiple houses to support his habit and it again homeless and jobless and was hanging around my mom’s house..broke into her house before Christmas last year and was fopund hiding and living in the attic and stole multiple expensive Christmas presents.

He has stolen from me a credit card and changed $1000 before discover, has my social security number or did as he stole my driver’s licence and in my lifetime 5 complete set of keys. He somehow gets in the houses and cars even if locks are changed. I have a shed at my mom’s and he broke dozens of locks anfd it appears he has stolen stuff but I am afraid to look due to him living in it and using the bathoom everywhere in his drugged up state..broke windows and dead squirrels may be in there and I am afraid of the virus they may carry so don’t even know what he took from there..(cont)
it was the gills and a mess and now appears
half full but he claims he threw everything in the back which may be..I can’t see as it is all stacked to the roof due to his moving everything around. Naturally I do not want him in there. He used to be obsessed with guns and made multiple threats to kill everyone in the family. Everyone is terrified of him (he is addicted to oxycontin & possible other drugs. ..his mother has disowned him due to threats by her husband (who isn’t his dad) to divorce her if she helps him in any way (she is wealthy) as the nephew has lid so many times, cheated her of money, she spent thousands trying to get him help..he lies and doesn’t go to treatment..he did just go and claimsd he is off and (as usual) notone will help him..gee I wonder why after he stole so much and lied so much and threatened to kill everyone violently). I doubt if he is off drugs like he claims as he lies all the time.

My mom is dying and has about a month to live of her
prognosis and can’t take his continual begging and stressing and all. Anyway, I went to fireworks with my brother and a picnic and apparently this nephew was in my car..I knew right away as brights were on, radio way up, back light on..my other brother said druggie was in the car as the alarm lights were flashing and a big stack of my papers from the car was on the bench where this kid (in his late 20′s) was sitting and going through..he claimed h was not in the car..I found a purse in the car missing and it was found in my mom’s back yard where this guy slept on the porch..so I know he took it (luckily I took my wallet and purse with me and the purse was empty)..I don’t see these papers my nephew had that my brother said he put in the car just for a couple..those have my address on it..he did not know where I lived but now does. He is skilled at stealing people’s identities as this is what he and an accomplish did when they broke in the housing..the jerk..I hate him. I am terrified
now feeling no safety..I just left my mom as I was preparing some food for tomorrow and it hit me on the way home, he has my address.

I am in my late 50′s and never had a computer until this year. I am disabled and have no way to replace the computer, and printer, vcrs, big stereo birthyday present and two TVs..it took my whole life to get this stuff. I now only have $100 for food and gas and clothers and misc after the bills so obviosly can’t replace stuff hre steals if he comes here and braks in..he knows my cr so can see if I am here or not..what can I do to protect my belongings? He got into my mom’s at christams with two sticks and a lock in the sliding door.

My chain lock was breoken by my apartment so it does not appear too study. I also have a slide lock and live on the first floor so he could break a window..* am worried he may have taken some preapproved credit card forms and might break in to get those activated and ruin my credit. I hate where I live and am locked in
in here for life almost in I don’t get out and I must have good credit to be approved for the subsidizedFFousing I have breen on the list for 16 months for and may get in in the next 2 years..if he ruins my credit then what..I cabn’t stand it here as so small. Please advise. I do not know if I have enough proof to get a restraining order which I was unable to get on shed as it is my mom’s property and she won’t file and now is too sick. I have no money for rehab..he lies and does not go..she is too ill to go get a restraining order and maybe afraid..brother who is guardian said not going cause he wasn’t the victim this time..he almost seems to enjoy freaking me out more..how can I protect my property

threatens her life, breaks in her house….she is afraid of threats and that if he loses his trucker’s license, he will always hang around..at least this ways they get a two or three month break from this stress till he loses his job. He keeps hanging around. They (my brother) called police where they found out he was in attic and broke in house without their knowledge and stole Christmas presents and other items. How can we get her to quit enabling him as she falls for his lies and sob stories..He on crushed and snorted oxycontin and maybe other drugs. he ignored attempts at rehab..after calling police and saying pressing charges..she gave him a blanket Chrsitmas eve and let him sleep on back patio.
well, we tried..we had a meeting once and all agreed not to give him money, items or food and help him reach bottom quicker and seek help as when his mom pays for rehab and he agrees to go, he doesn’t or he lies and says he went but he renigs on it. I think the death threats by gun and instability and his impulsiveness and blaming everyone else fo his problems stiffle stciking with calling police..plus he is hard to catch..the fear he is controlling us with is a factor and permissivemess and difficulty with saying no to his pleas and not feeling sorry for him mess things up..the ones firm in not helping him or not afraid of him, he leaves alone. what can we do?
that should be grandson not nephew
good suggestion, free to chat, but I don’t think they will call police due to how they are…siometimes but not consistency and that can mnullify the order.
thank you, little peewee for your compassionate answer and offers to help…it is making it hard on my mom..but it is up to the males in the family who are braver and younger to intervene. I am a 57 year old disabled woman. I do give suggestions but they are often ignored. It is very frustrating. He makes me so angry adding to my mom’s intense suffering as she is in real pain.

My sister is a single mother and her 15 year old son is addicted to drugs he doesn’t want to go to school and everytime he goes to school is to get in trouble (he is a trouble kid). I need help on where can she take him to help him out. Is there any kind of program u can reccomend me?