My girlfriend of 6 years recently served me with restraining order papers a week after we were last together. We had an arguement which resulted in me leaving her. She still had several of my belongings at her home which I tried to obtain but she wouldn’t give them back even after having a police go there. She has been extremely abusive and controlling throughout the relationship and I really feel that this is another one of her evil tactics. We were living together for the last 3 months and my things along with my son’s official documents are still there and I was asking for them back. Because of this she has put out a restraining order for me. The restraining order is full of lies but it looks as if I have been the one who has been abusive. I am so hurt because she was being so so nice prior to our argument and I really thought she cared but I guess not.She is an alcoholic as well. Does anyone know how I can get her to either drop the order or get the judge to dismiss it?
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When my husband of 6 years gets a “buzz”, he is verbally abusive to me and my son.(from a previous relationship) When he’s sober and I tell him what he said or did he calls me a liar and denies it all. I have left him many times but I keep coming back. He has started AA classes and soon as he realizes I’m back, he stops AA and starts drinking again. I love him but this is causing me to really dis-like him. I am not attracted to him anymore because of this reason. When we lay down together all I smell is beer and his eyes are glossy. I need advice on what to do. I don’t want to turn my back on him, we have 2 children together and i have one from a previous relationship who looks up to my husband as his daddy. I don’t want them to think it’s o.k to drink a case of beer a day.(and still walk a straight line)
No one seems to argue that a parent that is an addict is an abusive parent just by being in the child’s life…
It is LEGALLY child-abuse in many states if a pregnant woman pops hot for drugs.
It is being debated if it is child abuse for a drunk mother to breast feed her child because the alcohol is being passed to the baby through the milk.
Yet if an extremely mentally ill person decides to have kids, no one blinks an eye… They seem to be ENCOURAGED to breed just to show the world “That they are normal”.
When you are mentally ill, even when medicated, you have ups and downs and irrational behavior that directly impacts the mental development and even the GENETIC DEVELOPMENT of a child.
Studies in to the Epigenome are showing that when a child is raised by a depressed parent, that child’s experience alters the genetic development of the child and can lead to an increased risk of mental illness themselves as well as an increased propensity for physical illness such as obesity, cancer, and diabetes.
Why do we not discourage the mentally ill from having kids?
Why do we not discourage addicts? (which is a genetic illness and mental illness)
Why do we keep screaming, as a culture, that breeding is a RIGHT when the very presence of the parent(s) are, at the very least, passive abuse?
Just because you CAN breed doesn’t mean you SHOULD… So why do we not give people a talking to about the quality of life of the CHILD vs the instinctual imperative of the adult to breed?
Why don’t we take teens that have gotten pregnant (and the impregnator) and make them take a class explaining the legal and ethical obligations that must be fulfilled for this child and how to prevent future mistakes through treating the acting out of their sexuality as the responsibility it is?
They don’t even council women going in for an abortion for more than 10 minutes when they offer discounted contraception… They spend more time going over and making the woman swear that she is there of her own free will and not pressured or threatened.
What is so wrong about getting people to THINK before producing a child?
Why is the quality of life of the child less important than the instinctual fulfillment of the parent?
Please… No childish answers… This is a topic that is dear to my heart because I’ve survived horrible trauma and have a really jacked up adult life because no one sat my white trash mother down and said “It might not be a good idea for you to squeeze out young after looking at what happened to the rest of your family… You are an addict. You are mentally ill. Your nephews have killed themselves… You come from the same stock and your offspring will follow the same path.”
It seems so SELFISH to put the desire of the parent above the quality of life of the child.
Why is this such a horrible position to take in the eyes of society?
i’m pretty sure the father is some sort of alcoholic and the son learned how to dance, or something like that. there was a lot of profanity in it, as i remember (i was like 8 when i saw it, so it might not have been that bad) so i think it was rated “R”.
any ideas?
can my abusive alcoholic ex see our son after he left, moved 300 miles away and we have social services report suspecting child abuse.
my son is almost 7, and hasnt seen his dad on dr`s recommendations for 3 years, and his dad isnt on his birth certificate, and now he is trying for visiting rights.
this man was abusive to me verbally and emotionally and it is evident that this also affected my son by his behaviour and developement.
i just want to know where we stand.
if it goes to court and he is given visitation rights then i will go along with it, but i`d rather it didnt get that far.
any advice would be gratefully recieved.
thanks
thank you to every one who gave me advice on this, it has really helped put my mind at ease.
i want what is best for my son and have fought hard to get him the stable environment that he desperately needs and deserves, and if his father were more stable and reliable we may have been able to come to an amicable arrangement.
i’m pretty sure the father is some sort of alcoholic and the son learned how to dance, or something like that. there was a lot of profanity in it, as i remember (i was like 8 when i saw it, so it might not have been that bad) so i think it was rated “R”.
any ideas?
I’m in love with a man who is very high maintence and has always been a bacholar. I moved in with him 2 years ago with my 2 children, he is not a kid person but has a son of his own. He does not like my son but likes my daughter. For a long time now he tells to move out and he wants to be on his own but i’ve stayed, finally I bought a house and I got it April 3 but now he tells me he wants me to stay, he says he loves me and is going to get help. He has been very good to me lately but I’m scared he will just go back to being the same person again. I also don’t like the things he has said to me and I don’t like his weekend binge drinking. Please help with advise.
She left 3 times to be with him. Now she’s homeless, drunk, and stupid. She called to say she’d kill me if I took him(my grandson) away. Is there anyone besides Welfare associates that can help me get custody? He is in danger if he goes back. I want him to stay with me and be safe and happy. Does anyone have a friend with legal advice that won’t cost me a million dollars? Just tell me what court house to go to , (not Dover, Maine) to file a motion for custody. thank you ( a worried Nana)
My mother-in-law continues to enable and rescue her 45 year-old abusive son. He hits her, yells at her, cusses at her and yet she just tells the rest of the family that he is sick and needs help. She accepts his behavior and never sets any boundaries. She drives him everywhere (has so many DUIs that his license was taken away), pays his bills, etc. I would love a book for her that specifically deals with these issues.
son rescued by calling neighbors wife on abductors telephome while hiding in their bathroom neighbors wife rescuse him from abductors home after making decision to kill (shoot) abductors who were in possession of two children. Boy returns home. House on fire. His mother commits suicide by sticking her head in oven. Boy leaves with family next door the father has to leave with entire family who changes identity. They all start a new life after neighbors father is presumed dead.
