She IS MOST DEFINITELY A TROUBLED WOMAN, with her drugs and alcohol problems. And now this ! Imagine how she feels, and what this may do to her. Her son’s death also sounds VERY SUSPICIOUS, like DRUG USE !

Do you visit Yahoo Message Boards and what do you think about them ?????????

She then walks up and starts calling me a whore and begins tearing up my things and then slapped me as hard as she could in my face. My son was drunk. My other children and her baby witnessed it. I was furious. I packed my things and left.

Now I just think that I am in an abusive marriage where my husband did little to prevent this. And I did not expect something like this to happen. I am not going to report it because really what good would it do? The kids were all crying. I packed up 5 of them and drove home. It’s 3 now. My son was crying all the way home and had to make frequent stops.

My husband was trying to leave the bottle well within their reach. I told him to pour it out but he kept saying that essentially he gave them cash and they bought it and it was his -yet left in plain sight for them to continue drinking. So I dumped it after telling him twice to hide it and him failing to do so.
Yes my son will have consequences as well as he played a role. I did not consent. They just wanted alcohol. That was it. The daughter went and got it for them.

If he did take our son for a week, would I have to give him supplies for the baby or should he pay for those things? Because I also have to send wipes, diapers, & food to daycare for him. And it’s not like my son’s dad can afford it, anyway. He’s barely working. He spends the little money he does have on alcohol, cigarettes, and other frivolous things. He’s very irresponsible.

I’ve never told my son’s dad that he can’t see his son. But at the same time, I wouldn’t want him taking my son for a long time & so far away. But then again, I don’t want to get caught up in a nasty legal situation. Whenever we fight, he tells me that he’ll take me to court to get partial custody of our son & that he’d pay child support so that he can. And not because he wants to pay child support/go to court or anything…but he’d do it just to spite me! I figured that if he really wanted to support his son financially, then he’d already be doing it. I don’t want my son in the care of this loser, but at the same time, I want to avoid a nasty situation. What should I do?!

I am thinking about leaving Christianity. I was saved when I was 13 and I am not 45. Over the past few years I have become increasingly disenchanted with the religion. Here is why….:

I have a son, who is 24, who is gay. In my whole entire life I have never known anyone who was openly gay, so it was very easy for me to believe all of the horrible things I was taught in church about gay people. I feel like I have been lied to, though. My son has been “out of the closet” for 6 years now, at first is was really difficult for me to adjust to. I had all of these preconceived notions as to who he was going to become because that’s what my pastor had told me. But my son is nothing like the people my pastor always described. My pastor said they all do drugs, are alcoholics, and have promiscuous sex. But my son doesn’t do any of these things, he is a respectful young man who is about to graduate from law school in a few years. He boyfriend is a really nice gentlemen as well.
My husband and I have sort of “adopted” his boyfriend because his “Christian” parents don’t want anything to do with him. And that’s not a story I heard just from him, I know his parents and they told me they put him out until he decides to not be gay anymore.

I feel like I was brainwashed all those years. Even those Christians say that they “love the sinner, but hate the sin” homosexuals are rarely treated well. They are ostracized and abandoned by their families. I am a social worker and we have so many young kids, 14, 15, 16, 17 who were put out of their parents homes for being gay. So while Christians say “love the sinner, hate the sin” they don’t act it.

I don’t know what to do. I feel so lied to. I still believe in Jesus Christ, and I believe that he died on the cross for me and for all mankind, but I just…. IDK.

Can anyone help me with my feelings?

http://www.lohud.com/article/20101228/NEWS01/12280327/-1/NEWSFRONT/Mahopac-man-accused-of-killing-wife-was-facing-deportation

Well lately, my son comes home complaining he is hungry. They eat maybe 2 times the entire weekend he is there. His dad and stepmom go to bed at 4-5 am and sleep until 1-2 pm the next day. So my son is responsible for taking care of the smaller children ages 1, 4 and 9 in the mornings. He said there is no food there to eat. Now they have no water bc the pump isn’t working. The electricity was going off and on. Sometime dimming and then getting brighter. My son said he was sitting on his bed and water started pouring out of the light fixture. The only heat they have are space heaters. I have reported them to CPS in the past but the problem is, is that CPS always gives notice they are coming so they clean house, get rid of the booze and get her dad to give them money for groceries. I just don’t understand how they can look their children in the face knowing they are hungry and they have no adequate heat or water but buy cigs and booze every single day. At least my son gets to come home. He only has to be there every other weekend. Those little kids have to be there all the time. No one in the home has had a job for amost 2 years. He has sucked his unemployment dry. I don’t care what they do at that house. Those two can drink themselves into an oblivion for all care, but when these children are not eating or in danger for some fire breaking out due to shorts in the wiring or the space heaters..I could never forgive myself for ignoring this if something were to happen.

I don’t know what to do. If I get involved, my son will be angry and won’t tell me anything else. He has just now started to trust me and tell me all of these things. He loves his dad and of course doesn’t wanted him to be in trouble or not see him anymore. I’m lost at what to do. If I turn them in, they will know it was me. And unless the situation is bad enough for them to remove the children from the home, they will just take it out on my son for telling me what is going on over there. What would you do if it were you?
“mind my own business”? This is my son we are talking about here. Do you now how difficult it is to send your child somewhere they don’t eat for the weekend, have no running water and have to dip their feces out of the toilet with a bucket when they are done using it or where there is obvious electrical problems in the home? I do not bad mouth his father at all. When I say they have no water I mean they have had no running water for at least the past 2 weekend visits (so four week). And for 6 months my son has said there is no food there. No milk, no bread, no cereal nothing. They eat one meal per day. I didn’t say he physically absued the children. I said water is flowing through the electrical outlets and ligth fixtures, the electricity is shorting out. Turning off and on. Staying up late drinking is different than drinking to the point of getting into physical fights in front of your children and then passing out until afternoon. I’m sorry but this is not something I can ignore.
And Joe B… I do NOT want him to be a bad father. I have never denied him the right to see his son and I have never spoken ill of him to my son. I want nothing more than for him to be a great father bc my son loves him so much. But he isn’t. He has nothing to do with his son other than the four days a month he goes there. He has been convicted of physically abusing his second wife’s daughter. Because he was drunk and she was throwing a fit and he whipped her so hard he left bruising on her. Her Father turned him in. They have no dry wall on their home, only insulation. No heat besides 2 space heaters. They have an English Mastiff and you can count his ribs and he has no dog house. They dumped their chocolate lab bc they were sick of feeding it. My son is confused bc he doesn’t want to go there but he wants to see his dad. He is behind on support constantly and is now trying to bribe my son with a new truck if he can emancipate himself at 16 so he doesn’t have to pay child support.

Well lately, my son comes home complaining he is hungry. They eat maybe 2 times the entire weekend he is there. His dad and stepmom go to bed at 4-5 am and sleep until 1-2 pm the next day. So my son is responsible for taking care of the smaller children ages 1, 4 and 9 in the mornings. He said there is no food there to eat. Now they have no water bc the pump isn’t working. The electricity was going off and on. Sometime dimming and then getting brighter. My son said he was sitting on his bed and water started pouring out of the light fixture. The only heat they have are space heaters. I have reported them to CPS in the past but the problem is, is that CPS always gives notice they are coming so they clean house, get rid of the booze and get her dad to give them money for groceries. I just don’t understand how they can look their children in the face knowing they are hungry and they have no adequate heat or water but buy cigs and booze every single day. At least my son gets to come home. He only has to be there every other weekend. Those little kids have to be there all the time. No one in the home has had a job for amost 2 years. He has sucked his unemployment dry. I don’t care what they do at that house. Those two can drink themselves into an oblivion for all care, but when these children are not eating or in danger for some fire breaking out due to shorts in the wiring or the space heaters..I could never forgive myself for ignoring this if something were to happen.

I don’t know what to do. If I get involved, my son will be angry and won’t tell me anything else. He has just now started to trust me and tell me all of these things. He loves his dad and of course doesn’t wanted him to be in trouble or not see him anymore. I’m lost at what to do. If I turn them in, they will know it was me. And unless the situation is bad enough for them to remove the children from the home, they will just take it out on my son for telling me what is going on over there. What would you do if it were you?
“mind my own business”? This is my son we are talking about here. Do you now how difficult it is to send your child somewhere they don’t eat for the weekend, have no running water and have to dip their feces out of the toilet with a bucket when they are done using it or where there is obvious electrical problems in the home? I do not bad mouth his father at all. When I say they have no water I mean they have had no running water for at least the past 2 weekend visits (so four week). And for 6 months my son has said there is no food there. No milk, no bread, no cereal nothing. They eat one meal per day. I didn’t say he physically absued the children. I said water is flowing through the electrical outlets and ligth fixtures, the electricity is shorting out. Turning off and on. Staying up late drinking is different than drinking to the point of getting into physical fights in front of your children and then passing out until afternoon. I’m sorry but this is not something I can ignore.
And Joe B… I do NOT want him to be a bad father. I have never denied him the right to see his son and I have never spoken ill of him to my son. I want nothing more than for him to be a great father bc my son loves him so much. But he isn’t. He has nothing to do with his son other than the four days a month he goes there. He has been convicted of physically abusing his second wife’s daughter. Because he was drunk and she was throwing a fit and he whipped her so hard he left bruising on her. Her Father turned him in. They have no dry wall on their home, only insulation. No heat besides 2 space heaters. They have an English Mastiff and you can count his ribs and he has no dog house. They dumped their chocolate lab bc they were sick of feeding it. My son is confused bc he doesn’t want to go there but he wants to see his dad. He is behind on support constantly and is now trying to bribe my son with a new truck if he can emancipate himself at 16 so he doesn’t have to pay child support.