My son’s Father left me when I was 4 months pregnant. What happened in short was, he reunited with his cousins, who are gangbangers and started smoking dope with them which caused him to ignore a lot of my calls and generally avoid me so I wouldn’t know. I wasn’t cool with being ignored when I was pregnant so I kinda went bonkers on him more than once and he ended up getting fed up with my angry voicemails and told me he was breaking up with me and was going on a dope binge and to wait because he’ll come around someday.
So, my son is 3 months old now. I haven’t seen his Father since I was 4 months pregnant, and haven’t talked to him since I was 5 months pregnant. He’s written me a few e-mails asking to see his son, but last I heard he was living out of a hotel with a prostitute, so I refused. I told him if he gets his life back together I’ll consider talking about it then, but not to bother calling before then because I’m not going to expose my son to that kind of environment. About a month ago he stopped writing e-mails.
So, I find out that he’s in jail now, and facing 2.5 – 6 years in prison. I understand how drugs can take over somebody’s life and cause them to make horrible choices concerning themselves and their loved ones, but I also know he chose to take that road knowing he had a son on the way. So, I feel pity for him, but no sympathy, if that makes sense.
He has never met or seen his son. His mom has shown him a picture or two at the most. I was considering taking my son to his sentencing so he could see him before he goes to prison for the next few years. I also considered just sending him pictures. Ive also considered doing neither like he doesn’t deserve it for choosing to be a dead beat dad.
Should I forgive him and let him see his son or send him pictures? Or should I say you reap what you sow, have a nice time in prison?