her, completely OBLIVIOUS to her pain.
She IS MOST DEFINITELY A TROUBLED WOMAN, with her drugs and alcohol problems. And now this ! Imagine how she feels, and what this may do to her. Her son’s death also sounds VERY SUSPICIOUS, like DRUG USE !
Do you visit Yahoo Message Boards and what do you think about them ?????????
You know I am just a little upset right now. My husband’s 23 daughter gave my 15 year old alcohol while we were on vacation 4 hours away. It was 9:30 at night. I go in and find a half empty bottle of gin sitting on their dresser at the hotel. I tell DH, who appears upset. I am fussing to him about it saying something to the effect of it’s illegal. The 23 year old has a 1 year old baby and she went into the store and bought alcohol for 2 teenagers (under 18) and leaves the baby in the car.
She then walks up and starts calling me a whore and begins tearing up my things and then slapped me as hard as she could in my face. My son was drunk. My other children and her baby witnessed it. I was furious. I packed my things and left.
Now I just think that I am in an abusive marriage where my husband did little to prevent this. And I did not expect something like this to happen. I am not going to report it because really what good would it do? The kids were all crying. I packed up 5 of them and drove home. It’s 3 now. My son was crying all the way home and had to make frequent stops.
My husband was trying to leave the bottle well within their reach. I told him to pour it out but he kept saying that essentially he gave them cash and they bought it and it was his -yet left in plain sight for them to continue drinking. So I dumped it after telling him twice to hide it and him failing to do so.
Yes my son will have consequences as well as he played a role. I did not consent. They just wanted alcohol. That was it. The daughter went and got it for them.
I have a five year old son. His biological father died when he was barely a year old from an alcohol induced accident. His father was an alcoholic, didn’t do anything with him or for him and only pretended to be the model father in front of family and friends. He was also very verbally abusive. I have tried over the years to keep in contact with his side of the family and I get a Christmas card if I am lucky. His own Grandmother, who begged me to stay with her after he passed, makes no attempts to keep in touch with him. The last time I called all of them they all told me that they couldn’t afford the long distance phone bills, so I would have to call them if I wanted to talk to them. My current husband is the only father my son has known or even remembers. I have shown him pictures on regular occasions of his biological father, but he still says it’s Daddy and points to my husband. I understand it still may be too early for him to comprehend the situation, but this is where my dilemma comes in. My husband doesn’t want me to ever tell my son about his birth father. I don’t know if it’s because he is worried about him looking at him differently or one day walking away to try and be close to his biological family. I told my husband that one day I was going to explain to him what happened and talk to him about his biological father, even though he wasn’t the best person in the world. He is upset and thinks I should never bring it up to my son. I have always planned on telling my son because he is his birth father. Can a few people leave their thoughts for me, serious thoughts please, and let me know if they think I am wrong for my reasoning?
There’s this monologue I’ve heard about 2 times but never catch what play it’s from. It’s about a girl who is forced to go to a Alcoholics Anonymous meeting and talks about all the problems she has like being evicted because she would not date the landlord’s son, her parents disowning her because they mistaken “I’m late” for “I’m gay” over the phone, etc. In the end she yells out: My name is (don’t remember) and I’m PROUD to be an alcoholic!
My son’s father is currently living 3 hours away. He doesn’t have his own place of residency. I keep our 9 month old all of the time and his dad comes to see him every weekend. His dad has asked me several times if he could take our son for a week or so, but I have always been very hesitant. He likes to go out & party, and I had to make him understand that he can’t just leave our son w/ his mother so he can go out and do whatever he wants. I wouldn’t be so hesitant if he lived closer, but I don’t know how he would manage w/ our son in the car for 3 hours…plus he smokes. He usually stops and smokes outside, but I think that he’d actually smoke w/ our son in the car. It makes me so mad that he can’t go 3 hours without a cigarette! Also, he doesn’t support our son financially. He doesn’t buy diapers, food, clothes, or anything. Most of the stuff he brings our son is stuff his mother buys for him.
If he did take our son for a week, would I have to give him supplies for the baby or should he pay for those things? Because I also have to send wipes, diapers, & food to daycare for him. And it’s not like my son’s dad can afford it, anyway. He’s barely working. He spends the little money he does have on alcohol, cigarettes, and other frivolous things. He’s very irresponsible.
I’ve never told my son’s dad that he can’t see his son. But at the same time, I wouldn’t want him taking my son for a long time & so far away. But then again, I don’t want to get caught up in a nasty legal situation. Whenever we fight, he tells me that he’ll take me to court to get partial custody of our son & that he’d pay child support so that he can. And not because he wants to pay child support/go to court or anything…but he’d do it just to spite me! I figured that if he really wanted to support his son financially, then he’d already be doing it. I don’t want my son in the care of this loser, but at the same time, I want to avoid a nasty situation. What should I do?!
Please, just read what I had to say and take it at face value. Bashing me is not going to keep me closer to Christ.
I am thinking about leaving Christianity. I was saved when I was 13 and I am not 45. Over the past few years I have become increasingly disenchanted with the religion. Here is why….:
I have a son, who is 24, who is gay. In my whole entire life I have never known anyone who was openly gay, so it was very easy for me to believe all of the horrible things I was taught in church about gay people. I feel like I have been lied to, though. My son has been “out of the closet” for 6 years now, at first is was really difficult for me to adjust to. I had all of these preconceived notions as to who he was going to become because that’s what my pastor had told me. But my son is nothing like the people my pastor always described. My pastor said they all do drugs, are alcoholics, and have promiscuous sex. But my son doesn’t do any of these things, he is a respectful young man who is about to graduate from law school in a few years. He boyfriend is a really nice gentlemen as well.
My husband and I have sort of “adopted” his boyfriend because his “Christian” parents don’t want anything to do with him. And that’s not a story I heard just from him, I know his parents and they told me they put him out until he decides to not be gay anymore.
I feel like I was brainwashed all those years. Even those Christians say that they “love the sinner, but hate the sin” homosexuals are rarely treated well. They are ostracized and abandoned by their families. I am a social worker and we have so many young kids, 14, 15, 16, 17 who were put out of their parents homes for being gay. So while Christians say “love the sinner, hate the sin” they don’t act it.
I don’t know what to do. I feel so lied to. I still believe in Jesus Christ, and I believe that he died on the cross for me and for all mankind, but I just…. IDK.
Can anyone help me with my feelings?
An illegal immigrant was free on bail awaiting a deportation hearing when he allegedly killed his teenage wife in Mahopac, a law enforcement official told The Journal News on Monday Paul Amay, 25, was detained by federal Immigration and Customs Enforcement agents after his release in March from the Westchester County jail, where he had served four months of a six-month sentence for driving drunk with his infant son in the car.
Amay was turned over to immigration officials on March 22, then freed by federal authorities after posting bail.
The deportation hearing was to decide whether he would be sent back to his native Ecuador. His next appearance was set for late January.
Amay has been in the United States at least since 2004 and had been arrested in Westchester at least four times for drinking in public and once for disorderly conduct, authorities said. Police had also responded to several domestic disturbances between him and his wife, Graciela “Gloria” Zhingri Amay.
Amay was arrested shortly after noon on Nov. 21, 2009, in Ossining after he was seen driving erratically. Police found his 7-month-old son unrestrained in the car and Amay’s blood-alcohol level was 0.29 percent, more than three times the legal limit for driving while intoxicated.
The arrest on misdemeanor charges of DWI and child endangerment came just a week after Gov. David Paterson signed Leandra’s Law, making it a felony to drive drunk with a child in the car. Amay would have been the first Westchester defendant charged under the law, but it did not take effect until mid-December, so he only faced misdemeanor charges.
When ICE agents learned Amay was in jail, the agency issued a detainer warrant so it would be notified when he was eligible for release. An order of protection, meanwhile, kept him away from his wife.
http://www.lohud.com/article/20101228/NEWS01/12280327/-1/NEWSFRONT/Mahopac-man-accused-of-killing-wife-was-facing-deportation
My 17 yr old son needs help badly..he is into drugs and alcohol and lies, steals etc..i have tried everything i know of to try but they all tell me since he is 17 that it’s his choice..he can leave home or whatever and has to sign himself in to a treatment center..my heart is breaking watching him spiral down out of control and not be able to do anything about it..any suggestions? im so scared for him.. also he has been diagnosed as bi-polar and refuses to take his meds..
My son is 14. His Dad is a raging alcoholic. Him and his wife drink a half gallon of 10 high whiskey every day. They get into brawls when their children are there. My son’s dad even was sent to the hospital with a blood alcohol content of .4 which is almost dead. 2 years ago I took him to court and asked for supervised visitation. They denied my request saying my son was old enough to care for himself even and gave an order that my ex husband couldn’t drink alcohol around him anymore. Which of course he does. I have spoken to my lawyer who says, it will be very difficult to prove this.
Well lately, my son comes home complaining he is hungry. They eat maybe 2 times the entire weekend he is there. His dad and stepmom go to bed at 4-5 am and sleep until 1-2 pm the next day. So my son is responsible for taking care of the smaller children ages 1, 4 and 9 in the mornings. He said there is no food there to eat. Now they have no water bc the pump isn’t working. The electricity was going off and on. Sometime dimming and then getting brighter. My son said he was sitting on his bed and water started pouring out of the light fixture. The only heat they have are space heaters. I have reported them to CPS in the past but the problem is, is that CPS always gives notice they are coming so they clean house, get rid of the booze and get her dad to give them money for groceries. I just don’t understand how they can look their children in the face knowing they are hungry and they have no adequate heat or water but buy cigs and booze every single day. At least my son gets to come home. He only has to be there every other weekend. Those little kids have to be there all the time. No one in the home has had a job for amost 2 years. He has sucked his unemployment dry. I don’t care what they do at that house. Those two can drink themselves into an oblivion for all care, but when these children are not eating or in danger for some fire breaking out due to shorts in the wiring or the space heaters..I could never forgive myself for ignoring this if something were to happen.
I don’t know what to do. If I get involved, my son will be angry and won’t tell me anything else. He has just now started to trust me and tell me all of these things. He loves his dad and of course doesn’t wanted him to be in trouble or not see him anymore. I’m lost at what to do. If I turn them in, they will know it was me. And unless the situation is bad enough for them to remove the children from the home, they will just take it out on my son for telling me what is going on over there. What would you do if it were you?
“mind my own business”? This is my son we are talking about here. Do you now how difficult it is to send your child somewhere they don’t eat for the weekend, have no running water and have to dip their feces out of the toilet with a bucket when they are done using it or where there is obvious electrical problems in the home? I do not bad mouth his father at all. When I say they have no water I mean they have had no running water for at least the past 2 weekend visits (so four week). And for 6 months my son has said there is no food there. No milk, no bread, no cereal nothing. They eat one meal per day. I didn’t say he physically absued the children. I said water is flowing through the electrical outlets and ligth fixtures, the electricity is shorting out. Turning off and on. Staying up late drinking is different than drinking to the point of getting into physical fights in front of your children and then passing out until afternoon. I’m sorry but this is not something I can ignore.
And Joe B… I do NOT want him to be a bad father. I have never denied him the right to see his son and I have never spoken ill of him to my son. I want nothing more than for him to be a great father bc my son loves him so much. But he isn’t. He has nothing to do with his son other than the four days a month he goes there. He has been convicted of physically abusing his second wife’s daughter. Because he was drunk and she was throwing a fit and he whipped her so hard he left bruising on her. Her Father turned him in. They have no dry wall on their home, only insulation. No heat besides 2 space heaters. They have an English Mastiff and you can count his ribs and he has no dog house. They dumped their chocolate lab bc they were sick of feeding it. My son is confused bc he doesn’t want to go there but he wants to see his dad. He is behind on support constantly and is now trying to bribe my son with a new truck if he can emancipate himself at 16 so he doesn’t have to pay child support.
My son is 14. His Dad is a raging alcoholic. Him and his wife drink a half gallon of 10 high whiskey every day. They get into brawls when their children are there. My son’s dad even was sent to the hospital with a blood alcohol content of .4 which is almost dead. 2 years ago I took him to court and asked for supervised visitation. They denied my request saying my son was old enough to care for himself even and gave an order that my ex husband couldn’t drink alcohol around him anymore. Which of course he does. I have spoken to my lawyer who says, it will be very difficult to prove this.
Well lately, my son comes home complaining he is hungry. They eat maybe 2 times the entire weekend he is there. His dad and stepmom go to bed at 4-5 am and sleep until 1-2 pm the next day. So my son is responsible for taking care of the smaller children ages 1, 4 and 9 in the mornings. He said there is no food there to eat. Now they have no water bc the pump isn’t working. The electricity was going off and on. Sometime dimming and then getting brighter. My son said he was sitting on his bed and water started pouring out of the light fixture. The only heat they have are space heaters. I have reported them to CPS in the past but the problem is, is that CPS always gives notice they are coming so they clean house, get rid of the booze and get her dad to give them money for groceries. I just don’t understand how they can look their children in the face knowing they are hungry and they have no adequate heat or water but buy cigs and booze every single day. At least my son gets to come home. He only has to be there every other weekend. Those little kids have to be there all the time. No one in the home has had a job for amost 2 years. He has sucked his unemployment dry. I don’t care what they do at that house. Those two can drink themselves into an oblivion for all care, but when these children are not eating or in danger for some fire breaking out due to shorts in the wiring or the space heaters..I could never forgive myself for ignoring this if something were to happen.
I don’t know what to do. If I get involved, my son will be angry and won’t tell me anything else. He has just now started to trust me and tell me all of these things. He loves his dad and of course doesn’t wanted him to be in trouble or not see him anymore. I’m lost at what to do. If I turn them in, they will know it was me. And unless the situation is bad enough for them to remove the children from the home, they will just take it out on my son for telling me what is going on over there. What would you do if it were you?
“mind my own business”? This is my son we are talking about here. Do you now how difficult it is to send your child somewhere they don’t eat for the weekend, have no running water and have to dip their feces out of the toilet with a bucket when they are done using it or where there is obvious electrical problems in the home? I do not bad mouth his father at all. When I say they have no water I mean they have had no running water for at least the past 2 weekend visits (so four week). And for 6 months my son has said there is no food there. No milk, no bread, no cereal nothing. They eat one meal per day. I didn’t say he physically absued the children. I said water is flowing through the electrical outlets and ligth fixtures, the electricity is shorting out. Turning off and on. Staying up late drinking is different than drinking to the point of getting into physical fights in front of your children and then passing out until afternoon. I’m sorry but this is not something I can ignore.
And Joe B… I do NOT want him to be a bad father. I have never denied him the right to see his son and I have never spoken ill of him to my son. I want nothing more than for him to be a great father bc my son loves him so much. But he isn’t. He has nothing to do with his son other than the four days a month he goes there. He has been convicted of physically abusing his second wife’s daughter. Because he was drunk and she was throwing a fit and he whipped her so hard he left bruising on her. Her Father turned him in. They have no dry wall on their home, only insulation. No heat besides 2 space heaters. They have an English Mastiff and you can count his ribs and he has no dog house. They dumped their chocolate lab bc they were sick of feeding it. My son is confused bc he doesn’t want to go there but he wants to see his dad. He is behind on support constantly and is now trying to bribe my son with a new truck if he can emancipate himself at 16 so he doesn’t have to pay child support.
ADDING INSULT TO INSULT: HUGO CHAVEZ UNLEASHES NEW ATTACKS ON PRES. BUSH
Yesterday, he called President Bush the “devil.” Today, he made it clear he wasn’t finished with his red-hot rhetoric. Speaking in New York’s neighborhood of Harlem, Venezuelan President Hugo Chavez called President Bush “an ex-alcoholic” and “a sick man, full of complexes.” That was just the beginning. Using more derisive language, Mister Chavez said of President Bush: “He walks like this cowboy John Wayne.” “He doesn’t have the slightest idea of politics. He got where he is because he is the son of his father.” Chavez claims he was warned yesterday, after he described Bush as “the devil” before the annual meeting of the General Assembly, that “I should be very careful, because they could kill me. Well, I’m in God’s hands. I’m not afraid.” Mister Chavez alleged that an American thirst for oil prompted President Bush to lead an invasion of Iraq.
I have called Bush a lot worse names than that,I just wondered what other thought.
others thought (not other)
My boyfriend has the laziest most worthless kids I have ever met. They move in and out of his house like a revolving door. His son is an alcoholic with no drivers license and his daughter is lazy. She is married and uses the emergency room as a doctors office, always going in for this that and the other.She cant go to the doctor like the rest of us. She is the queen of filth. Never does the dishes or cleans house & is always running around in the car shopping Her dad gave her a credit card to help her out and she maxed it out and let it go to collections, then asked him for a loan. He had no idea it had gone to collections and he had to bargain to pay it off. Her husband is a drunk and they moved in with their kids because they cannot pay their bills. Her husband had an excellent job working for Catipillar and just quit out of the blue. Should I say what is on my mind or hold my breath. I adore him heart and soul, but these kids are a mess. It kills me to watch this shit go on.
I do not live with him. Its almost more than I can hold in and I have been told to shut up more than once. I just adore him so.
He is an alcoholic who is not taking care of our children properly when in his care, his house is not liveable and is in filthy condition, he does not provide proper supervision for the children ages 10 and 13, he does not enforce any rules with them, or make my son take his adhd medication when he is there, among other things. He is almost always drunk when he is around them. My children need to be taken out of this bad situation and into my custody so that they can be well taken care of. I just don’t know where to start!!!
Its for my son and I would like to know what I can do to keep his friends interested in the party. Alcohol is not an option. 10PTS for the best suggestions.
His father hasn’t exercised his visitation in 2 years. (I am divorced from his dad). My son was very hurt. I found out he used pot and alcohol to deal with it. I took him for help. He’s always been a good kid and a good student. Never got in trouble ever in school either. I caught him using after that and continued to take him. So far as I know, he hasn’t been using.
(drug testing, etc).
His father physically and emotionally abused me. (reason for divorce). He has the typical abuser characteristics, (carrot dangler, master manipulator, etc).
I found out that my son visited him recently, and got $ from him;
My son lied and told him he used that money to pay his car insurance. He lied to me and told me he found $20 and gave it to me and he kept the other $140. He also emailed his father and told him I was “up in arms” that he moved back to our area, and that I would make his life “hell” if I knew he was seeing him. I was devasted by this. I always told my son it was his decision.
I am annoyed and hurt that he lied to his father about the money and me. Why would he do this? I stood by his side helping him for the 2 years he was neglected. I made him come clean with his father and tell him that the money wasn’t used for the insurance. Now my son tells me that he had a plan to use his father and hurt him. What do I believe?
I think my son is backpeddling. Why would he diss me with lies? To look good for his father ? He also told me his father ignored him when he walked in the house. My son was sitting on the couch with his grandmother when my ex walked in. My son said he just looked over and said”Look who it is” and walked upstairs. No hugs, nothing.
Isn’t ignoring your child for 2 years for no good reason abuse? Last comment kind of irritated me.
I have an alcoholic son who has recently lost everything. He’s now living back home with my wife and I, and all he has left is his leased BMW (from back when he actually had an income).
He can no longer afford the BMW’s insurance or the monthly car payment. My wife & I had been paying it for the past 2 months in the hopes that he’d eventually get his act together and start working again, but now we see that’s not going to happen and he’s been going out & driving drunk in it.
Today we decided that we’re not going to pay for him any longer and the longer his car sits in our driveway the more drama it’s causing. So I called up the BMW people and asked them to come take the car, but they said I wasn’t “authorized” to speak with them. Can I just take the car to a local BMW dealership and drop it off? Our son is stressing us out to no end with the car payments and driving drunk, etc — we just want to get rid of it. 1 door is dented on it caus he’s irresponsible and crazy.
the baby’s father, (we’ll call him travis), has cheated on me and has been verbally and physically abusive to me, as was his father to him and his mom and sister. both travis and his father also abused drugs. (they both say all that’s in the past, but i wonder sometimes). not only did travis’ father cheat on his mom, but a child came out of one of his affairs.
my father wasn’t abusive, but he stayed out all night on many weekends, leaving my mom with us kids and had at least one affair that i am aware of. my father also abused drugs and alcohol.
i am so scared that my son will grow up to treat women this way and that he will turn to drugs. ever since i found out i was having a boy, i have been thinking of techniques and planning speaches that will hopefully lead my boy on the right path.
i had given travis one too many chances to redeem himself and had finally broke it off with travis 3 weeks before i found out i was having his baby.
i am so scared now that i have brought another life into this mess. with my issues with men after how i’ve been treated for the past 15 years, putting up with lying and cheating and abuse from several bad relationships, and not having a single ounce of trust in men, i don’t know how i am going to pass this along to my son in hopes that he won’t put any female through what me, my mom and travis’ mom has been through… not to mention us kids that witnessed a lot of it.
i know i might be rambling a bit, but does anyone have any suggestions of how to teach my son to treat women respectfully, and to make sure that he treats the ones he cares for extra special?
i have been worrying myself to death about this, even though i won’t know how he will turn out for two more decades. please, some wise words.
i greatly appreciate any and all input.
the baby’s father, (we’ll call him travis), has cheated on me and has been verbally and physically abusive to me, as was his father to him and his mom and sister. both travis and his father also abused drugs. (they both say all that’s in the past, but i wonder sometimes). not only did travis’ father cheat on his mom, but a child came out of one of his affairs.
my father wasn’t abusive, but he stayed out all night on many weekends, leaving my mom with us kids and had at least one affair that i am aware of. my father also abused drugs and alcohol.
i am so scared that my son will grow up to treat women this way and that he will turn to drugs. ever since i found out i was having a boy, i have been thinking of techniques and planning speaches that will hopefully lead my boy on the right path.
i had given travis one too many chances to redeem himself and had finally broke it off with travis 3 weeks before i found out i was having his baby.
i am so scared now that i have brought another life into this mess. with my issues with men after how i’ve been treated for the past 15 years, putting up with lying and cheating and abuse from several bad relationships, and not having a single ounce of trust in men, i don’t know how i am going to pass this along to my son in hopes that he won’t put any female through what me, my mom and travis’ mom has been through… not to mention us kids that witnessed a lot of it.
i know i might be rambling a bit, but does anyone have any suggestions of how to teach my son to treat women respectfully, and to make sure that he treats the ones he cares for extra special?
i have been worrying myself to death about this, even though i won’t know how he will turn out for two more decades. please, some wise words.
i greatly appreciate any and all input.
the baby’s father, (we’ll call him travis), has cheated on me and has been verbally and physically abusive to me, as was his father to him and his mom and sister. both travis and his father also abused drugs. (they both say all that’s in the past, but i wonder sometimes). not only did travis’ father cheat on his mom, but a child came out of one of his affairs.
my father wasn’t abusive, but he stayed out all night on many weekends, leaving my mom with us kids and had at least one affair that i am aware of. my father also abused drugs and alcohol.
i am so scared that my son will grow up to treat women this way and that he will turn to drugs. ever since i found out i was having a boy, i have been thinking of techniques and planning speaches that will hopefully lead my boy on the right path.
i had given travis one too many chances to redeem himself and had finally broke it off with travis 3 weeks before i found out i was having his baby.
i am so scared now that i have brought another life into this mess. with my issues with men after how i’ve been treated for the past 15 years, putting up with lying and cheating and abuse from several bad relationships, and not having a single ounce of trust in men, i don’t know how i am going to pass this along to my son in hopes that he won’t put any female through what me, my mom and travis’ mom has been through… not to mention us kids that witnessed a lot of it.
i know i might be rambling a bit, but does anyone have any suggestions of how to teach my son to treat women respectfully, and to make sure that he treats the ones he cares for extra special?
i have been worrying myself to death about this, even though i won’t know how he will turn out for two more decades. please, some wise words.
i greatly appreciate any and all input.
the baby’s father, (we’ll call him travis), has cheated on me and has been verbally and physically abusive to me, as was his father to him and his mom and sister. both travis and his father also abused drugs. (they both say all that’s in the past, but i wonder sometimes). not only did travis’ father cheat on his mom, but a child came out of one of his affairs.
my father wasn’t abusive, but he stayed out all night on many weekends, leaving my mom with us kids and had at least one affair that i am aware of. my father also abused drugs and alcohol.
i am so scared that my son will grow up to treat women this way and that he will turn to drugs. ever since i found out i was having a boy, i have been thinking of techniques and planning speaches that will hopefully lead my boy on the right path.
i had given travis one too many chances to redeem himself and had finally broke it off with travis 3 weeks before i found out i was having his baby.
i am so scared now that i have brought another life into this mess. with my issues with men after how i’ve been treated for the past 15 years, putting up with lying and cheating and abuse from several bad relationships, and not having a single ounce of trust in men, i don’t know how i am going to pass this along to my son in hopes that he won’t put any female through what me, my mom and travis’ mom has been through… not to mention us kids that witnessed a lot of it.
i know i might be rambling a bit, but does anyone have any suggestions of how to teach my son to treat women respectfully, and to make sure that he treats the ones he cares for extra special?
i have been worrying myself to death about this, even though i won’t know how he will turn out for two more decades. please, some wise words.
i greatly appreciate any and all input.
