A boy 17(acually considered an adult in Texas) is dating a 40 year old woman? Not only that she got him hooked on the steet drug ice.This makes me sick but is ther anything legally that can be done? We live in Texas so the laws are a little different.Can the boy get in big trouble or just this bimbo he’s dating?This is a family member of my son’s girlfriend. His moms opion is what can I do about it? This boy already is a father of a 3 mo old by another girl.
Please help! I want toturnher in but if nothing can be done then I will feel so stupid.
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The babys father and i have been dating off and on for almost 2 years. He has cheated on me numerous times.. i cant even count on both hands and those are just the ones i know about not to mention the lying, verbal and emotional abuse, and even a few physical encounters that i will admit i started. Since ive been pregnant he has started using cocaine heavly and recently got off probation and has started smoking weed again. He has a house full of people and all but his grandma and his younger siblings are using some sort of drug. His mom lives there and is so into tweak its not even funny. I dont want him to have custody of my child because his house is disgusting there is really trash everywhere and the dog goes to the bathroom in the house not all of it gets cleaned.. there is plenty of violence drug use profanity and abuse of every kind in this home and i dont want my son raised in a mess that way. how can i prove to the courts that he is an unfit father and should not have custody?
Also he has warned me that if i try to take his son from him he will fight dirty and he can guarentee that he will drop clean.. so if he already plans on quitting for an extended period of time so that he will drop clean for the courts how can i catch him unprepared? i have also used cocaine 2-3 times during my pregnancy. i know there is no good excuse for it but i felt that he would like me or want to be around me more if i did. believe me i regret it everyday but im afraid he will use that against me. i want his name on the birth certifcate becuz im only 17 and i will need his help finacially. again please help if you can its very important to me. thanks ASHLEY
The boy’s mother was cleaning his room the other day and what does she find under his bed. A mountain of playboy’s. She then tell me that went in a wild search to find any other disgusting materials and came across pot, lighters and rolling papers in his sock drawer and a bottle of captains morgans in his cabinet. Me and my wife have no clue what to do. My son keeps screaming that liquor,marijuana and porn are not frowned upon in the bible or church but I doubt this. I no wine turns into the blood of christ and all but it is just a little taste of it. Not 40% rum. Advice from fellow christians would be greatly appreciated. Non-christians need not reply.
my nephew is living with me, his mother (my sister) is a drug addict. I do not have legal custody of him yet. He is on diability, thru social security. He is 13 yrs. old. My sister refuses to give me his money for his care. what can I do? It seems like everyone takes up for her. Her probation officer even told me that she should only give me 300.00 of his money, because she needs to live too. Isn’t that money for HIM and his Care? Please someone help me…
My son is 24 years old and just graduated from university this summer. He has been living with me and the family for the summer while he gets ready to move to Europe. Since my ex husband was an alcoholic, my son eventually grew up to hate alcohol of any type and refuse to touch them. But it was never really bad until he came back home this summer.
We learned that he greatly looks down upon anyone who drinks. It get so bad that it got to point where my daughter once brought a case of beer home for her boyfriend, my son suddenly stop talking with her boyfriend and call him a low life and white trash and have threaten to hurt him a couple time. This was very scary since my son was a division 1 wrestler. We can also see he lose so much respect for his sister. He has even gone as far as refusing to shake anyone hand if they’re known to be a drinker. He also has punched his own father just because he tried to get my son to go to bar with him.
Odd thing is, he had a couple friends from Europe coming over this summer and he has absolutely no problem with them drinking or going to bar with them at all. When I asked him about this, he say Americans who drink alcohol are a low life white trash who just want to get drunk and worship alcohol while Europeans just treat it like any other drinks and don’t act like a idiot about it.
This is making me very uneasy and it is hurting me that he’s like this. I can’t even enjoy a glass of wine without him giving me a dirty look and it is just ruining his relationship with his father, sister, and her boyfriend. Once he saw me drinking a bottle of corona with Mexican food and he was like “what are you doing” I tried to explain him I enjoy beer with Mexican food, he was like “you’re being an idiot” which hurt me. I’ve even caught him pouring out a bit amount of wine or any alcohol around house a bit at a time and warned him he’ll not be able to live here if I caught him doing that again. I and my husband aren’t a big drinker, we may drink only a glass or so once every month or so. My daughter’s boyfriend like to drink but he’s not an alcohol, he just like to have a couple beer after work or so. Yet my son cannot respect this at all. Then he turns around and has absolutely no problem with his European friends drinking beer.
Why is he like this? What can I do to fix this problem before he move? I don’t want him to leave on a bad term.
O.k. here we go…This is really hard for me but I need help. I’m 23 years old, my husband is 26, & we have an 8 1/2 month old son (my world). My husband has always been a pretty heavy drinker but we’ve been together for almost 6 years & I was so young when we 1st got together that I didn’t care or even notice that much because I drank back then too. Anyhow, he got 1 DUI/DWI when we first started dating & I just let that one go…he got charged with that one. He almost got another one (a few years later) when he got mad at me one night & took off…paid a lawyer & beat it (never went on his record) but by this time I’ve realized he has a problem & at first I didn’t know how to deal with him. I’d rant & rave, scream & yell, cry & fight with him…to no avail. I couldn’t understand why “we” as his family were not enough to just make him quit. Did he not love us like we loved him? Should I honestly try to get him to change? What’s wrong with me? Is he gonna screw up again & cost us more money? All of these questions ran through my head day after day…I have become his “enabler” & am “codependent” on him–I know this in my heart because I find myself trying to help him weasel his way out of things to save us money or for him to keep his license (the 1st DUI is off his record & he got his CDL’s & began driving a truck…his supposed dream job) Like just last week, he got charged with another DUI (on a friggin’ 3-wheeler this time) & if he does happen to get out of this one & manage to save his license he will still be forking out hard earned money (around $4000) for a good lawyer who can help him. So, I left…I took my son & we moved back in with my parents. I told him when he decided to get help & straighten out his life for “himself” — that I may come back. If not, after awhile, I’ll divorce him & find somebody that can make me happy. I do love him, don’t get me wrong, with all my heart & soul. I’d walk to the ends of the earth for him but I know that I am also “weak” against him because I love him so & just want him to do better. My question that I need some help with is “Do you think I should stay away from him completely (as far as me, not his son; I can’t keep him away) or should I include him in some things (family events), go to dinner with him, a movie or something, & go back to my mother’s house…no overnight stays & only every now & then to give him some sort of incentive or hope that he has a chance to possibly get his life back?” He’s stayed sober for months at a time but he’s more of a binge drinker…when he does it, he does it big. He’s starting AA on his own for the first time tomorrow & I’m going to start Al anon just in case he’s too far gone & I have to divorce him–I can deal with it better. That’s the last thing I want but I have to do what’ s best for my son. I guess I just feel so bad because I love to be around him sober (we’re perfect, so to speak) & going from seeing a person everyday of your life pretty much to not seeing them at all is drastic & just as heartbreaking as being with him. I’m going to stick to my guns & stay at my mother’s just to see what he’s going to do on his own but I just wanted to see what someone else thought about basically just “dating” until he either proves to be one thing or another…I know nothing else to do because even though he’s done some stupid things & I think he’s just ignorant at times my heart longs for him. He’s not verbally or physically abusive, he does work everyday, he’s a very active person, but he’s still young, too. I guess he’s what you call a functional alcoholic (from what I’ve read) The only thing we’ve ever really fought about was “his drinking or something to do with drinking” I used to drink with him but not anymore, I just don’t desire to after all I’ve been through with it. I don’t want my son growing up to think that its o.k. to drink all the time & he’s got his options–he can take ‘em of leave ‘em. Tell me what ya’ll think!!
My son lives with his stepfather and me, but sees his natural Dad once a year, in summer. They talk all the time on the phone. His Dad calls every Saturday. I know my ex is trying to be a good dad, but he isn’t any good at it. He thinks our son is his friend, and tells him stories about how drunk he was at the bar last night, how he got this girl to go home with him, etc, etc. (My ex is an alcoholic who refuses treatment) My son is 14, and is starting to think this is normal dinner table conversation. I tried once to explain to my ex why these bar stories are not apropriate, and he told me I could put my “uptight morality” where the sun doesn’t shine. My son adores his dad, and I really don’t want to put him down, but how can I explain what’s wrong with his dad without sounding negative?
Ok, so my wife’s husband is a complete scumbag. He has beat her and at one point put a cigarette out on her nose. However, she won’t leave him. He has her hooked with meth and drugs. I feel sorry for their 1 year old son most of all!!! However, I have learned that he may be in the country illegally. However, he is now married to her and she is a citizen. Also, it appears he is working under a false name. Its possible this is due to him having a warrant possibly?
Just wondering if there is a way me and my wife can make this guy dissapear so her sister can get the help and recovery she needs. Because it ain’t gonna happen with this guy around.
Ahh oops that is a typo. What I meant to say was my wife’s sisters husband. Not myself. Sorry, upset about this whole situation. We might have to try and get custody of the child is my wifes sister does not quit the meth and this guy doesn’t stop beating her.
Soon to be MIL….My boyfriends mom is not independant or very stable at all. She has had drugs problems in the past…weed isnt an issue which she does regular also – But he thinks she has started smoking crack again, She had stopped for 2 yrs. Since Ive been with my boyfriend..We have helped her move several times…She doesnt have a car…First she was with her sons baby mama helping raise the kids…She had an abusive boyfriend so MIL said he shouldnt be there or she will leave..MIL left…We moved her stuff into a friends house – Few months later kicked out…We moved her stuff with us for her to save money…She was with us a few months saved no money and then moved with the son ex again – This lasted not even a month!!!So this past week we’ve gotten one load of her stuff and moved her to her other sons house. She says to my boyfriend “I dont know what to do” He has told her to go to her moms, but she wont. She says she isnt smoking crack but we have serious doubts.
We guess she wont go to her moms, Cuz that will mean if she is smoking crack or anything – It wont happen there….They will straighten her out. My boyfriend is always worried about her, He said he is always suppose to taker care of her But he does realize he cant help her if she cant help herself…Its sad for me to watch, Im not familiar with a family that is like this.
my son was diagnosed with adhd at a young age and over the years the doctors have had him on many different medications. i never saw a difference in his behavior (except for the ones that made him sleep) which scared me. we have been in and out of counseling for a long time. well last year i decided enough is enough and quit giving him medication. now the school is sending him to a psychiatrist and i know she is going to recommend medication. well, now my son refuses to take pills. so i cant make him……. but what my question is….. does anyone know the side effects of taking ritalin, adderal, stratera over a long period of time? has there been long term studies what these drugs do to the kids (like liver damage). i know some people that took ritalin as children and are now hooked on speed as adults. i dont want that to happen to my kid. but his teacher said if we dont give him medication he will self medicate (take street drugs) i dont know what to do.
A milestone reached last night
she heard his drunken slurred speech
he called to wish her a Merry Christmas
acting full of himself that it was late
alcoholic son reaching so hard for
his next rock bottom
he is almost there
but not a tear she shed
her heart was not broken
she even laughed with him at
his incoherency
and hung up the phone knowing
she had finally discovered
how to tow the fine line
between loving him and
letting him go.
which names will make our son smart and ,able to get jobs,girlfriends lots of friends ,sociable ,etc
they say its important to give your child a good name that he wont be picked on,he wont be made fun of ,he wont be gay,he wont be bullied, he wont be in a gang,or be hooked on drugs, etc
we narrowed it down to 4 unique names let me know which one is best they are all unique names
jaquez
jaquim
jean claude
vladimir
we want a name that will make our kid shine in school stand out from the rest be a straight a student be on the honor roll and graduate cumlaude
ive also heard it depends what month your child was born too if your into astrology signs.
I had a drinking problem and recieved a P.I. and my son had to move into my sister’s home while I attended an intensive outpatient program. After that, I recieved a D.W.I. and let him stay with her until I cleaned up my act. I am ready now, doing very well and very happy as a matter of fact (I actually love the 12 steps-they are life skills). I know she is going to fight me tooth and nail over this, legally. I will go to any lengths to keep my son and do whatever is necessary in order to do so. Who can help me prepare for this upcoming battle? I finally have the guts as he alwyas comes over crying and saying how awful it is there (she’s very demeaning and controlling and argues non-stop), but it is nothing that would carry any weight. She used to cocaine and dated a dealer, etc. She put this in her pass and is very successful now and I respect that, but I will never be “good” in her eyes. Nobody is. Please don’t think I just want to play mom out of the blue.
My nephew who is only a few months old makes me rethink my sober life (I’m 19). When ever I see him or my sister and brother in law I want to not drink or use drugs. I only use at night. But whenever I see them I always think of getting messed up that night. Like today, I’m really drunk but I’m also constantly thinking about earlier today when I wasn’t and they were talking to me about being sober. Just the thought of what my brother in law has gone through (he lost an older brother to drugs, his younger brother is addicted and his mom is also addicted) has made me want to not drink or use drugs. But I have been since an earily age. Why is this situation making
me want to be sober at all times? I know I only get fucked up at night but hearing his own struggles with alcohol and his familes has made me feel bad when I get drunk or fucked up..what would do this? Seeing my nephew makes me want a kid…even after seeing the bullshit he does to them. I would think it would keep me away from wanting kids…why do I want it more?
i am a junior and i found out for sure what i want to be i want to write and direct movies. Is this to late? Can i do both of those things? Wht kind of classes should i do? What are the main jobs of beeing a director like wht do u mostly do? please help. heres an idea of somethighting about
its called after. Its about this guy he has a fiance who he adores and shes pregnant and hes all happy. But she cheats on him and he moves away abandoning his new born kid. But when the kid is born he has cancer and he died his mom is crushed. But the father has no idea. So the father has been away from the girl who broke his heart and she misses him and is on her knees begging for him because he was everything to her. Well now the main character the father. Is depressd all the time hates his job his new girlfriend is mean and hates him and flirts around. he has no friends. One day he gets in a car wreck and dies. He wakes up in this afterlife and its so dark and he is alone. Well this elleven year old kid comes up to tell them if we travel to the other side we can get your soul back and you can start over. The main character ask the kid why are you here your a kid your happy you should be where its happy. The kid says im not happy i died at age 12 i had bad cancer my father left me and my mom cryed all the time. The main character realizes that thats his son. So towards the end he finds the soul but instead of taking it he gives it to his son. and his son gets to live happy and cancer free. But the main character gos to a afterlife where he can rest in piece. So what do you think? Also the main character gets hooked on drugs. there is no heaven or hell. But once the kid leaves what happends is that the main character just fades away as if he never exhisted. So how about that. And when the kid comes to life everything rewinds and the dr says the cancer is gone. So the main character gave his whole life for someone. even his afterlife even though he wanted happyness he found out seeing someone else happy would make him happy even though hed be forgotten
my aunt is old and living with her alcoholic son, who takes her ssn checks to buy booze. And he is abusive to her.
My husband is an alcoholic, getting buzzed everyday and absolutly blitzed every month or so. I am staying with a friend, and considering the big “D”. He can be great with our dau.(1yr), but what if he slips up on one of his custody weekends? He has done it with my step son (5), but I don’t know if it was because he knew I wouldn’t drink, and would take care of them. She needs to see her dad. Right?
My son’s Father left me when I was 4 months pregnant. What happened in short was, he reunited with his cousins, who are gangbangers and started smoking dope with them which caused him to ignore a lot of my calls and generally avoid me so I wouldn’t know. I wasn’t cool with being ignored when I was pregnant so I kinda went bonkers on him more than once and he ended up getting fed up with my angry voicemails and told me he was breaking up with me and was going on a dope binge and to wait because he’ll come around someday.
So, my son is 3 months old now. I haven’t seen his Father since I was 4 months pregnant, and haven’t talked to him since I was 5 months pregnant. He’s written me a few e-mails asking to see his son, but last I heard he was living out of a hotel with a prostitute, so I refused. I told him if he gets his life back together I’ll consider talking about it then, but not to bother calling before then because I’m not going to expose my son to that kind of environment. About a month ago he stopped writing e-mails.
So, I find out that he’s in jail now, and facing 2.5 – 6 years in prison. I understand how drugs can take over somebody’s life and cause them to make horrible choices concerning themselves and their loved ones, but I also know he chose to take that road knowing he had a son on the way. So, I feel pity for him, but no sympathy, if that makes sense.
He has never met or seen his son. His mom has shown him a picture or two at the most. I was considering taking my son to his sentencing so he could see him before he goes to prison for the next few years. I also considered just sending him pictures. Ive also considered doing neither like he doesn’t deserve it for choosing to be a dead beat dad.
Should I forgive him and let him see his son or send him pictures? Or should I say you reap what you sow, have a nice time in prison?
My son is 4 1/2 and has never known his biological father. His father has wanted nothing to do with him. Well I am expecting my second child and the father is activly invloved. My son is now asking me tons of questions about who his daddy is and I’m not sure what to do or say. His father was a drug addict and and alcoholic and I have not since talked to him so I don’t know that he is any different. In fact I don’t even know how to get ahold of him. I want my son to know as much as he wants but I am not sure what is took much for a 4 year old to understand. I have told him his name but he is constantly asking me questions that I am not sure how to answer. Any ideas?
My mother-in-law continues to enable and rescue her 45 year-old abusive son. He hits her, yells at her, cusses at her and yet she just tells the rest of the family that he is sick and needs help. She accepts his behavior and never sets any boundaries. She drives him everywhere (has so many DUIs that his license was taken away), pays his bills, etc. I would love a book for her that specifically deals with these issues.
