He has had a LOT of problems: hard drug abuse (landed him in rehab), alcohol abuse, mildly physically abusive, verbally abusive, lies, affair, even some paid s-e-x when he needed the money for drugs, and on an on. We have been divorced for 3 years, and he is re-married (although his new wife was married when they started their relationship). To my knowledge, he doesn’t drink or do drugs (well, maybe weed, I don’t know about that one) any more. My son and I moved to another state (job transfer) 2 years ago. Despite everything, he has called our son every week or two, and always said he cared…but he went 18 months without sending me a dime of child support, and has only recently been sending me small amounts. The court order says he has to come to our state to see our son…which he hasn’t done in over a year (he says because of the expense). He has been going to AA, anger management, and counseling for about a year – these are court ordered things for him to be able to have some visitation. He really wants to be in our sons life, but I have a REALLY hard time believing or trusting him. My bf says that he doesn’t really care about my son, that it is about him ‘winning’ in court, and keeping up the appeareance of caring for other people. My main fear is that he will be a bad role model, but, he does seem to be in a better place than he was a few years ago. So…when he goes back to court to request that our son come visit him in his state…do I hire a lawyer and fight it or not?