Should I be mad or worried?

05/09/2010 admin 10 comments

I’ve been married to my husband for 4 years, and we have a 3 year old son. Well, We both have a myspace account, and I have his password, and he has mine. I never check his or anything, well I saw that he signed on last, so I just wanted to get into his account and see how he has been talking to, and I went to “sent” and I saw that he wrote one of his ex girlfriends. (his longest relationship before me was 6 months, and it wasn’t with this girl. He dated her, but they were never serious) anyway, he wrote her saying ‘hey girl. I heard you are trying to stop smoking crack. Congrats. I just wanted to write and tell you that you are looking good in tat picture of you.” (she isn’t on crack.. he was kidding with her. she really quit smoking cigs) so then I checked and she wrote him back just saying he was funny, and asked how his mom, dad, and brother doing, and thanks for the compliment.” So, should I me mad about that or worried? I have caught him before looking at porn behind my back, and I just don’t know. We are still young. I am 23, and he is 25, and I am just starting to worry that he may just be a typical guy… What do you think?
I am mad about it, because I am a jealous person as well, but the way I see it is this… If he even thinks about cheating and follows through with it then he will lose everything. That includes the most important person in our lives, our son. So I thnk I am going to keep these e-mails and save them, and see how far he takes it. What do you think?
I am just keeping the e-mails just in case. And I mean what if it continues? What if he continues to talk to her? So that’s why I am keeping the e-mails. No problem in that. He has my password as well, and he knows that he can go through my stuff anytime. If I see there are no more messages in the next couple of weeks I will drop it and I will delete the saves messages.
PS. Our sex life is actually really, really healthy. That is why it is kind of hard to understand why he would look at porn. And I am in great shape for having a kid. I look better than what I did before getting pregnant. I am 5’4 and weigh 114 pounds. So he really has no reason AT all to look at porn.

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Written by bdenning89 about 1 year ago.

I dont know how you should feel but i would be extremely mad. i am a jealous person to begin with but i think that telling any girl much less your ex girlfriend that she is looking good is going way over the line.
Written by Jewlz about 1 year ago.

Rruunn b4 he starts callin u by his x girlfriends name…..
Written by TRISHMATT about 1 year ago.

My space casues so much drama as if there isnt enough already between some people. Only you know him and know how far he would take something.
Written by Sarah Wolfgang about 1 year ago.

i think your over analyzing it, and every guy looks at porn it’s when an obsession that there is a problem. I think the message is innocent, but he obsessively talk to any certain women then you might have beginning symtoms of him cheating.
Written by Tia about 1 year ago.

You intentionally snooped on his myspace and never had before? I don’t believe that!
If you’re concerned, ask him about it. He will probably be mad that you snooped. I don’t think he’s a dirty rotten cheat myself (complimenting a photo isn’t that bad). It all sounds pretty innocent.
Porn isn’t cheating either.
Written by jessrsnbm about 1 year ago.

My advice is that you shouldn’t be mad nor worried as a lot of people are friends with their ex-boyfriend’s/girlfriends. Your husband is just checking up to see how his ex-girlfriend is doing. From what he wrote in his myspace message to this girl, there are no signs of cheating or anything else bad so you have nothing to worry about. I’m afraid that’s all the advice I can give you but I hope everything works out for the best.
Written by PHA Q about 1 year ago.

He did nothing wrong. All he did was compliment an old girlfriend. What was he going to say “you look like crap?” Besides, she thanked him and moved on to small talk “Hows the family, etc” Let it go.

I think keeping the emails is ridiculous! There is NOTHING wrong in them! If anything, YOU are the one he should be mad at……stop snooping thru this stuff. If you dont trust your husband – then leave him. Your jealousy will destroy your marriage.
Written by iren c about 1 year ago.

um it sounds pretty innocent to me, this is why people that have myspace suck.
Written by tammee about 1 year ago.

Ya……so for the rest of your relationship, you’ll be monitoring all his emails because he’s inappropriately talking to his ex’s. You have a right to worry! It’s human nature to go back to something comfortable. I think a marriage counselor is in the future. You don’t want your little boy to be in the middle. He will be at daddy’s house (with all his ex’s) and then he’ll living with you while you date. Your poor little boy!!!! Phone Dr. Laura! She’ll tell you what to do.
Written by Blowhole about 1 year ago.

He’s probably just frustrated because now that you’ve gotten the wedding ring you’re not having sex with him very often, which is probably also why he’s looking at porn.

You’re worried he’s the typical guy…maybe he’s worried you’re the typical girl and now he’s not going to laid 4 years into the marriage.

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